Positive Thinking....It is a Can Do Kinda' Mindset
Beauty, Breath~Taking Beauty Brings Joy
What is your reaction to life-altering change?
Does it leave you questioning, angry, and ready to dredge up anything that has ever gone wrong in your life? "O Why me? Everything so hard!!!"
Do you process it and find a way to live with it as part of your new reality?
These are questions we need to answer for ourselves.
No need to tell anyone else our answers...they will see by our actions.
It Does Come Whether Welcome or Not
One of my friends is a few years from retirement She has worked for the same company for over thirty years. And just a few days ago, her schedule and work load were changed dramatically.
And it threw her into a tailspin. She is a survivor, not a whiner, but this has thrown her out of whack, at least for now.
Today I found myself writing her a little message to let her know she can survive this.
She is an eight year survivor of an aggressive breast cancer. She has had many surgeries and many illnesses since her battle with cancer.
But this is a new challenge that she has not quite come to terms with yet. My money is on her. She may never like but she will move on.
Caring for Living Things is A Welcome Diversion
Coming to Terms with Change
Into each of our lives change comes.
Not a profound statement there at all...only stating the obvious.
Often it means a whole new way of doing things if it is work-related.
Something as simple as rearranging a home's furnishings spells change and a temporary upheaval in the way things work.
Renovations at home mean even more interruption to normal routines. When I was a young girl, my parents sanded and refurbished our dining room floor (the wood was from a bowling alley). After it was all prepped several coats of gym seal were applied And it needed to dry completely between coats which took several days.
Of course this meant our usual traffic pattern to other parts of our home were changed. And while it may have been a bit inconvenient, we managed. One of the alternate routes was through the bathroom which had two doors...and that could be a bit tricky if it was occupied
No problem...we would just go outside and enter through the door leading into the back porch.
Funny how some changes stick around--all of these years later and this memory is still so vivid.
Change: inconvenient, unexpected, unwanted (at times) ---possible to endure. Every time, no matter what.
EVERY TIME, NO MATTER WHAT.
Finding Alone Time When Facing Change
Many times Coming To Terms is NOT Easy
Believe it or not, I can hear what some of you are thinking, maybe even saying out loud~~
Okay I can buy that adjusting to change of some sort is doable.
Move that chair, I am good with that.
Put in a new door, yep. I can deal with that.
Go ahead, change my work load and my hours...I will not like it one bit , but change is change and I will deal with it.
Then come the big ones.
Even bigger than moving to a new home.from one you have lived in FOREVER AND LOVE
You know the ones.
The diagnosis of a disease that will ravage the body and try to get at your soul-those words that are spoken that no one wants to hear--your own diagnosis or that of someone precious in your life.
The deaths that come, expected or not.
What will we do now??
Come to terms with it. Make peace with whatever it is.
Yeah, right. And that's possible how??..
How can I know what YOU may be thinking? Because I have been there and there have been mountains that have come that I thought I may not be able to climb.
A Magnificent Butterfly Knows About Change
It is Really About Choosing
Choice defined in some dictionaries is ..."right, power, or opportunity to choose; option"
That definition sounds pretty much to me as though the proverbial ball is in my court, your court, our court.
It is up to us to decide how we will begin to make sense of this new intrusion that has come into my life, your life, our lives.
The good news is we can take as long as we need to process what is coming or has come.
It is our choice how we find a way to make peace with change. Not someone else's imposed take on how we should be acting, thinking, or feeling.
No one else can really understand how we feel. Even those who have experienced what we are experiencing rode it out in a different way---their way.
One Young Man's Journey
It is my belief that how you will incorporate a change into your life that involves a life-threatening disease or an unexpected (or, even expected) death will be the most important choice you make.
What you decide will be a personal decision made with or without input from someone else. If you wish to have someone else to confer with that is again your choice.
Those of you who have read many of my submissions here on HubPages know that stuff has happened to my family, just like it does to other families. And finding a way to process it and learn to live with it has not been easy.
Powerfully Expressed....Letting It Go Can Be So Freeing
This Keeps Everything in Perspective for Us...
