Lethal Thirst --Ode to a Dead Drunk

How much booze would it take

To drink yourself to death

A shopping-cart-full, like

Nicholas Cage leaving Las Vegas?

How many arrests

With a point three four

Car as smashed as you, against a tree

Ironically, en route from a meeting?

Or cowering behind a dumpster

Bloody and bruised

From falling off your bike

A belly full of mouthwash?

Intervention complied with

Not fully embraced

This time you’ll try harder

Things will be different

This time you get it, you’re confident

Really

But how can you get it

Storming out of rehab

Doing the steps

1-2-3 and out?

Keep coming back

And don’t drink in between

That’s the part that gets you

The hours outside the rooms, isolated and lonely

So many attempts

Swearing off, brave and resolute

The key to freedom just out of reach

Unlocked with willingness

.

Not many “yets” left

Lost your job

Lost your dignity

Your husband, your home

Lost one daughter

She’s young, but smart enough to

Disengage, disgusted

Fueling your self-pity

The other one, so grown up

A born mother

With her own child to raise

She can’t mother you, too

She’s the one who found you

Two weeks before Christmas

Your battle for serenity

Finally won

Theirs just beginning...

This is dedicated to JT, taken in the prime of her life. May she find peace at last.

And let it remind the rest of us that alcoholism is a pernicious disease that wants us DEAD. It is cunning, baffling, powerful, persuasive, and very, very patient. Remember: If you're not working on your recovery, you're working on a relapse!

© 2009 Mighty Mom

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dohn121 6 years ago from Hudson Valley, New York

This is certainly a very important message that you are conveying, especially for this time of year. Fortunate for me, I don't know of any people personally who died while drinking and driving and for the love of Maria, I hope that it stays that way.

Thanks, MM. You did an excellent job.


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RevLady 6 years ago from Lantana, Florida

Perfect timing to remind people of the devastation and pain drunk driving can cause. It is my prayer that intelligence will rule the day and conscientious individuals will make sure they have a sober driver at the wheel.

Thanks MM


pgrundy 6 years ago

Most people don't realized how deadly alcoholism is. I've been thinking of a hub on women and booze. It kills us so much faster than it kills men. Women seem to have a harder time getting to the tables and harder time staying if they do get there. I can't count the number of dead women alcoholics I've known. I never forget it could be me next. All it would take is a Killians.


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alekhouse 6 years ago from Louisville, Kentucky

Wow! This is powerful. I got the message loud and clear. Well written hub


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advisor4qb 6 years ago from On New Footing

Awesome hub, Mighty Mom! I am always glad to see when someone makes the CHOICE not to drink or do drugs or smoke.

I have had my share of alcoholics (and even drug addicts!) in my life, and I am glad that I no longer choose to accept their highly unacceptable behavior!


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Nancy's Niche 6 years ago from USA

Great article and very timely...I have witnessed first hand how alcohol can destroy families and lives…It all comes down to “choice” on the part of the drinker…


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Mighty Mom 6 years ago from Where Left is Right, CA Author

Dohn, I'mgladforyou that you don't have this in your life. I hope to God it stays that way!

Rev Lady, Keep praying! Whenever my son is driving home at night I tell him to watch out for drunk drivers

Pam, That's exactly the point. When you're used to hanging out with the people that 'get it' you forget that they are the minority. There are so many ways practicing alcoholics can die. It's really scary. And yes, women do seem to sink faster and deeper.But sober sisterhood totally rocks!

Alekhouse -- Thanks.Glad my point was clear. Good to see you, dear!

Advisor4qb -- Good for you that you are setting healthy boundaries!

Nancy's Niche -- Amen. Alcohol doesn't just affect the drinker. The problem with alcoholism is that it takes the choice away and replaces it with an overwhelming compulsion. However, that is not an excuse. Alcoholics CAN overcome the compulsion and regain their choice to live a solid, sober life.

Unfortunately, this poor woman was one of those who just couldn't get it. It wasn't for lack of trying on her family's part. It was an inability to look at her own self honestly and replace ego with humility. Very, very sad.


