Nuggets of Wisdom from a 65-Year Old Woman

Maya Angelou and I share the same birth date (except the year). She is 21 years older than I am, and a great model of wisdom and womanhood to follow. I have neither the desire nor the ability to imitate her, but I learn from her stories of struggles and successes, from her continuing zest for life and from the wisdom in the words she has penned.

Sixty-five and loving It!
Sixty-five and loving It! | Source

Maya is only one of the individuals from whom I continue to learn as I begin my 65th year. Other teachers include:

  • my oldest living aunt who teaches me how to report the pains of aging with humor and reminds me to be grateful for the stabilizing bond of family;
  • my mother, whose present condition as an Alzheimer’s victim leaves her lessons in hospitality and her legacy of good counsel untouched;
  • my cousins and peers (male and female), who teach me the importance of connection;
  • members of a writing community called HubPages, who thrill me with their creativity and resourcefulness;
  • my son and daughter who occasionally walk ahead of me in the spirit of adventure, courage and expectations.

Still, the wisdom lessons I share best are those extracted from my own situations. Some of them took me years to learn. At 65, I begin to share them in nugget portions and address them especially to those who walk behind me.


(1) Smiles: Share Deliberately

You have been taught to flash a smile of welcome and recognition to anyone who enters your space or who makes eye contact with you. Beyond that, let your smiles be deliberate for people who deserve them—individuals who need a show of friendship, cheer, compassion and so on.

Some foolish people think that smiles are an invitation to become familiar. If you smile at their trashy jokes or rude behavior, they interpret your smile as support. Pay attention to the way your smile is received.

This advice goes against the merry advice to keep smiling, but it may come in handy.


. . . for those who walk behind me
. . . for those who walk behind me | Source

(2) Words: Use Carefully

You do not have to own the words you use. You can quote other people’s words (as long as you do not take credit for them) when it is important to speak out. Too many people remain silent—not knowing the right words to say—when something needs to be said.

Not enough wisdom is spoken to offset the volume of nonsense spoken in public, by people who talk too much.

In personal relationships, be careful to communicate clearly and purposely. Talk through your feelings and give the other person opportunity to speak, so that you understand each other. Write your words when it is difficult to say them.

In general, use words to build, not to destroy. Specifically, when speaking to the children, use words worth remembering.


(3) Time and Money: Invest Wisely

Procrastination and ignorance have been my lifelong enemies with regards to time and money. I used to have major regrets about this, but regret is useless. I believe that habits can change, going forward.

It is all about setting goals, devising a plan, and practicing zero tolerance for delay and distraction. Even at age 65, the struggle to break bad habits remain. But why am I still alive, if not to gain victories that eluded me in earlier years?

To those behind me, make the effort to learn time and money management. Write what you learn into your personal program. Use them and not let them use you. Decide where you need them on your list of priorities, but never place them above family.


(4) Forgiveness: Dispense Lavishly

Learn from your mistakes what they teach you about yourself and about life, but do not keep a list of your wrongdoings. Admit your imperfection and accept God’s forgiveness, which is how you forgive yourself.

Forgiving yourself makes it easier to forgive other people. Just remember that in forgiving others, you are only dispensing from the forgiveness which you receive. You receive it lavishly, so dispense it lavishly.

The freedom that comes from forgiveness is worth sharing. It frees your space from negative elements like selfishness, guilt, inferiority and hostility. You empower yourself to age gracefully.


(5) Worship: Participate Passionately

At age 65, I have had time to review and reflect on the beliefs I inherited. Some I have altered and some I have replaced. The end result is that I choose to worship the Creator God of heaven and earth, and to remain a Christian following the example and teachings of Jesus Christ.

Life is too confusing to live without having a a solid, divine connection. Prayer helps and worship sustains. Worship is best offered humbly in recognition of the fact that God is greater than we are; passionately, in response to the fact we need a relationship with Him more than with anyone or anything else.

Even the birds worship with songs.

Photo by Philippe Alès
Photo by Philippe Alès | Source

My counsel to those behind me is to nurture your innate desire for worship. Some worship themselves, other people, possessions or causes. It makes sense to worship the Giver of Life, and to worship passionately in proportion to your gratitude.


(6) Life: Live Joyfully

"Don't get older just to get wiser...If you get older, you will be wiser...But get older because it's fun," said Maya Angelou on her 74th birthday.

