Open Letter to Cancer

Letter Writing is Therapeutic

You might be wondering, "Who writes a letter to cancer?" Well, I do. I have been writing letters for as far back as I can remember. I write letters to show appreciation, to show I care, for celebratory reasons.etc...

I also wrote letters to my parents to remind them to feed me since I was a middle child and often times I was forgotten about. But my parents always remembered to feed me, so my mission was accomplished.

Letters have a way of always living on. I still have letters that I had written and received while I was in school. Today we call that texting. I have no idea what it will be called next, but I am curious to find out.

When you write a letter you are sharing a piece of yourself. You are sharing a piece of your heart. You are expressing your inner most thoughts and feel relieved and pleased once the letter is complete. Some letters might be written and burned for therapeutic reasons.

Some letters might be to break off a relationship...never do that. That is just tacky. I know that now, I didn't know that back then. I actually wrote a letter to clear my mind and make a decision about the fate of a past relationship. I meant to burn the letter and at the same time I wrote a letter to my parents to remind them not to forget me when they left for our family vacation. Well, I ended up burning my parents letter and giving my parents my boyfriends letter and since they didn't like him they gave him the letter...oh my, it was an uncomfortable situation. But he and I moved on and luckily my parents remembered to take me on the family vacation.

My letter writing continued into my adulthood. It became a part of my life. So when cancer entered my life via my mother's diagnosis of colon cancer in 1997 and my husbands diagnosis of prostate cancer in 2008, I thought it was time to write a letter to cancer.

My mother was given 6 months to live after her initial diagnosis. She lived for 6 years. She fought hard. She was a trooper. My husband was given "death sentences" a few times, but it seems like he has more lives than a cat. He is more like a mountain lion.

I learned so much from my mother's and husband's battles that I felt it was time to share these lessons with other warriors and their loved ones.

Trust is important during a cancer journey, the doctors do the best they can with the knowledge that they have. There are always new discoveries and treatments to assist in your cancer battle. If you are given a death sentence, fight on. Do not give up.

Consider writing letters to de-stress. To make sense of the turmoil within your mind. Perhaps one of your letters will become a book one day. Imagine that!

Letter to cancer...

To Cancer; I'll get right to the point, you suck. There is nothing nice to say about you. You are mean, cruel and vile. Your destruction needs to be halted. Immediately. Realistically that isn't possible since you are a money maker for the pharmaceutical companies. You also keep oncologists employed. You continue to reap in the profits for hospitals even if they are a non-profit hospital.

What is possible is that modern medicine is slowly learning how to beat you. Scientists, technicians and laboratory geniuses are enhancing medical treatments which in turn allow cancer patients to live longer with a better quality of life. I bet that irritates you.

You are the biggest enemy to many. I wish nothing but the worst for you. I've witnessed you destroy loved ones by taking them to their knees. I've also witnessed total strangers bond due to your ugliness, but you won't get a kudos for that, that is due to patients and their families bonding to fight you back. You see there is something you might not be aware of...we, the people, are on this glorious earth to help one another, not hurt one another. You, while trying to inflict pain and agony might think you have the upper hand, but you do not. You are just a thing that is slowly being extinguished, not totally because like I said above, you bring in major bucks.

For instance, cigarettes are bad for the health. The government continues to tax them so the common people could no longer afford to smoke and will quit. They show TV commercials to scare smokers into kicking the habit and also scare young ones not to start smoking. But yet the government does nothing about stopping production of tobacco! Why? Because they are a money maker. The government doesn't give a crap about the smokers getting cancer! Why? Smoking and cancer together is a winning combination to line their pockets and the pockets of their buddies, the pharma and tobacco companies. By the way, all four of you suck! I get very ticked off when I feel injustice is being done. And, no, I do not suffer from any mental disorders, but you make me feel like I might be losing my mind at times, yet I always bounce back. I am stronger than you could ever imagine.

This letter is being written to you from an advocate's perspective. I've learned many lessons along my journey as a caregiver, cheerleader and supporter. And I take my job very serious. At times until I might get a bit delirious. But I do not back down.

A little about myself...I fight for what I believe in, I do not to stand in the sidelines and just whine and complain. I get things done, I don't just rely on others to speak up for me. I believe in myself and I know that with each battle I fight or help someone I care for fight, we could win the war and make a difference for others. I have faith in my passion and trust that my heart is leading me in the best direction.

A little about yourself...you suck.

The lessons I have learned have changed me for the better. You've caused worry, stress, anxiety, heartache and I refuse to let you control my emotions any longer. You see, I am a nice person. I refuse to allow you to make me bitter or mean. I just don't operate that way. I always look for the positive in every negative. I always find one too. Even when dealing with cancer. Each and every day that we rise and shine is a gift. You do not have the power to take that gift away from any one. If you happen to succeed in doing so, it wasn't your power that did so...it was the fact that the patient just didn't have the strength to fight, but they will get that strength back and then kick your ass once again.

I never imagined the destruction and chaos you could cause until I entered into your vicious world filled with turbulence and terror. You probably do not like yourself much. Or do you enjoy the power you have over others? It might surprise you to know that your power isn't as strong as you suppose it might be.

It makes my heart happy to see patients receiving chemo treatments while laughing and sharing funny stories. That would probably annoy you which makes me even more happy. You do not have the upper hand. Deal with it.

We are not put on this earth to see
through one another
We are put on this earth to see
each other through

-Gloria Vanderbilt

Lessons I've learned

I've learned that you not only affect the patient but you affect their loved ones, their friends and families. You are ruthless and can often take matters to the extreme. I witnessed my mother's battle. You were very mean to her. She lost the battle but she died a hero, she never backed down.

I'm still here to fight my mother's fight and advocate for her. As my husband and I continue our fight, we vowed not to allow you to win. Our journey is not all about you. We find humor in all situations. We ridicule you and talk behind your back. You are a big bully and bullies never win.

I've learned that I shouldn't let my guard down because you are sneaky and hide out waiting to attack again without notice. Have you ever considered the aftermath of your damage? How you have drained people not only of their emotions and strength but you've also exhausted their life savings. You have no clue, do you? You just set out on a mission to destruct and try your best to succeed. I applaud the survivors who beat you. They kicked you to the curb...did it hurt? I hope so.

I've learned that we should expect the worst but always hope for the best with each new test, exam, xray and doctor visit. It's also important to make memories along the way because we never know what will happen from one day to the next. Support teams are crucial. Whether they are family members or support groups discovered elsewhere. Accepting life one day at a time is mandatory. There will be good days and bad days. Relish the good days and learn from the bad days.

I've learned that some people are scared and fear you. I used to fear you, I don't anymore. I just detest you, that's simpler for me to do. There's no point in complaining to others, or whining or saying "why me" because no one really wants to hear it. Sympathy actually makes a person weak. Instead I've learned to nudge victims of yours forward and remind them to hold their head high. It's vital to have patience with cancer patients. You might be trying your best to take them down, but I bet you didn't expect someone like me to bring them right back up. Yes, you have some competition, are you feeling a bit inadequate?

I've learned to embrace the small miracles. The tiniest bit of hope is always welcome and appreciated. Each day that we arise (even though you are festering in someone's body) it's still a gift that you could never take away! I've never heard one nice thing about you. Not one. You suck, is my favorite thing and I hear that quite often.

