My Brother Joey

My dad loved to sing, this was at our parent's 45th wedding anniversay, they were married 52 yrs.
My dad loved to sing, this was at our parent's 45th wedding anniversay, they were married 52 yrs. | Source

Hello readers. Today is Valentine's day, Feb 14, 2012. I have to write this hub about my brother Joey because what he did today was so special to me, and special to my Mom. I called my family members today, as I was with my Mom, and I had sensed she was sad and lonely today, it being her first Valentine's as a widow. I told all my siblings to please remember to call Mom today or bring flowers. I had bought my Mom one red rose and I really wanted her to have a great day today and not be sad.

Well, as usual, Joey comes to the rescue. A few hours later, I get a call from him, asking me to go to the local florist so he could spend $50 on the most beautiful bouquet I've ever seen, letting me pick it out, just asking that there be 6 roses, and he sent the money over the phone to the florist.

Even though my Mom denied being sad because of her being a widow today, I knew she really was because she was making calls to the local church complaining how they had not given her the dates for the masses she's having offered for the repose of my father's soul. She was quite upset on the phone with her friend Gladys.

Valentine's Day is a tough day for many, but I think especially if you're a recent widow. Anyways, I was so excited to be told I could go pick out a beautiful bouquet, worth $50! It just put the icing on the cake for my Mom's day, and she was so happy.


So, thinking of this, I thought I'd write a hub on Joey, my brother. I wanted to point out the things he did for my dad because I think he deserves the credit. :-) I will be talking about the three years when my dad was sick, before he passed away on November 30, 2011. It hasn't been a long time for us, but I feel ready to talk about it. Joey is not the only one in my family who has been super to my mom and dad, but this one's for Joe! So here we go!

So, let's talk about what Joey did for my dad, because that in itself is pretty incredible!

Getting the local barber to make a house call
Getting the local barber to make a house call | Source
Bringing laughter into dad's last days..
Bringing laughter into dad's last days.. | Source
Picture of my parents at the rehab dad was in
Picture of my parents at the rehab dad was in | Source

Making An Old Man Happy

I never quite understood the bond between Joe and my dad because I was not close to my dad most of my life. My brother Joey was named after my dad's favorite brother, Joseph, our favorite uncle who was always so generous and nice.

Joey also looks alot like my dad did when he was younger, he has the same platnim blonde hair that my dad used to have. Anyways, I guess Joey understood my dad in ways that I did not, and the two of them had some kind of comradery, and got closer as the years went on. Joey really knew how to make my dad laugh! My dad really supported in his personal endeavors, and Joe I think found that invaluable in his life, and so he really went all out to support dad in his last years. Not to mention they had a lot in common, both working for the Post Office and being great at self advocating for themselves and others.

What kinds of stuff did Joe do?

Well, Joey has a really funny sense of humor. He's quite wacky I say at times! LOL! He would visit my dad in the hospital and sleep over on the chair or get a cot for a few days overnight and keep dad company. He had a ball flirting with the nurses and telling them how wonderful they were, making sure dad got good care. He brought a big cigar into the hospital with him and took a picture of dad with it in his mouth, as my dad always loved to smoke cigars and couldn't anymore of course.

I don't remember all the things Joe did, I just know he spent months of his time flying from Minnesota to stay with dad when dad was ill. Dad loved Joe's company.

A few days before dad went into the hospital for the last time, my dad was sad, and he was with me, my Mom, and my sister. I wanted to cheer him up, and to get him to so smile for a photo I said, "Dad, Joey's coming to visit soon! Smile for Joey!" And Dad did give a big smile. Whatever thoughts Joe and Dad shared in their long conversations together I'll never know, but yes they had a special bond.


This is one of the songs dad liked alot

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mary of bethany 4 years ago

Nice job Rose!


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blondey 4 years ago Author

Thanks Mary! I appreciate you commenting on this! :)


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Fennelseed 4 years ago from Australia

This is a very special tribute to your brother acknowledging his bond with your Dad. I am sorry for your loss. My Dad passed away in 2007 after spending several months in a nursing home so I have some idea of what you have been through. I am glad you have strong family support for each other. Thank you for sharing these special moments.


BIll 4 years ago

Very nice.


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blondey 4 years ago Author

Hi Fennelseed,

How are you? Thank you. :)

Hi BIII, Thank you so much for your comment! :)


Joseph Timothy 4 years ago

I sure do miss my Dad in days like these. My Dad was so smart that he seemed to want to have a close bond. I think my Dad admired some qualities in me.