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lmmartin 6 years ago from Alberta and Florida

A wonderful hub, and hits close to home as there are those close to me fighting this terrible addiction. Thanks for the reminder, and at such an excellent time as the holiday season approaches.


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Mighty Mom 6 years ago from Where Left is Right, CA Author

Hey friend, I often think it's harder for the family/loved ones to watch than for the person in the center (although that isn't much fun either). It's so helpless to see someone suffering and know the only thing you can do that is effective is turn your back. Seems counterintuitive, doesn't it?

I will put your loved ones on my prayer list. Oh -- and you too of course! Hugs, MM


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Jess Killmenow 6 years ago from Nowheresville, Eastern United States

Powerful. Addictions of all kinds are so destructive, but our legalized ones, especially alcohol, are the most lethal. Thank you for writing this, MM


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Mighty Mom 6 years ago from Where Left is Right, CA Author

Hey Jess. You're so right. And cigarettes. And prescription drugs. Although "only" 10% of the population are addicts in the true sense of the word, their pain and self-destruction ripple out and touch many, many non-addicts at home, school and the workplace. I'm all for cancer research, but man -- I sure wish those brilliant scientists would come with a cure for alcoholism!!! Thanks for visiting. Happy holidays.


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lorlie6 6 years ago from Bishop, Ca

What a fabulous hub you've written, though I am so sorry about the fate of JT. I lost my sister in 2008 to this disease and still miss her terribly.


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Muderboy 6 years ago from Glendale, AZ

Great Hub, and very timely. Something that effects us all in some form or another, whether it be someone in your life who can't get it together or simply knowing you and your loved ones are safe out there on the roadways. God bless you all, and a safe and wonderful holiday season to all, as well...


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wsp2469 6 years ago from Alta Loma, Ca

I just hope you and yours stay safe over the holidays and people who drink stay off the roads.


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ehern33 6 years ago

Absolutely fantastic hub. During this time it is crucial to be hyper-alert and take those extra steps to stay safe. One tragedy is one to many. One thing we do now (as I got older and wiser, well older) is that we celebrate New Years at home and no one leaves until the next morning.It has been very successful for our family and everyone kind of enjoys it more, and no one really over does the drinking part either.


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Mighty Mom 6 years ago from Where Left is Right, CA Author

Hi wsp -- Always a pleasure to see you. No reason to debate addiction. I would request that the next time you encounter someone unable to control their drinking that you view them as a sick person who needs to get help to get well, not a bad person who needs more willpower. That's all I'll say:-)

Lorlie -- I am so sorry to hear about your sister. Not very comforting to know it's a "family disease" is it? So glad there is support here on HP. Bless you!

Muderboy -- God bless you, too. Thanks.

wsp -- This is frigging California. Too many people. Too many stupid people on the roads. It's NEVER safe to drive here! You know that!

Ehern -- New Year's is the ultimate amateur night out there. I've hung up my party shoes and Hubby and I stay home, too. It's so, so much safer here.

To all: I read this poem at a women's meeting today. The subject of the poem was, at one point, my sponsee. I participated in the family intervention. Her death, while premature, was the inevitable conclusion. Why some alcoholics are able to "get it" and others can't, I just don't know. Makes me grateful to be safely on the inside.

Thanks for reading. MM


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wsp2469 6 years ago from Alta Loma, Ca

We care about you; you know that, right?


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fastfreta 6 years ago from Southern California

Very timely hub, Mighty Mom. Also very good, sad at points, nevertheless very good.


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Mighty Mom 6 years ago from Where Left is Right, CA Author

Hi Fastfreta -- Meant to contact you yesterday to congratulate you on your 100 score! Woo hoo!

Thanks for visiting. Yes, drinking incidents increase this time of year. But this story transcends the holidays and even drunk driving. It's a very, very tragic story of someone I knew and tried to show a better way. So, so sad.

Thanks again for your comment. Peace, my dear. MM


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fastfreta 6 years ago from Southern California

I never even saw it, and I was on it all day. So it must have been a hit and miss. When I saw the 99 I was sure that I'd reach that elusive 100 so I watched it all day, it must have been one of those times that I wasn't as vigilant. I wanted to photograph it, well I guess I'll never see that again. Thanks anyway for telling me Mighty Mom, otherwise I would never have known.