Joy lives inside you. It finds things to celebrate. When you’re burnt out and it seems that there is nothing to be joyful about, look around you, find someone who is celebrating and share his or her joy. Or let nature help bring it to the surface; take a nature walk and enjoy the song of the birds, or the sprint of the squirrels. Or, play some music, sing and dance.

Your joy is your responsibility. It helps you maintain your health and your relationships. No better life than a life of joy!


This Summary of Nuggets

1. Smiles: Share Deliberately
2. Words: Use Carefully
3. Time and Money: Invest Wisely
4. Forgiveness: Dispense Lavishly
5. Worship: Participate Passionately
6. Life: Live Joyfully

Everyone is encouraged to compile and share wisdom nuggets gained from everyday experiences, as the opportunity arises. The more we share, the more we connect, and the wiser we will all be.

  • Every day is a good day.
  • Every person counts.
  • Every situation teaches a lesson.
  • Everyone who reads this is alive.

In appreciation for this great gift of life, the least we can do is enjoy it at whatever age we are.

© 2014 Dora Isaac Weithers

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Purpose Embraced 2 years ago from Jamaica

MsDora, thanks for your words of wisdom. I especially love what you said about choosing our words carefully. Our words should be to build up others and not tear them down.

I still remember the encouraging words of an elderly lady many years ago. She was a simple woman who was not educated, but I still remember her words. They were said from a gracious heart when I needed reassurance, and made a great difference in my life.

Blessings.


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Purpose Embraced 2 years ago from Jamaica

Thanks MsDora for your words of wisdom. I especially love what said about our words. Our words should build up others and not tear them down.

I remember as a young person, the encouragement a much older lady gave me. She was a simple lady without education. But her gracious words reassured me. and made a great difference in my life.

Blessings.


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Harishprasad 2 years ago from India

MsDora, this is a wonderful, fantastic and very useful hub and I think the world needs this kind of stuff in bulk. All nuggets mentioned In this hub are very important in order to lead a beautiful and blissful life. Perhaps there is a minority who religiously adorn these all six gems, most of the people pick up just two or three out of these precious nuggets. I feel that there is dearth of people who cherish No. 4 nugget. Nonetheless, I wish billions of people start appreciating these glittering nuggets and enlighten their lives. Great article and great nuggets of wisdom ! Voted up !


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MsDora 2 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Doc, thanks for your affirmation. You illustrated what I mean about speaking words worthy of recall.


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MsDora 2 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Harishprasad, thank you for your encouragement. Forgiveness can be the difference between joy and depression in our lives.


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Ericdierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

I just voted across the board and up. And shared it. But I will have to come back and read it critically again. Because I am so biased by the love you have shown me and I feel for you.

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Jodah 2 years ago from Queensland Australia

You are very wise MsDora, but as you say you should aim to age with joy and not just to become wiser as that comes naturally with experience. Wonderful advice for all of us here. Thank you for sharing your wisdom. Voted up.


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DDE 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

A beautiful hub MsDora so interesting so much thought put into this hub. Your wise words are so helpful.


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billybuc 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

What a wonderful message, Dora! Whenever your birthday was, or is, Happy Birthday. We are the same age and still learning...how wonderful is that? :)


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Jackie Lynnley 2 years ago from The Beautiful South

Love your directive for life MsDora and yes all these things are indeed important. You are a very young, pretty and talented 65 years young; surely you know. According to Maya we have much to look forward to. Hope you had a very happy 65th! ^+


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Nancy Owens 2 years ago from USA

I love this. I especially like that you talk about investing out time wisely. Oh, how many times we hustle and bustle trying to achieve that Holy Grail of what ever it is we think we want only to find out the real treasure was the journey. Voted up and sharing.


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ologsinquito 2 years ago from USA

This is wonderful advice, so I'm sharing. If the picture you used is of yourself, you look terrific. You seem like a beautiful person inside and out. Voted up and shared.


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Purpose Embraced 2 years ago from Jamaica

MsDora, sorry for commenting twice, I thought the first comment was erased.


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FlourishAnyway 2 years ago from USA

What lovely wisdom you have acquired through your years, MsDora. Thank you for imparting it today.


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MsDora 2 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Eric, you're easy to love. Thanks for being my HubFriend.


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MsDora 2 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Jodah, thanks for your kind words. Happy that you find mine relevant.


