Missing Michael Jackson - Is it Normal to Mourn a Celebrity's Death?

One of my Michael Jackson LPs
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Have You Ever Mourned a Celebrity's Death?

Someone recently asked a question about mourning celebrities. Do we mourn after celebrities die? While there has been mention of Michael Jackson, I haven't found too many people who really mourned his death as I have, although I'm sure there are more out there. Now, when I say the word "mourn," I don't mean that I mourn Michael Jackson's death in the same way I would a friend or family member's. Of course, the loss of someone we actually know in person is deeper to us.

Still, I grew up with Michael Jackson, so to speak. He was such an icon--the King of Pop! I knew his music, and as I grew older I watched his career, and, yes, his ups and downs, I survived the scandals, wondered about his guilt or innocence, but was at the same time awed at his seeming naivety and trust and genuineness. I held on to that feeling through it all. Something in me never condemned him.


Jackson's Comeback Tour

Boy, I looked forward to Michael's comeback tour. I was curious to see if he still had it--the voice, the dance moves, the command of the stage. I wanted to see if he still made me want to get up and do the moonwalk with him when I saw him move across the stage. To this day, I can put on his music and get my unmotivated self to start cleaning house with some actual pep. Now and then, I'll stop to do a little dance move, with or without my broom, with the dog looking on with that quizzical head cock that he gives me sometimes.

Have you seen the movie that was made after he died? Watching the movie that showed his preparation for his great comeback tour made me so sad. He was a person just like you and me. You can watch that movie and see how hard he worked and how in love he was with his work. You can see how he treated his employees and dancers, and how they responded back to him. He treated them like equals, respected them, and they showed their appreciation back. He talked about his new tour leaving a positive effect on the world. I believe that he really wanted that. I'm glad I have that movie to go back to, to see Michael Jackson perform when I need a "fix," but how I wish he were still around to do the real thing.


A Troubled Life

Sure, Michael Jackson had his share of troubles, just as we all have, perhaps some of which he brought on himself. People made fun of him for his effeminate traits, even speculating that his children weren't really his biological children. Look at them! If they aren't his children, then they had plastic surgery to look like him--come on, people! And as for his own excessive plastic surgeries. I do wish he had never changed that nose beyond recognition, I'll tell you that. Look at him in the red jacket from Thriller, and he looked great. I had that poster from Teen Beat on my wall along with the Billie Jean pic. A handsome young man he was.

And the really bad rumors about Jackson? I won't confirm them. None of us know the truth about accusations made against him. I don't know if he ever molested any children. I'd like to think that he didn't, that in all his naivety he truly just wanted to give them some happy times and spend time with them at the Neverland Ranch. At times, Jackson seemed--and talked--like such a child himself. My heart believes that he was so simple that people couldn't understood that he simply liked children and enjoyed the same things that they did. I know there are the doubters, and I understand that. But I have to go with the gut feelings that have led me all these years. Perhaps I just choose to believe what I believe about Michael Jackson. Then so be it. I'm not going to speculate any more than I already have, and I'm not going to judge.

You Are Not Alone: The Softer Side of Michael

Thanks, Mom, for understanding....

My mom sent me the most understanding email after Michael Jackson's death. She said something to the effect that she knew that it hurt me, as I grew up with Jackson as an icon, much like she grew up in the same way with Elvis Presley. This was, to me, incredibly insightful, as I hadn't even mentioned to her the surprising sadness I was experiencing after his death. Thanks, Mom. She understood what the celebrity might have meant to my growing up, even though he hadn't been a part of hers.

So, with everything, I just can't help it. After all this time, I still mourn Michael Jackson. He was only 50 years old and had a lot more talent to share with the world. The child in me mourns him, and the adult in me misses him, too. So, yes, I will admit it. I mourn for Michael Jackson and wish so much that he were still here.

Rest in peace, Michael. (August 29, 1958 – June 25, 2009)

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I always loved the "Beat It" video!

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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL

MJ left us with lots of memories and music. I don't mourn him even though I was and still am a fan. I'm a bit bummed that he died on my birthday and the same day as Farrah Fawcett who I'm also a fan of. MJ's music will always live on and his children will be entertaining us soon enough. Rock on MJ! Voted UP Grammar Geek!:)


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Gemini Fox 4 years ago

Loved Michael Jackson, too! Loved his dance moves and a lot of his classics.

On the one hand, it's hard to feel sympathy for celebrities because they have so much but, on the other hand, when you see where someone like Michael Jackson or Whitney Houston end up, it's hard not to feel somewhat sad.


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Victoria Lynn 4 years ago from Arkansas, USA Author

Sunshine, I need to add his birth and death date, I think. Glad you mentioned that. I liked Farrah Fawcett, too. Thanks for the awesome comments and vote up! Rock on!