I've learned to always ask questions. There are no silly questions! Doctors might think they have all the answers but no one knows your body better than you do. Yes, cancer even you don't have no control at times. There are new medicines available every day that can whip your ass. Maybe the doctor isn't aware of them yet and I could teach him something new to help another patient. I bet you don't want us to know all the updated potential treatments but guess what we have access to many new updates. Google rocks, but you suck!

I've learned that we should always take a family or friend to each appointment. No matter how much strength the patient says they have, an extra set of ears is extremely important. While the patient speaks with the doctor, the team mate could take notes in a journal. A detailed journal is crucial. I call mine the cancer bible. I never enter a doctor's office without it. I have supplied information to doctors before they even received it in their personal file. Yes, they were a bit shocked, but doctors only have so much time allotted per patient, I'm their helping hand.

I've learned to appreciate the medical workers. The nurses, techs and PA's. They are human. They are usually working in an understaffed environment and might seem a bit frazzled at times. I go out of my way to make them feel appreciated with a compliment or a smile. I've witnessed them being yelled at by stressed out patients and rushing doctors for something that wasn't even their fault. I place myself in their shoes and treat them as I'd want to be treated. Hey cancer...not even you could make me a hateful person! The more damage you cause the more strength I obtain to help others fight you! Did I mention that you suck?

I've learned that even though at times you might be pleased because you think patients and family members have lost control and are so frightened that they consider throwing in the towel, but you better not start celebrating yet. What you don't know is that even though these gentle souls might temporarily think they have lost all sense of control, they truly haven't...they bounce back after a short period and come back swinging. You see, warriors are stronger than you think. Their determination overrides your cruel acts of vengeance. They realize that it is okay to not be strong all the time. They lean on friends and family to hold them up. They ask for prayers and guidance. A simple hug or fist bump can give them the motivation they need to carry on. So, in reality, you are just a nuisance who is trying to rob them of their precious moments. but, once again, you fail.

I've learned that you find out who your friends are when fighting cancer. You also discover which family members can take the heat. It just might surprise you as to who has your back and who doesn't. Take my mother for instance, before she got sick her phone was constantly ringing while I was visiting her for the weekend. Then she got sick. I began to notice that her phone rang less. Her good friends didn't stop by as often. Sure, my mother was hurt...she was battling the beast and her friends couldn't deal with it. Maybe people think you are contagious, or just don't want to be bothered, or do not know how to act...but I have learned the strong people remain at your side during the journey. My mother had her kids and grandkids by her side. She died knowing she was loved. And that cancer sucks.

Then you have the families who no matter how much you try to keep them up to date on treatments and how their son/brother/father is doing...they just seem distant and can not be bothered. This is my husband's family. We reap what we sow. I stand by those words as that is a lesson I learned. You can not control the actions of others and you can not hope they finally realize the wrong they have done. You just wish them the best and hope they never, ever have to deal with you rearing your ugly head because obviously they can not handle you.

Dear Cancer, You Suck.
Dear Cancer, You Suck.

Never stop learning...

I've learned to listen and to learn from other cancer patients journeys. First of all I'm thankful for the survivors who are still around to share their survival stories and help me so that I could help others. Their stories inspire me to inspire others. Their stories give me hope to pass on hope to others. Victims continue to fight you daily, your strength is weakening.

I've learned to laugh more. Mostly at you! Like "in your face" kind of laugh. For a while you robbed me of my humor but it came back with a vengeance! It's a gift that I share with others who need a laugh. Laughter is therapeutic. Sure there are days when I don't feel like laughing, but I do my best to find a reason just to irritate you. Humor is truly the best medicine. For the record, you are mean.

I've learned that no one should fight their battle alone. If they do not have family support or friends to support them then should request help from a social worker at the local hospital or from the American Cancer Society. There are people out there who truly care and they want to be there for them. I hope they do not allow pride to stand in their way. Cancer fighters are already the bravest of the brave for fighting the fight. Not even you could stand in their way of being saluted.

I've learned that cancer patients should not be made to feel like they are a burden, even though you entered their lives and tried to take them down. Warriors will have some bad days and they will be cranky and might be a bit rude, but we keep in mind that it is the cancer that is effecting their mood swings. The pain alone that you inflict in them is beyond words. I wish we could inflict that same pain on you.They are battling a beast who is sucking the life out of them. Allow them their time to vent, rant and be snippy.

I've learned that cancer sucks! Yes, you suck! It would be nice if you could just slither away never to return, but you aren't going to do that because you enjoy the attention. You cause so much heartache, but you don't care. What bothers me the most is how you could attack small defenseless children who never had a chance in life. These innocent, beautiful souls fight you with valor which amazes me. The strength and determination of all cancer patients amazes me.

I've learned as I watched patients and their loved ones, sitting for hours while receiving chemo treatments, some would sleep, some would share stories, some would sit in a stupor...together they all had a bond..which was to kick your ass.

I've learned that be using my voice I have power over you. I could create a team and we could discuss how to alter the effects that you cause. I could use my voice to advocate against you by reminding others to get tested because early detection is the key to keeping you away. I could use my voice to suggest great doctors who know some tricks of the trade to beat you. I could simply use my voice to share words of wisdom to those who are in need of reassurance. Our voices can make a huge difference in the fight against you. I guarantee you those voices in your head are not your imagination.

I've learned there will be a multitude of hiccups along the cancer journey due to your annoying antics. The hiccups will test our faith. But, in the long run your antics will only be another learning lesson. Because faith does prevail, we might question it at times, we might feel lost and confused, but it is due to our faith that we carry on. And where you fail.

I've learned that there are ways to avoid you. You shouldn't consume the minds just because you are consuming the patient's body. Cancer fighters could exert the little energy they have into a hobby, a passion of their choice. Writing their memoirs, making a remembrance video or taking family photos are some options. Also listening to their favorite music or indulging on an audio book are all excellent escapes from you. While you are a nuisance you also have the power to force fighters and families to bond more because each day is so much more precious. No kudos to you because you suck.

YOU have taught us all many lessons. Lessons we wish we never needed to learn, but because of YOU we have learned how strong we could be when we needed to be. YOU do not get credit for our accomplishments...YOU get a kick to the curb.

Little by little the wonderful world of medicine is beating you, they are taking you down to your knees! Before you know it you will be history. Just dust in the wind. We won't say R.I.P.

On a final note...You SUCK!

Lessons Learned

All through life we learn lessons. A cancer journey is no different than any other journey we travel through. We might make mistakes along the way. We also might have regrets that we wish had never happened. We might cast blame to those that wronged us. These are lessons learned. We accept those lessons for what they are and learn from them.

We share our experiences with others in hopes that if they encounter the same obstacles we did, they could have a game plan. Lessons learned could be a gift to us if we allow them to be. They could also be a gift to whom might also learn from them. Sharing is caring.

Bonus letter....

Letter to all cancer warriors,

You are truly braver than you think. Your strength and valor is to be commended. You were possibly chosen to fight this battle, we do not know, we might never know. I do like to believe that I was chosen to care for my loved ones because I feel I have made a difference in the lives of others by sharing my experience. I also believe we are never given more than we can handle.

Fighting cancer is not for the weak. The cancer battle is for the strong. Always hold your head high and be proud of how far you have come. Try your best not to look backwards, going backwards doesn't benefit you. Behind you are the lessons you learned on how to carry on.

You do not have to be strong all the time. When people tell you, be strong, remind them they are not fighting the war.