(Most of It) Really Is Small Stuff
Coming face to face with life-altering challenges taught us how to live.
And the first thing it taught us is what is said in Richard Carlson's series
Don't Sweat the Small Stuff.
So often things that cause tension are about the small things, the things that really are inconsequential in the long run
Asking ourselves..."Does it really matter?" often will help us to decide if we need to make an issue of some small thing that can escalate into a huge thing.
"Ain't no thing" is often used around our home as is "in the scheme of things, it just is not important".
As a result we have learned to live the way life should be lived (for us)....one day at a time..no. looking back and not trying to second guess the future
KInda' Like Kenny says...
And We Went to the Wailing Wall
Before we chose to embrace each day and wring every bit of living out of it, we went to the wailing wall.
We cried tears that came from places in ide of us that we did not even know existed. Sobbing uncontrollably until no more would come. Catching our breath, trying to understand this new unwanted invasion , to process it, and allowing even more cleansing tears to flow.
As if to wash away fear and sorrow.
And then we moved on.
There are times, private, when we do crash and burn. When some new roadblock appears, we privately scream and holler and shed more tears.
And sometimes we take some private time away for others for a bit to let it all sink in.
And then not wanting to waste another second, MOVE ON.
There have been a number, many even, of life-altering changes that came into my life and into the lives of my daughter and eldest grandson.
How have we made it through 15 years of a roller coaster that no one would wish to ride?
Angels God Faith Hope Love Belief Prayer Friends .....all of these come to mind.
But first we made a choice.
This choice we made has been written about on many occasions. As a matter of fact it has come to be our:mantra:
- Embrace today.
- Wrap yourself up in every minute of loving and living with your family every single moment of every day.
- Do not waste one minute worrying about tomorrow....today is what you have.
Every day is precious ...a gift waiting to be opened and treasured. Make new memories today.
Finding Answers and Solace Through Music//The Way...Feel the Message
"Imagine there is a bank account that credits account your each morning with $86,400. It carries over no balance from day to day. Every evening the bank deletes whatever part of the balance you failed to used during the day. What would you do? Draw out every cent, of course? Each of us has such a bank, its name is time. Every morning, it credits you 86,400 seconds. Every night it writes off at a loss, whatever of this you failed to invest to a good purpose. It carries over no balance. It allows— unknown
Making Sense of the Journey
- Living our lives as we do works.for us
- To be brutally honest it is the way we have remained sane in light of all that has happened over the years.
- Refusing to give in to fear and despondency has kept us afloat.
- Our mindset is in reality a 'can do' kinda' mindset.
- We have learned we can do this...whatever 'this' is.
- Nothing that will come now will shake our resolve.
- We welcome the dawning of each new day.
- We climb mountains that are in our paths each day.
Some of the mountains are old ones, dressed in new attire, but we recognize them for what they are and are unafraid, undaunted.
Refusing to miss one single moment of any day keeps of focused on our love for one another.
The important thing for you to remember is to find a way to make the pieces of your daily life come together so that it is fulfilling and brings joy.
Choose a direction and path that makes sense for you and your life.
Thank you ~~Sweet Hubbers
The war continues to be waged by daughter especially at this time against her cancer--there is almost nowhere in her body that remains free of cancer cells.And that is why we LIVE today tully
I can say thank you thank you, a thousand times thank you...to each of you who walk this walk with us.
Your encouragement and prayers keep us uplifted. We are so blessed to have your support and concern.
We have so many friends and relatives whose faces we see and hands we can hold. Having the love we feel from those of you we will probably never meet is so very humbling.
Again...thank you. Please know that Angels are on the way to bring love and blessings to each of you.
Our Hope for You
Sharing the journeys that I have about my grandson's and daughter's cancer here on HubPages (in other hubs) has been cathartic for me but there is a greater purpose for them.
The intent is that even in the darkest times HOPE will keep you strengthened.
How many times we have been told that the end is near when some new deadly assault has come on both of their bodies. And thank God, they are here on the planet.
The time will come when their bodies can no longer rebound but that time is not now.
Know that HOPE will help see you through whatever you face.
© 2015 Patricia Scott
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