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Cagsil 4 years ago from USA or America

Hey Victoria, I mourn the loss of a human being, but I don't do it because he was an icon or celebrity. He did make an impact on the world and that's shown throughout his album sales, his work around the world and his status. You wrote a pretty cool hub on him. Thank you for sharing. Voted up! :)


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Deborah Brooks 4 years ago from Brownsville,TX

I grew up with Michael Jackson too.. I remember he started with his brothers as the Jackson Five.. they were so good and so cute..He grew and only got better in all his music and videos.. Yes I miss him too.

great hub

voted up

Debbie


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2besure 4 years ago from Charlotte, North Carolina

Girl, don't get me to crying again....Michaelllll


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Daxman 4 years ago from The Netherlands

1996 Amsterdam - The Netherlands - History Tour

12 yrs old back then, stole money from mom, went to the Amsterdam Arena to wait in line, pleaded to a guy to tell the ticket-lady we were with him (underage and alone), when we got in and the show started it was absolute magic and well worth being grounded for :) Michael will remain the king of pop forever.


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Victoria Lynn 4 years ago from Arkansas, USA Author

Gemini, I appreciated his great talent and enjoyed watching him. I feel sorry for the way he ended up, or for anyone who ends up that way, celebrity or not. Thanks for the comments!


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Victoria Lynn 4 years ago from Arkansas, USA Author

Thanks, Cags! I mourn the loss of any tragic end, not just celebrities, but I do miss his musical presence, and perhaps his passing reminds me of childhood with nostalgic. Thanks for reading!


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brandrocker 4 years ago

Kudos to you not only because you have created a great obituary of Michael Jackson, but for your opinion about his family life, all that odd allegations against him.

And BTW I read a report that even Google server was surprised to receive lots of hits for search term "Michael Jackson".

And it is shocking indeed. The world will never ever see such an incredible talent.


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AEvans 4 years ago from SomeWhere Out There

I love Michael Jackson and so talented. Sometimes I find myself playing his music or going to youtube to see his videos. Thanks for a thoughtful and well written hub. ((Big Hugs)) to you , Michael would be proud of these thoughtful words. :) Thumbs up and shared! :)


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Victoria Lynn 4 years ago from Arkansas, USA Author

Deborah--He just had so much talent. It's sad to see him gone so soon. Thanks for reminiscing with me. :-)


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Victoria Lynn 4 years ago from Arkansas, USA Author

Oh, 2besure, I didn't mean to make you cry! :-)


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Lord De Cross 4 years ago

Hi Victoria,

Michael is guilty of me breaking my assets in learning that moonwalk back in 84. So I was 'off the wall' since 79. Gladly I 'wanted to rock with life' all night..! Never thought that billy jean wasn't actuallu a jelly bean..! But Whoaah, The way he made me feel, was 'Bad' Who's bad??

LORD


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Victoria Lynn 4 years ago from Arkansas, USA Author

Daxman--Oh, I bet it was totally worth it! What an experience to see Michael Jackson in concert!


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Victoria Lynn 4 years ago from Arkansas, USA Author

brandrocker--I think Michael Jackson will always be googled. Yes, shocking, I agree.Thanks for the cool comments.


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Victoria Lynn 4 years ago from Arkansas, USA Author

Thanks, AEvans. Knowing he would be proud of what I wrote is a great compliment. Cool.


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teaches12345 4 years ago

He made a lot of people happy and was a caring person. What a talented musician and singer! Thanks for the trip down memory lane and the posting of the Beat It Video.


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Victoria Lynn 4 years ago from Arkansas, USA Author

You are so funny and adorable, my lord! Love your comments!


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thejovial 4 years ago from United States

I remember the day when Michael Jackson passed away and fans from all cultures got together to celebrate his music in the streets. Michael Jackson had that special ability to bring people together regardless of their differences.


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rLcasaLme 4 years ago from Dubai, United Arab Emirates

I did not mourn but I was deeply saddened upon his departure on this earthly life. I'm a big fan ever since I was a kid. I sing his songs and still does.

When his death was announced on the radio, I couldn't believe it. I thought he's going to live forever. I did not feel the guy's absence for months. Even though I know he's no longer around, I'm really not bothered that much at all. I thought I had to be. I really thought he still lives on. Strange, it is really.

His music, his legacy, the memories, I thank him for all that.

I'm sure he now enjoys all the greatness, all the glory, all the generosity that God had bestowed unto him now that he's with Him.


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Victoria Lynn 4 years ago from Arkansas, USA Author

You're welcome, teaches! Love that Beat It video! Glad you enjoyed the memories.


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Victoria Lynn 4 years ago from Arkansas, USA Author

thejovial--True what you say about MJ bringing people together. I think he wanted to do that, too!


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Victoria Lynn 4 years ago from Arkansas, USA Author

rLcasaLme--You're right in that MJ's legacy lives on. That part of him wil lnever die. Great comments--thanks!


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winbo 4 years ago

Always love you MJ.....


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ALUR 4 years ago from USA

I love those that have struggled and left behind a legacy. We often miss the souls that showed us promise regardless of their personal personas. We relate to them by their lyrics and opening a bridge between false reality and mysticism.

