Miss you mom and dad!

Coping and faith

Dealing with death of a loved one is never easy

I have been trying my best to lead a life filled with compassion, respect, patience, understanding, courage, joy, happiness, strength, honor, hope and forgiveness. I have never truly understood the dynamics of our lives and how we find ourselves learning, growing, working, parenting, and living our lives to be our very best. We all have a reason for being here and we are sometimes unsure of the paths we will take but we try to develop and achieve success, happiness, wealth and a family of our own. We all come into this world in the same way but our lives may be shaped very differently and our experiences come each and every day as we live and explore the world around us. If we are lucky enough we will grow up having loving parents who guide us and help teach us and give us the love, nurturing and encouragement we need so we can go out into the world and lead happy, productive and meaningful lives.

Life is a truly wonderful gift that we all must learn to treasure and respect. We must never lose sight of this. When we feel our lives are burdened or we feel alone and unloved we must draw from within and tap into an inner strength that we all have that will help us through the most difficult of times. I have grown to realize that we all will feel alone at times and that our emotions may get the best of us and sometimes we will feel overwhelmed and very unsure. At these times we will need to seek support and guidance to help us get through the pain and sadness we will encounter throughout our lives. No one can predict the future or what lies ahead. We all must live our lives and conduct ourselves in the best manner we can even when it seem things are out of control. We must also have faith, hope and courage to face the unknown.

One such unknown is the inevitable loss of a parent or a loved one. We live our lives each day expecting things to be similar each and every day we wake and that what we are accustomed to will not change for quite some time. This is not always the case as we surely will lose someone close to us. When we experience such loss it is one of the most difficult things we will have to bear and live through.

As I write this I can't help but think of the sadness I feel in my heart knowing both my mom and dad are gone and I will have to rely on my memory to remember their voices, their smiles, their hugs and their love and support they provided me throughout my life. I feel the tears streaming down my face when I think of the first time I learned of their deaths. It is so very difficult to hear those words and to deal with this harsh reality.

Tomorrow, April 16th is a very difficult time for us at it is the day I lost my dad in a terrible and very sad way. My dad was a very loving husband to mom and he was very hard working. He loved us all and he was a very kind and caring husband, father and grandfather. No one knows what goes on in someones mind or why they may suffer or be in physical or emotional pain. We all will experience ups and downs in our lives as we realize our lives are far from perfect but we try our best to always be strong and committed to living and doing our very best. When I learned that my dad had passed and the manner in which he died I was heart broken and in shock. Nothing can prepare you for the shock and pain you feel after learning such news. All I can say is that you must have a strong sense of character, a great deal of hope and a deep abiding faith in God to help you get through such sadness and tragedy.

Losing someone you love through suicide is a very emotionally painful reality that is hard to understand and cope with. We never will know what was going on in dad's mind and why he took his life in the end. It just makes you realize how fragile and unpredictable life is. We all try to be there for our parents, our children and our families and loved ones and should always feel comfortable in discussing things no matter how difficult they may seem. Life is precious and we must always remember where we came from and understand that we are not certain of anything but we still live our lives with the hope and the promise that we will all be here together for as long as we can no matter what and that when we lose someone close to us we will hopefully find an inner strength to carry on and remember them for as long as we live our lives. I live my life for my son who needs me and I try to be the best I can to support and love him as my mom and dad did for me.

Thank you mom and dad! I miss you both and I love you and am glad you are both together reunited in heaven.

Love always,

Your son, father to Matty, Maria's and my precious son.

Edward D. Iannielli III

The Rose sung by Bette Middler

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FGual 5 years ago from USA

I lost my dad when I was 21, and 40 years later I still remember that night. My heart goes out to you, God Bless.


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ediann 5 years ago Author

FGual, Thank you for your kind and reassuring words. It is very true what you say. My mom passed over 21 years ago and it is like a moment frozen in time as I can still vividly picture the day I found out and how I cried and cried. The same can be said about my dad. God Bless you and your family. I too am sorry for your loss. Ed


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JessMcCray 4 years ago from NYC

Beautifully written


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ediann 4 years ago Author

Thank you Jess! It comes from the heart!

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