When people tell you, that you don't look like you have cancer, ask them how exactly is cancer supposed to look?

Never lose your humor. At times laughter will help you make it through the most difficult moments. I have so many family and friends who are battling cancer, some lost the battle, some won, some continue to fight. You are all heroes.

I hope I inspired you to write a letter. Once you start chances are you might not be able to stop. Share your thoughts with your family members, with your medical team, with your friends or simply write a letter to yourself...letters are a wonderful gift to cherish forever.

What I write comes from my heart. It comes from witnessing the devastation cancer has caused. Do not allow cancer to define you. Continue to be the amazing person you were prior to your diagnosis and shine on...

Tim McGraw - Live Like You Were Dying...

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Earthy Mother 4 years ago from South East England

Brought a tear to my eye... Beautifully written and heartfelt. Experiencing all this myself at the moment and the sad thing is it is becoming more and more common - they say 1 in 3 will get cancer and that truly sucks. But fight it we will. Your husband is truly lucky to have you on his side and the good thing to come out of having this disease is that it makes you appreciate your time more. Cancer sucks it's true but it can never defeat our spirit. Xx


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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

Sunshine....from the very bottom of my heart, I applaud you for your incredibly beautiful "attitude," wisdom and positive spirit. This hub screams of a brave woman who knows how to react to the enemy with dignity & fiercely protect her loved ones. Your belief of embracing each day anew, to go forward with heads high & a smile for those around you, is a blessing you share with grace.

My hatred for the cancer beast is strong & constant. It took my precious sister, my dearest friend. I despise cancer with a vengence. But we must not give it our time or energies, as you so eloquently have written here. We must continue to go on with hope and that burning desire to live each day to it's fullest....to love and help and smile. WE are bigger, better & stronger than the beast. It sucks, yes...it's nasty and ugly and it's total destruction is near........Peace, my friend.....absolutely AWESOME hub.


Glyn 4 years ago

I couldn't type for a few minutes. My eyes would not allow it. I thought my husbands fight with this demon was over. But as you know it is never really over. More tests next week. Who knows what that will bring. Cancer sucks. Another friend is fighting for her life too. Cancer sucks BIG time.

Very moving and thoughtful hub sunshine. Love you xoxox


SUE PR 4 years ago

I COULDN'T HAVE SAID IT BETTER, YOU SAID IT ALL!!! THINKING OF OUR LOVRD ONES , FAMILY MEMBERS, FRIENDS WHO WAS AND IS STILL FIGHTING THIS AWEFUL C WORD. AS I CALL IT.. YES INDEED, CANCER SUCKS BIG TIME!!! YOU SADI IT ALL AND I SAY DITTO!!!!!!!


Karen 4 years ago

Thanks for writing this, as it speaks for us all, who are facing this horrible cancer.


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Thank you all for joining me in kicking cancer to the curb. I'm glad we all agree that cancer sucks! Your thoughts and caring words are appreciated. xo


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geegee77 4 years ago from The Lone Star State!!

I too share your opinion of cancer, as I've seen it destroy and take away many loved ones from me, and almost took my beautiful daughter. You are a very strong women Linda and we need to keep fighting this horrible disease, I continue to pray for your husband every day, love ya my friend:) ge


BumptiuosL 4 years ago

In memory of Bryan Bonner ... Dec 20, 1961 - Dec 31, 2011

Thank you for your wonderful words... I can't tell you enough how much I love your hubs!


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

In memory of my mother, my angel Jan. 11, 1935 - Feb. 20, 2002


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Cogerson 4 years ago from Virginia

A very heart felt hub Sunshine625. I think almost everybody has had to do deal with everything you wrote about...in my case it was my mother.....and since then I realize the pain and suffering that occurs everytime I hear those dreaded words...."He or She has cancer"...just last night we heard those horrible words. I hope you current battle with cancer continues to improve. My family continues to send your family good wishes. Voted up and emotional...too bad we do not have an emotional button.


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RealHousewife 4 years ago from St. Louis, MO

Sunshine - I agree with every word of this. I lost my friend and step father to oat cell...it was a 5 year battle that we all learned so much from unfortunately.

I am so sorry. I wish we could find out a way to KILL cancer!

Up and everything.


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tammyswallow 4 years ago from North Carolina

Ok.. had to take a tissue break. Whew.. Where to begin?

I live in a family with a genetic disposition for cancer. For most, it is a matter of time.

I have lost many people from cancer, both of my Grandmothers, two cousins, friends and one special person in particular. Fortunatley my Mom and her sisters have survived it.

In Memory of Will Horne 1989-2006

Will was a student worker at the University I worked at. He was the sweetest most naive, God loving, innocent, country, fun loving, nerd you would ever want to meet. He was the only child his parents were able to have and cherished him. As a poor student, he would bring in something special to the office every morning... cards, doughnuts, you name it. His smile and laughter would light up the office. He was a friend to everyone. As the days passed, that special glow about him started to fade. At the age of 19, he developed large nodules on his chest and went to the doctor. He had Hodgekins Lymphoma. His health declined quickly. He was confined to a hospital for 4 months and never got to leave. Those of us who were his friends would leave work and spend the evenings with him in his hospital room playing cards and hot wheels cars. Will got weaker and weaker into he faded into the shadows of cancer. He never once complained about his fate, but he said over and over that he didn't want to die.

Will didn't get to experience many things in his short life. He focused on his education and never had a girlfriend, he never got to leave the State of South Carolina, he never got to see the ocean or have the children he looked forward to having.

There is nothing more painful in this life than attending the funeral of a promising 20 year old child while "Knocking on Heaven's Door" is playing.

Since then, I have been angry about Cancer and the fact that so many good people are taken so young. The only thing I can conclude from this is that God knows what he is doing and perhaps death perhaps may be better than life and a reprive from suffering. At least I hope so.

Thank you for your hub. I pray you stay strong and vigilant throughout your battles. If I were cancer, I would be scared of you.

Thank you for giving us a platform to share our tears with you and remember those who have gone before us.


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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

In Loving Memory of a Precious Woman, daughter, mother, grandmother and(MY)SISTER...My Best Friend,

"Patricia Michele"-January 31st. 1943- August 26th. 2003


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craftdrawer 4 years ago

Very well said. We are all effected by Cancer in some way during our lifetime!!!


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rsusan 4 years ago from South Africa

Sunshine, I think you have expressed what so many, many people experience and wrestle with on a daily basis, but can't always put into words. Thanks for giving this a voice. Your attitude is awe-inspiring.

We are 'lucky' in that my brother has CML. This is a chronic leukemia that is fortunately very manageable these days. He will have to be treated for life (horrendous financial implications), but so far the medication is doing its job wonderfully. As he also has an intellectual disability, it is tough for him to understand it all, but he is doing well right now. We have so much to be grateful for.

I continue to think of you and your husband and to pray for both of you for strength and courage for each day. Thank you for sharing a small part of this journey with all of your Hubber friends. Your husband can rely on quite an ally in his corner! I absolutely love your spirit! I can just imagine that coward cancer cringe...


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thesingernurse 4 years ago from Rizal, Philippines

A very remarkable article... I felt every word of it. Writing is really therapeutic for everyone, especially for those in suffering. I would like to share my hub to you so you can read about some little pieces of information in between. This is about what writing could do in a person's life. http://hubpages.com/literature/Because-Writing-is-...