I only wish they understood their own powers and didn't resolve to become ones that have passed, including Whitney Houston


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Victoria Lynn 4 years ago from Arkansas, USA Author

winbo--Nice sentiment. :-)


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Victoria Lynn 4 years ago from Arkansas, USA Author

ALUR--I like what you said about false reality and mysticism. Yes, Whitney Houston, too, is sad. Thanks for your comments!


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heavenleigh707 4 years ago from The Invincible Heart of Neverland

Dear Victoria Lynn - Thank you for stopping by on my hub so that I could find yours and you! Beautiful! Thank you for your thoughts and wonderful writing. I had to smile when I saw your shout out to your mom for being understanding. I was the one who called my dad when Elvis died. Thought he already knew, but he didn't. He was heartbroken about that. It is about growing up with them and how much they were a part of our lives. Great Hub! Thank you for linking to mine. I'm going to do the same with yours. :)


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Victoria Lynn 4 years ago from Arkansas, USA Author

heavenleigh--We're so like-minded on this topic! Interesting about your dad and Elvis, too. Thanks for the link, too!


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TheKatsMeow 4 years ago from Canada

Just today I was listening to Michael Jackson, and thinking about how I missed him, I typed that into google search and your Hub popped up. Thanks for sharing your feelings about MJ, I really enjoyed reading this Hub and it made me feel less sad. I have never felt sad about any other celebrity passing.


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Victoria Lynn 4 years ago from Arkansas, USA Author

TheKatsMeow--I can totally relate. I feel so sad, still, about his death. That's cool that your google search brought up this hub. VERY cool! Glad you read this!


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heavenleigh707 4 years ago from The Invincible Heart of Neverland

Much love to you Victoria! It's lovely that people still feel his love - and miss his presence. His spirit is all around us. I'm so grateful for that. Thank you again for writing this. :)

Yes KatsMeow - no other celebrity death has affected people in the way that Michael's has. A very powerful spirit. :)


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Victoria Lynn 4 years ago from Arkansas, USA Author

heavenleigh--I, too, like finding people who feel the way you describe. Well said!!!


Ashley 4 years ago

Deserves the 'legend' status.

I'm not a big music 'fan', but MJ, WOW. I loved him, & I still do. Such a super person, caring & gentle. & in terms of his career, he was a genius. I still get upset. Love you always MJ. You had an amazing impact on all of us.

x


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Victoria Lynn 4 years ago from Arkansas, USA Author

I hear ya, Ashley. You expressed my sentiments exactly.


James A. Miles 3 years ago

May I suggest you watch an Episode of the series "Castle" titiles "Famous Last Words" where Castle, and Becket try to find a suspect in The murder of a Singer, as Castle's Daughter is saddened by the loss of her idol.

In the Episode Ceastle helps ease Alexis' pain by relating to her how she felt when John Lennon died.

I higly recommend you watch it, and I know how you feel I fet the same way when I heard of the death of Thuy Trang from "Mighty Morphin' Power Rangers, I can totally relate.

Micheal Jakson was a genius.


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Victoria Lynn 3 years ago from Arkansas, USA Author

James A. Miles--Thanks so much for your kind words. I would love to see that episode of Castle. That's a show that I do enjoy, and it would be neat to see how Castle deals with the issue with his daughter. I'm glad I'm not alone with those feelings. Thanks for understanding!


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angel4967 3 years ago from Nevada

I can remember exactly 3 times I cried and still feel sadness of a celebrity passing. John Lennon, Andy Gibb and Elisabeth Glaser. Because of my music background and they were my absolute favorites it was tragic and shocking at the same time they were both so young. Elisabeth became a friend when I did some work for her Pediatric Aids Foundation and I didn't cry for her right away, we all knew it was coming. The tears came when the rag mags started shredding her. She led such a beautiful tragic life, they had no right, even if it was "to sell papers". I have since gotten (much, much) older and have my share of sadness when someone famous leaves us, especially too soon, but I have grown to accept this is part of our life that we have no control over and sooner or later all will pass. Great story. Voted up.


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Victoria Lynn 3 years ago from Arkansas, USA Author

angel4967--I think Michael Jackson has hit me the hardest, since I grew up with him as one of my teen heart throbs. :-) I guess I wasn't familiar with Elisabeth Glaser. It's neat that you got to know her on a personal level. Thanks for sharing your story.


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angel4967 3 years ago from Nevada

Andy Gibb was my heart throb and John Lennon was my inspiration. I totally understand!


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Victoria Lynn 3 years ago from Arkansas, USA Author

Thanks, angel. That means a lot!


lia 2 years ago

In youtube, we can find he is probably alive. Do you believe it? I believe it.


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Victoria Lynn 2 years ago from Arkansas, USA Author

lia--I saw that performance they showed of him on some awards show the other night. Wow. It's amazing what can be done with technology. I so wish Michael Jackson were still really alive!!! It was great to watch him!


rayann jackson 6 months ago

i miss MJ so much i can't stop thinking about him i will never forget him


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Victoria Lynn 5 months ago from Arkansas, USA Author

I agree. I was so looking forward to the tour he was working on.

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