Life Lessons: Most of the "Stuff" is Little Stuff

How many times have you fretted and stewed and worried and chewed your nails over something?

How many times has that helped change the outcome of anything?

Yeah, nada. I have done it too but over the years, I have finally learned that this is a waste of my time and energy .... it serves me better to take things in stride...fix what I can and be ever hopeful that things will work out as they should.

No Worries Here.

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If you break your neck, if you have nothing to eat, if your house is on fire, then you got a problem. Everything else is inconvenience.

— Robert Fulghum


Mr. Fulghum put it all into perspective with his words. The little stuff may cause us to feel a bit flustered but after all is said and done it is just little stuff.

There are probably times that you can think of that you have gotten very upset over something that just was one of those things that will happen. One of those nuisance happenings that upset your day and make you tight-jawed. Do any of the following sound vaguely familiar?

  • Your zipper breaks and you are already late for work.
  • You break a heel on your favorite Jimmy Choos or scuff your Barker Blacks if you all are in to upscale shoes. (I actually wear flip flops ---they come in all styles with or without lots of bling….and most are not in the league price-wise with Choo or Black…but a crisis to me is when one of them comes apart I probably overreact. It is s a bit embarrassing to be trying to navigate through the store with your shoe flapping in the breeze.)


  • You break a nail after visiting the salon. or after you have carefully painted them.
  • You spend all day dusting and mopping and then everyone marches through the house with muddy shoes.
  • The toast burns that was going to be breakfast.

Spilt milk

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Why did this happen today?

There are more of these frustrating times.

  • Someone knocks over the container of tomato soup in the fridge and the lid comes off…what a mess.
  • The soda you put in the freezer to chill quickly was forgotten…an explosion is now evident when you open the door.

Ever had one of these days? Ever had one where they all happen within hours of each other?

How do you react?

Absolutely totally lose your mind?

All of a sudden you think;

Why can’t things just go right, for once?

Get over it. Tomorrow's another day.

Hopefully there is more bread...

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My recipe for dealing with anger and frustration: set the kitchen timer for twenty minutes, cry, rant, and rave, and at the sound of the bell, simmer down and go about business as usual.


…Phyllis Diller

You might not need 20 minutes....but this could work. You are annoyed so fume and carry on a bit. It sometimes is a great way to dump it.

Confession

There have been times when I am one of those. One of those who completely overact out of proportion to the STUFF that happens. So when I say, GET OVER IT, it serves as a reminder to me too. It just does not matter if the person gets the parking space that was going to be mine.

The parking lot is full of other spaces. It just is not important.

It does not matter that someone with a grocery cart rushes to get ahead of me at the store. As a matter of fact, I often motion them ahead of me as many times they seem to be about to miss some important engagement if I do not let them go ahead of me (even though I only have a few items in my cart). It just does not matter. I can wait.

It was not always this way with me. There have been times when I totally was bent out of shape because some trivial thing happened that inconvenienced me. In hindsight, for the life of me I cannot figure out why it was so important.

Somehow I have learned to GET OVER IT. Wasting one moment on silly issues would be a shame on me kind of situation. What a waste of some precious moments that I could be using to focus on the loveliness of my day.

Scream and holler if you must

Allow yourself to be p***** off and then move on.

It is okay to acknowledge that something annoys us. We are after all human.

Face it, recognize it, whine, complain----whatever works for you, and, then let go of it. Try to do your whining and screaming and hollering away from others.

Sticky wet mess..caught in the nick of time before it got any worse

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Who or what is in control?

Somehow you get through each crisis. You get through the rest of the day with or without something else happening that may make you wish you had stayed in bed all day. Eventually, you make it to bed and do fall asleep thrilled that this day is over!

The good news is: the sun comes up the next day~~~

And you may or may not recall the day from Perdition. If you dwell on negatives, you may be all set to have another day like that one.

We know stuff happens, you deal with it, and all is good in your little corner of the world.

Some day, more stuff will happen and once again you will need to decide whether you let it ruin your day or laugh it off. You can let the situation control your feelings for the rest of the day or you control it.

Do not try this in your kitchen!!!!

Can I do something about this STUFF?

Things that you can change, stuff that you can 'fix'....do it.

The rest of the 'stuff'...let go of it...find a way to cope.

If you are stuck in traffic, screaming and honking your horn will not make cars move any faster and may cause some to rage on you.

Don't lose one minute trying to fix what it is not possible to correct.