Also, thank you very much for appreciating the very hard working allied health professionals, especially the nurses. And I commend you for being the greatest caregiver that you could be. I wish all your loved ones the strength, courage, and happiness.


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tarajeyaram 4 years ago from Wonderland

Sunshine - you have written a beautiful hub. You speak so well - Cancer sucks. It is an enemy but with your attitude I believe we can one day find cure. Attitude is very much part of healing. Even doctors don't understand how your body works. If you have a strong spirit and mind - you can beat the odds. It is true - you will truly find who your friends are when you are struck with cancer. I have seen loved ones pass away because of cancer. Cancer Sucks! Thank you for posting this hub. Voting up and Sharing this letter with everyone else!


Frank Hearn 4 years ago

The only thing I have to say is.......THANKS.


Larry 4 years ago

Tearful and Speechless....I'm fighting prostate cancer as I write this ....Yes Cancer SUCKS...


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thougtforce 4 years ago from Sweden

I agree with every word! You have written the letter we all should write, with courage, anger and persistence! I felt you sincerity and honesty. Great article and I loved the way you wrote it! Voted up and up,

Tina


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dahoglund 4 years ago from Wisconsin Rapids

I guess I have been somewhat fortunate in that having had cancer twice the tumors were removed successfully. I have had good surgeons and did do some chemo therapy.But I have survived for a decade.


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

I'm a bit overwhlemed with the messages, comments, emails and cancer journeys that I've heard about just in past few hours. Please keep on sharing. We all learn from each other. Whether you have lost someone you love or you conquered the beast your story is important and in one way or another someone reading it can relate. Thank you all for sharing. Also feel free to post a memorial to your loved one with their name and dates. Your words are appreciated.


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Just Ask Susan 4 years ago from Ontario, Canada

My mother died of cancer as well as many other family members. I am one of the lucky ones to have survived cancer for the past 20 years. I wish everyone that has this deadly disease could beat it down and out. One of the hardest things I've ever seen was my son's best friend who had a brain tumor at the young age of 10. It broke my heart to see what this boy endured. He fought right to the end.

You're right Cancer does SUCK! You've written such a magnificent hub. Keep on fighting and I wish the best for your husband.


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Stephanie Henkel 4 years ago from USA

Cancer does suck! Your wonderful attitude proves that we must all fight it in every way we can. Fight to keep up our spirits when cancer strikes close to us, fight to help the patient and loved ones go on, fight for more research against this horrible disease. You've expressed what we all feel so eloquently!


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Lord De Cross 4 years ago

Father died of it, nephew 4 yrs old too. Is a terrible experience and always keeps us wondering why and how come..?Take care Linda

LORD


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Thank you for sharing Susan, Stephanie and Lord...cancer can't defeat us! We are stronger and better than IT.


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FloraBreenRobison 4 years ago

I have lost my Grandfather, my aunt and Grandma's sister to cancer. Cancer survivors in my family are far more numerous... my mother, my aunt, my Grandmother, two more of her sisters, and I had a breast cancer scare last year. The lump turned out to be benign. None of this waiting until I am 40 to start getting tested. I am at high risk for both breast cancer and ovarian cancer.


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Stokermm 4 years ago from Gainesville, FL

Great hub, Mom!!! Your words are powerful! Cancer will one day be defeated because of such strong advocates, like you.


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Emma Harvey 4 years ago from Berkshire, UK

What a moving hub, and so strong too. Cancer is such an awful thing and we have all been affected by it in one way or another...

We have to keep fighting against it.


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ThoughtSandwiches 4 years ago from Reno, Nevada

Linda...

In terms of "Strongly worded Letters," ...this was overdue and thank you for writing it.

It was difficult to read at times. Everything you have written here resonates with my mom's brief battle with that bitch cancer...which sucks.

Cancer fights dirty and ended up starting out with a sucker punch on her. She got Pearl Harbored and mom didn't win that battle.

Cancer sucks.

Thomas


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

WOW, Thomas your comment was about as powerful as my letter. Thank you for sharing...your mom was blessed to have a son like you!


Maria 4 years ago

Linda,

There's not much I can add that others haven't already said, except... "Cancer Sucks, but YOU ROCK!"


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Cagsil 4 years ago from USA or America

First off Sunshine, I voted this hub up and you earned marks across the board. I have witnessed first hand the destructive nature of Cancer and I know it's not a pretty sight at all. My father died of Cancer after it ate through everything between his waist to his throat. My sister suffered through breast cancer, which she had to have her left breast removed and lyphnodes removed in that same area, which caused a water retention problem in her left arm. My grandmother had colon cancer surgery but went into an early stage of dementia shortly afterward. My mother suffered through colon cancer as well, need to have at least 18 inches of her intestines removed, leaving her with a scar and a 15% chance of it's return, which is something I have to think about from time to time. My sister is soon to celebrate almost 20 years having beat it. My mother so far is working on her 10 year anniversary. My grandmother has passed due her dementia state ended up worsening. Thank you for sharing. It's something I can relate to a lot.


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Lord De Cross 4 years ago

Cancer really sucks!! WTG LINDA!


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

I agree Lord !!! Many, many people agree as I've been hearing journeys all day and evening. It's pond scum.


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epigramman 4 years ago

....well dear Linda I would imagine at least every family has a story or has heard about someone in the neighborhood or at work about cancer - my personal story is my mum and I lost our dad and husband to lung cancer back in 1992 at the tender young age of 74 and the irony is he never even smoked - it was the dust in the tin mill where he worked all of those years in order to feed and shelter his small family - ironic isn't it - the very thing that gave him a life - a living , if you will, took it away from him in the end - an end that came too short and too quick and I lost my best friend ever .....

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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Thank you for sharing your journeys Epi, Flora and Ray. I just heard a story yesterday about a 45 year old man in Nebraska who was dying from lung cancer but held on until his dad arrived from Denver which was 6 hours away. I don't know if his dad made it in time.

So many stories, so many people lost. Cancer sucks!!!


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Dave Ligler 4 years ago

From the heart let's all say it "cancer sucks" For those who have passed on I honor you in your fight. For those of us still here FIGHT ON ! Superb hub Sunshine, my best friend, Luv Ya


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Amy Becherer 4 years ago from St. Louis, MO

The year prior to my layoff, one of our communication's project managers and his family began the roller-coaster ride of cancer with their 15-year old son, who developed a brain tumor. He died after a horrendous year. I read their journey at CaringBridge and frankly, don't know how the family survived the up and downhill journey. Unfortunately, not long after I was laid off, so was the father of the unfortunate cancer victim. When it rains, it pours. He struggled with his faith after his son's death and inflicted self imposed grief for that, too. I heard it stated by an employee fortunate to keep their job during the heavy layoffs that "he went religion crazy". I was horrified that even through his trial, some find it so easy to judge. My faith in humanity has been shaken to the core. Brilliant, compassionate, empathetic article, Sunshine, of which the world needs more.


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Thank you for sharing your story Amy. Hopefully others will learn from it. Never judge another unless you've walked in their shoes.

Also thank you for mentioning CaringBridge (caringbridge.org) which is an amazing site to cancer patients to post blogs of their journeys. I follow a few friends cancer journeys on there, they are my heroes.


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Melovy 4 years ago from UK

Just got to reading this now Linda. A hub from the heart, and something so many of us can relate to.

I didn’t realise till now that your mother died of cancer. I am sorry for your loss, and I imagine it must make what you are going through with your husband doubly hard.

