It's Snowing Hair

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Hair Loss Here We Go Again

Here we go again. A few years ago I was receiving treatment next to a lady who was hairless. She was going through her second round of chemo. I remember thinking how terrible for her. I could never do that.

Well here we go again. After a wonderful summer and fall of traveling, I am back on a cancer treatment which, made my hair fall out. It didn't all fall out. If I was a hipster it would be been cool. There are too many baby boomers out there with purple hair for me to be into the hipster movement. I had some bald spots and a long shock of thin hair in front.

I re-read my hub on dealing with chemo hair loss and dithered over my own good advice. Monday, I had a short,sassy hair style. Wednesday, clumps of hair had fallen out.

My youngest son worked to solve my hair crisis with wigs and hats. The wigs don't look too good.

I met my friends, after their hike Friday morning. I was wearing my wig and a purple hat with tons of gold bling. We laughed until we cried. My wig looked awful after four years in a box. I am trying to take this hair loss adventure well, but I can't deny it. When H.J. winces every time he sees my wig. It's hard. Today, I used my son's clippers to buzz my head. I have buzzed many heads over the years. I have always wanted to try doing my own hair. H.J.'s dad cleaned up what I missed on the hair cut. He was upset. Cancer effects everyone.

I was glad H.J. was taking his nap. We are going to bible study tomorrow morning and he will see me then. I may wear a scarf instead of the wig. I was a blond, dyed by my own hand,five years ago. I really liked having my own light brown hair for 4 years. I am just not feeling blond these days. The poems below were from days of sadness over hair loss. It is O.K. to grieve. It is healthy to grieve for a bit, as long as you don't linger too long.

I am not wallowing in my hair crisis. One of my son's and I went shopping for a scarf and he insisted I get a whole new outfit. I am still not sure how that happened, I was looking for a scarf.

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Snowing Hair A Poem

Snowing Hair

Too Much too bear

Not Fair

Wish I had some bear hair


How Did It Happen

Sassy and Short

Beautiful

Gone

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Hair Loss From A Three Year Old Perspective

H.J. frowns

Something different

"Jammy, you need a good haircut".

Good Idea

Jammy, I have my hair on.

You should put some on too.

H.J. that a good idea.

Should I put my wig on?

No, Just hair.

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Hair Loss From A One Year Old Perspective

Baby RA points her finger

Across the room

Cries for

Jammy

She clings to Jammy

Smiles sweetly.


Baby Stare

Baby Ra

What are you thinking

You just look and look?

Jammy read me a book?

Jammy you have a new look?

Baby RA you look so sad

As you stare

Are you wondering where's Jammy's hair?


Done With Grieving.

This is crazy. Only way through this course of treatment my hair is growing back. I am on a clinical trial.The doctors don't know exactly what the hair is going to do.

I discovered giving my wig a good brushing and a shampoo made it look nice.

Now that winter has arrived wearing beanies is common and very comfy.

That crisis is over, now, what will Tireless get into next.

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Ericdierker 23 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

Great hub here with a great attitude. My hair loss was not so bad as I am a man and bald shaved is acceptable. But when it was combined with my 130 lbs on a 6 ft frame the result was bad. I looked like an alien :-) My prayers are with you and yours for a successful round.


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tobusiness 23 months ago from Bedfordshire, U.K

When my mum died, my hair fell out in clumps, although it grew back, it was never the same again. I'm sorry to learn about your fight with cancer, it's a real tough adversary, but I have a feeling you're much tougher. Good luck with your treatment. Hair or no hair, to those who love you, you are always beautiful. I wish you a very Happy New Year and all the best for 2015.


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Faith Reaper 23 months ago from southern USA

Lovely share here, hair or no hair ... you are beautiful either way. Your poems are great and it is so true that it is okay to grieve! Little ones are so cute and you know they all love their Jammy regardless. It is good to have friends to laugh with you and cry too.

Prayers going up for you.

Blessings and peace always


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AliciaC 23 months ago from British Columbia, Canada

I hope the clinical trial is very successful and that you have a great 2015, tirelesstraveler.


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Vellur 23 months ago from Dubai

I agree with Faith Reaper hair or no hair you are beautiful. Great poems ! Take care.