Does it matter?

The small stuff is sometimes what causes us grief. Misplaced keys, the proverbial spilled milk, deleting a draft of our work or an important message--whatever it is can cause a bit of temporary frustration on our part.

Granted they are inconvenient. We may be late for work, have to spend money on repairs, take time to clean up, tend to the issue or issues at hand.

And at least one of them will happen again. That is usually how it works.

The positive is---and yes, there is a positive: All of these can be easily dealt with and are temporary. Most of these little annoyances are fixable.

In the scheme of things, they just do not matter.

"The heck they don't, you may say? You try paying all that money for shoes only to have them ruined"

My only response to that is this---if you can afford one pair, you can afford another or you can afford to have the damaged ones fixed. If not, maybe you should choose different shoes. Just a thought.

They are just shoes.

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Let Go of It

Try to keep these occurrences in perspective. You may wish to ask yourself: Will this matter tomorrow: Next week? In six months? Next year? If you answered, no, then you know these are LITTLE pains in the neck that can be laughed off and forgotten.

It is about making a choice.

Decide what you value most.

Decide what is really worth your time to the extent that you must dwell on it.

There are some things that will require your attention and are much more than a nuisance. Save your energy for those significant times.

Be like a duck...let the rest of it just roll off of you.

Let go of the small annoyances that crop up.

Each day is filled with so much that is positive and uplifting that letting small frustrations crop up and suck the life out of your day is side tracking your life.

Give it up. Move on.

There is too much else you can be doing with this day.

May all of the STUFF that happens to you today be little STUFF.

© 2013 Patricia Scott

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pstraubie48 18 months ago from sunny Florida Author

Yes I think of the times when I lost sleep of 'stuff' that just did not matter in the long run. How foolish I was.

Thank you Peggy for stopping to visit.

Sending you more Angels this evening ps


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Peggy W 18 months ago from Houston, Texas

Hi Patricia,

This is SUCH GOOD ADVICE for after all is said and done, those little daily irritations will not matter nor be remembered over the course of time. There is much more importance to life than a glass of spilled milk as an example. We can all learn from this reminder to remember what is most important and act accordingly. Up, useful and happy to share.


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Hi Jaya Thanks for the shares and thanks for visiting. I feel these words are true for me more today than when I wrote them


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Hi Jaya Thanks for the shares and thanks for visiting. I feel these words are true for me more today than when I wrote them


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Thank you , DDE

We have so much to be thankful for. No time to waste on trivial things these days. Thanks for visiting. Angels are on the way. ps


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DDE 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

A well written and described hub on Life Lessons: The View from Here always be up for a challenge


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jpcmc 3 years ago from Quezon CIty, Phlippines

We all have bad days. Some are affected more than others. It's the mindset that sets each person apart. I believe that we are blessed with so much but we don't realize it. We are blessed to become a blessing to others.


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Absolutely ....We just need to do it ...face what comes and not be paralyzed by it... Since I wrote this just a few days ago new challenges have appeared on the scene and I experienced a moment or two of paralysis...and then kicked myself in the behiney and said get over it and move on...just gotta do it....

thank you for your visit today. Angels are on the way to you again this morning ps


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tamron 3 years ago

Its better to be proactive than reactive because it seems to get you in trouble which is like a domino effect. Great Hub I shared it


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Hi drbj

You know what we did with burnt toast when I was a young girl?

We scraped off the burned part, put on the butter, and the jam and we ate it!! No wasting ...ever.

Yes and no sweat wasted on anything we can't change.

Glad to see you this evening...Angels are on the way to you my Friend. ps


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Hi drbj

You know what we did with burnt toast when I was a young girl?

We scraped off the burned part, put on the butter, and the jam and we ate it!! No wasting ...ever.

Yes and no sweat wasted on anything we can't change.

Glad to see you this evening...Angels are on the way to you my Friend. ps


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drbj 3 years ago from south Florida

You know what they say, Patricia. Don't sweat the small stuff. And you could not have said it better. Thanks for the clever reminder about moving on . . . though I'm still bothered by that burnt toast!


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

For sure, Muprhy's Law is alive and well often....

We deal with it and move on. Or, not.

I guess it depends on other factors. Sometimes if big things are overwhelming us, the little things can make us come unglued. that has happened to me...I try to laugh at the silly stuff but there have been times when I could not...thankfully not so much any more.

thank you for stopping by. Angels are on the way to you this evening ps


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

For sure, Muprhy's Law is alive and well often....

