Nursing an Old Wound
I don’t really have anything to say
So I’ll just keep talking anyway;
Senselessly supplanting silence with sounds.
Animating the nothingness
With exaggerated enthusiasm,
Fluctuation of vocal tones
And lots of exclamations,
I still am not saying a single thing,
But I am filling all the empty spaces
And every space in between
With words that seem,
On the surface, interesting
Were it not for their vacuous content,
And one recurring theme;
That it’s all about me,
And how clever I am.
I smile a lot
And say funny things;
Get lots of attention
For positive things
So you think I’m nice
But really I’m not.
I’m better and smarter
Wiser and quicker
Than you can ever be,
And I am always right.
While verbalizing wit and kindness,
My actions are clearly saying
How stupid, inept and pathetic you are
And that I have little regard for you.
I need you to need me, you see,
So I can keep feeling like I am worthwhile.
I am saying that you need me
When in fact
It is I,
Who needs you…
To need me;
'Cause my worth is in being needed by you.
If you no longer needed me
And god forbid would ever leave,
There would be no one left to see
How witty and clever and worthwhile I can be.
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