Let Go of Yesterday. Embrace Today. Have Faith for Tomorrow

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Jiddu Krishnamurti is a well-known and much loved Indian speaker and writer on philosophical and spiritual subjects. You may view his photo and one of his quotes, here to the right..

Human beings spend much of our lives in contemplation. Sadly for many, past mistakes and indiscretions seem to haunt and often torture us despite efforts to block them from our memory. The result can be a maddening and crippling state of being that prevents the freedom of progress to go forward to thrive in peace and happiness. Although we may have gained immeasurable wisdom and made many positive changes in our behavior and choices, the negative and harrowing experiences remain to taunt us and lock our spirit in guilt and remorse.

Surely we will cry out, "Must this be the burden we carry throughout life that we can never be truly free to thrive in this world?" "What of our dreams and our birthright to all the gifts of our Universe?" These shadows of gloom belong to each of us at one point or another. No man is untouched by troubles, mistakes or sin. We are imperfect and mortal above all else.

To break away and go forward with intention and courage requires a storm of desire from within us that awakens our senses and longs to succeed. The moment arrives when we can clearly see there is a need to fight in defense of that which belongs to us, whether we are broken or whole.

What has been done is over, no longer a bleeding wound, but we have healed and carry the scars of battle. If we look back, we need to be careful to see only that which will help us and that which reminds us of what we wish to never revisit. We have buried our foolishness and crushed our greed. We protect our goodness and honor to keep us walking that straight line. The line that will lead us to the joy intended for us. Isn't this what each and every one of us want? So then what must we do?

Turning the pages.....
Turning the pages.....
I must forgive myself.
I must forgive myself.

Letting Go of the Past

These are not just more empty words of advice, nor a flippant cliché. The sheer reality is that we must come to a place of self-forgiveness, no matter how painful, no matter how difficult. Yes we will have to go back for a moment, to recall unpleasant, embarrassing times. Those times when perhaps in our youth and lack of wisdom, we were selfish and cruel, not only to others, but even to our own self. The outrageously irrational choices we made and the bold denial we clung to against all common sense. During that crazy time in our life when all that mattered was the momentary pleasure, the bigger the better and the more self indulgent, the more we kept on that path of destruction.

To begin to heal, we must first learn to let go. We need to be willing to feel true sorrow for those we may have hurt. When possible, we must apologize with sincerity and ask for forgiveness. Only this can begin our cleansing that will free our soul to reach out to love and compassion to those we once scorned. This same compassion belongs to us too.We can learn to love ourself with a pure love and discard our wretched ego. It is only then we can find it in our heart to forgive ourself.

Once we have taken these tender steps, it is that time my friend, to bid, "Farewell," to yesterday. In our mind's eye, we may watch the past fade far and fast into a distance no longer visible. Our heart will lighten and we'll feel the newness and freshness of utter relief. The relief which brings us the freedom to move forward into new beginnings of a new and brighter day.

Leave the Past Behind/Larry Norman w/ lyrics

Brand new DAY.....TODAY!

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Up, up & away in my beautiful balloon | Source

Now. Today. Right this Moment.

The break of dawn. Sunrise is as breathtaking as the sunset, although while sunset bids farewell to another day, sunrise has an excitement like nothing else. If we listen closely, we can hear the song of hope that rises with the brightness and warmth of the sun. With arms outstretched we can reach out and touch a piece of sky. It peeks through and pull us to embrace.

Yes, hope of all the wonderful things we have in store and the people whose lives will intertwine with ours. Today is the new day dawning just for us. Its moments must not be wasted, but used for every purpose in our lives. This is our gift of starting over and beginning on a journey for which we've made so many plans. We are certain it is never too late.

Today we continue our healing and practice the words and deeds that will create our comfortable world to learn and grow, share and love. We've discovered our purpose of our existence on earth. We can hope to leave our mark on all we touch. With every step we guard against despair, ready to forbid it entry and rise above its poison.

We paid our dues and learned the lessons. This is our time to sparkle and shine. "Today," what a wonderful concept. Right now as we live and breathe.....this moment. It's ours and we embrace it.

Once more we can make our amends. For every heart we broke, we will share kindness and comfort. The sins we committed have been washed away forever and in their place we've brought talents and gifts to spread smiles and laughter where ever we go.

Gratitude overwhelms us and we say, "Thank you.....thank you.....thank you!" For this new day has made me whole again and brought me to the beauty and reality of life. No more will I cry tears of regret nor wonder who I am. I'm a child of the universe now....today, right this moment!

The Best Day of My Life

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Today's Joy is Tomorrow's Memory

Because we just cannot know of tomorrow, we learn to have faith. Faith to believe that what may not have worked out quite as we'd hoped today, tomorrow allows us another chance. It is comforting to have hope in tomorrow, for all of our memories come to life tomorrow.

Tomorrow will bring us thoughts of all the days before and the continuation of yesterday's lessons! Before we close our eyes at the end of a long and busy day, we smile in the belief that "tomorrow is another gift."

One final thought I share with you my friend..... Speak these words aloud and in peace......

"Good Bye to Yesterday" "Welcome to my World, Today. I Love you." and "I Believe in the Hope of Tomorrow.".............Peace to one and all..

TOMORROW from "Annie"

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fpherj48 2 weeks ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

aesta.....I do know of what you speak....sincerely. Try someday to approach this dilemma as a stranger to yourself. At least to have as objective an opinion as possible. Keep in the forefront of your mind that you too are a human being, capable of mistakes, failures and disappointments. Do this until it begins to feel a bit more comfortable & allow yourself time for it to seep into your subconscious. Don't try to force anything.

If you are not successful aesta, so be it. It is most important that you have been forgiven by others.... You are loved. Paula


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aesta1 2 weeks ago from Ontario, Canada

I find forgiving myself the hardest to do even if I understand it is crippling and even if the ones I have hurt have long forgiven me.


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fpherj48 2 weeks ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

ps.....It is evident that you & yours are examples of hope & love in your daily lives. I wish you well always & keep you in my thoughts. Your strength is a testament of faith & courage.

Have a peaceful Thanksgiving. Paula


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pstraubie48 2 weeks ago from sunny Florida

So well said....we in my family have tried to live this way...and most days we are successful but because we are human we do slip from time to time. But this is a beautiful sharing and gives hope and encouragement to those who come here to read.

Wishing you a blessed Thanksgiving Angels are on the way to you ps


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ladyguitarpicker 3 weeks ago from 3460NW 50 St Bell, Fl32619

Wonderful hub and so very useful.


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fpherj48 3 weeks ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Hello Perspy...always good to see you my friend. I pour out straight from the soul to the page......never yellow pads. just proof reads & edit.

Thank you so much for the words of praise. Which of us doesn't need encouragement?

Yes, Perspy...let's hope together for a better, more peaceful tomorrow. I'm right there with you. Hugs, Paula


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Perspycacious 3 weeks ago from Today's America and The World Beyond

And now (24 months later) it is time for another self-help missive from your self-examining keyboard (are your drafts from there, too, or from pencils applied to yellow legal pads?)

You rock when you delve thoughtfully into these "chapters of our lives" and aren't outdoors walking the dogs for more inspiration from the great NW New York State woods.

More delving, please, now that we can stroll into our future with less tripidation.


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fpherj48 3 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Bruce...What a pleasant surprise to see you again! So good to know you are moving with grace and wisdom on your spiritual path. I understand the warmth & comfort of keeping our dear old friends in our minds & hearts.

