Losing Weight Without Losing Your Mind 1

This doesn't help :(       But - did you know you can freeze cake?
This doesn't help :( But - did you know you can freeze cake?

To Starve Or Not To Starve


It really is sooooooooo hard to lose weight, I know I'm not telling you something you don't already know, we all know that there are Wonder People out there that can lose weight any time they want to, or who can eat anything they want without putting on an ounce - once upon a time I was one of those people.


That was many, many years ago and I still have photographs of my stick-thin younger self with arms that looked like they would break if the wind blew too hard, and legs that were thinner than my arms are now, but that was before I had my gorgeous children, it was before I entered my fifties (how on earth did that happen?), it was also before the dreaded menopause and the lovely smiley (male) Doctor handed me those cute little HRT pills as the cure to all my problems.


You know what I think? I think that the Doctors have shares in the slimming products and expensive slimming clubs out there and that inside those tiny innocent looking little tablets there must be concentrated cream cakes and chocolate because when I went on them not only did they not work or help I gained 2 stones in 2 months and have been struggling to get rid of it ever since.


I have now come to a number of conclusions:


(1) God doesn't want me to be stick thin otherwise I would be (I'd also be gorgeous and married to Johnny Depp (but that's a whole other dream)


(2) I love food and I love to cook and that is more than likely one of my downfalls, because, and this is number three


(3) my mother was a dreadful cook and that was why I was so thin - it's called malnutrition - and have you seem how scary some of those underfed people out there are?


(4) as I said I had children and would I give them up for being thinner and having a flat belly once more? Not on your life, and finally

(5) if I had more time to exercise (and the willpower) I would lose the weight quicker.



From the tone of this hub and from the other hubs that I've posted you can tell that I love food, yes I am the modern day foodie, so starving myself was not an option, dieting by cutting out food who on earth thought that up? It should be illegal for anyone to cut down their food to lose weight, it's not good for you, you are depriving yourself of essential vitamins, it will cause you problems in later life, it turns people into Anorexics, Bulimics, secret eaters, guilty eaters and obsessed with calories. I truly think the key is it's what you eat, it's about not being greedy and it's about making conscious choices rather than having it all - AND, (and you know I was eventually going to say this so there's no point putting your fingers in your ears and going lah-lah-lah, actually there really is no point because you're reading it so you need to cover your eyes) - back to the point - it's about raising your activity levels.


About a year ago I did just that I started watching what was in my food and I cut fat as much as possible without giving up the good fats and I raised my activity levels, I jogged in the front room while watching my favourite programmes, I went on dog walks, I ran up and down the stairs, I just, did, more - and I lost two stone ... (don't cheer yet) ... then I fell on the ice last New Year ... (no I wasn't drunk) and I managed to demolish 2 ligaments and shredded 3 tendons in my ankle and foot. So I'm 7 months down the line of having physio and the scales show that I've regained a stone - but - and here's the good bit I'm on the mend.


So I'm going to start sharing my healthier recipes as well as those decadent ones that mean you have to workout just that little bit more enthusiastically, it's about moderation people, I'd rather have a little of something spectacular to excite my taste buds than something that tastes like a cross between plastic and cardboard that is ready made and comes in a container that probably tastes as good as the food inside.


Good Luck

I just want to wish everyone on the same path as me as much good luck as possible, I want you to be kind to yourself, and to all the women out there, stop commenting on how thin your friends are and how well they're doing - they don't have to be thin to be a good person or a good friend to you.



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renegadetory 5 years ago from Ottawa, Ontario

I have to agree with you, moderation is key. Jackie Warner in her latest book This is Why You're Fat allows for you to cheat on weekneds and indulge yourself. Restricting yourself from the foods you love will only drive you crazy and will make it difficult to lose weight.

I too enjoy food, all food... especially desserts, but I limit those to the weekend, and then I have something to look forward to. I think its also good to be able to control yourself enough to not eat an entire pie, but just have a small slice, enough to satisfy your craving :-)


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vwriter 5 years ago from US

You are right, moderation is the key. However, there is one sweet that I just cannot touch, and that is cookies. Having one cookie in my book, is just not possible or enough. So, I just don't eat them. Other sweets, I can successfully eat in moderation and feel satisfied.


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Eileen Goodall 5 years ago from Buckinghamshire, England Author

Yeah I have a problem with cookies too, lately I've been trying out different recipes to find a good cookie that's not full of rubbish so I know what the kids are eating. So now we don't buy them, I make a load of cookie dough and slice it and put it in the freezer, I can only eat it if I'm willing to bake them first and wait, it helps me think twice rather than just sticking my hand in the cookie jar.


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lundmusik 5 years ago from Tucson AZ

thanks for your great hub.. my wife and I lost quite a bit on weightwatchers online (she 50 lbs and me 30 lbs),, your comments are well taken

thanks for your hub... oh,, and my wife feels the same as you about Johnny depp


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Eileen Goodall 5 years ago from Buckinghamshire, England Author

Well I've lost 3lbs this week, so here's hoping it continues (and @lundmusik tell your wife now he's moved to England he's mine - sorry).


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raciniwa 5 years ago from Naga City, Cebu

thank you for sharing this...yes, food is given to us to enjoy, why deprive ourselves...i lost weight in just 1 month by eating the right kind of food...


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leni sands 5 years ago from UK

Great hub, good information and I totally agree it is all about moderation and eating healthier foods. We are all so different that different methods work for each of us. I wish you success in your weight loss and look forward to watching OUR progress.


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Eileen Goodall 5 years ago from Buckinghamshire, England Author

Lost another 3lbs this week so feeling pretty happy and I even got up this morning and did some exercise before breakfast - good start to the weekend - have fun everyone x


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Eileen Goodall 5 years ago from Buckinghamshire, England Author

@Raciniwa - what sort of foods did you eat to lose that amount of weight so quickly?


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Peanutritious 5 years ago from Cheshire, UK

I enjoyed this and agree that it's everything in moderation. My problem is willpower (or lack of it)! I get off to a good start but give up after a week or two! I'm my own worst enemy! Voted up.


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Eileen Goodall 5 years ago from Buckinghamshire, England Author

I think that making a designated time each day to exercise is a good idea, hard to keep to sometimes but worth a try, I did an hour of aerobics this morning, first whole hour in months but I keep trying.

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