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MsDora 2 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Devika, glad you find my nuggets helpful. Thank you.


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MsDora 2 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Bill, thanks for the birthday wishes. I know that I'm in good company with you who are also enjoying life.


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MsDora 2 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Jackie, you're very kind. I enjoyed my birthday, thank you.


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MsDora 2 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Nancy, you expressed that so well. Thank you.


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lambservant 2 years ago from Pacific Northwest

I love this Ms. Dora. First of all, you are a beautiful woman and your grandson is a doll. I can't believe how he's grown. I love every item on your list. I think forgiveness and worship areas that have focused my attention. When we worship God, and I mean whole life worship from the very depths of our heart, forgiveness will come easier. It nearly destroyed me one time.

Happy Birthday, Dora. May the Lord bless you and keep you.


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Froggy213 2 years ago from On A Mountain In Puerto Rico

Thank you so very much. You have given me a special blessing today with your wise words. May God bless you MsDora


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MsDora 2 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Ologsinquito, I appreciate your comment. That's my picture, and I feel beautiful!


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MsDora 2 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Flourish, I'm still learning. Thanks for your encouragement.


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MsDora 2 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Lori, I know that you have heart for God, and you inspire me.. Thank you for affirming the importance of worship and forgiveness.


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MsDora 2 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Froggy, continual blessings on you for the rest of today and always. Thank you for stopping by.


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MsDora 2 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Doc Purpose Embraced, please do not bother about the duplicate comments. They are both welcome to stay.


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The Stages Of ME 2 years ago

Ms. Dora, such a beautiful hub, full of life lessons from a wise woman. We are blessed. Thank you for sharing your insight and sound advice.

God Bless as you share the love and light, I am sure you touch many during your day.


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grand old lady 2 years ago from Philippines

Here's another list I have to keep in my pocket and refer to now and then. I fall short on so many of your points. Thank you, Ms. Dora. Voted up and shared.


sheilamyers 2 years ago

Another wonderful hub full of great advice! I try to live out what you wrote, but sometimes find myself slipping back to my old ways. It's always nice to read your hubs for the gentle reminders of the best way to live.


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MsDora 2 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Stages, thank you for stopping by. I appreciate your kind comment.


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MsDora 2 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Mona, be encouraged. Falling short is something all humans do, but forgiving yourself is on the list. Thanks for commenting.


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MsDora 2 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Sheila, thank you for following. We all need reminders. That's how I know what to include so I can remind myself.


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Ann1Az2 2 years ago from Orange, Texas

A lack of all these nuggets causes pre-mature aging! Well done, especially the one about forgiveness.


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MsDora 2 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Well said, Ann. Thank you for your observation. I appreciate you.


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Karen Lorenzo 2 years ago from Denver, Colorado

Beautiful article which brings out the positive side of an individual.

Voted up:)


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Faith Reaper 2 years ago from southern USA

Such a beautiful write filled with much wisdom, MsDora. Thank you for sharing here! Each one you have listed is so important in this life. I can see the joy in your face, eyes and smile when holding your grandson, so precious is he. Just this past weekend, we had up all three of my grands and the first night up we turned on the music and all sang and danced and just had the best time filled with laughter. All of such keeps one young too, such as your young 65 years!

Here is to 65 years of living and loving and many, many more of the same to come.

Up and more, tweeting, pinning and sharing

God bless you. In His Love,

Faith Reaper


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MsDora 2 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Karen, welcome to HubPages, and thanks for reading and commenting.


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MsDora 2 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Faith, thank you for being so kind. I can imagine the joy of having 3 grandkids in your home. Just little while longer, and mine will be redy to dance. Blessings to you, too.


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Frank Atanacio 2 years ago from Shelton

Msdora this is another wonderful hub..amazing


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sujaya venkatesh 2 years ago

wisdom dawns mostly at dusk do


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MsDora 2 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Frank, thank you for your kind comment. So good to hear from you.


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CraftytotheCore 2 years ago

MsDora, you brought tears to my eyes. This is so beautiful. You have such tremendous value for life and you are such a good role model to all.


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MsDora 2 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Ahhhhhh Crafty! I've been to the doctor more than once because of dry eyes. Tears have their purpose. I love you, too.


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Tamarajo 2 years ago from Southern Minnesota

"we need a relationship with Him more than with anyone or anything else" - Amen!!