I spoke very freely as thoughts came to me. I understood my Dad's sense of humor. I was not shy in helping my Dad, by no means. I recall my Dad always wanting to "Help" with ANY problems i had when i was younger. and even as an adult. I know i reminded my Dad of his beloved brother Joe IN MANY WAYS i had been told. As long as my Dad was around i could help the family along and with him with any problems as i could. My Dad made me feel welcomed and that welcoming was a love so helpful and treasured. How lucky and blessed i am to have had a Dad that i knew cared and loved my with all my faults.


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blondey 4 years ago Author

Joe,

I'm so glad you commented on this (yesterday).

I've been very angry lately. I didn't know which loss I was angry/sad about but now I can see how much of a loss losing dad is.

I had put him out of my mind with other things.

I hope you can 'fill in' for him Joe, because I feel like our family is lost without dad.

We have become distant it feels like as he held us together. I think he was the strong one (I know now very well) in the marriage. He was very strong in many ways. It's weird. But I'm glad we can talk about it.


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blondey 22 months ago Author

Joe,

Things have gotten better thank God.

But this is a good memory- so I republished it.

God bless you, Joe- keep up the good work and I love you in a way like Dad- I hope you know

I had a nice dream of him cooking roast beef! recently :)

--Rose


Joey 22 months ago

I never get tired of this post!


Louise Amrhein 22 months ago

LOVE YOU DAD!!! MISS YOU, YOU ARE PRAISING THE LORD IN HEAVEN, FOR HIS GRACE AND MERCY UNTO YOU, WHO HAVE TRUSTED AND RECEIVED JESUS CHRIST, INTO YOUR HEART 6 MONTHS PRIOR TO YOUR DEATH, WHEN MARY, YOUR OLDEST DAUGHTER, CAME TO VISIT YOU, AN ANGEL IN DISGUISE TO GIVE YOU ONE LAST TIME, TO RECEIVE JESUS INTO YOUR HEART!!! I WILL NEVER FORGET YOUR COMMENT ON THE PASSION OF THE CHRIST, HOW REMARKABLE IT WAS, WAS YOUR COMMENT TO HAVE SOMEONE WRITE SUCH A MOVIE, DURING THIS GENERATION, IN SPITE OF ALL THE PERSECUTION. HE WEPT WHEN HE WATCHED MEL GIBSON'S THE PASSION OF THE CHRIST! AMEN! HE TOLD ME HE WANTED TO LEAVE CANTON, MA AND I PRAYED BY HIS BEDSIDE, GOD LOOKED TO ANSWER HIS PRAYER, HE WAS READY TO DEPART THIS CORRUPTIBLE, TO HAVE AN INCORRUPTIBLE BODY. DAD I SAID AT NORWOOD HOSPITAL BEFORE HE WAS PUT ON A BREATHING DEVICE, IN THE EMERGENCY DEPT. SAID HE WAS GOING TO HEAVEN. I WAS SURE HE KNEW, AND THIS WAS A CONFIRMATION THAT HE WAS 100% SURE. I LOVE MY FAMILY AND I HOPE ANYONE WHO HAS ANY DOUBT WILL BE 100% SURE SOON, YOU WILL BE SAVED FROM WRATH. PLEASE LISTEN TO 23 MINUTES IN HELL, WRITTEN BY BILL WIESE, ON YOU TUBE, BE PATIENT, BEGINNING IS INTRODUCTORY, THEN YOU WILL EXPERIENCE WHAT BILL WIESE


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blondey 22 months ago Author

Thank you, Joey for coming back and commenting on this article! It's in your honor and Dad's ;) And everyone else too who helped :) all of us ten kids and Mom.


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blondey 22 months ago Author

Thank you Louise, for your moving and beautiful comment! DAd sure is praising God in heaven for HIs mercy and love! Amen! sista in Christ!

God bless you for showing Dad the way too...for printing those bible verses for him to read in his room! YOu helped A LOT!! xoxoxoxo


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blondey 22 months ago Author

Love you Dad! Thinking of you! xoxoxo HUGS!


Joseph T. 22 months ago

When Louise said that Dad said he wanted to leave Canton,

I think he meant going into a rehabilitation place- not leave the world.

Anyhow- he was only suppose to last a year, and with help he made it to 4 1/2 years!


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blondey 22 months ago Author

Yes, Joseph , she meant he wanted to leave Canton to a rehab.

True :)


Louise Amrhein 21 months ago

Thanks Rose for posting the video on youtube. and the nice comment.


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blondey 20 months ago Author

You're welcome, :)


Joey 10 months ago

Please don’t speak for Louise. Louise reported that “Dad wanted to leave Canton.” She interpreted it as he was ready.

Why did she wait so long to get him to Norwood Hosp? Months went by, then I ended up calling an ambulance while I was in Minnesota.

It was too late.

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