When I first signed on here over 5 yrs ago now, I couldn't have known the incredibly wonderful people I would get to know and love. There are more gifts of friendship, compassion and hope in the pages we share with one another, than can ever be imagined. I'm so grateful.

Take care sweet man and do visit again! Peace, Paula


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Born2care2001 3 months ago from Asheville NC

Dear Miss Paula!

I can see you haven't forgotten how to inspire the masses! It was good to read your work again. I have been traveling through the shadows of my past for some time now in an effort to learn what it is I am to remember and what I am to forget. I decided not to throw it all away as there are nuggets hidden in the coal which are still destined to be diamonds.

In any case, it was enriching to walk down this memory lane noting some of the landmark people in my short lived literary life. I am deeply grateful to be able to read your inspirational work and mindful that each one of us has a valuable perspective on living. Thank you for sharing yours and may the blessings of the Source of All Being be upon you!

See you again one day when I remember the past I surrendered to and I join you in the present I am in!

With fondness,

Born2care

Bruce


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fpherj48 3 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Hello & Thank you for your visit. Learning from the past is a must, I agree. I feel fortunate in that in my own personal life, I take this quite seriously. I am not one to repeat anything that resulted in failure or caused grief & regret. Once is more than enough for me to accept the lessons learned and make certain I go forward with new and more positive plans.

I think we've all heard the phrase: "If we keep doing what we've been doing, we can expect the results to be the same, time after time." It's said that this is the definition of insanity.

Have a great day, Patrick. Peace, Paula


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Patrick Patrick 3 months ago from Nairobi

Like they say- There is no time like the present. But we should always learn from the past to avoid making the same mistakes over and over.


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fpherj48 6 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Happylovejoy.....I thank you for such a welcome compliment! Please do stop by anytime. Peace, Paula


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Happylovejoy 6 months ago from Singapore

Your writing has a very calming effect. Look forward to reading more! =)


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fpherj48 7 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Thanks Sam. I appreciate your interest. Peace, Paula


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Sam Shepards 7 months ago from Europe

Great intro on this hub! I love Krishnamurti's work!


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fpherj48 7 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

"Amazing" is a very nice word to add!! I knew you'd think of something, Ed....you always do. Thank you.. :) Hugs, Paula


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ahorseback 7 months ago

Holy Molly ! Look at the responses here . What can I possibly add to all this above Paula !?!?, Okay ......amazing !.....Ed


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fpherj48 10 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Val.....Thank you for paying me a visit and appreciating my work. I'm always happy to see a friend & fellow-writer.

I am grateful for the compliments & kind words.. Peace, Paula


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ValKaras 10 months ago from Canada

Paula...As I am reading these words of wisdom I just wish it was only a beginning of a book - one of those that we end up falling asleep with because we couldn't let go of it. And as those first birds compete with bright sunshine to wake us up, we wonder - wasn't that the part of what we just read about last night? And is it for some sweet inspiration that all of a sudden we want to make the coming day feel like the first birthday of the rest of our life? Thank you for that feeling, bella.


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fpherj48 11 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

I just emerged from a little spin in the dryer. Great idea SAM! What to I do about the 20 lumps on my head? WHEW! Good thing I don't have a brain. I might have done some damage!


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Sunshine625 11 months ago from Orlando, FL

Awww Effer...I cannot imagine and do not want to imagine because then I get cold chills. It is 43* here this morning, which is frigid to me, but will warm up soon. Toss a blanket in the dryer for extra warmth. Actually toss yourself in the dryer too! :))


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fpherj48 11 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

I'm convinced you have ESP! I hope that Sunshine you sent gets here NOW! My brand new heating system is giving me a problem.....I have 3 layers of clothes on, a scarf, hat and gloves on...IN THE HOUSE!

Winter took a long time getting here. Tell you what. IT IS HERE NOW IN FULL FORCE. Yaaaaay Western NY. It never fails!


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Sunshine625 11 months ago from Orlando, FL

Hi Effer, I'm sending you some Florida sunshine! Stay warm. Smile often. Sing loudly. Cuss as needed. Ha! :)


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fpherj48 11 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Eric.....Thank you for visiting. I'm happy to see you found my work enticing. If I may say so, I think you are quite an example of the virtues of treasuring the moment. Peace, Paula


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Ericdierker 11 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

I never grow tired of messages extolling the virtue of living today. You did a marvelously enticing job here. You make me want to do as you suggest - thanks a whole lot!


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fpherj48 11 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

And Thank YOU, Bobby~ for appreciating my work. I am humbled. Wishing you and yours a wonderful New Year! Peace, Paula


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the rawspirit 11 months ago from Hutchinson Island, FL - Aruba - Carlsbad, CA - Myrtle Beach, SC - Gilbert, AZ

Paula, Thank you, thank you, thank you. You have written a truly inspiring hub. God bless you. Bobby


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fpherj48 11 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

geri...So nice of you to come by to visit and comment. It's nice to meet you. I look forward to reading more of your work. "Happy New Year." Peace, Paula


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gerimcclym 11 months ago from Colorado

I appreciate and am inspired by your article. It is so true that we cannot really move on in life without letting go of the past, and a big part of that is forgiving others as well as ourselves, as your article indicates. Thank you for highlighting focusing on tomorrow rather than dwelling on the past -- a good lesson for all of us!


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fpherj48 15 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Vellur......And I hope your life is filled with "Inspiration." Thank you for your visit. Always good to see you. Peace, Paula


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Vellur 15 months ago from Dubai

Letting go is not easy, once we learn to let go we feel happy and it is like unloading a burden off our shoulders. Positive and inspiring, love the way you have finished your article.


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fpherj48 15 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

peach....I'm afraid I have not seen that movie but have heard all good reviews. Thanks for your comment!


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peachpurple 15 months ago from Home Sweet Home

Have you seen the movue UP? You will know that letting go the past is the only way to carry on


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fpherj48 16 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

The results (both positive & negative) of our mistakes have a tendency to move along with us through life. This isn't always bad. They have their place in our lives as long as we keep them where they belong...in the past.

What's been done & said is a past chapter, to be remembered when needed, but never rehashed. We trip and fall, come to recognize how and why.....learn, grow and move forward as a better, wiser person.

We cannot ask for more than this and probably shouldn't. There is so much more to us and a lifetime of knowledge to gain. Releasing ourselves from the traps that might bind us is our right as well as our responsibility. Life awaits us and we have value....

Thanks for the visit and comment, Catherine. Peace, Paula


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CatherineGiordano 16 months ago from Orlando Florida

Thanks for this hub. I was particularly struck by your quote, "You can't start the next chapter of your life, if you keep rereading the last one. I think far too often about the mistakes I have made. I must remember to keep my focus on the present and future. I am not familiar with Krishnamurti. I think I should be.


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fpherj48 18 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Sounds like you have experienced that precious "A-HA! Moment." It may be slow to come but is welcomed & appreciated nonetheless.

For as I believe what really matters to us at any given present moment is "Today." From this moment forward.

Yes Cam, our entire existence makes up who we are...as we have traveled this journey called life, our footprints follow.

It's beyond cathartic to reach that sunrise when we awaken to confess, "Yes, I have a good life."......Peace Always Chris, Paula


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cam8510 18 months ago from Columbus, Georgia until the end of November 2016.

