Lessons Learned After Physically Hurting Someone
Have you ever shed a tear after physically hurting someone? If so what did you learn? asked Barnsey
I liked this question, and preferred to answer it with a hub starting out defining concepts:
Tear, a drop of clear saline fluid secreted by the lacrimal gland and diffused between the eye and eyelids to moisten the parts and facilitate their motion. These tears will roll down our cheeks in happiness as in sadness. It is a natural emotional response to certain feelings, usually when we are hurt. Some people say they wash away pain.
Physically, refers to the body, which mostly consists of a head, neck, torso, arms and legs; including our internal organ systems: respiratory, circulatory and central nervous system.
A tear shed
Explanation of each physical hurt
Part of the body I have hurt
How have I hurt it
Why have I hurt it
Saying offensive words
Defending myself from lies or hurting words
With unpleasant looks
Trying to show my own hurts
My egoistic side in control
Giving something harmful like a soda (even when I do not use it)
Weakness by not saying "NO"
The list of physical hurts that I have done is longer. I actually deserve to be put in a dungeon!
From all the physical parts that I have hurt and tears have not washed out the damage, is that organ; the part of the body not seen but heard which pumps blood throughout the vessels by repeated, rhythmic contractions; If a section suddenly becomes blocked, it begins to die.
I have heard and read that powerful negative emotions like depression, anger and anxiety are hurtful. They can cause arteries to spasm and close down like a boa constrictor squeezing around it's prey. I do not want to be part of this physical hurt or no other physical harm, neither do I want to be hurt. We will always be hurt by hurting others. Life is a boomerang!
My human nature will have me struggling to be the perfect Christian God wants me to be. Hebrews 12:14 "Pursue peace with all men, and the sanctification without which no one will see the Lord. " It is very hard for me to trust human beings I hear, see and have been hurt to much by them.
Life is short: Ephesians 4:26 says "BE ANGRY, AND yet DO NOT SIN; do not let the sun go down on your anger ," People are born and one day they will die, if we could manage death perhaps we would have time to not only ask forgiveness but demonstrate our true love.
My lessons come from the Bible, the Word of God:
Matthew 5:8 "Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God." If I have love I ought to protect my heart and others heart to be blessed and to glorify God whose mercy is upon us all.
I haven't shed a tear after physically hurting somebody, but I have made a river of tears flow into the ocean of repentance. I wouldn't be able to share this type of answer if it wasn't because of God's mercy, which I have believed, accepted, and daily received; having hope by the faith in God's word:
Hebrews 9:28 "so Christ also, having been offered once to bear the sins of many, will appear a second time for salvation without reference to sin, to those who eagerly await Him ."
Why can't we stop hurting others? Perhaps we cannot see blood coming out but by being dishonest, unfaithful, greedy and all those ugly emotions that give birth to hurtful feelings and wrong actions that are destroying relations, families, children...lives!
Every individual ought to look forward to a better life by washing away not only pain but bad intentions. I am trying to open up my heart...what will you do?
Blessings to all!
© Maria Magdalena Ruiz O'Farrill
Carpenters - Hurting Each Other
© 2012 Maria Magdalena Ruiz O'Farrill
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