I’ve Reached The “Summing Up Time”

Summing up life's experiences....

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I’ve Reached The “Summing Up Time”.

What good are life's experiences, if they have meaning only to me?

What have I learned from all my life’s experiences?

It is too easy to waste time.

My mother’s favorite saying was repeated and repeated to me: “If you love life, then waste not time, for time is the stuff life is made of.” But for all of her teaching, I would hate to put a percentage on the amount of time in my life I have wasted. I could probably make two more lifetimes from my one life, had I not wasted too much time on such things as waiting, watching, and wondering.

Testosterone and other hormones are over-rated.

We are designed by the master designer to procreate and the hormones that drive that urge in some men and some women obscure their more rational approaches to life. None of us will procreate to the levels we seem set for, but that urge, if allowed to constantly trouble our thoughts, obscures the pro-creativity that might otherwise lead us to accomplish so much more in life. Sex has its season and place.

Self-discipline is an element of character which is best learned early in life.

A lack of self-discipline leads too often to unfocused efforts, a scattering of talents governed more often by impulse and procrastination. Impulse can be “a shotgun approach to life” whereas self-discipline allows precisely hitting the targets we set for ourselves as well as those life pops up along the way. Granted, even self-discipline mastered late in life is still worth the effort, but how much better to have had it all along.

Love goes where it is sent.

It takes some time to realize that love goes where it is sent. The only love we have control over is the love we have to give. Look carefully at an excited and happy child. There are times when their love bubbles over as if they were a pot boiling over on a hot stove. Their supply of love seems endless unless smothered by someone putting on too heavy a lid with all the dangers doing so poses to their health.. The expression “spread love” can characterize a life of smiles, devotion, service, and happiness. Life’s finest moments have love at their core, and we are born to realize that the more loving we are, the more likely we are to find happiness. Everyone wants happiness, but too few want to pay the price of admission.

We have basic responsibilities to one another..

When life gives us bouquets of flowers, we should get busy passing them out. There is inevitable sadness, sickness, and poverty in this world. If life is giving flowers, it is for a purpose. All flowers shrivel and die in a relatively short time. Their beauty is meant to be shared, and that is where love and happiness come in. “Seize the day!” Yesterday’s good can’t be done today, but today’s can be. Tomorrow there may be nothing we can do for someone else who needs us today. Someone needs a smile, a chuckle, a good laugh, a helping hand, a shoulder to cry on, a loving thought or act. Why not fill a lifetime with memories of being that kind of person? There are enough bouquets to go around, if we share them.

The two smallest words besides "I" are "Me" and "My".

Ego separates us from others and guarantees less happiness than we might have had by controlling ego. Some maintain that egoism is simple self-interest and that it motivates, even validates, every conscious act. Beware of ego. It is the stuff of stuffed shirts, it can separate one from the love, care., and friendship of others as quickly as a knife separates pieces from the cake. The selfless person has ego under control and looks outward more than inward, seeing opportunities the egoist will never see.

The egoist wastes time, gets caught up in responding to hormones, fails to discipline self, hoards love, and minimizes their responsibilities for others.

Oh, yes; and then there is money.

Money is inert. It will sit where it is left, until someone moves it. In my lifetime some actual money has come into my hands and then gone out of my hands. It could have gone to many places, some good and some not so good, some wisely chosen and some not. It is never too early to save for greater needs, bigger goals, and unexpected situations. Money in some respects represents time, the time it took for it to come into our hands from any of a myriad of sources. It represents time invested or wasted when it goes out of our hands. Be careful and thoughtful when you let money go. You need not be a miser in order to save for a rainy day or a golden opportunity, but you do need to spend wisely and save often for both of them. "Teach your dollars more cents (and yourself more sense.)"

Other lessons from life's experiences?

There are surely other lessons I am still learning, for I am still here, still living and experiencing just as you are. But this “Summing Up Time” urged the sharing of this bouquet which you can pass along….or not.