Paula, These are profound thoughts. I remember a moment of waking up after a long period of darkness. I was literally walking toward the sunrise when I told myself, quite unexpectedly, that "I have a good life." That sounds pretty weak here, but the self imposed darkness I was emerging from had been brutal. I've learned some of the lessons you have shared here. One of the most important is that "I will not regret the past or wish to shut the door on it." All of it, the good and the bad, are part of me. I accept them, but don't dwell on them, and move on. I'm at peace with myself now, and that is a wonderful feeling. Thanks for opening the door to this conversation.


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fpherj48 18 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

blue....The individual who truly learns a complete lesson at the first opportunity, hasn't been born yet. This may account for why the purest wisdom is associated with "age & or at least years of experiences."

The reality is we never reach that moment when we can stop learning, nor should we.

It is perfectly OK to indulge in "ourselves" at all times. To know one's self is just as lengthy a journey as learning to know others.

It's when we have a clearer picture of our own essence & capacities that we can give these to others.

So you see, you're really on the right track blue. Be kinder to yourself. Thanks for the visit. I'm always happy to see you. Paula


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somethgblue 18 months ago from Shelbyville, Tennessee

Yeah and sometimes I get to learn my lessons over and over again, kind makes you wonder if it is really sinking in.

Remember it is always just about me but occasionally I think of others and that is when I grow the most.


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fpherj48 18 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

And thank YOU for reading, Peg. I got a bit deep on this one. It was one of those days I reached down really deep....and came up with the lessons I've learned the hard way through the years....which no doubt, you can surely relate to in more ways than one...

Yes, we are here to learn as well as teach once our wisdom is proven solid and true..

There's only one small catch. Each person must learn for themselves and the best we can do is try to guide and protect.

Peace & love to you Peg...........Paula


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PegCole17 18 months ago from Dallas, Texas

"We have healed and carry the scars of battle."

"This is our gift of starting over and beginning on a journey for which we've made so many plans. We are certain it is never too late."

"We paid our dues and learned the lessons."

All, great quotes from your powerful and important message. I believe that we are here to learn, even from our mistakes, how to be better people everyday. Thank you for sharing this wisdom and insight.


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CatherineGiordano 20 months ago from Orlando Florida

A very wise and beautiful essay. We can't hear it to often. I loved the posters you included. Very inspirational. thanks for starting off my day with some positive energy. Voted up++


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fpherj48 20 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Chris.....I'm happy that you feel inspired by my words. That was my hope in sharing this. Have a wonderful Sunday. Peace, Paula


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Chriswillman90 20 months ago from Parlin, New Jersey

I actually feel a lot better after reading this. There's a lot of beauty and hope that's shared within this piece that it gives me another version of peace. Excellent hub thank you for writing this I loved it.


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fpherj48 22 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

aesta.....Oh yes, I appreciate your point.....often it IS a decision we're very sorry we had made.....That really hits HOME, my friend. Thanks for your interest in my work...


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aesta1 22 months ago from Ontario, Canada

Am enjoying the personality behind your writing. Sometimes, it's not even mistakes, it's the decisions we have taken which may have hurt others. In my experience, those people have long forgiven me but I just can't forgive myself. What helps is I just no longer think about it and when I do I just pat myself in a gesture of forgiveness. I have read Khrisnamurti and love it.


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swilliams 22 months ago from Arizona

Your good humor a big piece of Heaven on earth! Continued Blessings! Keep sharing your gift of love through JOY! Very much needed! :)


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fpherj48 22 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

LOL!! Thank you. I blush when people say nice things to me. I'm told I'm amazing all the time, but the people telling me are usually shaking their head back & forth and throwing their hands in the air from disbelief....ya know, it's a little different than your tone......

My late husband, bless his heart was usually sweet about it...his favorite was......"You are definitely an odd duck, honey with your own waddle!!" I don't know, what would you think?? LMAO!!


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fpherj48 22 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

swilliams.....I skipped right over you, didn't I? Forgive me.....if for no other reason, have mercy on the aging!!

Good to see you again, even if it takes me a while to wake up!


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swilliams 22 months ago from Arizona

You are amazing! Keep up the meaningful work!!!:)


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sujaya venkatesh 22 months ago

need of the hour


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Jo_Goldsmith11 22 months ago

Paula!

Yes, I am originally born and raised in Erie. I know exactly where Mill Creek is. Our family lived in that area. And I worked at the Mill Creek Mall at one point in the early 90's. :-) I moved to Ky 13 years ago this June! :( Heaven help me! They have lots of snow up there now, so the family is calling all upset that we have just cold weather and few snow flurries. wow! It is a small world! I graduated from Central High School. :-) Big hugs! (((((((((((((( Paula ))))))))))))

By the way, I was laughing about your "quota for one topic". :-)


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fpherj48 22 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Thanks so much Jo. I realized this hub was similar to the one Good Words hub I wrote, after the fact. So, I guess I've written my quota for one topic!! LOL Glad you stopped by. Before I forget, where did I get the idea that you live in Erie Pa? I swore that I read that somewhere and I thought I had told you that I lived in Mill Creek for 2 yrs back in the '80's. Oh well, I guess I'm confusing you with someone else. Nothing new for me!! LOL


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Jo_Goldsmith11 22 months ago

I very much enjoyed reading this. Your choice of songs was just super!

Great wisdom and advice. This is just so precious, just like you are! :-)

Shared and Up all the way..beautiful, useful, interesting and awesome


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fpherj48 22 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

It's uplifting to know that you found inspiration in my words. Surely this is one of the reasons we share our thoughts with one another. Coming from such an incredibly talented & prolific writer, I am flattered!...Thank you, Shyron


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Shyron E Shenko 22 months ago

Paula, this is my first read of the day and I needed the inspiration that I got from this labor of love. When I read this it reminded me of the song "One Day at a Time" and I love the song and I love your hub.

Voted up UABI and shared.

Blessings and Hugs


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fpherj48 22 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

If it wasn't a saying before, Audrey, it's certainly one I'll keep in my heart from now on. Thank you for stopping by and your lovely comment. Peace, Paula


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AudreyHowitt 22 months ago from California

I am reminded by this post of the old saying that we forgive others so that we can forgive ourselves--at least I think it is a saying- there is a lot of wisdom here!


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swilliams 22 months ago from Arizona

What an uplifting article! Thank you for sharring inspiring quotes speakers that I have not heard of such as, Jiddu Krishnamurti . And of course I am a fan of Annie the movie and the hit song ,"Tomorrow." Well-Done! Voted up and tweeted out!


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fpherj48 22 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Diana...Thanks so much. It's always so good to see your beautiful smile and read your input. I apologize for not visiting as much as I used to. I'm trying to get back in the swing. Much love, P


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teaches12345 23 months ago

This is a great write and full of wisdom for readers. I learned to let go of those things I cannot change through "hard knocks" and I hope readers understand it is much easier to learn this lesson early on. I love the quotation on ceasing to re-read the chapter in order to move on.


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fpherj48 23 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

ROFLMAO....DJ....LOL...damn you...I so wish we had SOUND on HP. When I saw you had popped up again, spying on my midnight interludes....making the same comment as you did before....I friggan lost it..

You're like the Nightmare Mother-in-law......OMG LMAO.. Honestly, I can't stop laughing. Your sense of humor just gets me


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fpherj48 23 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

And just where have you been young man? Bruce, I haven't seen you in months. Thanks for the welcome visit.