I can relate to the feeling you express of cancer being mean, as I’ve felt that way often seeing how it has affected my father; some of his vertebrae have been destroyed. Another friend of mine died a few years ago when her children were still young, which was so, so sad.

On the other hand, my mother survived breast cancer 24 years ago, and says it made her appreciate life more, very much like my friend whom I wrote the hub about a few days ago.

I hope the writing of this has been cathartic for you, and thanks for sharing it.


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editorsupremo 4 years ago from London, England

"Hey cancer...not even you could make me become a bitter, hateful person! The more damage you cause the more strength I obtain to help others fight you!"

I love these words you've written to cancer and hold the same sentiment.

I am a cancer survivor twice over and have deemed cancer is not going to beat me. Like you whenever I can encourage someone who is going through the roughest of times I do. It may be just holding their hand and letting them know I'm there.

Cancer is a horrible, insiduous, disease that lurks within the dark corners of the human body, seeping into our emotional psyche trying to destroy our resolve. But we must continue to fight against this toxic venom and not let is win the battle. Cancer sucks!


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Minnetonka Twin 4 years ago from Minnesota

Dear Sunshine. I think you writing a letter to cancer is a brilliant idea. I am a lung cancer survivor of almost eight years now but the scary thoughts of it's return are in my head almost every day. I think cancer sucks too and I think I should write a letter to cancer and get some thoughts and feelings off my chest. Thanks for writing this hub and giving hubbers a place to express themselves.


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Welcome back to HP and HH Yvonne, I hope your fathers treatments went well. You were in my thoughts. Thank you for being you!

Thank you very much editor and minnetonka for sharing your journeys. Kudos to you both for kicking cancer to the curb! Wishing you both the best of health as you move forward. I highly recommend writing a letter, it's very cathartic! Cancer sucks!


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tarajeyaram 4 years ago from Wonderland

Linda - I posted this hub on My Favorite Hubs of the Week. I really enjoyed reading it and it touched my heart dearly. Thank you.


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Thank you very much Tara! I'm honored.


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Victoria Lynn 4 years ago from Arkansas, USA

Sunshine, you are such a fighter and have such a positive attitude. Your mom was lucky and your husband IS lucky to have you by their sides. Beautifully written. Lots of votes here, including up!


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jeyaramd 4 years ago from Mississauga, Ontario

This letter is awe inspiring. Your have touched on so many emotions. You really nailed the feeling. I have known close family members who had to deal with cancer. Though, they were all fighters. Its so hard for everyone involved. Thank you for this wonderfully motivating letter. I could have really used it back in the day. I will definitely pass on the message to who ever I know. Its that good. Thank you. Voted up up and away.


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DeborahNeyens 4 years ago from Iowa

Cancer does suck! It's impacted (and taken) the lives of way too many people I love. Thanks for writing this.


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Thank you Vicki, Jey and Deborah ... let's continue to spread the word that we won't be defeated by cancer! Thank YOU for your help!!


cancerguru 4 years ago from Kentucky

I love the honesty and realism here. Great Hub!

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Eiddwen 4 years ago from Wales

Well done and I am sure that your bravery in telling your story will help others along their paths also.

Take care and here's to so many more to share on here.

Eddy.


Sue Parkinson 4 years ago

Well said!!!


Dolores Cole 4 years ago

Caner like most internal diseases are every hard on those who watch people go trough it everyday. Weather we accept it or not nothing in this world is easy. Not any kind of sickness. Life is never fare to anyone.


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

In Memory Of Dennis Kelly Feb. 16, 1950 - Jan. 10, 2012


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Victoria Lynn 4 years ago from Arkansas, USA

I'm sorry to hear about your friend, Sunshine. This must be a hard day for you. Thinking of you....


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Thank you Vicki!:)


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Kelley Eidem 4 years ago from Panama City, FL

I'm so sorry for your loss, Sunshine. May God's peace be with you and with your friend.


icountthetimes 4 years ago

My immediate and extended family has been impacted by cancer on a number of occasions. I pray for the day that we're able to limit the devastasting impact it can have in our lives. Beautifully written. Up voted.


kelleyward 4 years ago

Very moving! Beautiful and needed. Thanks so much for pouring out your heart and soul!


PatVogl 4 years ago

Watching Cancer move from one person to another, makes me question how there just isn't a cure for it yet, especially with years of donations. Thank you for sharing your story. It was beautiful! Cancer does suck and makes everyone feel like a number.


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maxravi 4 years ago from India

You are right Sunshine, I too lost one of my friends who had mouth cancer because of tobbacco.I remembered when I met him last time.Its really touching hub.thanks


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Thank you Kelley Eidem - PatVogl - Maxravi - Kelleyward and Icountthetimes for adding your input towards our fight against cancer. Cancer sucks!


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billybuc 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

Tears....thank you for your openness and humanity in writing this. You are greatly appreciated and you found a voice that perfectly describes this insidious disease.


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KeithTax 4 years ago from Wisconsin

Writing can soothe a lot of pain, pain from depression; pain from loss of a loved one; pain of cancer. It is good you wrote this hub.

Well said. I wish the best for you and your family. Keep us informed on your husband. Expect good news.


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doubleklm 4 years ago

Thanks for the great Hub!! I think you said here what ever person thinks on a regular basis. Having lost both my parents to cancer when they were still relatively young, I can't agree with you more that cancer "sucks"!!!

Voted up!!!


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Thank you Billy, Keith and Double for sharing your thoughts. Join me in kicking cancer to the curb!


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CMerritt 4 years ago from Pendleton, Indiana

Sunshine,

Nothing I can say that has not been said.....

and YOU have said it all, for everyone who has ANYTHING to do with this mean, cruel and vile enemy.

Hugs,

Chris


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athena2011 4 years ago from Beachfront - In My Dreams:)

What a fantastic way of approaching this awful disease. You do have the power, not the other way around.

I can totally relate to this hub having cared for and lost my mother and my husband to cancer. I also have a sister who is a breast cancer survivor so am very familiar with how devastating this can be.

Voted up and beautiful.


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elanger333 4 years ago from Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania

Empowering.


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raquelpier 4 years ago

Great hub! I wrote a hub on cancer as well if you're interested! 'Cancer in all forms.' I voted up and truly related to this one! Thank you for sharing!


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Steven Gray 4 years ago from Pensacola, Florida

Thank you for this hub. I've lost many family members and friends to this disease.


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BakingBread-101 4 years ago from Nevada

My Sister fought and lost her battle after 3 years. She endured ovarian cancer. Cancer sucks.

For all of you I ask you to pass on the following information to your loved ones.

CFOA.org is Cancer Fund of America. Have your loved ones sign up and their doctors sign it. Cancer Fund of America will FREE OF CHARGE send to their door a box of necessities EVERY month, including a birthday gift. This is free of charge and it does not matter what their income is. Please pass this information on to everyone who might be in need of it. Thank you.


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Thank you bakingbreak for the info! I'll help spread the word.

I'm sorry for your loss. Cancer sucks!


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kxdorey 4 years ago from Beverly Hills, California, USA

Fantastic writing. Maybe I'm in the minority here but I'm sure they have found a cure for cancer. There's just too much money in the drugs. Anyways, I really enjoyed that piece. It touched my heart.


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Kx...You are in the majority. I've witnessed the costs of the drugs, oncologists, procedures and all else that goes along with cancer...it's insanely ridiculous. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.