We deal with it and move on. Or, not.

I guess it depends on other factors. Sometimes if big things are overwhelming us, the little things can make us come unglued. that has happened to me...I try to laugh at the silly stuff but there have been times when I could not...thankfully not so much any more.

thank you for stopping by. Angels are on the way to you this evening ps


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England

There is a word for this, Murphys law! should have said words! if something is going to go wrong on a particular day then it will go wrong, and yes that's me most of the time! lol!


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Good afternoon Faith

You know, I think the reason I am inclined to write some of these articles like this one is that I need a gentle reminder for myself. So much has happened in our lives that we could become cynical and bitter but we trudge on...all of us.

Thank you for your kind comments and for visiting today. Angels are on the way to you this afternoon ps


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Good afternoon Faith

You know, I think the reason I am inclined to write some of these articles like this one is that I need a gentle reminder for myself. So much has happened in our lives that we could become cynical and bitter but we trudge on...all of us.

Thank you for your kind comments and for visiting today. Angels are on the way to you this afternoon ps


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Yes, Pearl, it is a blessing to be able to see or hear or feel whatever the nuisance is. It's kind of like when someone asks you how you are---any day you are on this side of the dirt is a good day!!

Thanks for visiting..It is always nice to see you.

Angels are on the way ps


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Good afternoon Rose

Point well taken ---I so agree...unload it and move on. Stewing over it only makes it seem worse than it was to begin with.

Thank you so much for your insightful comment and for your visit today.

Angels are on the way to you ps


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Good afternoon Rose

Point well taken ---I so agree...unload it and move on. Stewing over it only makes it seem worse than it was to begin with.

Thank you so much for your insightful comment and for your visit today.

Angels are on the way to you ps


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Being discerning and knowing what to invest our energy into keeps us from burning out on the nuisance stuff.

Thank you for visiting Carol...it is always so nice to have you drop by. I hope all is going well with your endeavors. Angels are on the way to you and yours ps


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Yes. Bill, it is all small stuff. As a matter of fact there is a small paperback book with that title...Don't Sweat the Small Stuff and it's all small stuff by

Richard Carlson. My copy is raggedy as I have referred to it so many times.

Glad to see you this afternoon. Angels are on the way to you and yours all the way to WA. ps


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Love that, crafty to the core...proactive gets the job done every time!!!

Thank you for visiting today.

Angels are on the way to you today ps


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Love that, crafty to the core...proactive gets the job done every time!!!

Thank you for visiting today.

Angels are on the way to you today ps


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Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

I really love this one .... hahaha and the humor you have included is just right, yes, let's let the little stuff roll off of us, for there is plenty of the big stuff to go around!

Thank you this great write here and good reminder to just let that little stuff that is of no significance go, and maybe one's day will have just a bit more peace it despite those frustrating moments, and that is the key, to just let them be moments.

Voted up and all the way across

Hugs and Angels your way once again,

Faith Reaper


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grandmapearl 3 years ago from Southern Tier New York State

A great reminder to 'not sweat the small stuff'! When things like this happen, I try to tell myself that I am blessed to be able to see them happen, or hear them, or whatever. I liked your quote from Robert Fulghum--everything else is inconvenience ;) Pearl

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rose-the planner 3 years ago from Toronto, Ontario-Canada

Great advice! It is so true, we waste so much time and energy on the small insignificant things in our lives that sometimes we forget to focus on the important stuff. I am one of those people that will react over things very quickly but I also let it go just as quickly. I think it is important to get things off your chest right away and not let it simmer for days and days like some people I know. Thank you for sharing. (Voted Up) -Rose


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carol7777 3 years ago from Arizona

Understanding the differences between annoyances and crisis is something that always needs to be evaluated. We have annoyances on the hour and getting upset is a good waste of time. You pointed this out so well as always...Angels..


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billybuc 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

A mentor of mine told me not to sweat the small stuff....and it's all small stuff. :) I try to remember that when I'm wading through the doo-doo.

Sound words of advice my friend, but I would expect nothing less from you.

Have a great day! Blessings and a hug coming your way.

bill


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CraftytotheCore 3 years ago

Very nicely stated! There were times when I was younger that I had meltdowns over ridiculous things. But since life has a way of training us to keep things in perspective, small stuff doesn't really bother me any more. I am pro-active instead of re-active. :)

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