Well..you know friend...these trails we walk and bridges we cross, mountains we climb...are not one-time events. More often than not we find ourselves in the same places as before. Then we go back to the drawing board, pull out the directions and diagrams to RE-try.

I think perhaps this is how some of us get stronger and go further as time goes on......we keep on going, no matter what. You know this as I do.....very well. (smile)

Peace to you and yours....Paula


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Born2care2001 23 months ago from Asheville NC

Thank you Paula, for the reminder that there is always too much past and never enough now! I so enjoyed reading and listening to this hub. Surrendering the past and focusing on the now are two very, very difficult tasks. Yet, your words seem to make it so attractive.

Thank you for expressing what I am feeling!

Four stars and a Woohooo!


DJ Anderson 23 months ago

For Heaven's sake, "Get a room!"


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fpherj48 23 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Such a naughty boy....Isn't this the sort of stuff the Espionage Staff uses against us in a court of law, after reading us our Miranda rights?

I promise. I'll never ask for translations again....in public.

Where ever you disappeared to blue, you certainly came back stronger, healthier & bolder than ever. Good thing you don't frighten me. I'm only scared of grizzly bears...not teddy bears. For Heaven's sake, try to be nice.....or proper...or reticent..... Forget it, just be you.


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somethgblue 23 months ago from Shelbyville, Tennessee

Meaning

Delighted.

Origin

tickled pinkThe tickling here isn't the light stroking of the skin - it's the figurative sense of the word that means 'to give pleasure or gratify'. The tickling pink concept is of enjoyment great enough to make the recipient glow with pleasure - (see also in the pink

Now let's see what part of the body would produce such a sensation . . . could it be a foot message . . . are we getting warmer, perhaps we could move a little higher . . . could it be referring to a particular G-spot, hmmm!

These kinds of explanations require more of a hands on approach, how far do you live away from me?

Just saying!


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fpherj48 23 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Til....Isn't it so comforting to know that we're all screwed up in the mess together?? LOL....Gives me a warm feeling all over that we are all members in good standing in the Out-of-Sync Club. That way, we're BOUND to run into each other somewhere....some time, some how...LOL


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fpherj48 23 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

blue...I don't see what may have needed defending, so it's good you didn't bother. I love your statement about 18 yr.olds....what a way with words you have. I never know whether It's perfectly OK to get you....or I should assume you couldn't have meant what I'm thinking you meant. Brilliant style, Mr. Man.

"stick it in cider" is a brand-spankin-new-one to me! Never ever heard that. Also, I can't come up with a translation for that or tickled pink. Can we just make up something? Is that OK?

Don't stay away too long....you make me happy and I'm selfish that way..............:)


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tillsontitan 23 months ago from New York

Had to stop back and say we're all a little out of sync GF. You're the best! Hope the New Year treats you well.


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somethgblue 23 months ago from Shelbyville, Tennessee

The truth needs no defense, so I won't even bothering defending my previous statements. The whole point of 18 year olds is that thinking isn't their strong points and wouldn't know what love was if it awoke them in the middle of the night throbbing passionately.

I don't snore but I reserve the right to drool.

As far as tickled pink, it reminds me of the ol' saying 'stick it in cider' . . .'nuff said'!


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fpherj48 23 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

blue.....gotta hand it to you, Romeo....If I had remained young, innocent, vulnerable & clueless....I'd almost believe your bull. Let me just say, I can't imagine how you find enough 18 year-olds to fall, madly & passionately in love with you, yet can actually read & write........Now, now, don't bark at me....I'm only teasing my boy toy.

Well, you weren't gone long enough to return totally transformed, so I'll just continue to love you just the way you are.

I'm shocked and amazed at your statement about your revelations. I'm very curious as to what splendid works you'll be sharing henceforth. Of course, they'll be brilliant ..(did I say that the way you taught me? I hope so! My goal is to be Valedictorian .)

When you cannot sleep for thinking of me...just hug your pillow (NOT a big fat one either!)......and please, blue...no snoring or drooling. OK?

I'm tickled pink you are back........what a dumb ass expression. What the hell does tickled pink mean? Really. What stupid woman said that for the first time and WHY?..............Later sweet cheeks.....Paula


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somethgblue 23 months ago from Shelbyville, Tennessee

Actually I am but don't tell anyone, it will be our secret . . . haven't come across your email but I still have a 130 to go (having deleted 450 losers that don't rate).

You could try telepathically sending it and then I would 'think' about responding, get it? Did you miss my cleverisms?

I WILL NOT be giving anymore time and effort to exposing the lies and conspiracies of the Evil Ones, life is too short. For instance my sleeping patterns did not alter one iota without the knowledge of what was transpiring in the world, however I did toss and turn just thinking of you!


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fpherj48 23 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

ROFLMAO.......Stop the crap, blue. It's me you're writing to!

I've been fine. OK, that's a lie. But if I took the time and attitude to tell you, by line 15 you will have left the site or fallen asleep.

You must have received my email.....I hope? It's been so long, I can't even remember what it was I needed your worldly & perfect knowledge for....hmmmm something I read and was curious about . Well if you can't find my email and I can't remember, I guess it wasn't important. Later. We'll catch up. I thought you were GONE.....your entire site looked abandoned....I think I even emailed Nadine. Awww someone cares about you. Aren't you touched?


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somethgblue 23 months ago from Shelbyville, Tennessee

I'm baaaack . . . The Powers That Be could only hold me back for so long and then using my supreme knowledge, I was able to overcome their nefarious and diabolical machinations and subdue them.

However I was able to catch up on my reading and now am practically bursting at the seams with arcane and esoteric knowledge that will enlighten the masses and allow them to rise out of the squalid fetid mire of ignorance they wallow in.

Howyabeen?


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fpherj48 23 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

I see your parents went to the same parenting classes mine did.....First try shame.....2nd....the guilt trip.......3rd. Threats of bodily harm...4..LIE TO THEM. By the time they figure it out, they'll understand why you had to do it.


DJ Anderson 23 months ago

See there. You do not even look like yourself, anymore.

People are mistaken that you are from the deep South.

It must be the accent. It is certainly not that golden tan.

Get your head out of the box! What are you going to do when your ears get full of dust??

Well, yes, the Dirt Devil might be just the right thing, if you are not

afraid some brains might get sucked out.

My daddy told me not to go into the deep end of the pool. He said my

brains would go floating right out of my ears.

DJ.


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fpherj48 23 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

I am immensely flattered to be mistaken for our sweet Sunshine!!! LOL Hi Marcy......I've done it a dozen times!!


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Marcy Goodfleisch 23 months ago from Planet Earth

This is such a great and timely message, Sunshine! I try to keep this in mind when I have setbacks, but I always need excellent reminders such as this to push me forward and help me let go of the negative. Thanks for being your Sunshiney Self!


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fpherj48 23 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

You certainly earn your name.....Your comment made me happy!


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Mr. Happy 23 months ago from Toronto, Canada

Lovely piece of writing!

"To begin to heal, we must first learn to let go." - I fully agree here. I once heard a First Nations Elder say that: "We must learn to live with the past and not in the past." - I love that - very well put in my opinion.

