In Answer to How to Develop your Personality
Developing Your Personality
Believe it or not you already have a personality. If you're young or insecure, you might think that your particular personality isn't good enough. Some questions to ask might be, "What kind of personality do you want to have?" or "What is it about your personality that you find lacking? Are you a meek wallflower and want to be popular, daring and brave? Do you know anyone who has the kind of personality that you want to emulate?" let's be real and make it clear that not everyone can be or do anything they want. But, having said that, there are many people who overcome outrageous obstacles and do achieve their dreams. So, having been a shy nerd (I'd have been called a geek, only that word hadn't been invented when I was young), I wanted to overcome my fears and develop a personality that was risk taking, confident, popular, clever etc. If you follow some of my other Hubs, you'll read that I've had some pretty good successes. I've also had drastic failures. Trying and failing and then trying some more is what builds your personality. Unless you've got all the money in the world (Paris Hilton) and can buy your way into popularity, fame and seeming wisdom. when I was a Disc Jockey, they limited what could be talked about and changed the name to "Air Personality". That's like "Air Guitar." You can pretend all you want, but theres no substance there.
Start to Become You
Get a good education. Work towards the career you think you want. Meet people and get to know them; let them know you. Fall in Love, even if it's only with the thought of Love! Help others and find something to believe in. When you start to know who you are, then you can really BE someone. Living a meaningful life (even if only you know the meaning) is what gives you personality. Don't strive to be a character; strive to develop character. You can take a Dale Carnegie course to learn to speak in public (and a lot more), look into NLP, they have great ways to get over phobias, fears and mental blocks, AND, there are thousands of self help books. Go to the library and spend a couple of quiet hours reading how others developed their personalities. Make yourself a priority, focus on you and listen to your inner voice. That voice is the same one that prompted you to ask this question.....Good Luck....Eddie
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