How to Control & Deal with Your Anger

Intro

 

Someone said: “For every minute you are angry, you lose sixty seconds of happiness”.

 

“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.” Buddha

 

“"The strong is not the one who overcomes the people by his strength, but the strong is the one who controls himself while in anger." Prophet Muhammad.

 

 

This is an easy and practical way to appease your anger immediately and after you read the following and apply this magical recipe, look at yourself in the mirror to see the difference.

What is anger?

 

Always remember that anger is a natural sentimental condition which you shouldn’t be ashamed of. Anger symptoms are: frustration feelings, tendency to use ridicule, muscles and nerves tension.

 

 

Specify the reasons!

 Sometimes, it is very clear to know the reason like when someone steals your purse or bag or when someone falsely accuses you…etc some other times, the reason might not be obvious like breaking the pen if it stops writing. As a matter of fact, this is not the direct reason because breaking the pen might be expressing suppressed anger of yourself like not preparing well for your exam test or not studying for that purpose. So, this is an indirect reason emerged from hidden, long-oppressed emotions of anger.

Make the appropriate decision and deal with your anger.

The reaction you take depends entirely on the situation you’re facing so identify the problem which triggered your anger and adopt positive choices to solve it.

- calm yourself

- understand the anger cause

- identify the best ways

- seek assistance

- be objective in handling the problem

- try to solve the problem and don’t walk away or avoid it.

- Don’t use the “blaming” attitude

- Don’t pout, sulk or mope

How to control your anger?

You have to choose the way that suits you:

1- Have sense of humor. Don’t be angry of trivial matters or problems which can’t be solved easily or momentarily and try to find a way out. Also, deal with your problem as a funny thing and always simplify it. Whether you pout or not, whether you frown or not, the problem has already occurred and your emotions will not solve it so you use your common sense to deal with it.

2- Exercising is one of the efficient ways to control your anger like swimming, jogging or walking. That’s why sports people don’t get angry easily.

3- Relaxation. Try to have enough sleep because people who don’t sleep enough tend to be groggy and a trouble mongers. Also, try to meditate and have a brisk walk once in a while with maintaining deep breath exercise.

4- There are other means to control you anger like adopting a hobby (if you don’t have one). Read a lot; take care of your garden or lawn. Discuss your anger with the person who triggered it or consult a friend.

 

After all, anger is just a state of mind where the angry person tends to see things blurry which hinders him/ her to observe the logicality of the whole issue. Sometimes, the problem is very easy, but when we amplify it, it gets bigger and tougher to solve.  

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Comments 24 comments

FreckleFriend...*shimmer* 6 years ago

You are making me angry!!>:( I dislike your feathers!


Failure 2 Smell Smelly Things 6 years ago

This hub is making me angry!! >:( HULK SMASH!


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shamelabboush 6 years ago Author

Disturbia, writing is an excellent scheme to get rid of anger, thanks a lot for the nice comment...


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Disturbia 6 years ago

Having a good sense of humor is the best defense against anger... also when you do get angry... write, write, write... write it all down and get it out of your system, that's what I do. Writing poetry has saved my life!


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shamelabboush 6 years ago Author

Of course you won't chrissie123 :)


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chrissie123 6 years ago

lol I wont hurt anyone and you are welcome! XD


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shamelabboush 6 years ago Author

Sometimes, it's nice to break something :) just make sure you don't hurt anyone lol... Thanks chrissie123


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chrissie123 6 years ago

Oh man I need to control my anger better lol XD. Alot of people tell me i'm intimadating haha. I think I'm just to honest, but I try to control my anger with my writting, but sometimes feels better to throw something @.@


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shamelabboush 6 years ago Author

lol Waren, you're hilarious...


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Waren E 6 years ago from HAS LEFT THE BUILDING............

Ssssh not so loud,the army is always looking for me...LOL!:D


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shamelabboush 6 years ago Author

Hello the HULK, I maen Waren :) my devoted fan. Thank you again...


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Waren E 6 years ago from HAS LEFT THE BUILDING............

Anger can really distort the perception when outta control!

A most needed hub in these times,thanks man!

THE HULK...I mean Waren E.....LOL!:D


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shamelabboush 7 years ago Author

Thanks a lot BC.


badcompany99 7 years ago

Sometimes you need a bit of anger for the passion my friend, nice hub !


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shamelabboush 7 years ago Author

Thanks Brenda. Glad you really liked it :)


\Brenda Scully 7 years ago

anger management great subject for a hub and you wrote it really well enjoyed it very much


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shamelabboush 7 years ago Author

Oh dear dohn thanks. Sports and kicking punching bags sometimes can greatly help.


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shamelabboush 7 years ago Author

Thanks Jess, appreciate it.


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dohn121 7 years ago from Hudson Valley, New York

While in the fifth grade, my teacher put up a punching bag in our coat closet for any of the students to punch freely whenever the urge came about. I really must say that it sure helped. I later found football and Judo all of these sports helped me. I really liked the quotes you have and the info on the negative side effects of anger. Awesome job, Shamel!


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Jess Killmenow 7 years ago from Nowheresville, Eastern United States

Anger can be a crafty and tenacious adversary. Thank you for your insight, Shamelabboush.


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shamelabboush 7 years ago Author

Sharing Insight, again thank you so much for your support and I appreciate all your efforts to read my hubs though I know you're very busy. You mentioned before that you're anti-anger person and lesson is learned :) Have a great day.


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Sharing Insight 7 years ago

How great Shamel...nicely layed out anger management tips...

Personally, I'm a control freak--along with having a natural knack for emotional breakdown/analysis. It helps to excise all those wise tips you've shared about resting, and exercising...etc..therefore and thank goodness -anger- is nonexistent in my life.

It really sometimes depends on circumstances or situation whether to surrender to anger...

Pick and choose your battles wisely I say.

Great Hub:D


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shamelabboush 7 years ago Author

You can't be mad i know bcz you're such a cute person :)


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Bunchee 7 years ago from Dubai, UAE

if i'm mad, i just sleep on it and it will go away the next day...

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