"If we listen closely, we can hear the song of hope that rises with the brightness and warmth of the sun." - The birds always start singing right before the Sun-rise, just to greed the Sun, welcoming the new day, new opportunities, etc. I like to do the same, in the sense of giving thanks for the day; I also learned this from an Ojibwe Elder: doing the Sunrise Ceremony.

Great article, thank You for putting it together.

All the best!


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fpherj48 23 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Lady......good to see you. And Lord knows we can stand to have LESS stress. Our world causes too much of it!


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Lady_E 23 months ago from London, UK

Thanks for a very inspiring Hub. If we have faith for tomorrow, we'd have no stress. Very peaceful vibe.


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fpherj48 23 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Cheers to you, lady for having the foresight to know when to let go and move forward on the path to a more peaceful existence. We cannot change what is behind us, but can surely learn from our mistakes. Today holds all the potential and tomorrow the hope.! Bless you. Peace, Paula


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ladyguitarpicker 23 months ago from 3460NW 50 St Bell, Fl32619

Hi, I feel the same way about tomarrow. You only hurt yourself by holding on to the past. There is a lot of wisdom in your hub. I have already come to this place in my life. Voted up. Stella


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fpherj48 23 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Faith &

Harish

So pleased to hear from 2 of my amazing fellow-writers. Your kind and positive words encourage me and I feel blessed to know you appreciate this work of mine.

It takes a clear mind and loving heart full of hope to accept the concept of embracing happiness and love each day....as they represent a brand new beginning... Peace to you, Paula


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Harishprasad 23 months ago from India

What a lovely and great message in the New year ! Paula, Happy New Year to you and all! You have brought forth a beautiful hub and poured out in it the gist of a happy and cheerful living.

If a guy is able to savor each moment passing before her/him, he drinks nectar all the time. I loved reading every word of this wonderful hub. Thank you very much. Voted up and shared.


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Faith Reaper 23 months ago from southern USA

Wow, Paula, what great insight you have shared here of the importance in letting go of our past hurts and not be stuck in the past, for it does us not one bit of good. If we are still here today, this day, then there is always hope for a brighter tomorrow, and we have the opportunity to make our own joy in this life on this very day. It is so important to have great faith for our future happiness. When we live in the past, we miss today!

Thank you for this inspiration piece. Up ++++ tweeting, pinning and sharing

Peace and blessings for a wonderful New Year


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fpherj48 23 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Thank you so much for the visit, Devika. Always nice to see you. "Happy New Year," to you & yours......Paula


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DDE 23 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

Great writing here. You true words do mean a lot and said with such powerful meaning.


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fpherj48 23 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

heidi....Hello and thanks for stopping by. Life-lessons are pretty much all tough to learn. Somehow though, none of us get away without having to learn them in one way or another.

It seems best to take a good look at how each of us handles these experiences and come to the realization that no matter what, we are responsible for our own happiness.

It's pretty foolish to sit around fretting over all the hills & valleys we've crossed already rather than be careful where we are and where we'd like to finally arrive.......Have a Great year, Heidi. Peace, Paula


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heidithorne 23 months ago from Chicago Area

One of the toughest life lessons ever! Thanks for the inspirational boost for the New Year!


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fpherj48 23 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Hey Miss Happy Bobbi! I would know without a doubt that someone as sweet as you has this attitude. You are so right. If we don't do the work required to get there....we just stand still. That's not a good way to live.

Peace to my friend......Love, Paula


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PurvisBobbi44 23 months ago from Florida

Dear Paula,

This is a wonderful hub to enlighten and shout out to the draggy spirits of our world; tie your shoestrings and start the walk of joy.

Without joy in our hearts, we would not sing, smile, communicate in a friendly way and positively could not return love.

Joy does not like baggage, old hurts and grudges have no place in joy, kick it off your road of life.

Blow negativity away with a joyful smile.

Love your work Paula

Bobbi Purvis


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fpherj48 23 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

DJ........You are too funny. Don't you have anything more interesting to do than to stalk 2 young lovers?..................ROFLMAO (OK....one young lover & an old hag)


DJ Anderson 23 months ago

Oh, please. Get a room!!!! LOL


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fpherj48 23 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Oh dear blue......No, please.....I don't think that I will survive. I have no choice now than to remain perfectly still in one spot. I will not move, nor speak nor even think. How could I possibly without you?

This is a tragic event. You must do everything in your power to solve this. My very life depends upon it.


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somethgblue 23 months ago from Shelbyville, Tennessee

While writing an article about intelligence angencies and their link to the British Empire my computer went down and is now out of action as am I, so you may not hear from me for some time . . . I know, I know how will you endure . . . well try to find the courage to go on without my supreme wisdom and awe-inspiring intelligence, as it will be just as difficult for me not having the ability to share with those that need it so much.

Good luck on you move.


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fpherj48 23 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

toknow info.....You have a wonderful positive attitude. My crystal ball tells me you are basically a very happy and productive woman. I love your advice, "Don't look backwards." This applies to me quite well.

I have a difficult enough time simply going forward without walking straight into brick walls. I shudder to think what disaster might befall me if I took my eyes off the forward path......I looked backwards once.....and stepped right into an enormous sink hole. Although it was rather peaceful there.....I decided to struggle my way out.

It gets very lonely in the abyss............Peace and Love for your New Year!


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toknowinfo 23 months ago

This is a thoughtful and well written hub, one that we can all relate to, because we have all regrets and we have all made mistakes. Forgiving others is one part of the equation. But forgiving ourselves is even more important. We are human, we have, will, and do make mistakes. After all, we don't have an instruction booklet or a crystal ball. It is important to keep looking forward, because as the saying goes "Don't look backwards, that is not the direction we are going".

Thanks for sharing your wisdom. Good luck in your move and with the New Year approaching , may this year be a wonderful and awesome year for you.


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fpherj48 23 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Daniel......I'm not "packing up my home" on Christmas Eve in particular. It's just that each day I will pack something...you know, sort of like one day at a time, I'm being proactive. My actual move may not take place until late Spring or early summer.

I'm moving to Georgia. It's a long, complex tale.....& fortunately I can explain it all, if you like, via email one day.

Merry Christmas, Blue.....Peace & Love, Paula


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somethgblue 23 months ago from Shelbyville, Tennessee

For most of us learning to forgive is paramount to growing up, most learn this lesson sooner than later. For me learning to forgive myself was by far the hardest lesson of all and only truly came about after I stopped living in the past.

The Goddess of Hope helped me to overcome this burden I carried but until I achieved this I wasn't truly free, although I felt like had made such great strides. Now that I fully understand this, a huge weight has been lifted and my spirit can stretch its wings.

Everything you wrote above I just recently felt, through self inspection, meditation and ultimately enlightenment.

However the reason I paid your profile a visit is to ask what is 'your ultimate move'? Why must you pack up your house on Christmas Eve? Are you Ascending and leaving us mere mortals behind?

What Gives?


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fpherj48 23 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Making mistakes is all part of the learning process and the growth toward wisdom for a better Today and a wonderful Tomorrow.

Life is a Journey......live it, learn and become whomever you want to be.

Peace, Paula


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PinoyMom 23 months ago from Philippines

Sometimes it's difficult for me to forget the past but truly I learned a lot from the past. I learned from my mistakes and looking forward, I'm hoping for a better and bright future. God bless Paula.


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Nell Rose 24 months ago from England

Came back to see if I had read this, brain like a sieve syndrome! lol! and laughing so hard at your comments! you always bring a smile, so thanks! keep safe over there in that snow! no skiing, skating or just trying to get out your front door without help, okay? lol!