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mjboomer 4 years ago from Oregon

The greatest gift that you can give to your children or others you meet is to be a positive role model for all to see.


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Dr Pooja 4 years ago

loved every word of this hub.Voted up and shared!


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Deborah Brooks 4 years ago from Brownsville,TX

Great hub.. everyone should read.. sharing

Debbie


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jellygator 4 years ago from USA

Very nice. I spotted this because of Dr Pooja's share and am going to pass it along as well. I completely agree with the self-discipline part, am not too sure about the spreading love part, and would add that genuinely caring for onself whilst respecting others is the best I can hope to be in my life.


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TravelAbout 4 years ago from United States

So true. I think, perhaps, we have become a country where many of us want instant gratification for almost everything. We are programmed by media that instant gratification is what we are entitled to and what we need. Media, television, movies, marketers have made trivial many of the values that are core to our being. It is a constant struggle to not be influenced by all of these external messages and keep in mind the real things of importance. Thanks for Sharing.


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Amy Becherer 4 years ago from St. Louis, MO

I think your words are the reason I love animals with so much passion. Driven by instinct, they are pure in purpose, without malice or ulterior motives. When they love, it is with all of their being, no holding back. It is unconditional. Humans must be taught to accomplish what is innate in the animal kingdom. For all of our supposed superiority, we can't seem to figure out the fundamentals of coexisting in a loving way.

You've chosen a topic, perspycacious that should be of interest to everyone who can read. And, you did a magnificent job writing it.


Sueswan 4 years ago

Hi Perspycacious

I think we shouldn't waste time thinking about the time we wasted.

We have to stop and smell the roses. For some this may be considered a waste of time after all life goes by quickly and they want to pack everything in they can. Our 24/7 society doesn't help the matter.

Voted up and away!

Take care :)


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josh3418 4 years ago from Pennsylvania

Perspycacious,

This is my first time stopping by your work. I am new to HubPages, so it takes me a while to notice everyone :) This is a great hub though! And I loved your section on self discipline!


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phdast7 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia

Perspicacious - This an absolutely wonderful Hub. What pops into my mind that I might add is the great value to be found in flexibility. If we are rigid and inflexible and must have "our schedule exactly as we planned it" we will miss out on so many of life's opportunities to share, to be kind, to enjoy our children and grandchildren, to bless others with flowers from our bouquet. I have become more flexible in many ways as I have grown older and I think it has been a good thing. Thanks for a wonderful reminder about how we should endeavor to live. Sharing.


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Curiad 4 years ago from Lake Charles, LA.

This is a well written list and should be valuable to many. My message is that if we each do our absolute best and share that with those that come along after us, we have been successful.


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JayeWisdom 4 years ago from Deep South, USA

Valuable hub. Many of us are at the "summing up" stage, some wishing we'd realized the importance of such things as self-discipline at a younger age. Those who learned that lesson early reaped its benefits, I'm sure.

My thought is that too much energy is uselessly expended on pessimism and a negative attitude. Those traits are the ones that make people cross to the other side of the street when they see the "negative/pessimistic" person walking toward them. It's much more pleasant to be around someone with a positive, optimistic outlook, and that attitude is also good for the person who embodies it.

Voted UP, USEFUL, INTERESTING and shared.


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fastfreta 4 years ago from Southern California

Thank you for finding me. I would have missed a truly wonderful hub if not for your follow. I'm going to "like" this on Facebook, and highlight this paragraph,

"When life gives us bouquets of flowers, we should get busy passing them out. There is inevitable sadness, sickness, and poverty in this world. If life is giving flowers, it is for a purpose. All flowers shrivel and die in a relatively short time. Their beauty is meant to be shared, and that is where love and happiness come in. “Seize the day!” Yesterday’s good can’t be done today, but today’s can be. Tomorrow there may be nothing we can do for someone else who needs us today. Someone needs a smile, a chuckle, a good laugh, a helping hand, a shoulder to cry on, a loving thought or act. Why not fill a lifetime with memories of being that kind of person? There are enough bouquets to go around, if we share them."

