Man, You Are Old, Give It Up And Let Us Young People Take Charge- Well, I Say $%$#@%& To That

God, YOU'RE Old, Stop THIS, Get A Grip

To many young people, the idea of an old person acting youthful is totally inane & preposterous. They're of the school that once a person becomes old, he/she should settle down and/or start acting more appropriate to his/her age.
To many young people, the idea of an old person acting youthful is totally inane & preposterous. They're of the school that once a person becomes old, he/she should settle down and/or start acting more appropriate to his/her age.
Many young people believe that the late teens & twenties ARE periods when people should be adventurous,explorative, & as wild as they wish. They contend that once people leave those periods, it is time to grow up &/or become more settled in life.
Many young people believe that the late teens & twenties ARE periods when people should be adventurous,explorative, & as wild as they wish. They contend that once people leave those periods, it is time to grow up &/or become more settled in life.

As We Get Older, There's a Realization That Youth ISN'T LIMITED by Age

As people get older, they realize that the perceptions of old age that they had in their youth is total baseless. They know that  youthfulness isn't restricted to chronological age. In many cases, youthfulness TRANSCEND chronological age.
As people get older, they realize that the perceptions of old age that they had in their youth is total baseless. They know that youthfulness isn't restricted to chronological age. In many cases, youthfulness TRANSCEND chronological age.
There are people who refuse to let age preclude them from being attractive, romantic, & otherwise vibrant people. They take care of themselves physically, emotionally, mentally, & spirtually. They intend to be the very best people possible.
There are people who refuse to let age preclude them from being attractive, romantic, & otherwise vibrant people. They take care of themselves physically, emotionally, mentally, & spirtually. They intend to be the very best people possible.

Outmoded Paradigms Regarding Old Age......Exist Unfortunately

Many younger people believe that once a person becomes old, he/she adopt less risky behaviors, withdraw from society, & let young people be in charge. They believe that old age means retirement,sitting in a rocking chair, & getting OUT of the way.
Many younger people believe that once a person becomes old, he/she adopt less risky behaviors, withdraw from society, & let young people be in charge. They believe that old age means retirement,sitting in a rocking chair, & getting OUT of the way.
Many older people too have a negative perception of being old.They view being old means becoming uninvolved in the world.They see being old as retiring from life & living their remaining years in desperation, anticipating death &the afterlife.
Many older people too have a negative perception of being old.They view being old means becoming uninvolved in the world.They see being old as retiring from life & living their remaining years in desperation, anticipating death &the afterlife.

Old=Unfashionable, WITHOUT Style

To many people, old age signals the end of being interested in one's physicality. Old people, particularly women, are supposed to dress as dowdy and/or unobtrusive as possible. They are simply not considered to be fashionable.
To many people, old age signals the end of being interested in one's physicality. Old people, particularly women, are supposed to dress as dowdy and/or unobtrusive as possible. They are simply not considered to be fashionable.
Older/old people who dress fashionably are  told to tone it down & to dress more age appropriate.It seems to many people that being old & fashionable are paradoxes when such isn't the case at all.Being fashionable has NOTHING to do w/being old.
Older/old people who dress fashionably are told to tone it down & to dress more age appropriate.It seems to many people that being old & fashionable are paradoxes when such isn't the case at all.Being fashionable has NOTHING to do w/being old.

Old= Being Asexual

For many people, being old means the end of romance & intimacy. They feel that these two components are the purview of young people. After all, they contend old people's romantic lives are BEHIND them.
For many people, being old means the end of romance & intimacy. They feel that these two components are the purview of young people. After all, they contend old people's romantic lives are BEHIND them.
There are people who contend that it's ludicrous that older/old people have romantic &/or intimate lives. However, many older/old peope have romantic &/or intimate lives into their eighties & beyond if they are healthy.
There are people who contend that it's ludicrous that older/old people have romantic &/or intimate lives. However, many older/old peope have romantic &/or intimate lives into their eighties & beyond if they are healthy.