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tirelesstraveler 23 months ago from California Author

Tobusiness- Thanks for stopping. They say stress can cause hair loss and a Mum passing is one of the worst kind of stresses ever. It was 9 years ago yesterday mine passed. Happy New Year.


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tirelesstraveler 23 months ago from California Author

Eric, My #2 son throught we should buff our heads. My hair is growing again, so I declined. If it wasn't winter I would have been tempted. We have a warped sense of humor in our family.


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phdast7 23 months ago from Atlanta, Georgia

What a strong woman you are, balancing grief and humor and the ups and downs of real life. You are a great example for the rest of us. Blessings! Theresa


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Cyndi10 23 months ago from Georgia

Beautiful to read this. I admire your attitude and your fortitude. It shows such strength and resilience. I can only wish you all the best for 2015!

Take care.


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ideadesigns 23 months ago from Central USA

Beautiful life story and poems! Thanks for sharing. A lady at our church stuck eyeballs on the back of her head. Her humor/joy is contagious. Her faith in God, even greater. God bless you on your journey.


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Eiddwen 23 months ago from Wales

A wonderful and inspiring hub which shows off your strength at its best. Wishing you a wonderful run up to the New Year.

Eddy.


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The Examiner-1 23 months ago

I felt sorry for you in your times of loss Judy but I am proud of you for sticking with it and pulling through. If you were still trying to replace your wigs then I was going to tell you that my brother shaved his head (just because he wanted to) and wears a knit hat that looks different from the normal ones.

I gave this a thumbs up and voted across, shared it, pinned it and tweeted it.

Kevin


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MarleneB 23 months ago from Northern California, USA

I'm sorry to hear of your hair loss. But, thank goodness for wigs. While I don't suffer from hair loss, I do suffer from ugly hair. So, I wear wigs all the time. I change up my look on a regular basis. To me, wigs are like "hats." I change my wig to match my mood and outfit for the day. By the way, I really like your wig. And, I pray for your full recovery.


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BlossomSB 23 months ago from Victoria, Australia

Hair loss can be devastating, but you deal with it so well. After chemo the hair of one of my daughters grew back darker and curly. She's still going strong and I pray that you will, too. By the way, I love your wig, it's so pretty.


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GetitScene 23 months ago from The High Seas

I think it's almost impolite for people to 'recommend' treatments etc. but I say with this absolute love and care, watch Forks Over Knives documentary. It may not be all it claims (but then it may be!) but I can tell you that I live pretty close to that diet and I have never been ib=n better health in my life and I was a VERY active young man (ohhh so many years ago!)


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tirelesstraveler 23 months ago from California Author

BlossomSB, Glaf to hear your daughter is doing well. Love the idea of curley hair. Happy New Year!


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vespawoolf 23 months ago from Peru, South America

I'm very sorry for your hair loss, but it sounds like you're grieving and coping in a healthy way. And it's important that you rely on your support system: your loving family and friends. You're a strong woman!


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tirelesstraveler 23 months ago from California Author

vespawoolf, Thanks for visiting. Happy New Year!


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FlourishAnyway 22 months ago from USA

Tireless, you're perfect whether you have hair or not. Whatever look makes you most comfortable, just rock it and know that you are supported. I enjoyed your thoughts and your poems.


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tirelesstraveler 22 months ago from California Author

FlourishAnyway, thank you for your encouragement. It was very timely.


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CrisSp 22 months ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

I'm very sorry about what you're going through right now but I must say that I love your attitude towards life. Looks like you're rocking it and that you'd stay undefeated.

Keep smiling!


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tirelesstraveler 22 months ago from California Author

CrisSp, thanks for visiting. I am trying to stay strong, but some days a nap is the best way to cope.


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tirelesstraveler 22 months ago from California Author

Marlene, the problem with wigs is nobody recognizes me. I am nature girl and my hair lives a life of it's own. Today I put on my wig to attend a function that needed more than a bandanna; a man I have known for years just stared at me when I greeted him:)

The wig is always a good plan B.


