Living With My Wife in Menopause, a Mans Story!
Have you seen my sweet little wife?
I suppose I could have titled this, Living with my wife during menopause. But this being my second wife ( who let me say now I love very much) and with us only being together just over five years now, four of which have been during menopause. And well I've seen more of the men-no than that sweet woman I married though I know shes still in there.
I kind of look at our time together sort of like the first Exorcist movie as per the pictures here. You know kinda like how we got the short glimpse of that sweet little Linda Blair, and then well pretty much all hell broke loose!
One minute she was sad, the next she was mad then crying, then depressed. I will say she did refrain from relieving herself as she was standing in the middle of the room, while we had company as in the movie. But I'm sure if I asked she only just barely avoided it a few times. Though somewhat like the movie it all started with little signs here and there a hot flash here a cold spell there.
And then it gradually became the full on bedroom scene, name calling, hate spewing, head spinning and other such drama. I mean honestly I have been nothing but sweet, loving and very much appreciative of her. Especially coming from a first marriage that well lets just say we we're two different people on two totally different paths. While my wife and I now are more like old souls, from the very moment we met it was as if we just knew each other. And besides me being all the above I will add my mother has never been anything but nice to her as well as she was the first one to tell me not to marry my first wife.
More of the drama carried into the bedroom as well. We started off our first year or so as most couples very passionate in the bedroom and though the passion was still there, the dryness and sheer pain she began to have kind of put a kink in the plan. I think though the hardest thing for me to deal with was the mood swings I felt like I was walking on eggshells most of the time. I consider myself a somewhat calm easy going kind of man and for the most part I would simply diffuse the arguments. But there were also plenty of days when I would just become frustrated and try to curse the devil out of her. Though I will admit I was no match for the evil (menopause) that had overcome her!
Rounding the final turn.
So now it seems we are nearing the end with what seems to be her final menstruation period. Her moisture has returned and with it the pain ( during intercourse) has eased. I am writing this though coming off what seems one last gasp of evil as the demon is departing her body though. The night sweats were there and added to that she had a coughing spell and last night was a horrible reminder of what we've been through.
You see I tried to go to bed with her and give the usual nightly cuddle time. Which normally ends with her asleep wrapped in my arms and then as I begin dosing I give one last kiss and turn over. But then the coughing began and what was worse is she had turned facing me and just laid there coughing in my face. No turning her head (yet) no covering her mouth and every time I would begin dosing off cough, cough. So then there I lay wide awake and seeing she was not letting up I said forget it and got up.
This was a big mistake as I did not recognise the evil was back and thus I was quickly followed by her arising. Then the head began slowly twisting, her neck crackling, the red began overtaking her eye's, the skin on her forehead wrinkling up, her mouth formed into an evil grin as she spouted these words. "If your not gonna sleep with me and want to stay up all night you can go find somewhere else to live"! Aghhhhhhhh!
Well this is when I quickly made it aware to her that I had went to sleep two or three times in fact but, ( it is a well known fact that the possessed often have no memory of the evil they have committed) that she was the one keeping me awake. I will admit that I quickly took a defensive posture as I finished saying this. But then ( insert light breaking from the heavens as an Angel Choir begins singing "Hallelujah" here) silence, no reply at all she got her drink of water and simply went back to bed. And I quickly followed returning to the cuddling and off to sleep we went. It wasn't an easy road but it seems we have reached our destination in tact and still very much in love!
My advice to any men going through this or living with a woman on menopause would consist of being patient, taking a few walks and for those who like to have the weekend beer and sports package just put it on hold. It will be there later but trust me the last thing you need if you want to keep your relationship is a bottle of bravado, a glass of I don't give a crap or a can of whip her arse! First of all because you can't afford the alcohol it will take to outlast her. Second because you really will give a crap, when you wake up. And third have you ever watched a drinker try to fight? Yeah your probably not gonna whip her but more importantly you don't really want to either.
So just hang in there the woman you love is still there she just has a battle with her hormones going on inside her. Be supportive, be calm, be patient, above all pray a lot, understand she still loves you and remember this to will pass.
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