Old = Unattractiveness

There is a perception that once a person gets old, he/she loses all interest in his/her physical appearance. Many people contend that there is no viable reason why old people should be thus interested as the important aspects of their lives are OVER.
There is a perception that once a person gets old, he/she loses all interest in his/her physical appearance. Many people contend that there is no viable reason why old people should be thus interested as the important aspects of their lives are OVER.
Due to medical advancements & better nutrition, many older/old people are physically attractive longer & healthier, even into their advanced old age. Being old is NO excuse for being physically unattractive.
Due to medical advancements & better nutrition, many older/old people are physically attractive longer & healthier, even into their advanced old age. Being old is NO excuse for being physically unattractive.

Being Old Means Can't, NEVER More

Many older/old people feel that their life is bleak. They feel that there are no more chances  & opportunities.To them, all is gone. They begin to feel  & act old thus they eventually become old.
Many older/old people feel that their life is bleak. They feel that there are no more chances & opportunities.To them, all is gone. They begin to feel & act old thus they eventually become old.
Some old people succumb to negative paradigms re: old age. As a result, they atrophy physically, mentally & psychologically. They're mere shells of the adventurous, curious,&/or exciting people they were in their youth,not admitting they're such.
Some old people succumb to negative paradigms re: old age. As a result, they atrophy physically, mentally & psychologically. They're mere shells of the adventurous, curious,&/or exciting people they were in their youth,not admitting they're such.
There are older/old people who envy young people for the myriad opportunities that THEY no longer have. They become the living dead, living a desperate, purgatorial existence instead of fully embracing & appreciating life.
There are older/old people who envy young people for the myriad opportunities that THEY no longer have. They become the living dead, living a desperate, purgatorial existence instead of fully embracing & appreciating life.
Old is just an attitude, not an age. Being old should NEVER preclude one from continuing to explore, grow, & learn.  Old age SHOULD be the beginning of an exciting venture, instead of the END.
Old is just an attitude, not an age. Being old should NEVER preclude one from continuing to explore, grow, & learn. Old age SHOULD be the beginning of an exciting venture, instead of the END.

Yeah, I Am of A Certain Age But I Am Still ALIVE So Get OVER It Already!

I. You're NOT Young, YOU'RE..........OLD, Stop Acting Like THAT

Many young people scoff at the idea of older people acting youthfully. They further insist that once people reach a certain age, they should forget their youthful attitudes and/or adventures and start settling into old age. Many young people in their teens and twenties find older people who act young to be a source of amusement, if not scorn.

Such young people believe that the late teens and twenties are periods when people can be exceedingly adventurous, wild, and/or have all the crazy fun possible. They further assert that once people reach their thirties and beyond, it is time to settle down and become more conservative in their pursuits. They believe that those past their twenties who continue to act youthful and pursue youthful dreams are to be pitied. They assert that people reach their thirties and beyond, they should be mature enough to realize that it is time to discard youthful dreams and to enter the real world of grown ups.



II. As One Becomes Older, There is a Realization That Youth Doesn't Necessarily Mean Young

However, many young people change their perception regarding what it means to be old as they become older. They realize that the philosophy that they held in their youth regarding being old was totally and utterly baseless and nonsensical to say the least. As many people approach their forties, fifties, even sixties, they see that youthfulness is not restricted to chronological age. A few even contend that the concept of youthfulness even transcends chronological age.

They refuse to let age preclude from being vital people. They refuse to let their age prevent them from being attractive and romantic. They take interest in their appearance, dressing fashionably and take interest in themselves and the world around them. To them, the notion that person are too old to be attractive, romantic, and/or fashionable is a moot, if not preposterous, issue.