Thank you for sharing your wisdom with us. Voted up and useful


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Nell Rose 2 years ago from England

Hi MsDora, what a wonderful inspirational hub! I loved every word, and all of them very wise, and the photos are beautiful!


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MsDora 2 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Tmarajo, so pleased to meet you. Thank your for that affirmation.


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MsDora 2 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Nell, thank you, thank you. I appreciate you.


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izettl 2 years ago from The Great Northwest

What a great person to share a birthday with. I've seen many interviews with Maya and I can't even be as positive as her. I'd love to be but I really think it comes natural to her. Anyway, I love the wisdom here. Most importantly, and you mentioned it at the end, is time to reflect. Yes, you've reflected but even other people at your age have not. Reflection is great and can be dome at any age...consistently. Some people don't their whole lives so not even age gives them wisdom. And I love #5! Great hub! Up!!


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PegCole17 2 years ago from Dallas, Texas

These are wise words to incorporate into our daily lives. Thanks for sharing these nuggets.


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MsDora 2 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Izettl, thanks for confirming the positive soul that is Maya Angelou. She's exceptional. Her spirit of gratitude impresses me greatly and I would like to exude the same. Thank you for the encouragement.


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MsDora 2 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Thank you, Peg. You always share honestly, and I appreciate you.


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ignugent17 2 years ago

Wonderful hub MsDora! I agree with you on using the words carefully. That is why hubpages is really a good site in giving comments and getting one. The writers give each other ideas and advice that will help the individual grow and improve as a writer.

Have a good one. :-)


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Bk42author 2 years ago from New York

Beautiful words of wisdom. Thank you so much for sharing. Voted up!


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MsDora 2 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Ignugent, thank you for the illustration. Right on!


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MsDora 2 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Brenda, welcome to my HubCircle. Thank you for your kind comment.


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Kathleen Odenthal 2 years ago from Bayonne, New Jersey

thank you msdora for this insightful post!


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cecileportilla 2 years ago from West Orange, New Jersey

Thanks for your words of wisdom Ms. Dora. I will frequently remind myself of your summary of nuggets . Voted up!


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MsDora 2 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Kathleen, you're welcome. Thank you for your comment.


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MsDora 2 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Cecile, thank you for your kind comment. Glad you like my nuggets.


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word55 2 years ago from Chicago

Hello MsDora, you've captured wisdom like no other has. You use it well. I can can appreciate your wisdom as I look ahead enjoying every day. Thank you for always showing up here!


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MsDora 2 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Al, thank you for your kind observation. We are all acquiring wisdom everyday and when you get to be my age, you'll have your personal nuggets to share. Thanks for your continual support!


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Lastheart 2 years ago from Borikén the great land of the valiant and noble Lord

Oh, how I love this hub!!! The Bible is so real, Proverbs 16:31 says: "Gray hair is a crown of glory; it is gained in a righteous life."

Maya is one of those that I am looking forward to meet in Heavens.

You look great! Be Blessed.


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word55 2 years ago from Chicago

Duhhh, I like your new pic, I meant to add that you have such a charming and youthful smile. -:)


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MsDora 2 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Maggie, good to see you. I accept my gray hair as blessing; just the fact that I live long enough to have them. Thank you.


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MsDora 2 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Word, just a little flattery? Thank you, I accept it.


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Janellegems 2 years ago from Virginia

Excellent wise words to follow. I appreciate every nugget. Thanks for sharing your heart, life lessons and advice. You are truly a blessing and inspiring woman.


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MsDora 2 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Janelle, thank you for your encouragement. Have a great week!


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denise.w.anderson 2 years ago from Bismarck, North Dakota

It is wonderful to have a small glimpse of who you "really are," MsDora. We love you and appreciate your wisdom and understanding that you choose to share with us. We are grateful for the decisions you have made in your life, and the example you continue to set. Happy 65th!


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MsDora 2 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Denise, thanks for the birthday wishes and kind sentiments. I love you too, and hope we continue to learn from each other.


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LadyFiddler 2 years ago from Somewhere in the West

Hi Msdora lovely read, well written and I can hear you tone in your hub like if I know you and I've heard your voice. Maya Angelou has been through a rugged road. I love her style of writing only one problem I got with her and its her "voice" lol but that has not stopped me from liking her poems or owning one of her books. She's one of my strong black sisters, I do hope God gives her health and strength as she goes down in age.