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fpherj48 24 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Graham.....WHAT??!! Our kids are suppose to leave? As in "GO?".....Why, those little scallywags of mine.....fooled Mom again! LOL


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fpherj48 24 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

TILLIE.....WTH? My replies are all out of sync......sort of like the past 50 years of my life. Who am I kidding?? Love you girl!


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fpherj48 24 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Audrey..you pretty lady you! You always know just what to say to make my heart SING!! (which is the only part of me that actually CAN sing!)


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fpherj48 24 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Mr Hollywood.....I thank you for visiting, liking and sharing!! OH....also, it makes me blush when people wink at me!! But for you, it's OK! LOL


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fpherj48 24 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Cris.....I have to say that when I learned that I absolutely HAVE to do what is best for me, my life, my heart & soul.....that's when I realized only then could I do what is best for everyone else. Only those who have been through the process understand this...so I know that you do.

Thanks for the visit and lovely comment..


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old albion 2 years ago from Lancashire. England.

Hi Paula. A wonderful hub indeed. You are correct in all you say, a deep and meaningful message. As well a the ' scars of battle' we have to face many things which are unavoidable. We have to let our children go and hopefully flourish. We have to let our parents go when the time comes as it does to all of us. Yes there are many sad times, that's why we must always look to the future and do our best for all around us. Well done, an inspiration to us all.

voted up and all.

Graham.


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misterhollywood 2 years ago from Hollywood, CA

Loved this hub- very positiVe. I'm sharing


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CrisSp 2 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

The thought of letting go is honestly easier said than done and it took me some time to finally learn it and actually do it. It is by far the most painful experience I personally have to endure. But, I am also grateful for the experience. It only made me even stronger.

I love your insights and the way you have written it. You reminded me of one of my favorite authors Marianne Williamson for the inspiration and motivation to live life here, now and embrace it.

This is a great article worth reading and sharing. Happy to have landed here. Voted up and pleased to meet you.

P.S. I enjoyed the Annie's clip as well and it's going on my Jukebox Page. Thank you.


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vocalcoach 2 years ago from Nashville Tn.

Dear Paula

I absolutely love this hub! I've learned that living in the past robs us of the present. Why would we want to do this to ourselves? My sister is completely unable to enjoy anything good that comes her way. Everything relates to her past. We talk on the phone almost everyday. She asks me how I'm feeling. When I answer, "I feel great," her reply is, "well, you know it's only a matter of time before you'll be hurting again. Something bad always happens and you need to prepare for it."

So I'm printing a copy of your hub and mailing it to her. This is the kind of article that helps 'to make a difference.' Bravo!

As you've so beautifully stated, everyday is a gift. And you are a light, a sparkling diamond. I'm so blessed to call you my friend.

I love your ending words, "Goodbye to Yesterday" "Welcome to my World, Today. I Love you." and "I Believe in the Hope of Tomorrow.".............Peace to one and all..

Enjoy your Thanksgiving,

Love,

Audrey


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tillsontitan 2 years ago from New York

"You gotta leave the past behind" That line sure hits home for so many. As you've said it can be the hardest thing we have to do to move forward. Trying to think of the past as memories that we've learned from may make it easier.

BTW, when did you turn your collar around? This isn't at all preachy but the kind of sermon so many need to hear. Beautifully done special friend.

Ok, now that I've been serious let me say I don't think you should be sharing your snow, after all you don't know when you'll need it ;) Just think of all the water you're going to have...btw do you have your canoe ready just in case?

Love ya girl and hope you stay safe, warm, and dry.

Voted up, useful, awesome, and interesting.


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fpherj48 2 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

DJ.....somehow I don't believe you.


DJ Anderson 2 years ago

ooh, I'm a-scared!!!


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fpherj48 2 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Linda Sue &

DJ (aka"the enigma")

It kills me to admit this...but you crazy ladies make my day. You make me laugh huge LOL belly laughs......and most days, it's exactly what the Dr ordered.

Having said that, please keep in mind the profound words of ...whoever the hell it was who first said this: "Payback is a Bitch."


DJ Anderson 2 years ago

Linda, don't encourage her.

It only makes her worse.


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Sunshine625 2 years ago from Orlando, FL

LOL! Oh, hell...it could be worse.


DJ Anderson 2 years ago

Tisk, tisk.

Shame on you, cursing a nice lady who wrote a simply amazing

comment. "Beautiful hub!" "Voted up and shared."

Bet she wishes she could take those back.


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fpherj48 2 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Oops!!! Genna.......that was supposed to be "HELLO" Genna......not Hell, Genna!!! LMAO......I'm sorry!!!


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fpherj48 2 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Hell Genna.....It's apparent that most mature, thoughtful people fully understand the way this works. You're right.....it's not at all easy. Some take a very long time to get through this. I know I did. But it is always worthwhile and makes life much more bearable.....Peace, Paula


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Genna East 2 years ago from Massachusetts, USA

Letting go of the past can be challenging…but it is crucial if we are to make a conscious choice to heal and lead a more fulfilling and giving life in this world. First, we must embrace those mistakes, then either forgive and even laugh at ourselves for the human foibles we are all so susceptible to. I love how the maturity of passing years grows with this realization. Each day is a gift; and what we do with this gift in bringing some measure of hope, charity, understanding or even gratitude to others, is everything. Beautiful hub! Voted up and shared.


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fpherj48 2 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Michele.....Yes....absolutely. Your decision is exactly what my suggestion was going to be.

Gather anything & everything that has any memory of the negative past.....anything to do with that time in your life that needs to be "let go".....and have yourself a ceremonial bon-fire.

Watch it all go up in smoke, breathe a sigh of relief and shed the upsetting feelings.

Realize you now have what you want & deserve.......accept the peace & happiness. Walk away and never look back. Peace, Paula


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misslong123 2 years ago from Edmond, Oklahoma

I like the idea of letting go of the past. I am so happy in my marriage but the other day I came across some correspondence with an abusive ex and all the horrible memories came flooding back. The feelings of hurt and pain came back which is stupid since he isn't in my life. I still have some of his oversized tee shirts. For closure and to (as you said) let go of the past, the healthiest thing I can do in situations like that is burn all the evidence of those horrible memories. Thanks for reminding me that I can put that stuff in the past and move on with my hubby.


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fpherj48 2 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

DJ.....Yes, this SNOW event will go down in history as so many others from the past.....it IS Buffalo.

You my dear crazy one, shall go down in history as well. I need time to find the particular category in which to gently place you. I promise to be kind. You probably don't believe me. OK, so you're wise too............If you're grilling, I prefer chicken. Also, I'd like the bigger bedroom. See you soon, my friend.....:)


DJ Anderson 2 years ago

Taking a little break from writing and wanted to check on you.

I am not the kind to belittle this snow event of exceptional proportions.

This one is sure to go down in the history books. Why, I almost get a chill just watching the weather channel and seeing all the mountains of snow.

Oh, our sunshine is glorious, today. We will top out right around 80 *

with light breezes off the Gulf Coast. May cook out for dinner tonight.

Doesn't a steak on the grill sound divine?

Know that I am thinking of you, Ms. Feiffer.

Sending warm hugs from Florida,

DJ.