III. Outmoded Ideas Surrounding Old Age STILL Persists

Many younger people erroneously contend that once people get to be THAT age, they should adopt an older persona i.e. being risk averse and unconcerned about living. Young people are not the only ones who believe this way, there are many older adults who accept such a paradigm regarding older people. To them, being old means sitting in a rocking chair, retire from the world, and/or letting younger people take over. There are many people of the thought that old people should get out of the way and let younger people be in charge.

Many old people believe in the paradigm that being old means retirement from the world and becoming uninvolved in the world around them. They insist that they no longer can participate in the activities of their youth because they are of a certain age. If they act exuberant and joyful, they are told by well meaning family, relatives, friends, and/or associates to act their age and settle. In other words, they are told that because of their age, they no longer have anything to offer to society so they should give up on life. They are further informed to live out the remaining parts of their lives in quiet angst, only anticipating death and/or the afterlife.


IV. Old Means Unfashionable, Dowdy

Old people who dress fashionably and sexy are oftentimes derided by people who contend that fashion and sexiness should be the purview of the young. Messages are constantly conveyed that old people should dress "more befitting" of their age. There was one comedian who stated that women over a certain age have no business wearing sexy and stylish attire. This comedian maintained that older women should leave this type of fashion to their daughter and granddaughters. The comedian finally added that old women lived their lives already so they should be content and just settle for the rest of their lives.

Well this philosophy that old people, especially old women, should be matronly and/or dowdy is quite old-fashioned. In the past until the 1970s, there were difference in the mode of dress of young and old people. In the 1970s, it was quite distinctive the way a twenty year old dressed and the way a fifty year old , even a sixty year old would dress. Until recently, there were spoken and unspoken sociocultural expectations as to the type of fashion deemed age appropriate according to a specific age. Older/old people were expected to dress more subdued and/or conservatively than younger/young people who were expected to dress more loudly and/or colorfully. In the past, older/old people who dressed more fashionably were often accused of acting young and not their age.


V. Old Means Asexual

Many people are of the opinion that once one reaches old age, being romantic and/or sexual should be total non-issues. After all, they assert old people have lived their romantic and/or sexual lives; furthermore, romantic and/or erotic feelings belong to the young. In one documentary, a couple in their advanced years stated that their romantic life is quite active and fulfilling. The wife maintained that many young people are amazed, even nonplussed that they are romantic at an advanced stage of life.

Not only young people contend that it is ludicrous for old people to have sexual lives, many old people are of the same opinion. They maintain that once people reach old age, they should no longer be interested in romance, intimacy, and/or sex. They assert that those things belong to the young. With medicine, better nutrition, and exercise, old people have romantic lives, even in their eighties and beyond.



VI. Old Is Unattractive

There is the contention among many people that when people get old, they lose interest in their looks and/or other aspects of their physical appearance. After all, they maintain that being fastidious about one's appearance is a youthful concern and/or occupation because young person have myriad reasons in being attractive whether it is for romantic, personal, and/or career reasons. It is their reasoning that old people are or should be past any personal, romantic,and/or career concerns so being physically attractive is not a priority in their lives.

Older/old people are looking more physically attractive and/or youthful because of advancements in medicine, including preventive and/or corrective care. Being old is no longer an excuse for being physically unattractive. With advancements in medicine, there are also advancements in nutrition. Older/old people are healthier because of these two components. Many remain quite vital until their eighties and beyond. They are taking more scrupulous care of themselves throughout their lives which explains their youthful appearance and vigor. They contend that just because they are old, this is no reason not to be as vital, attractive, smart, and/or adventurous as possible. Unfortunately, many older/old people succumb to the old/unattractive paradigm.


VII. Old Means Can't, No More, NEVER More

Many older/old people contend that since they are old, their lives are behind them. They feel that they should no longer do anything and/or to fully engaged because of their age. They stop learning, growing and start to "act their age." They believe that they are old so they act and/or become old. Remember the adage that a person becomes what he/she thinks about. Well, since these people feel that they are too old to be full participants in this world, they gradually become the worst stereotype of older people. To them, most of their lives are behind them and they are too old to start and/or institute anything new, fresh, and exciting. They become mentally and/or psychologically stale to say the least.