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tirelesstraveler 22 months ago from California Author

Marlene, the problem with wigs is nobody recognizes me. I am nature girl and my hair lives a life of it's own. Today I put on my wig to attend a function that needed more than a bandanna; a man I have known for years just stared at me when I greeted him:)

The wig is always a good plan B.


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MartieCoetser 22 months ago from South Africa

Judy, what a remarkable and admirable attitude you have about losing your hair due to chemo due to Cancer. I take my hat off for ladies and men like you who are suffering Cancer issues with such dignity and even with a marvellous sense of humour. I hope to be like you if ever I find myself diagnosed with the horrible C. Sending you bags of sunshine from South Africa :)


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pstraubie48 22 months ago from sunny Florida

Yeah, we have been through many bald and almost bald and going bald phases over the last 12 years. My daughter and grandson both have cancer...my daughter has been told not good things many times and she has been around to see many more days than was expected.

The hair thing became quickly less important than so many other factors as you understand. We are just thankful that she is walking the planet.

Sending you meany healing Angels this evening (I have written about cancer here on hubpages and our journey). Wishing you good things and much positive energy.

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tirelesstraveler 22 months ago from California Author

Patricia, Blessing back. You are so right about the hair. You family is frequently in my prayers.


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tirelesstraveler 22 months ago from California Author

Marti, Blessing and thanks for the bags of sunshine. We need it in our foggy valley today. I try to laugh every day. Laughter takes pain away and lifts the spirits. So does sunshine.


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AudreyHowitt 22 months ago from California

What a great attitude you have! Sending you good thoughts on this Sunday!


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tirelesstraveler 22 months ago from California Author

Audrey, You have made my day. Thanks!


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pstraubie48 22 months ago from sunny Florida

You know losing the hair is not fun, not funny. (Although we did get to a point where we did laugh about it.) The first time my daughter lost her hair was over 10 years ago...she lost it down to nada, fuzz. So we bought beautiful scarves to warp around her head.

She painted tons of bald is beautiful paintitgs...a ll of a young woman with a bald head. It was cathartic

Year after year it fell out, and grew back...never ever her beautiful hair again. Just two months ago she had treatment again, horrid, frightening radiation unlike any she had ever had and she lost huge clumps but most remained the good news, no , the WONDERFUL news, is you are on tee planet and my girl is on the planet!!!!!

You did the right thing here...you wrote of your thoughts and feelings ---that is so cathartic.

Know that I am sending you many blessings and a whole army of Angels to watch over you.

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billybuc 21 months ago from Olympia, WA

You have a great smile and I love your attitude. Well done! I'm so glad you wrote this hub. I think it is so important that we share experiences like this one so others know they are not alone.


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tirelesstraveler 21 months ago from California Author

Bill for your encouragement is greatly valued, thanks for stopping.


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chuckandus6 20 months ago from The Country-Side

you sound like such a.strong and caring person and your writing is.great

Keep up the great work


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tirelesstraveler 19 months ago from California Author

chuckandus6- Thank you for the nice comments.


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CatherineGiordano 12 months ago from Orlando Florida

I'm so sorry to learn abut your cancer. I hope that all goes well for you. I had a bout with cancer myself (8 years ago), but it was caught early so I was spared chemo. Please take care of yourself. I have always found writing is an excellent way to deal with loss and grief. Your poems show that you are coping. Laughing and helping others will get you through. I hope to soon read a hub about your cure.

Treat yourself to a new wig If you want to be outrageous, get a wig with purple streaks or clip some outlandishly colored hair to your current wig. If it were me, I would do that as an act of defiance.


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tirelesstraveler 12 months ago from California Author

Catherine, Thanks for visiting. Currently I have amazing curly hair. The current fashion may go away soon, but we will cope with that when it comes.

I may buy a pink wig if I lose the hair again. Thanks for the idea.


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CatherineGiordano 12 months ago from Orlando Florida

Go for it. I says, "Yeah, I have cancer, but I'm alive and kicking and I spit in the eye of cancer."


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tirelesstraveler 12 months ago from California Author

Totally with you on those sentiments.


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RTalloni 10 months ago from the short journey

Thank you for sharing from your experience so others can benefit from your honest perspective. Looking forward to seeing what you get into next as you continue enjoying those babies!

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