Trust and Relationships


  • Call him 20-100 times a day
  • Tell him you love him 15 times daily
  • Ask him where he is , who with and why? at all times
  • Tell him you will call shortly after every call
  • Tell him your nothing without him
  • Tell him you need him
  • Tell him only he makes you happy and whole
  • Tell him you cannot bare to think of existing without him
  • Ask him 'why is that woman looking @ him' blame HIM for it :)
  • Insult him and accuse him of whatever comes to mind-then apologise a 100 times
  • Repeat this twice a week for the whole of your relationship
  • Call 3 times to confirm when he will be coming/going home
  • Ask again who he is with
  • Tell him he is always with his friends
  • Tell him 24 hours a day is not enough for you-HE needs to make time (:


good luck :) x Let me know if it works


The most important connection between people is trust, especially in relationships. Without knowing each other it is hard to embrace a relationship without it. I personally know once we have been bitten and bruised it is hard to get that back on track, and my record proves it.

I am not ashamed or embarassed and believe we are all in some ways like that, but it was hard to start trusting again and it is still hard to risk getting hurt by relying on people especially those we grow fond of. A lot of relationships break down and there are many reasons for this, but all I can say and believe to be true is if you have trust issues there are bound to be cracks.

When I was cheated on- I lost trust. But when years of reality kicked in I asked myself questions such as Why did I trust him? . . .Truth is I didn't trust him and I knew this I was just afraid to accept it, and I used everything above in this relationship, the question is did I push him away with it or did he just get away and used this as an excuse because I was on to him.

The answer is very simple - NO TRUST - NO RELATIONSHIP . I was stupid.

He didn't deserve me and I didn't deserve that and I could have stopped it all if I trusted my instincts, instead I let myself down. So I learnt a lesson in all this - TRUST YOURSELF!

If you cannot trust yourself how can you trust others?! I apply this to everything and it works. The thing is we all know this, like we know drinking plenty of water is essential, keeping to our 5-a day :)) we just need a little reminder sometimes. But all I know is that I will not trust as easily and will always accept reality no matter what !

My 'Love Confident' above is an example of many relationships, sometimes when we are doing something wrong whether its ourselves or others involved we need to stop and do the opposite, because truth be told it is NOT just going to make the other person crazy Its going to damage us too.. Always know what you want and work towards getting it but you have a vital tool - that We all forget- OUR OWN INSTINCT!!!

And when you have this and you are sure to TRUST IT..You do not need to know where he is who with and why?! You CAN DO WITHOUT HIM and You can Love again and again and again because you love yourself each time you pick up when you fall!! Anything a man can do for you - or vice versa- YOU CAN DO BETTER YOURSELF! Because if you make yourself happy no one else needs to :) you just share it and who better than with the one you love.

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I*n*v*i*c*t*u*s 7 years ago

Psml!!! Too people like this exist? :) time is very limited due to my obligation to hubpages.. I don't know how I could fit anything else in!! :) *wink*

ps. I do have a fan I may send over to read this! psml (rhymes with mully) ;)

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Leptirela 7 years ago from I don't know half the time Author

hehehehehehehee you are both just soo funny---to be honest ive no idea what am doing here half the time ---Scullys fault --a little praise and IM OFF :))

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I*n*v*i*c*t*u*s 7 years ago

(((BIG PHAT PRAISE)) :0))))))) hows that...

Oh, sorry... you said a little... don't want to seem overwelming!! he he he

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Leptirela 7 years ago from I don't know half the time Author

lol :)))) go ooon keep me smiling its great what word do---even to strangers such power don't you think? hahaha

Brenda Scully 7 years ago

How to lose a man, mine is always disapearing, and tells me nothing...

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Leptirela 7 years ago from I don't know half the time Author

Ms Scully sweety .....punch it out of him (hehe i didnt tell you this) er.....NO! Dont do that ------ Do the same as him and let him wander what YOUR up to...:))) give him some of his own x lol

\Brenda Scully 7 years ago

o.k. i will

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I*n*v*i*c*t*u*s 7 years ago

lol...Brenda, isn't this memory lane! :))))

\Brenda Scully 7 years ago

must be long time ago eh

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I*n*v*i*c*t*u*s 7 years ago

I was so flyin high in a magical pool of elation! and you?? :) ~ I feel we are in the ebb aproaching another flow! :D

\Brenda Scully 7 years ago

absolutely..... am tired though

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I*n*v*i*c*t*u*s 7 years ago

I bet.. geez with that flight and it's late. we'll get the wave back, I am confident of that!

\Brenda Scully 7 years ago

we have it don't we...... i am still around..... geez is an expression used by bad company i am sure

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I*n*v*i*c*t*u*s 7 years ago

we do have it! *wink* :)))

\Brenda Scully 7 years ago

do you know bad company

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I*n*v*i*c*t*u*s 7 years ago

everyone knows bad company! :)

\Brenda Scully 7 years ago

EVERYONE.... I don't..... so how is life treating you.... fighting for this computer with grandchildren...daughter in law, son....... i will appreciate my peace when i get home, but for now i will share....

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prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

wow...great tips. thanks for share. I hope I am not getting crazy because of it...hahahaha

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LewisBa 6 years ago

hey I just looked at your post ..... heh how are you Minela .....

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stricktlydating 6 years ago from Australia

They're great tips! Loved reading this Hub!

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Leptirela 6 years ago from I don't know half the time Author

Thank you striktlydating :)))hehe it is a lil mad i admit :)

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Micky Dee 6 years ago

Make me Crazy! Thank you Leptirela!

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Leptirela 6 years ago from I don't know half the time Author

hahaha...Micky D. I was inspired once and look what it did to me.. heh...WE ARE ALL CRAZY! just takes time to admit it thats all :)PPP

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TheSloneGal 5 years ago

Well most of that is what a woman does but there are some men that do this same thing to their women just as much which make them crazy to and then the woman gets tiered of it and leaves the man.


If you have no trust then you have no love but if you have no love then you have no trust either. there must always be love first then the trust will follow if the love is strong enough.

Any ways that was a great hub and has lots of good things in it as well as truth, Thanks for this gave me a laugh and memory's as well hahahahah voted up from me. as well as funny and to bad there is not a truth button here as well. but useful will another one.

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Leptirela 5 years ago from I don't know half the time Author

Your absolutely right Slone gal :)

thank you for viewing and leaving a comment.


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rajan jolly 3 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

Good tips, Leptirela. Voted up/awesome.

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Leptirela 3 years ago from I don't know half the time Author

Thank you for taking time :)

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Raitu Disong 3 years ago

hi Leptirela!

You really know how to make a man go crazy lol!

Interesting, funny, awesome!!!

I enjoy reading this...

voted up :)

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Astra Nomik 3 years ago from Edge of Reality and Known Space

Well, it didn't make me go crazy but I did enjoy reading it anyway. :)

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