What you said about a smile is so true especially for men they always take it in the wrong way. It annoys me I am just trying to be polite and cordial at work or on the street doesn't mean the smile was inviting nor that we are buddies. When will they get it!

Thanks for sharing .

Shalom and peace be unto you.


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MsDora 2 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Hi LadyFiddler, seems like I know you too. It's because we have some similar thoughts. Thank you so much for weighing in. You encourage me. Be blessed!


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DREAM ON 2 years ago

MsDora Through your nuggets of wisdom I discovered the richest ore of all kind. That I can carry in my pocket or pull out to display. Each and every time I learn something new. Thank you and have a nice day.


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MsDora 2 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Dream On, you are such an encouragement to me. Thank you!


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LadyFiddler 2 years ago from Somewhere in the West

Good day MsDora No problem :)

Hope your having a swell day


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stricktlydating 2 years ago from Australia

MsDora, I always appreciate your words of wisdom. You are outstanding! The family photos you shared here are beautiful too! Happy Easter:)


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MsDora 2 years ago from The Caribbean Author

StrictlyDating, Happy Easter to you as well. Thank you for your kind comment.


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DREAM ON 2 years ago

When I was growing up at the age 15 years old I rather spend time to an elderly lady who would tell me all about her day and any thoughts that seemed important. It was better than hanging out with friends.Thank you again for sharing your thoughts and your beautiful family.


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MsDora 2 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Dream On, I am honored to be another old lady who has something to offer. I have always liked the elderly, so perhaps we share similar thoughts about them. Hope I am able to share as long as I live. As for you, start sharing whenever you feel like it, no matter what age you are.


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rajan jolly 2 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

MsDora, I love the essence of this hub. These nuggets maybe small but they truly leave a powerful message. Many thanks for sharing your words of wisdom.


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MsDora 2 years ago from The Caribbean Author

You're welcome, Rajan. They're reminders for me too. Thanks for dropping by.


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Lady_E 2 years ago from London, UK

Your photos are beautiful. The point about "Participate passionately" touched me. I will be honest and say sometimes, I could be clapping hands praising God and at the same time wondering what I will have to prepare for Sunday dinner. We truly must be there 100% in heart worshipping.... well, I should. :-)


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MsDora 2 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Lady E, I can relate; distracting thoughts sometimes barge in. However, we learn by practice how to replace them and continue to focus. Thank you for sharing, and keep praising!


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manatita44 2 years ago from london

Gems of wisdom here, my Sweet One.

I am going though some of your Hubs here, but for this one I should not have been late. My apologies.

Your loving Brother in Spirit,

Manatita


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MsDora 2 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Manatita, glad you finally made it to my page. You can be late as long as you are sincere. Thank you.


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CrisSp 2 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

Indeed, great words of wisdom. Worth reading and sharing. Lovely photos as well.

Thank you.


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MsDora 2 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Cris, nice hearing from you. Thank you for your encouragement.


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Blond Logic 2 years ago from Brazil

These are things I am still working on.

Only in the past few years have I learned how beneficial forgiveness is. It is as though grudges I held on to were a weight on me. Looking at it now, I was foolish and now -I just , let it go.

Time management is still my big problem. I believe many people view those of us who work from home, as lazy or unemployed. I need to be firmer with those who try to monopolize my time.

You have really hit the nail on the head with your list. These are all useful words of wisdom, whether were 65 , 25 or 105!

Sharing and pinning


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Barbara Kay 2 years ago from USA

I like your advice. I'm getting older myself and need to be reminded of some of these lessons from time to time.


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MsDora 2 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Blond Logic, thank you for your valuable input. Love your honesty about forgiveness; glad you're free now. I'm working on time too. Your comment is encouraging.


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lbrummer 23 months ago from Hartington, Nebraska

Beautifully written. A joyful attitude is priceless.


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MsDora 23 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Thanks, Loraine. If we're going to be around, we might as well enjoy being here.


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poetryman6969 20 months ago

What a nice photo of you! Some very good advice as well. Voted up.


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MsDora 20 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Poetryman, thanks for your kind comment. You made my day!


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swalia 11 months ago

Great advice MsDora. Thanks for sharing!


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MsDora 11 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Swalia, you're welcome. Thank you for reading and commenting.

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