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Apple Guy 4 years ago

Extremely well written, I could feel the emotion as I read it.


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felixtroll2 4 years ago from Manitowoc, WI

I love what you wrote about cancer. Yes it really sucks and the treatment costs are awful.


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GClark 4 years ago from United States

Thank you for your well-written ferocious attack on cancer. It certainly sucks and can change one's life almost in a heartbeat. Have dealt with it myself personally and have know others currently fighting the good fight plus some who have lost it. Believe once our medical system starts looking at wellness and prevention of disease as their main goal we will begin making major strides in this battle against cancer and other horrible diseases. Meanwhile we should also applaud those involved in alternative treatment research for their part in the front lines fighting to make new information and treatments available. GClark


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Thank you apple, felix and GClark for sharing your thoughts. Always appreciated. Cancer sucks!


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Rusticliving 4 years ago from California

Fabulous Sunshine! I lost my brother and my father to cancer and my sister is dealing with breast cancer. I applaud you for attacking this awful disease!

Thank you so much for this well written Hub. I'm very touched!

Blessings,

~Lisa RusticLiving


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LadyFiddler 4 years ago from Somewhere in the West

My you did give Cancer i good whipping. Yes it SUCKS ALOT its one of the worst decease ever and people scorn AIDS but Cancer eats away every fiber of your inner being if it gets a chance to. I've seen lovely healthy people dwindle away by this cruel sickness. Someone i know died recently of it so sad it brings so much pains and suffering.

May God keep that sickness away from me. Hope things goes well for you.

Thanks for sharing your story :(

Keep in high spirits


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Sharyn's Slant 4 years ago from Northeast Ohio USA

SUNSHINE ~ YOU ROCK! This is awesome. You are awesome. You got my votes for sure. Thank you for writing this important message. You know I am one of your cheerleaders ~ stay strong my friend!

Sharyn


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AudreyHowitt 4 years ago from California

This is such a personal piece and yet your journey affects so many of us--thank you, thank you!


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ChinaDoll32BX 4 years ago from Bronx, New York

This is a great hub my Aunt is battling cancer so I understand the pain that it causes. Never stop fighting


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BEAUTYBABE 4 years ago from QUEENSLAND AUSTRALIA.

I loost my best friend to breast cancer last year. She battled with courage and conviction for two years. I was very hard to see her so sick in the end. It went to her bones so fast because the Oncologist said she had it some time.

It wasn't found until she had gone through menopause. They found something in her mammogram and she hadn't even felt a lump. It was very aggressive and even though they told her she didn't have long, she actually lived longer than they had predicted.

The sad part about this was that she had four children and six grandchildren. Her youngest grandchild was only born eight weeks before she passed away. At least she got to see her.

I think we can all say that somehow just about all our families are affected by cancer to some extent. Sometimes it is good and people win their battles. At other times, people fight with a vengeance to the end to no avail.

Thank you so much for writing this amazing and awesome hub Sunshine. You have touched so many lives with this and I congratulate you for putting down in words what so many of us feel and also relate.

God bless you love Beautybabe.


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savingkathy 4 years ago from Ontario, Canada

What a beautifully written and inspiring hub! Cancer does suck - thank you for writing this hub that's obviously struck a chord with so many people that have been affected by cancer.

Voted up, awesome and sharing far and wide.

Keep up the good fight!


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TIMETRAVELER2 4 years ago

This says it all. I am a Cancer survivor, so I definitely identify. I just hope one day they find the cure.


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Jamie Brock 4 years ago from Texas

Sunshine, this hub is very touching.. We lost my Paw-Paw (grandfather) to lung cancer in April of 1986. I was very young but still remember him coming home from work and giving me the apples he saved for me from his lunch box every day. He quit smoking several years prior but worked around Asbestos a lot at the Air Force base where he worked. It was the asbestos type cancer. I miss him. Thank you for this hub :0)


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Thank you all for sharing your comments, thoughts, stories and journey's. Those who read them will learn from them, relate to them and understand them. Something we could all agree on is that cancer sucks.


Linda K aka Gansta Granny 4 years ago

You are AWESOME Sunshine!

In memory of my husband Dennis Kelly 2/16/50-1/10/12 and my sister Christine Maxwell 3/9/48-2/20/02


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

You are AWESOME Gangsta Granny. Our voices will be heard today on World Cancer Day and everyday! RIP Dennis and Christine.


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vocalcoach 4 years ago from Nashville Tn.

Oh Sunshine - This remarkable and well written hub touched me so. Cancer took my 42 yr, old son, Mother, ex-husband and more. These brave people all took care of themselves. It makes no sense and makes me angry. I commend you for your bravery.

Thank you so much. Voted up and across!


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Thank you vocalcoach for sharing your story. I'm sorry for your losses. Your words will be appreciated by the many people who read this letter. Our words are further proof that cancer truly sucks.


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sam209 4 years ago

Proud to say my Grandmother is a cancer survivor! Great hub!


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Hi Sam, Your Grandma kicked cancer to the curb! That's great news! Thank you for sharing.


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States

Linda this is such a kick ass hub...LOVED IT!

I REALLY wish I could have kicked the ass of it from my dad.

Anyways, can't bring him back into this life.

Yesterday my friend's dad passed away from prostrate cancer so, I gonna fwd this to her.

voted way way up as awesome!


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alocsin 4 years ago from Orange County, CA

I seem to be knowing more and more people, especially women, getting cancer. Glad to say, most of them survive it. Thanks for this hub. Voting it Up and Awesome.


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braincancersux 4 years ago

I LOVE this! I am a 37 yr old wife and mom to two little boys fighting brain cancer. This hub was so well written and true. Awesome!


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Linda Trempe 4 years ago from Colorado Springs, CO

Beautifully written story Samuel, oh so sad but so very true. We've all been touched by cancer in some way, there's not a person out there who doesn't have a loved one or know of someone who's battled cancer. Some have fought their battles and won and other's bravely fought and lost.

As a former insurance agent who specialized in cancer insurance I met scores of people all over the state of Colorado who had stories to tell. Cancer spares nobody.

My only advice to anybody reading is that the statistics are not in our favor and I urge everybody to get your annual followups, annual pap tests for women, breasts exams as your doctor specifies and for men and women over a certain age followup on your prostate and colon exams.

I recently lost a dear uncle to prostate cancer, sadly if caught early enough prostate cancer is one of the most curable cancers out there.

Don't let your health, or your loved one's health go. See your doctor regularly.

Linda


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Hi Ruchira, I'm sorry for your loss and your friends loss. Prostate Cancer is sneaky, yet can be treated when caught early. Men need to have their PSA checked yearly. That's another hub, but I thought I would mention that. Thank you for your comment:)


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Hi alocsin, I'm happy to hear that you know many survivors. They kicked cancer to the curb. Well done!

Braincancersux, I'm sorry to hear about your health issues. Wishing you the best of luck.


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Hi Linda, Thank you for your comment. I'm not sure who Samuel is but I thank them also for sharing this letter.


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PDXKaraokeGuy 4 years ago from Portland, Oregon

cancer doe ssuckk and I wish you and your husband all the best in his battle. I lost my favorite uncle to cancer last year. It's no fun, though,he made the best of it. I did a review of his book, Two Copper Coins. if you haven't read the review (and the book) you may want to. It's very encouraging!

Up and shared!