ColdWarBaby 6 years ago

Yet alcohol, along with a plethora of life threatening pharmaceuticals, is sold, for profit, legally. Such poisons are actually promoted as an acceptable and important part of our lives and considered a social necessity.

"It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society." - J. Krishnamurti


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Jerilee Wei 6 years ago from United States

Great hub! Even if the person with the disease manages to walk away from it, its impact on those who love them lasts forever. The saddest part to me, is the legacy of those who can't conquer this demon and those who don't understand that this is an illness.


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MFB III 6 years ago from United States

Licensed, taxed and sanctioned by the states, it tis a big business, they make a killing literally many times a day on profit, add in the lawyers, court costs, and fines, and the government of each state gets huge paychecks from booze, why would they do anything to change that...great hub~~~~~MFB III


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Zsuzsy Bee 6 years ago from Ontario/Canada

Very timely hub with the Christmas holidays just around the corner. Everything has to be in moderation is all I can say.

Great hub as usual

Happy holidays to you and your family

kindest regards Zsuzsy


TattoGuy 6 years ago

Really powerful hub and Alcoholism is my next Health Hub under my other persona. Just want to thank you for being a great friend and to say have a Merry Christmas xox


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Mighty Mom 6 years ago from Where Left is Right, CA Author

Hey TG, Always good to have fellow zealots for understanding the disease and promoting recovery. Cheers (not the same as bottoms up!). Thanks for the comment. MM


ralwus 6 years ago

This is a most powerful hub MM. I don't do that any more. I drink at home and no more than three drinks for me and that is too much. Nice of you to pay tribute to JT. I hope this helps save someone.


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Nell Rose 6 years ago from England

Hi, really powerful. I know people who are heavy drinkers, and last week a distant relative of mine died at the age of 34, through cirrhocis of the liver. caused by drink. What a waste. thanks for hitting the nail on the head with this one. cheers Nell


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Mighty Mom 6 years ago from Where Left is Right, CA Author

Hi Nell,

34 is tragically young. But continuing on the alcoholic path to insanity over 2 or 3 or 4 more decades is just as bad. It's a brutal disease. I don't know why some people are able to get and stay sober and others are simply incapable.

But if my words can reach anyone -- a family member, a friend, or (least likely) someone struggling to put the bottle down,they're worth it.

Thanks for your comment. MM


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The Rope 6 years ago from SE US

Beautifully written MM. Gave up a very near and dear friend once, I just couldn't help her through it anymore. Sad, very sad situation to see someone's life going down the bottle - oftentimes with a giggle on their face and a broken heart. Sending hugs...


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Mighty Mom 6 years ago from Where Left is Right, CA Author

Hey there TR. You clearly understand the pain. I think sometimes it's harder on those who are on the sidelines than the one in the middle. At least they get to anesthetize their pain. One day I hope science comes up with a better way to deal with this most insidious, confounding disease!

Thanks for your comment.And your hugs. Means alot. MM


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Micky Dee 6 years ago

This is pretty super, Mighty Mom! Thank you!


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Mighty Mom 6 years ago from Where Left is Right, CA Author

Thanks, Micky Dee

It's an "ode" to a woman I know who literally drank herself to death. So sad. Teenaged daughters and a beautiful grandson, but she just couldn't get the concept of "Honesty, Openness and Willlingness."

I know your hub about Bush et all was funny, but there's a dark side of drinking. Very, very dark.


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tom hellert 6 years ago from home

MM, Good job- I have never drank even a drop of alcohol-EVER I have seen my dad drink 4 beers in my life- I have seen my brother drink 3 in a ha;l hour- his liver is 1/4 to 1/2 functional due to this liquid plague. it is unfortunate that people can't control the use of alcohol and all drugs


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Mighty Mom 6 years ago from Where Left is Right, CA Author

Hi Tom,

So sorry to hear about your brother. Sometimes alcoholism is rampant in families. If not the parents, the grandparents. Other times people report "No one in my family is alcoholic except me."

Sounds like your brother's drinking is out of control and is taking a physical toll. Please encourage him to quit before his liver fails completely! Good luck, MM

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