How to Effect Positive Change in Your Life

If you're unhappy with your life, change can seem overwhelming, but changing your life for the better can be as easy enough as using behavior modification techniques to break those bad habits that lower your self esteem and increase the positive behaviors you would like to increase.

  1. The first step in any program for change is always to identify the problem. Define explicitly what behavior you would like to change, and decide what you would like the end result to be. Studies have shown that trying to cease practicing a certain behavior is not as effective a motivator as setting one's sights on the ultimate goal: for example, rather than trying to stop biting your nails, decide that you'd like to maintain a neat manicure.
  2. Next, define how you will observe and measure your progress. It is important to set check-in points, such as when you wash your hands before each meal, when you will actively note whether or not you are adhering to your plan for change. In addition, there need to be observable degrees of progress (how many nails are unbitten or how long each nail is, for instance) so that the difference from one day to the next can be charted.
  3. Record baseline data-how often you bite your nails and when-without changing your behavior for a week. After all, you can't see progress if you don't know of where you started! Take note of the cues that precede the behavior, such as hunger, watching television, nervousness, and so on. Sometimes bringing awareness to the circumstances that prompt you to indulge in your bad habit can help you avoid the urges by anticipating what might trigger them.
  4. Now it's time to formulate a set plan to either increase or decrease the "target behavior," in specific terms. Like your start point and the progress checks, results must be quantifiable, to ensure that your goal is achievable, and that you will recognize when you've accomplished it. Commit to adding an hour of exercise time to your day, or to maintaining nails an eighth of an inch past the end of your nail bed.
  5. Choose an activity you enjoy to reinforce yourself when you do make positive change. Rewards can be as simple as treating yourself to dessert if you manage to keep your nails intact, or buying a new pair of shoes after a month of 60 minutes of exercise, 5 days a week. Pretty much any thing or activity you enjoy can be used as positive reinforcement. The key is to set incremental goals within the larger objective, and reward them, as steps in the right direction. (In psychological behavior modification research, rewarding these "successive approximations" of the target behavior has proven the most effective way to reach the ultimate goal.)
  6. After you've decided when and how to reward yourself, begin implementing changes in your daily life to bring you closer to your aim, and reinforce yourself according to those preset conditions. If you need accountability, find someone with whom you can check in at designated points to make sure you're not skimping on change and overloading on reward. At the same time, be sure that your smaller goals are not so hard to achieve that you become discouraged. Note and chart your progress in a notebook or on a spreadsheet. Seeing your progress on paper makes all the difference in perpetuating your motivation to continue towards your destination.

With these simple steps, you can effect the small changes, one by one, that make up the meat of the larger change you need in your personal pursuit of happiness. Little by little, you can transform your life and yourself to achieve a self-actualization specific to you, whatever that may be.

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poetryman6969 20 months ago

Some great advice on how to get better at getting better. Be blessed.


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Esther Strong 2 years ago from UK

Great practical advice here.


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FeliciaM 5 years ago from Canada

Thanks for the positive info on changes. Sometimes it can be all the things we shouldn't do so i like that this focused on what we can do! Your hubs are in inspiration!!


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Daniela Daljac 5 years ago from AUSTRALIA

Great hub, thanks!


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FloBe 5 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

If we set a negative goal: "I'm NOT going to bite my nails" the brain focuses on "bite my nails" thus only instilling the bad habit even deeper. So, I like that you suggested we set positive goals which will actually enable the brain to learn a new habit.


Christa 6 years ago

I also write about life change, but I must admit that I did not think about the fact that the reason someone would want to make a change in his life is a problem. It makes sense as people don't like changes. So there must be some kind of a force to get them to think about a change and this force is a problem.

I also like your system you offer here about how to build up the change.


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kukuruyuk 6 years ago

good tips. Love it, and thanks :)


Tamarind 6 years ago

Enjoyable hub. Thank you.


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jabyrd82 7 years ago from Farmington,New Mexico

Great hub!!!


development11 7 years ago

The simple steps are really uselful but its little diffucult to implement for me becoz as such u know that the difficult in the life is change but we have to accept it and this is really nice insight about positive change .


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metaphysician 7 years ago

I call it "Six Steps to Change Your Life."

Change is a matter of motivation and most people are lacking this. By the way, to successfully change any area of life or habit, we must have a replacement over it. Because a vacumm state would tend to bring back the old habit or the pre-change state.


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henrytom 7 years ago

What a fabulous hub. But i think another step in wanting to change is the willingness and determination to change.


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ColinJames 8 years ago from Seattle, WA.

Good stuff.


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Evelyn Lim 8 years ago from Singapore

Great tips here. Most certainly, we need to break old habits so that we can infuse ourselves with new and more positive ones.


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barryrutherford 9 years ago from Queensland Australia

nice blogg

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