This is so profound. I truly loved this hub and will share it with everyone I can. By the way I tweeted itm Pinned it, and shared with my HP followers.

VOTED UP, USEFUL, INTERESTING, BEAUTIFUL, AND AWESOME!


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Marisaupa 4 years ago

So very true. Whether you are young, middle aged or entering your seasoned years, this Hub is a must read.

So many times, that which should be common sense to us all, needs to be aggregated and pointed out to us. Thank you for doing so.


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catgypsy 4 years ago from the South

It is interesting to "sum up time" and you wrote a very interesting hub about it. One thing I learned, a little late but learned, is to figure out your priorities. By doing so, you cut out wasting time on junk that you thought was important at the time. When I look back, I wish I could have all that time back that I wasted on meaningless tripe!


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Gypsy Rose Lee 4 years ago from Riga, Latvia

There are two significant times in my life when I should have reacted differently and I didn't and let precious time slip away and in turn lost friendships which would have mattered so much. Now I live every day to the fullest, let the Lord guide me and I'm not afraid to reach out to someone in need. Passing this on.


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loveofnight 4 years ago from Baltimore, Maryland

Your words seem to have hit home for me; givin me a lot of food for thought. Great Hub


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raciniwa 4 years ago from Naga City, Cebu

yes, but time is an illusion, for our life on this world is temporary...


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Paul Kuehn 4 years ago from Udorn City, Thailand

This is an excellent hub and I can certainly identify with the life lessons from your experiences. What I have basically learned in my life is that people are basically born with a bad nature, and that it takes a lot of nurturing and education from parents, teachers, and others to make humans good. It seems to be a day by day struggle. I have learned that most people will try to get away with the most they can at both work and school, and that everyone wants to get the maximum they can get with the least amount of effort. Sefl discipline in ones life is certainly very important. Voted up and sharing.


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Pamela Kinnaird W 4 years ago from Maui and Arizona

Voted up and awesome. I've been away from computer and can only pop in here and there for awhile, but your title caught my eye right away. What a great article. I especially enjoyed your thoughts on loving others and how ego gets in the way. I have a relative I need to love more and serve more but he has the biggest ego and is the rudest person I've ever met. Your hub will help me this day to be a little stronger.


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rahul0324 4 years ago from Gurgaon, India

The most important lesson I have learnt is that may be your are not alone... may be.. you are destined to never be alone... and you may be aware of the same fact... but you should always learn to live alone...

It is the most handy thing you can learn


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rebeccamealey 4 years ago from Northeastern Georgia, USA

This is so very thought out and expressed, showing much wisdom acquired over a lifetime! I love that....I , me and my are the smallest words. That is an awesome saying! well done, my friend!


mours sshields 4 years ago from Elwood, Indiana

Very interesting and useful! Growing older does usually make for a lot of lessons, insights, and wisdom.

It is true that many of us have wasted our fair share of time. It's easy to do, especially when one is younger. I know I have!

Great article!

Marcia Ours


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Perspycacious 4 years ago from Today's America and The World Beyond Author

mjboomer: Being a positive role model requires that we have become one. The lessons I cite here are suggestions for making it more likely that we can.


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Perspycacious 4 years ago from Today's America and The World Beyond Author

Dr Pooja: Thank you for having found this Hub worthy of sharing.


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Perspycacious 4 years ago from Today's America and The World Beyond Author

Deborah Brooks: Thank you for the praise and the sharing.


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Perspycacious 4 years ago from Today's America and The World Beyond Author

jellygator: I greatly appreciate your comments and addition, as well as your passing this along to others.


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Perspycacious 4 years ago from Today's America and The World Beyond Author

TravelAbout: I agree with your comment. Those who expect instant gratification will be instantly disappointed in most things of lasting value.