Many older/old people atrophy as a result of succumb to negative age paradigms. They actually become quite resigned regarding being old. They believe that life is only for the young and once people approach old age, the life-script must be more age appropriate. Many people as they get older, transform from being adventurous, daring, and/or curious to settling and being a shell of what they once were. These are the same people who envy the young, wishing for their younger years instead of realizing they are still vital beings. Sadly, these older people become the living dead who are fearful, instead of fully embracing life until their last breath!


VIII. CONCLUSION

There is no limit to an older/old person being a vital member of society. Age is totally a non-issue when it pertains to be adventurous, curious, fashionable, and sexy. These components are totally unrelated to being old. Old age is what one makes of it. Being old should be never an excuse to give up on life and just to settle for its remnants. People were placed on this earth to be as vital as they can be before they pass on from their physical coil. Vitality, zestfulness, and youth are not only for young people but for all forward thinking, progressive souls who intend to FULLY LIVE until their last breath. Now, let's put on some green snakeskin boots and dance to Serpentine Fire by Kool and the Gang!

© 2012 Grace Marguerite Williams

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daFuj 4 years ago from Colorado Springs

Yeah! You tell 'em! I so agree with you and now that I am "elder", I REALLY agree! Living life the best you can each and every day is what it is all about!


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Ann1Az2 4 years ago from Orange, Texas

Well written! I have to tell you about my 92 year old friend - we "work" together at a volunteer clothing department. The other day, I saw a dress that I would have worn, but it didn't fit me (I'm 59 and much bigger than she is). It was her size. She looked at it and said it would make her look too old! My great laugh for the day - I love the woman! Thanks for giving us "elder" people a boost!


Kay 4 years ago

What about the stereotype that if someone is younger they are automatically more technologically savvy? There's a new guy in the office I work in who's younger (and connected outside the office to a powerful person so i have to watch what I say to him) and he always made "remarks about how this system or program iis "low tech" or this or that person is "low tech" and then he turns around and asks me questions about how to do this or that all the time. He doesn't even know how to do basic math in an excel spreadsheet. I let him know in a subtle way I didn't appreciate his hypocrisy and he backed off.

His boss is even funnier. She's mid 30s but she thinks she's a teenybopper and acts immature, and she's always saying how she needs a young person to fill this or that roll, presumably because young people are hipper and have more energy(?). She describes people by refering to their age: "He's a younger person" (said in an upbeat tone) or "He's an older person" (said in a dour tone). Yet she herself is starting to show her own age, and she's starting to get a double chin, and the fake tan she uses doesn't work on her neck because it doesn't stick to the wrinkles that go across, and like everyone else, she's getting thick in the middle. Denial ain't just a river in Egypt.

I believe that people who dis older people have a much harder time facing their own later years.


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gmwilliams 4 years ago from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York Author

Kay, thank you for your comments. Regarding the last comment-karma has its own intrinsic rewards, don't you think? Ahhhhh!


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Levertis Steele 4 years ago from Southern Clime

If a man and his wife want to be active until they are 110, that is their business and right. If an old person about 85 marries a 28-year old, that old person is dreaming and enjoying an old-age crisis, and the young spouse is likely enjoying the money and fine living. However, there may be an exception among 200 couples. I respect seniors highly, but reality is real.


Garifalia 4 years ago

Dear Mr. Williams,

Your article is very well phrased and is absolutely spot on! Now, it's only natural that young people feel this way (as you very well pointed out yourself). And yest it's an individual's right what he does with his life as long as it does not interfere with his neighbor. We all know that true knowledge of how the world functions comes with experience and age. They are simply not in that frame of mind yet. There's a Greek saying: "Where you are I've been and where I am you'll soon come"


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gmwilliams 4 years ago from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York Author

Amen to THAT!

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