Life Is About Making Choices

Is life all about making choices? Of course, you make a choice who to work for, when to marry, when to say No, when to quit, whether to be happy, who to befriend, what to eat and so on so forth. There are some aspects of life that we are unable to make choices. For example, a person cannot make a choice of the family to be born in or a choice to be born disabled.

You can agree with me that life can turn out to be a puzzle. You try finding the answer to some aspects of life but you end up failing miserable. But this does not mean that you should make a choice of being desperate, stressed or giving up. No, instead understand that is how life is. Always learn to take life positively and continue doing the good work that will get you somewhere better in your life.

My dearest friend if you made a wrong choice you're not alone. At least every person at one point of his life has made a wrong choice. In fact, this should remind you and me that there is no such thing as perfection in mankind. Do not get me wrong on this; I am not saying the imperfection in us should give us a reason to make choices without a second thought of what their outcome will be. Don't be hasty and dim-witted when making choices.

Making a wrong choice and being able to resilient from it is something that many people are unable to do. In pursuit of happiness, each day we struggle in making good choices. But there are occasions we end up making wrong choices. At times I tend to believe that life is unfair, very unfair when it comes to choices. Take an example where an employee becomes an indispensable resource for many years. Sadly one bad choice made by that employee while executing his duty gets him fired. All his good choices and work for many years becomes trash to his employer just because of one wrong choice.

In one of the self improvement forum, I started a thread asking members to discuss this topic, "Life is about choices." Below is an extract of the discussion by members:

Lynkez, "Life is a performance rather that a rehearsal. The Proverbs in the bible say that we become what we think. It is therefore up to one to either live a success or a ruin. If you choose to be an honest and faithful person and really work towards that you will at no point fail to meet your target. The people whom we choose to stay around and associate with much as our friends affect a great deal of our lives.

Successful people worked hard to it and when they stop working hard they will turn out to be unsuccessful. To be successful you need to live with successful people, so that you can think from their angle and at least borrow an idea.

Taking care is a great concern. This life is so delicate yet challenging. The poor we handle our lives the more ruin they become. Some regrets are too big to regret on. Some cannot be reversed for a waste as already occurred. Some cause a permanent destruction. Choose life and you will live."

Joshua, "Life is all about making choices. I make choices according to my own perception and not to please anyone. When I make a choice and a person is not able to see it the way I do whether it is good or bad, then according to me I already made a choice. I become fully accountable."

Dacox, "I make my own choices. I hate to be controlled and manipulated; that's why I can easily say no to others if their demands don’t seem to suit me. I hate being a people pleaser, and I hate it when someone keeps insisting so I give in to their demands. We have a life to live; we live by choice."

Jeremiahbusey, "You always do what you want to do. This is true with every act. You may say that you had to do something, or that you were forced to, but actually, whatever you do, you do by choice. Only you have the power to choose for yourself."

Have you ever had a mishap of a choice? In some circumstances we may perceive a choice to be a good one only to be disappointed later on how wrong it was. In my case I liken choices to a road that has got many diverge paths. At the intersection point if a person takes the wrong path, then that person won’t arrive at the intended destination, he gets lost. Similarly if you make a wrong choice of a decision, you end up facing unpleasant consequence. At times you end up becoming a failure. And who will like to be associated with a failure! The wrong choice made is the start of many other problems breeding unless someone is able to resilient.

Therefore in the course of our life journey there are numerous roads that will come our way. We have to make a choice of the road that leads us to the correct destination. You have to make a choice. If you fail to make a choice you will get nowhere in life just like a person who reaches at the intersection point and fails to make a choice of the path to follow.

At the end of the day, success or failure depends on the choices one has made. Again, there is no assurance of attaining the outcome anticipated from a choice made. Why? I already said this above but I can repeat it for you once more, right? In some circumstances we may perceive a choice to be a good one only to be disappointed later on how wrong it was. In other words, this is to say that there are tough choices whereby a person is not certain about their outcome. If this is the case then no one is supposed to make choices for another person.

Making a choice of doing right things always does not mean that one would forever live a blissful life. Both good things and bad things happen to all people whether they are doing the right things or bad things.

The good news about after making choices is that we actually have the power of controlling our actions. You are in full control of how you respond to whatever outcome of the choice you already made. So, this is where one's skill of resilience is necessary.

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billybuc 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

Wise words my friends....change is constant....making choices is a daily is like breathing....wonderful hub!

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Happyboomernurse 4 years ago from South Carolina

Wonderful, thought provoking hub. Life is all about choices and also about accepting responsibility for the choices we make. If we don't get the expected outcome, we can always choose to learn from what we perceive as our mistake.

I particularly like what you wrote at the end of this hub:

"The good news about after making choices is that we actually have the power of controlling our actions. You are in full control of how you respond to whatever outcome of the choice you already made. So, this is where one's skill of resilience is necessary."

Voted up across the board except for funny.

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Nyamache 4 years ago from Kenya Author

@Billybuc and Happyboomernurse, I appreciate your contribution.

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MartieCoetser 4 years ago from South Africa

Excellent hub about making choices! Brilliant thinking exposed in your extract of the discussion by members of HubPages :)

Vote up and up!

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Nyamache 4 years ago from Kenya Author

@MartieCoetser, thanks for appreciating this hub by voting it up.

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teaches12345 4 years ago

Great post on change and how we must decide whether to let it control us. Its a daily choice we must consider.

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Frank Atanacio 4 years ago from Shelton

a very good hub Nya.. the quotes just added more punch to it.. Glad I made the choice to read it :)

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Gypsy Rose Lee 4 years ago from Riga, Latvia

Voted up. Great hub. Life is definitely about making choices. We can't go through our days without making choices so we must face up to the decisions we make. Passing this on.

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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States

wise words, nyamache.

Life is never constant thus, making choices is the way to living it.

i liked to read about the other member's insights on life and choices.

good hub!

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xstatic 4 years ago from Eugene, Oregon

A good thing to keep in mind as we make our choices through the day.


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Nyamache 4 years ago from Kenya Author

@teaches12345, Frank Atanacio, Gypsy Rose Lee, Ruchira and xstatic thanks for your votes and feedback.

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debbiepinkston 4 years ago from Pereira, Colombia and NW Arkansas

Nyamache, I completely agree with you. Viktor Frankl said that the ultimate choice that no one can take from us is our attitude. He was in a concentration camp during WWII with people who were being tortured and killed daily and he observed that some could maintain a positive attitude in spite of their impending death. Truly our choices, especially our choice of attitude, makes all the difference in the world.

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Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

We all do make so many bad choices, and some good ones too, it really is about how we handle them, wise words, and voted up!

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Nyamache 4 years ago from Kenya Author

@Nell Rose, It is not always that we make good choices. At times we may be convinced that the choice we are making is good only later on to realize that it was wrong. But we must learn from bad choices we made and avoid repeating them. Thanks for participating.

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