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fpherj48 2 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Linda....Thinking we can go up against Mother Nature is the perfect example of humility and helplessness. We humans are pretty much in paralysis.

I keep listening to the forecast for the slightest ray of hope. However, it seems we have some higher temps as well as rain coming......with mountains of snow everywhere......guess what happens then?

Need to keep our heads about us and just do whatever necessary to get through this. COFFEE! OMG....please don't let me run out of coffee! I do have my breaking point!!! LOL


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lrc7815 2 years ago from Central Virginia

LOL...Paula, I had been wishing for a wall of snow to hide behind until I saw the news. I can't imagine! As long as I have a jar of peanut butter and a bag of beans, I'm good though. Oh, and coffee!

Glad your sons are on their way. If you get too crazy, give me a shout.


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fpherj48 2 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Linda &

Vandy

It's so nice to have visitors as I am stranded in my home, behind a 10 foot wall of SNOW.....it is hard to imagine unless you're in it!! But, my friends, just as my hub suggests.....I try to be grateful for the goodness of the moment....I am in the warmth and comfort of my home, with assistance on it's way from my sons......We can be sure that this is a time when individuals make the most of their resources to help others.

We focus on today.......Peace, Paula


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vandynegl 2 years ago from Ohio Valley

Amen. Such true words.....thank you for sharing!


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lrc7815 2 years ago from Central Virginia

What an inspiration this is Paula. Knowing the loss you have endured makes it all that much more poignant. I learned many years ago how powerful forgiveness is and that it has to start within. It's a powerful healer. This is just beautiful and a reminder to me of what an awesome writer you are. I'm so glad you visited me today and prompte4d me to stop by your profile. I'll be back over the weekend. I have a lot of catching up to do. Hugs, my friend!


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fpherj48 2 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Hello Mike......It helps to send out monthly checks...........

Good to see you. I'm not around as much as I'd like, but when I am, it's so nice to see all my special HP friends. Be well. Peace, Paula


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mckbirdbks 2 years ago from Emerald Wells, Just off the crossroads,Texas

My goodness, standing room only at this polished motivational presentation. I am glad to see that you have a sold out crowd for this particular message.


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fpherj48 2 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Jo.......and you are an uplifting, inspirational, beautiful human being! Thank you. Peace, Paula


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tobusiness 2 years ago from Bedfordshire, U.K

There are times when it's tough to walk away from the past. But the main lesson I've learnt, is that forgiveness of one's self and others can bring a certain freedom. Our past experiences, can help us to put things into context, it can help us to appreciate the now and plan for a better tomorrow. This amazing article is uplifting, inspirational and beautifully done.


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fpherj48 2 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

mary....your words are so strong and hopeful. You are definitely blessed and my wish for you is peace and goodness always.

Wishing you and yours a very special Thanksgiving Day.


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mary615 2 years ago from Florida

Like many other people, I've had my share of sadness and regret, but I have learned to be able to cope and to look forward to each new day. I try to live in "the now", and I enjoy each new day. I am blessed with good health, a wonderful supportive family: who could ask for more?

You wrote a beautiful and inspirational Hub. Voted UP, etc. and shared.


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fpherj48 2 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Hello Nell......Human nature.....what to do about it! Wouldn't it be wonderful if our mind was a chalk board and we controlled the eraser? We could make the unpleasant disappear and just leave all the happiness!

In a way, perhaps we can do that, but it takes determination and an open heart and mind.!!

Good to see you, girlfriend! Peace, Paula


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Nell Rose 2 years ago from England

What can I say Paula? Beautiful words and sentiments! yes we all look at our faults, what we have done wrong and hang on to them as though they are anchoring us to the ground and the past, we need to let go, and you have said it beautifully, great stuff! voted up and shared, nell


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fpherj48 2 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

DJ...You are too kind to me...but I thank you! (Larry Norman is a not-so-well-known Christian singer) I happen to find that song and I like it a lot.

"Hope" is our oxygen, I believe, when times are too heavy to take that vital step forward.

OH...but I AM a goof ball......who has strangely somber moments from time to time. Go figure. Thanks, girlfriend.


DJ Anderson 2 years ago

Paula, this hub is filled with an enormous amount of life's lessons and the beauty that can be found in tomorrow. I think we were talking about that same idea (moving on) earlier today.

I am not familiar with Larry Norman and was surprised to see a picture of the Holy Bible.

Paula, you are quite the gifted writer and the spreader of hope for tomorrow. There are many who will find comfort in your promise

that "Today's Joys are Tomorrow's Memories". And, here I thought you were just a goof ball!!

Love,

DJ.


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fpherj48 2 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Dvika......Yes, I believe you are a very spiritual woman who can always see the brighter day. Bless you. Peace, Paula


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DDE 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

I embrace each new day. A wonderful hub!


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fpherj48 2 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Lorne

thanks so much for sharing the video link!

MsDora.....Good to hear from you, dear lady! Thank you for visiting and for the thoughtful comment. Much appreciated. Happy Thanksgiving.

Peace, Paula


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MsDora 2 years ago from The Caribbean

"The newness and freshness of utter relief" is a welcome feeling. Great counsel and I especially subscribe to the philosophy that today's joy is tomorrow's memory. Profound and beautiful!


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Lorne Hemmerling 2 years ago from Port Hope

There is an amazing piece of music by Robbie Robertson that addresses the truth in the words 'be here now'. The song is called 'What About Now'

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uXkrQWPD9gA


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fpherj48 2 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

SS625.....I can't thank you enough for the SUNSHINE. It's only fair and courteous that I now send you a truckload of snow.....Maybe it will last just long enough for you and the little chickies to make a soggy Snowman??


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fpherj48 2 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Sha.....Your comment is very telling. Often all we really need is some answers, a little validation or the satisfaction of curiosities. This can be exactly what settles our anxiety and torment.

These things don't appear magically and it takes time, maturity and understanding. The important aspect is that one day it does come together for us and we can handle it.......Peace, girlfriend!


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Sunshine625 2 years ago from Orlando, FL

The idea of shoveling snow does sound a bit fun, then I thought more about it and since frigid temps come along with the snow, I'll have to pass...but I'm sending you some sunshine!! :)


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fpherj48 2 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Yes Martie.....Our emotional trauma and struggles that affect our mental status can leave a mark on us in many forms. The mind to the body and the body to the mind.

It always saddens me to know someone of such grace and intelligence as you dear friend, was forced to be throttled by the misbehavior and selfishness of someone else.

You proved your worth and pulled together to carry on successfully. From this point on, you're in control....Peace, Paula


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bravewarrior 2 years ago from Central Florida

Wow, Paula. This is amazing! For years I was tortured by an event of my past that I had no control over. It affected my relationships, made me rebellious, angry, daring, and wild. When I became a mom and old enough to seek answers to the issue that had bothered me all my life, I set out to do just that. To my delight, I got my answer and it was favorable. You can read about it in my post Haunting Memories.

The purpose to my blither is to say, that once my inner questions were answered, I was able to let go of the anger that consumed me most of my life. What a freeing feeling!

You offer us great words of wisdom, my friend. Let it go. Resolve it. Do whatever it takes to free yourself from yesterday's pain, enjoy today, and look forward to tomorrow.

Awesome post!


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MartieCoetser 2 years ago from South Africa

Dearest fpher, "Goodbye Yesterday, hello, Today. Tomorrow is another today..." This is exactly what I made my rule in 2002, or was it 2001, after I have looked Death in the eyes due to uncontrolled and untreated depression of more than 10 years. Ever since 2001/2 I am truly happy even when a bad incident or three happens to spoil my (to)days.