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Perspycacious 4 years ago from Today's America and The World Beyond Author

Amy Becherer: High praise and sound wisdom. There are variations in the animal kingdom, too, but man seems to be the biggest beast in the jungle.


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Perspycacious 4 years ago from Today's America and The World Beyond Author

Sueswan: You are right. We cannot "go 24/7" or we will burn out before our time. Are there social obligations? Do governments set rules for our lives? We have to carve out space forourselves and our loved ones. And pay the piper when payment is due.


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Perspycacious 4 years ago from Today's America and The World Beyond Author

josh3418: I apologize for taking so long to respond to your favorable comment. I am glad you found me, and liked what you found here.


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Perspycacious 4 years ago from Today's America and The World Beyond Author

phdast7: You contribute so many good Hubs here on HP that I should be thanking you (as I actually do from time to time.) Being flexible is like a boxer knowing to soften blows by giving instead of resisting when he knows one will land. You are right that it is the same in life, and allowing for the spontaneous has fine rewards.


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Perspycacious 4 years ago from Today's America and The World Beyond Author

Curiad: You are right in saying that we are all in this together, and that we each have something to contribute to the whole, while becoming happier for doing so. I hope, as you do, that this Hub has meaning and value to others.


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Perspycacious 4 years ago from Today's America and The World Beyond Author

JayeWisdom: "The Power of Positive Thnking" has sold a lot of copies because people have recognized its powerful truths and then suggested that others could benefit from reading the book. Part of being positive is being thankful and grateful. Both are empowering traits. We each have little enough energy as it is, why waste any of it on items in the list of negatives? Thanks for taking the time to comment.


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Perspycacious 4 years ago from Today's America and The World Beyond Author

fastfreta: You earned a bouquet from me for passing on that paragraph and the Hub. The same applies to other "plenties" we are blessed with, So many have no enduring value unless they are shared.


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Perspycacious 4 years ago from Today's America and The World Beyond Author

fastfreta: Yours is a much appreciated comment in four sentences. Comments don't have to be long ones, when they have something to say and say it.


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Perspycacious 4 years ago from Today's America and The World Beyond Author

catgypsy: Well said. The lessons we learn are for the future, not the past.


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Perspycacious 4 years ago from Today's America and The World Beyond Author

Gypsy Rose Lee: See my last comment to catgypsy, your learned lesson is serving you well.


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Perspycacious 4 years ago from Today's America and The World Beyond Author

loveofnight: You brought along the thinking. I'm glad I provided the food for the thoughts. The combination turned into your nice comment. Thanks.


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Perspycacious 4 years ago from Today's America and The World Beyond Author

raciniwa: True but "temporary" has its root meaning in a word meaning "a portion of time" and we each get one, not to be wasted.


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Perspycacious 4 years ago from Today's America and The World Beyond Author

Paul Kuehn: Thanks for sharing your beliefs and insights from a most delightful place, Bangkok (at least at the time you commented from there.)


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Perspycacious 4 years ago from Today's America and The World Beyond Author

Pamela Kinnaird W: Isn't it true? Help always seems to come when it is most needed. The first help you received was that of being able to recognize the challenge.


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Perspycacious 4 years ago from Today's America and The World Beyond Author

rahul0324: That comment of yours could be another way of saying "learn to be content in your own skin." I would not wish anyone to have to be alone, but if they were I would want to wish that they might find happiness in the solitude and solitaryness of that moment.


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Perspycacious 4 years ago from Today's America and The World Beyond Author

rebeccamealey: Thanks for the "well done" and the friendship.


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Perspycacious 4 years ago from Today's America and The World Beyond Author

mours sshields: How can it have been so long ago when I wrote this Hub? The first comment was mjboomer's from four months ago! Adn it was three months ago that you commented. Shame on me for tardy answers. Then again, I did write an authoritative article on the subject of procrastinating! Thanks for the "Great srticle!" comment. I did read it long ago, but then I procrastinated (though I didn't waste the interim time!)

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