My 20 Life Choices

Resolutions May Fade, but Choices are Forever

Ever year we make resolutions that we do not keep because we think we can always start over again the next year. For this reason I no longer believe in resolutions. Resolutions have repercussions. There is guilt when we fail to fulfill our resolves for each New Year. I don’t want to live my life feeling guilty all the time.

Life consists of choices, and I believe that we must make choices about the kind of life we want to live. These choices should be ingrained within us for the rest of our lives. The choices we make must become a part of who we are if they are to last a lifetime.

I want to assess each year I live, and want to make different choices as to how I can improve my life. These choices are how I plan to live and adapt to my environments. They are not in any specific order. That is not how life is lived. You come across a situation, and you make a choice about how you will respond to it.

I didn’t limit my choices, nor did I add to the list for an even number. The more I thought about the choices I want to make as an individual, the more I added to the list.

  1. I choose to be happy. I know that it will not always be possible. But by making happiness a choice, I have something to hold on to when darkness or depression seeks to fill my days and nights.
  2. I choose to be independent to the best of my abilities. I want to be able to live in harmony with others, not to depend on them for my livelihood. “God Rest the Child Who Has His Own” will be my philosophy. I plan to always have a way to live my own life my own way so that my dependence on others is a choice and not a necessity.
  3. If I need the help of others, I choose to limit that help as much as possible. I do not want to become a burden to whomever I ask for help.
  4. I choose to stay away from negative people. To avoid those people who have a mean spirit and like bringing other people down with their negative attitude(s)
  5. I intend to deal with my infirmities. I will not let my physical ailments keep me from being mobile.
  6. I intend to eat better so that I may conquer those diseases that keep me infirmed, on medication, and overweight. I intend to make food choices conducive to being able to feel better and maintain a healthy body.
  7. I choose to appreciate the life that I have now while making those choices that can improve my appreciation of my life.
  8. I choose to have fun when it’s possible. Whether I experience it myself, or watch others have fun, I believe that the enjoyment of life is healthy.
  9. I plan to laugh as often as I can
  10. I choose to deal with the body I have and accept it. That doesn’t mean I won’t try to improve my appearance. My choice to accept what I look like will help me feel better about myself. If others like my attitude and want to be around me, that will be a bonus.
  11. I choose to keep busy every day, even when I don’t feel well. Even a little bit of effort to keep active as I age will help me in the long run
  12. I choose that no matter how old I become, to keep following my dreams and aspirations. I choose to do whatever I can to work toward achieving those plans for my life
  13. No matter how I am treated, I choose to have a kind disposition. I choose not to let others’ mistreatment of me define who I am
  14. I will always love my cat Tuxedo
  15. I choose to continue my spiritual journey and follow the teachings of God and Jesus Christ as the mapping of my life
  16. I choose to listen more and pay more attention as people speak. I will let them finish their sentences before I interrupt them with my own thoughts. If I forget those thoughts I will choose to let them go
  17. I choose to not beat myself up so much when I fall below my personal expectations or disappointments. I choose to wake up each morning and begin a new day, continuing to act on the choices I have made in my life
  18. I will treat procrastination and fear of failure as the destroyers of dreams
  19. I choose to manage my money in a sensible manner. I will buy what I need, avoid wasteful purchases, and save from every check I receive. After that, I will enjoy those things I can afford to do
  20. I reserve the right to make changes to my choices as I live and grow as a person

What are your life choices? What would you like them to be for a healthier, fun, and productive life? If you made such a list, what would you include? Aren't choices better thean resolutions? Make your list of choices, and see how you fare at the end of each year.



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erinsoffice 4 years ago from Central Florida

I really enjoyed reading over your list, and I believe that lots of your "choices" apply to me as well. Thank you for sharing!


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sunkentreasure 4 years ago

SECRETS OF LIFE By BERNARD LEVINE

Look for the beauty

in everything you see.

Walk in peace

showing kindness

everywhere.

The secrets of success

are motivation

and dedication

Happiness is

what you make happen

for yourself.

Caring is

going to the ends of the world

for a stranger.

Be useful with your life.

Whatever you are doing

put your whole

being into it 100%

Loving is

pleasing your loved one everyday

in a 1000 different ways.

Control your mind

you are its master

Be in control.

Live your life

without hurting or

destroying.

Believe in yourself.

Have respect for yourself.

Walk through life

always with a song.

© Bernard Levine


Kathleen Kerswig 4 years ago

Such a beautiful list of choices - we always have a choice. No matter what, I can choose how I'm going to react to a situation. The one that caught my eye was #3 - asking for help. In my experience, I am always better off after I have been the one to help someone. You never know when your request might be helping someone get out of themselves for a little while. I love to help my friends - and many times it gets me out of my head and into the solution for me or another person. Thanks for sharing.


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geetbhim 4 years ago from Ludhiana India

Good lines. Thanks for sharing.


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Taleb80 4 years ago

My first choice to Vote this hub up & Awesome.

My Second choice "I will follow you."

My third one "I will bookmark it."

thank you for sharing this nice hub.


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Carolyn2008 4 years ago from Boston Author

Thank you everyone for your kind comments. I was really hesitant about sharing this hub. Putting myself 'out there' with something a little more personal than I usually write was a concern. So, I had to make the choice to overcome my fear of harsh criticism. I'm glad I did it, more so if others find some of my choices useful.


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Taleb80 4 years ago

I am glad that you did it also, I am sure that most of your choices are very useful.


Kathleen Kerswig 4 years ago

Sharing from the heart can be very scary but it is well worth the effort. I can tell it is genuine and that is a quality I am drawn to always. Have a wonderful day Carolyn!


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Cyndi10 4 years ago from Georgia

Wonderful choices! Standing by those choices should help you have the life you seek and deserve.


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Carolyn2008 4 years ago from Boston Author

I am so happy for all the positive feedback. I have been pondering writing from a more personal rather than 'professional' perspective, and again, I am happy that I made the choice to remove the fear that had been giving me writers block these past weeks. I think that hub writers make taking chances easier to do as well.


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Born2care2001 4 years ago from Asheville NC

Hi Carolyn,

I'm happy I chose to read this excellent hub! I agree with you about resolutions. My resolutions were valuable and many I've made have been life savers, but often they raise more guilt than good.

Like you, I'm making new choices, creating new neuro-pathways leading to a different life. My new life didn't have to be better, the old one was actually okay. I just want to be free and living a life a freedom involves making personal choices.

So I say, Bravo to you for your decisions, your hubs and your life!

Gratefully,

Bruce


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Carolyn2008 4 years ago from Boston Author

Thank you for your comment. I have felt more in control since I listed my choices for the year. My choices were established as a life style. So when I seem to falter, I just read my list and it gives me strength. Living without guilt feels good.


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jainismus 4 years ago from Pune, India

Great choices, one should everybody choose them for a better living.


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nanderson500 4 years ago from Seattle, WA

I agree, great choices here. Well thought out hub. Voted up.


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Carolyn2008 4 years ago from Boston Author

Thank you both. The hard part is remembering to live the choices I made.

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