But now - after almost 14 years in this bubble of happiness and positive thinking I have to accept that my past is a devil of another colour. Although I may have forgiven and forgotten, and I have lived grateful and happy each and every day, my PAST, got to me in another way. If it doesn't get its way (of torturing us) through our thoughts (emotions), it gets its way through our limbs and organs, crippling us with diseases and disorders. But oh, this is life. Maybe I should rather blame Age, instead of Past.

Just rambling... after a few unpleasant today's. But still grateful, because tomorrow does contain solutions and unspoiled happiness.

Very thought-provoking and inspiring hub. Thank you, fpher :)


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fpherj48 2 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

To my friends...

pop

Vicki

Dr.Bill &

Ruby

I am happy to see all of you and grateful for your kind and thoughtful comments. You are all the wonderful kind of members here who make me so happy to be a part of HP.

It is a difficult climb to rid ourselves of any pain or regret from the past....but as we grow and learn and love, it gets that much less burdensome.

Wishing you all a beautiful Today and magical tomorrows.....Peace, Paula


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always exploring 2 years ago from Southern Illinois

This is such a beautiful piece! So wise, your words of letting go of the past and moving forward. I was thinking about the serenity prayer as I read this. Thank you for sharing your compassion and spirit..


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Dr Bill Tollefson 2 years ago from Southwest Florida

Excellent article. I work with survivors and the hardest thing to get them to do is stop holding onto their memories of what happened. Letting go is a foreign concept to them.

I really appreciate this HUB article.


Vickiw 2 years ago

Dear Paula,

This is truly inspirational and lovely writing. I have so say, I wondered if you might be caught in the thick of the snowstorm! Hope you don't have to have care packages delivered by helicopter!

It is important to leave the guilt behind, and be open to opportunities ahead. Only way to go if you want to find true happiness each day.

Loved the music. Altogether just a beautiful start to my day!


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breakfastpop 2 years ago

What a wonderful piece of writing! I strive every single day to live in the present. It isn't always easy, but I know it is the key to happiness. Voted up, useful, interesting, beautiful and awesome.


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fpherj48 2 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

For certain bro....I'm keenly aware this message is a bit of "preaching to the choir" when it comes to you. You've trudged down this long and rocky road with your heart in hand and determination to heal and go well beyond.

We can make amends, bill and hope for acceptance of our genuine remorse. We cannot control how it is received. The hugest part of this journey is coming to terms with the fact that we are, in fact, powerless.

However, we cannot stop..or worse, go backwards. What will be, will be.

Sometimes people simply don't get the power and healing of forgiveness, until they find themselves on "the other side." What we can know is that we will be there for them, when they are.

No one gets outta here without that human experience at least once.

Peace to you and yours and have a warm & humble Thanksgiving....Peace, Paula


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billybuc 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

The single hardest lesson for me to learn in my life, Sis, was to let go of the past. Not a damn thing I could do about it other than to make amends and move on. Some people were not willing to accept the amends and that, too, is as it should be.

In other words, it was about time that Bill get on with life and quit wallowing in the muck of the past.

In other words, you are RIGHT ON!

Love the message, love the messenger.

bill


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MizBejabbers 2 years ago

Love you, friend, same to you.


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fpherj48 2 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

MzB....You are so wise and seem to always know just what to say and how to say it!......Thank you for being YOU! I believe you've summed this up beautifully.

Have a pleasant day and a "Happy Thanksgiving" very soon!.....


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MizBejabbers 2 years ago

Dharma may get in your way, but karma will find you sooner or later. We all deal with our problems differently. It has been my experience that the ego doesn’t have the capacity to forgive. Forgiveness has to come from our spiritual self. We need to stop looking at ourselves as” sinners”. We need to think of the things that we should have done differently or better as “experiences not to be repeated” and not dwell in self-induced guilt trips. Sometimes it just takes a new life or a new take on life to be able to move along. We have to know the difference between running away from a problem and putting it behind and moving on. To move to a new city and start over could be either one. I, for one, learned the difference the hard way. Very beautiful hub, Paula. Voted up++


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fpherj48 2 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Hello my Maria and BTW Andy, WOOF! WOOF!......I am buried in snow....TODAY and possibly many tomorrows! All I ask is that the rescue helicopter drop huge sacks of food onto my deck! I'm happy as can be, as long as I'm fed........just like Andy!! LOL

Thanks for the compliments GF.....I appreciate you....Peace, Paula


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marcoujor 2 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

This IS "The Best Day of My Life"...my dearest effer...as I rock and roll to this awesome song with Andy Jordan, who is contentedly enjoying his bone, clearly the "best day of his puppy life" as well!

When you write these 'pearls of wisdom - life inspirationals', there is absolutely no filler...ya know? Each and every sentence is carefully crafted and can be reflected on as a mantra/ a life affirmation...that we are not alone in our feelings -- nor do we ever have to be held hostage by them...

Your words are comforting, wise and make me feel as though my Momma is sending me some 'good old fashioned common sense from heaven'... so please keep writing, dear friend and I will surely keep reading.

Voting UP and everything but funny and sharing. Love you, Maria


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fpherj48 2 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Why, Thank yu Mr. Jodah. I appreciate your kind words......enjoy every minute of the day at hand! What slips by today will be there tomorrow!....Peace.


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Jodah 2 years ago from Queensland Australia

What an inspiration this hub is and you are paula. Thank you for sharing these wise words. I look forward to tomorrow's sunrise.


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fpherj48 2 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Hey there Linda Sue! Thank you, sweet friend. I have no idea what I'd ever do without you by my side! You're a light that shines for everyone. Now....think you could stop by with a snow shovel???? OMG! I'm buried deep in a MOUNTAIN of snow!! SOS!! LOL


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fpherj48 2 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Good Morning, Mario....Good to see you and pleased you are of the same mind set. I appreciate the kudos, my friend. Have a wonderful day! TODAY is what we have!!


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fpherj48 2 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

commerce.....I thank you very much for such a compliment. Nice of you to visit...and "Welcome to Hubpages!!" Be seeing you around. Peace, Paula


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Sunshine625 2 years ago from Orlando, FL

Words of wisdom from a wonderful woman who has been there and done it. You have been there for me countless times and I'm so thankful for you. Xo


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Buildreps 2 years ago from Europe

Wonderful and very true, Paula. There only one truth in life and that living in the present moment, which brings so much happiness. Thanks for this great article :)


commercekarma 2 years ago from USA

Hi, This is the best article I've ever read. Simply awesome. Keep going and keep sharing. God bless


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fpherj48 2 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Phyllis.....Hello to the first in line to share your comment. Now I must research Kalidasa.....inspirational writings and quotes never fail to touch a part of my heart and soul.

Thank you for your kind words.....Have a peaceful night and sleep tight....


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Phyllis Doyle 2 years ago from High desert of Nevada.

Paula, such a beautiful and meaningful write. As I read your hub I kept thinking of Kalidasa, a great Sanskrit poet of the 5th century, who wrote "Salutation of the Dawn". (Look to this day! For it is life, the very life of life.) I think about that poem every morning when I awake. I so enjoyed reading this hub. Thank you for sharing such meaningful thoughts and very useful information.

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