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rebeccamealey 4 years ago from Northeastern Georgia, USA

Very touching and interestingly written. It would be hard to find anyone who hasn't been involved in cancer's meanness in one way or another. I lost my Dad to colon cancer. He was only 71.Best wishes Sunshine. My prayers are with you.


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ThoughtMonkey 4 years ago from United Kingdon

I am in my thirties and until recently never lost anyone nor knew anyone with cancer. I got lucky for a very long time, sadly my luck did not last and I lost an aunt to cancer last year. Lovely writing.


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alifeofdesign 4 years ago from New Hamphire

You are kind to express yourself in this 'letter'. The people that posted comments are also generous in their sharing. Thanks to you all. I am a two-time cancer survivor and, indeed, cancer is cruel and relentless. I'm sorry to her how cancer has impacted your world....I wish you and your husband strength beyond measure.

Best Regards,


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

PDX, Rebecca, Thoughtmonkey, Alifeof design... Thank you all for sharing your thoughts, wishes and wisdom. I appreciate you taking the time to comment.

Cancer Sucks.


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homesteadbound 4 years ago from Texas

So sorry you have had to go through this but your spirit shines through. I lost my father to lung cancer. It was not pretty.


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htodd 4 years ago from United States

That is really great letter to cancer..Thanks


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Thank you HSB and htodd. Your comments are appreciated.


Sueswan 4 years ago

Hi Sunshine

God bless and thank you for writing this letter to cancer.

My grandmother died of stomach cancer in 1980.

Cancer is running rampant in our society and I wonder why.

Voted up and away!


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Curiad 4 years ago from Lake Charles, LA.

This is such an awesome testament to the tenacity of your spirit and the power of love! Thank you for writing this moving letter Sunshine!

Voted up and Shared


anonymous 4 years ago

I love the way you have written this attack on cancer. It does indeed suck and you have conveyed that beautifully without giving in to its power. I think rather than weaken the cancer foe you have strenthened the will of its victims to fight back with positive determination and armed with knowledge.

Your own journey is recorded with a real sense of the emotion and anger toward the enemy(cancer) and you have much to offer cancer victims as you advocate for them and empathise with them as a consequence of your experience in confronting the enemy.


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rajan jolly 4 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

Cancer is the most feared and the most hated disease, I'm sure. It takes a lot of guts and gumption to fight it. A positive approach and faith is the foremost requirement to tackle it. This is the most difficult part. I' m glad you and your husband are doing it.

I echo all your sentiments in this hub. A very positive write and congratulations on your write up being included by the Cancer Resource Center, in their newsletter.

Voted up, awesome and shared.


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Princessa 4 years ago from France

I can see why this letter has been chosen to be published by the Cancer Resource Center in Texas. It is written from the heart, clear and concise yet very powerful. Your positiveness shines trough your words!


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kayha 4 years ago

Thank you for this inspirational hub. My prayers are with everyone who is fighting against it.


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Hi Sueswan, I'm sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing with us.

Hi Curiad, Thank you for your comment and thoughts. Always appreciated.


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Anonymous, Your message means a lot to me. It's why I do what I do by being the best darn advocate I could be with the resources that I have. I witnessed to much sorrow and pain and I'm not the type of person to just sit on the sidelines and be a wallflower. We all have a voice...use it the best way you can. Thank you for your thoughts.


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geegee77 4 years ago from The Lone Star State!!

Have I told you lately that you are AWESOME!!!??? :) ge


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Hello Rajan and Princessa, Thank you so much for your comments. I appreciate them. I am happy that the Cancer Resource Center will be using this letter in their newletter to help so many thousands of people. It's mission accomplished for me. That's awesome. Thank you for your support.


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Thank you Dee!

Thank you Ge!

You are both appreciated and awesome!


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Eliminate Cancer 4 years ago from Massachusetts

Cancer is a great teacher - if for no other reason but to reconnect us with our body, and how amazing it is that it can heal itself!!!


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Very good point Eliminate Cancer! Oh how I wish we could do that. As I sat in the oncology room today and looked around at the many patients receiving their meds it made me sad, yet glad they were fighting.


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PDXKaraokeGuy 4 years ago from Portland, Oregon

you're welcome, Linda. I pray for your continued strength and courage!


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Happyboomernurse 4 years ago from South Carolina

Wow! That's quite a letter and having lost loved ones, friends and patients to this horrible disease, I agree with everything you had to say to cancer and am waiting for the day it will be eradicated.

In the meantime, it's strong spirited advocates and loving people like you who help others through the ordeal of fighting cancer.

I particularly liked what you said here: "It's also important to make memories along the way because we never know what will happen from one day to the next. Support teams are crucial. Whether they are family members or support groups discovered elsewhere. Accepting life one day at a time is mandatory. There will be good days and bad days. Relish the good days and learn from the bad days."

Though, like you, I would not credit cancer for "teaching" those truths, it certainly can be the stimulus that makes us aware of them.

Voted up across the board except for funny.


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Hi HBN, Making memories is vital for the loved ones who are left behind. This is all they will have once cancer has won. I have a photo collage of my mom displayed in my foyer. It contains different photos from happy moments spent together. I look at it everyday and smile. Memories will never fade unless we allow them to. Thank you for your comment.


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DanaTeresa 4 years ago from Ohio

What amazing strength you have to go through what you have and to write about it in such a strong and beautiful way. Truly inspiring.

I lost my grandmother to lung cancer when I was 17. She was like a mother to me. It was devastating to me and the entire famliy. My boyfriend just lost a cousin and is losing a brother. A younger brother of mine might have melanoma. I have had two scares myself (cerivcal and esophagus, at only 30 years old!) My body has started healing before the cancer developed. Now it will just mean watching and hoping for the rest of my life. I am determined to live my life healthy and not give it a thought between checkups. And I am going to support my boyfriend and our brothers as best I can. This has helped give me the strength to do that. Thank you.


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Hi Dana, I could so relate. You know how to find me if you need a shoulder. I'll keep you in mind also!:)


CARROLL MACINTOSH 4 years ago

I AHVE HAD CANCER SINCE 2002 THYROID CANCER IT WENT TO MY LUNGS HOWEVER I REFUSED TO TAKE TREATMENTS I USED ORGANIC FOODS AND ORGANIC COCONUT OIL,HOWEVER, THIS CAME FROM A SUCKER PUNCH TO THE HEAD FROM MY EX HUSBAND THE XRAYS LOOK EVEN TODAY LIKE A MOUSE IS EATING THE BONES

IN THE LEFT SIDE OF MY T MANDULAR BONE BEING SUCKER PUNCHED IN FRONT OF YOUR KIDS IS NOT A JOKE REMEMBER SHOULD YOU GET BEATEN GO TO THE HOSPITAL CALL THE POLICE AND PLEASE PRESS CHARGES IT'S YOUR LIFE THAT IS BEING SAVED.AMEN


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Wishing you good luck! Thank you for sharing to help others.


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Daisy Mariposa 4 years ago from Orange County (Southern California)

Linda,

This is the most important of all the *letter* Hubs you have written. Your husband and you will always be in my thoughts, as will the mother and grandmother I lost to Cancer.


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Thank you Daisy! Your thoughts are appreciated.


