Opposing vs. Composing
At every moment of difficulty and challenge in your life you have a choice: opposition or composition. You can either oppose that which you are experiencing, or compose that which you choose. –Neale Donald Walsch
This is the perfect topic to write about, at the perfect time in my life. So much of what has happened to me seems, from the outside world’s view, to be very negative. If I wasn’t the person I am, it would appear that way to me as well.
There is a saying, “What you resist, persists.” It fits in quite well with this quote from Neale Donald Walsch that I found on Facebook today. If I didn’t understand most of why things happen to me they way they do, I would label myself a loser. Fortunately, for me, I don’t believe there is any such thing as a loser.
Fortunately, I have also finally quit resisting what shows up in my life. I have fought so many events in my past, so many misunderstandings, and so many bad feelings, that I have finally learned that they persist until I let go. They continued to invade my serenity, my peace of mind until I got to the point where I had to either choose to let go of it all or end it all. Thank goodness I chose to let go. That letting go has been one of the hardest things I have had to learn to do.
Composing and creating are synonymous. Creating is the same word as reacting, only with the letters rearranged. When we compose/create the life we choose, we do it from an aware perspective. When we react to the life we have, we do it from an egotistical perspective.
Our awareness comes from understanding that all things happen for a reason. We draw events and people into our lives so that we can have the experience of remembering our innate greatness. We can strive towards being Who We Truly Are when we seek to live from an aware perspective.
When we live from our E-G-O, we find we are “Edging God Out.” We believe the world is out to get us; that people are against us, that we deserve the misery we get, etc. Those thoughts can be true if you so believe them to be. “As a man thinketh, so is he,” you know! Much Truth is subjective. If you believe you deserve misery, then that is what you will see in your life on a daily basis. However, if you believe that all things happen to draw you closer to the image of Who You Truly Are, closer to the place where you get back to being the most like God, then you will see that manifesting itself in your daily life. It’s all in the perspective.
The greatest people that have ever lived have had lives of turmoil, loss, rejection and temporary defeat. Yet, they take those chances, those opportunities and choose to see them as one more step towards success. They have the attitude that the more “no’s” they get, the closer they are to a “yes.” I have learned to adapt that viewpoint in my life because I have had more than my share of “no’s.”
I seek to always see the glass as half full, even though there are some days where it’s not all fun and positivity for my soul. I still choose to believe that something better will come along. I believe a door never closes without another door opening.
I used to believe that I had to question, “Why?” all the time. I had to know the reason that all the negative fate befell me. Now I choose to just accept it because I have learned to find the good in it. There is always, always something good that comes out of something bad. It’s not easy to see it but it is there. I could make a list of everything huge that has been “negative” in my life but if I did that, most of it would seem unbelievable. The point is that it’s not the events that happened to me, it’s what I did with the thoughts about those events that have changed my life.
Composing or opposing, the choice is up to you. How you feel about it, what you do with it and how you create your life from this moment on are all the points that matter most. Just remember, if you are opposing and fighting what is with your fists clenched tight, you can’t ever receive the gift in the experience because your hands need to be wide open in order to do that!
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