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Docmo 4 years ago from UK

Linda, my thoughts go out to you and your husband. I am astounded and humbled by your courage, your eloquence and your sheer bravery and thoughtfulness against adversity. As family practitioner who specialises in continuity of care and also as a local advocate for holistic cancer care every word you have written resonates with me. I have many brave letters in my desk from sufferers and their carers who have appreciated the involvement and the encouragement our team has given them. I also teach communication skills and palliative care and I always say to my post grad Doctors that their science and evidence base can only take them so far but it is their humanity, their perceptiveness, their understanding of holistic care. their ability to interact with the family and friends of the patient, and the willingness to laugh, cry and share the pain is what that will make them excellent clinicians.

I wonder if you'd give me permission to read this letter in my teaching lectures - ( I absolutely understand if you don't want me to) I 'll anonymise it of course so I don't break confidentiality- as this is the most erudite letter to cancer I have read for a very long time... the fight for Cancer is not just done with medicine- but it is the love, humanity and care of those close to us that binds it all together. I am truly humbled by your hub.


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Hi Docmo, Thank you for your thoughts. I appreciate you taking the time to read my letter and I appreciate your message.

I wrote this letter for myself and for those who will benefit from it, so please feel free to share with others.


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Docmo 4 years ago from UK

Thank you, Linda.


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uzma shaheen 4 years ago from Lahore,Pakistan

your writing reminded me of an ironic experience of my life when my father suffered this ruthless disease and he lost this battle. I lost my father and we were so unaware of this when it happened. ah!


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

I'm sorry for your loss uzma. I appreciate you sharing.


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DoloresHerriot 4 years ago from United Kingdom

Thank you Docmo. I lost my mother over two years ago to breast cancer. Life is never the same. I miss her every day but your letter to cancer made me cry and smile! My prayers are with your family and friends.


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Hi Dolores. I'm sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing your journey. I appreciate your comment.


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Vinaya Ghimire 4 years ago from Nepal

Your experience is very inspiring. I salute your bravery and courage.


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

I appreciate your comment Vinaya. Thank you.


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ps-orbis 4 years ago

You did an absolutely fantastic job on this hubpage! What a great resource :)


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Thank you ps-orbis. I appreciate your comment.


Kelly 4 years ago

Sunshine625, you are a wise, beautiful and amazing person. Thank you for sharing your post with us. I would like to recommend a website called, "Healing Cancer Naturally"...When I was feeling hopeless and helpless due to a family member's cancer diagnosis, I searched the internet for everything-for ANYTHING-that could possibly ease the heartache that cancer had bestowed upon my family and me. "Healing Cancer Naturally" was exactly what I was hoping to find....This website is Heaven-Sent, as are you Sunshine625....


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Thank you for your comment Kelly. I have bookmarked the website. I appreciate you thinking of me. I also found the page on Facebook. I will pass on the word. Wishing you good luck!


Costello 4 years ago

Cancer can be fix easy.

Costello


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ishwaryaa22 4 years ago from Chennai, India

A heart-touching hub! I see your deep passion in writing this letter to the very much unwanted cancer! Life would be more wonderful for many without this loathsome disease. Thank you for writing this powerful and moving letter! Socially shared


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MartieCoetser 4 years ago from South Africa

Excellent hub, Sunshine, I've sensed your passionate hate for cancer, as well as your passionate wish for the well-being of your husband :)


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marcoujor 4 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

Dear Linda,

Like Docmo, I have a need to share this letter with my students but more importantly with my dearest SIL (and my husband). You are a passionate writer, of this, there is no doubt...

If I were that !@#$%^&* cancer, I would run for the hills. Every point you make is so beautiful and worthwhile and makes me love you all the more... Voted UP & UABI. Love, Maria


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Hi Ish, Thank you for your kind words and support. I appreciate it.

Martie, Thank you. I know you understand.

Maria, I would be honored if you would share this letter with your students. I wrote this to help others benefit. I agree it should run for the hills.

Thank you all.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida

I know of very few families that have been spared the wrath of this monster: Cancer! I wonder if a cure will ever be found. I'm at the age now where I have lost several friends and family members to this horrow.

Written straight from your heart. I voted this Hub UP, and will certainly share. Mary


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Hi Mary, Thank you for reading, commenting and sharing. The more people this letter reaches out to the better. I appreciate your thoughts.


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remaniki 4 years ago from Chennai, India

Instead of just sitting there with a feeling of depression and frustration as most people on this planet do under such serious circumstances, you had the grit to stand up and put up a fight against this deadly monster that ruthlessly attacks the young and the old.

I truly appreciate not only your fighting spirit but your heart of gold that makes the others around you smile and laugh. Bravo sunshine! Spread cheer and love all around as always. I am touched by this hub. Cheers, Rema.


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Hi Rema, Thank you for your kind and beautiful comment. You are a shining friend! :)


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gail641 4 years ago from Mason City

I agree that cancer sucks! My mother died of cervical cancer in 1998. My older brother has been fighting cancer for four years. He had cancer of the esopaghus, and bone cancer now. Right now he's not doing good at all, and he may not make it past Christmas. He's in stage 4 and is on morphine to help control the pain. He's in a lot of pain-hopefully the morphine is helping. Cancer killed our grandfather back in 1960, Cancer is a vicious killer of the innocent. It does suck! My brother turned 59 on his last birthday in August.


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Sunshine625 3 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Hi Gail, Thank you for sharing your families journey. I feel for you and all you've been through. I hope your brother is doing better. Sending you positive thoughts.


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gail641 3 years ago from Mason City

Thanks, they changed his medicine, but he's still in a lot of pain. He's always been a fighter, so I hope he is doing better. He has a wife and its hard on her. She has medical problems, as well.


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Sunshine625 3 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Wishing your family the best Gail. I know this isn't easy. One day at a time is how I deal with my husband's journey. Feel free to vent whenever you need to.


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gail641 3 years ago from Mason City

Thank you, Sunshine625. I wish your family the best, too. Cancer is a rotten deal. I visited my brother and sister-in-law with my older sister, and my brother couldn't hardly wake up. They have him on medicine and it must make him really tired. He stays in his room a lot.


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vibesites 3 years ago from United States

Cancer really sucks! The battle is emotionally and mentally draining, but my prayers are with you, I hope you win against the big C.


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Sunshine625 3 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Thank you Gail and Vibe for sharing your comments, wishes and thoughts.


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gail641 3 years ago from Mason City

Cancer (bone) took my brother's life on April 1st of this year. He had been battling it for four years. It was so sad that he had to suffer from a terrible disease. His wife is very sad. It was really hard on the family to lose a beloved brother.


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Sunshine625 3 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

twethymboth, The images are loading fine for me. Thanks for stopping by.


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Sunshine625 3 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Hi Gail, I'm sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you and your brothers family.


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gail641 3 years ago from Mason City

Thanks, sunshine625.


David 3 years ago

cancer is just a abonamrl reproduction of your cells .your cells reproduce normally all the time .sometimes something happens that causes the cells to reproduce at abonamrlly high rates = cancer any and everything can cause cancer ..its practically natural .do you see what im saying, there will never be a definitive list of things that cause cancer .you may be able to tell for sure some things do .but plenty of normal things cause cancer ..my personal theory is that the more generations your family has spent in a heavily industrialized place the more likely you are to get cancer .for ex .if you were born and bred in the mounts of greece along with your parents, grandparents, etc you prob wont be a cancer candidate .now if its new york city, your prob a cancer candidate no real way to know though ..any and everyone can develop it Was this answer helpful?


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Sunshine625 2 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Thanks for sharing your thoughts David.

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