Adult Orphan at Age 39

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A Mother is a Daughter's Best Friend

A very wise man once said, "You are not a true adult until both of your parents have passed on, you are then an orphan".

That man was John F. Kennedy, Jr. upon the passing of his mother Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis.

JFK, Jr was 34 years old at that time, but he could already feel the emptiness of being parent-less and the immediate realization that he's now a true adult.

n 2002 at the age of 39 I became an orphan and his statement has stuck with me. My father passed away in 1983 and my mother passed away in 2002. I was now an orphan.

I will never be able to hear my parents voice, share joyous occasions with them, celebrate holidays or ask them for parenting advice again.

It was time for me to become a true adult. A new chapter has begun.

My parents...My angels

My Parents
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Being an adult orphan is a way of life most of us will succumb to.

I have gained strength knowing that I have two angels watching over me as I continue on my journey of life. I speak to my parents through my heart.

It brings me comfort to know that no matter what I'm asking or sharing with them they are able to hear me.

I've shared countless stories about my folks with my family and friends and by doing so I am keeping their memory alive.

My heart ached when myself or my daughters celebrated milestones in our lives and my parents weren't able to share those moments with us, but I felt a sense of ease knowing that they knew exactly what was happening and they were there in spirit.

Losing a parent...

A parent passing away is similar to losing a part of yourself, I'm a firm believer in that. Losing two parents is losing two parts of yourself. The two people who created me and brought me into this world are gone and I'm left behind to live my life and continue to make them proud and I intend to succeed.

There will always be reminders that make the heart ache. Such as their birthday or anniversary dates. Even Hallmark holidays such as Mother's and Father's Day. I believe in celebrating parents every day...not just on specific calender dates.

Instead of being sad on their special days you could celebrate them instead. You could prepare their favorite meal, go to a movie they would enjoy, go to a sporting event...the point is, your parents would not expect you to be sad, they would want you to shine! So shine!

I listen to friends as they complain about their parents pestering or nagging them and I tell them they are blessed to have parents who are there for them. I watch as friends greet their parents and I feel sadness, but yet I am happy for their blessings.

When the telephone rings it takes me back to the day when I would pick it up and hear my mother's voice saying "why haven't you called me?" It had only been two days since our last conversation. I smile now as I write this because it's a wonderful memory that I will always treasure.

Deep down in my heart I can still hear my parents voice and feel the touch of their skin and I hope one day to see them again but, for now I rely on the wonderful and heartwarming memories.

I took life's lessons that my parents have instilled in me and I have picked myself up, dusted myself off and carried on because basically I had no other choice. Life goes on. I walk with my chin up and on occasion I glance upwards and wave hello.

Uncle, Dad, Mom, Aunt
Uncle, Dad, Mom, Aunt | Source

We never know the love of a parent

till we become parents ourselves.

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GoGranny 5 years ago from Southeastern PA

I hadn't considered being orphaned after my parents died. Wow. I do feel very blessed to have had them as long as I did. Thanks for writing this.


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Sunshine625 5 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

If it wasn't for the words of JFK, Jr. I'm not sure I would have either. It proves that how the words of one person can change how we view something. I'm happy you enjoyed my hub. Thank you.


Mich 5 years ago

Great post, Mom. Your Mom and Dad would be proud! :)


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Sunshine625 5 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Thank you Mich


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speedbird 5 years ago from Nairobi, Kenya

Great and very inspiring, orphaned at the age 39? Many people at this age normally don't think of themselves as orphans. It is also a reminder that we take many things for granted, we really need to know how to count our blessings. I hope being orphaned at the age 39 will be a new chapter in your life full of hope, contentment and purpose.


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Sunshine625 5 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Thank you for your comment speedbird. So true adults don't typically think of themselves as orphans but in reality we are but life goes on. In no way or form does an adult orphan compare to a child orphan, my heart goes out to them.


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hanu_1814 5 years ago

What a beautiful post! I love my parents a lot and never want to even think about being orphaned at any stage of my life. Your post moved me deeply and made me think hard about it. Thank God, I have his blessings around me, in the form of my parents.


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Sunshine625 5 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Thank you. Wishing you many more years with your blessings :)


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geegee77 5 years ago from The Lone Star State!!

My parents were older parents, me being the youngest of seven children. There were 5 girls and 2 boys. I was very close to my father. He passed away in 1992, I was 26 at the time and i remember thinking how young I was my boys were little and everytime they had baseball or football games I always wish he couldve been there to share all of thost moments:( I still have my mom though, she is 77 yrs old now and I have to admit I do get annoyed with her at times, but then I realize when she's not here anymore how much it will hurt. I try to cherish every moment and thank God she is still with us:) Im sorry for your loss. Beautiful hub:) ge


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Sunshine625 5 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Thank you ge! I hope you, your mom and all moms have a very Happy Mothers Day!


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Naomi's Banner 5 years ago from United States

This was a very special Hub and I can tell you wrote straight from the heart on this one. I so liked John F. Kennedy Jr. and had such admiration for his spirit and his beliefs. If only ..... this republican would definitely vote for him.


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Sunshine625 5 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Thank you for stopping by Naomi!! I would also have voted for JFK Jr. in a heartbeart!! I've always been a fan of the Kennedys regardless of media messes.


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Sharyn's Slant 5 years ago from Northeast Ohio USA

This is an awesome hub Sunshine! I agree that losing a parent is like losing a part of yourself. It's almost six years since my Mom is gone. She was only 68 :( It truly sucks. I am always thinking about the things that she has missed out on. My Dad will be 80 in a couple months. He surprisingly has adjusted quite well and I'm thankful for that. I enjoy your writing always!

Sharyn


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fpherj48 5 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

Sunshine...I can see I have a lot of reading to do, to take in all of your hubs. This one is so touching and has taken me down Memory Lane with a smile. We do miss our loved ones, especially the comfort and wisdom of parents. Thank you for reminding me....they are always with us.


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Sunshine625 5 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Hello Sharon and Paula! Thank you so much for stopping by one of my favorite hubs....I also come back here every now and then to remind me of where I came from :)


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Sunnyglitter 5 years ago from Cyberspace

I'm estranged from my parents. While my situation varies drastically from yours, I can still relate to much of what you've said. I often wish I had loving parents to share parenting tales with or vent to after a long, hard day. :::hugs:::


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Sunshine625 5 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Hi Sunnyglitter, Im sorry for your estrangement...that can't be easy. I wish the same thing, everyday. Wishing you luck :))


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Barbara Turpin 5 years ago from N. California

I was orphaned at age 6......not by their deaths. This isn't the forum for the why's or the how's

I can only say I feel horrendous envy when I see any child ..... OR adult that have a good relationship with one or both parents. Even today I could be a "drama queen" and scream, cry or throw something, instead I remain envious.

Thank God for all that have/had a good relationship with one or both parents. You ARE truly blessed. I do hope I was the mother I DID not have....

Oh! I must stop.......


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Stephanie Henkel 5 years ago from USA

I can relate to your hub even though my parents died when I was very much older because losing parents at any age can give us a feeling of being alone. Very nice hub. Thanks for sharing your insights.


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AEvans 5 years ago from SomeWhere Out There

My parents are gone too. Mom died last year and this story is very touching and brought tears of joys to my eye. Yes we are orphans but they are also are with us. I wrote on a couple of my hubs to others and always say this, " When you touch your heart, you feel your mother's heart. When you look at your hands, they are hers and it goes on. Yes are parents are right there for us and others who complain should be grateful they have theirs. Beautiful story and tribute. God Bless! :)


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Frank Atanacio 5 years ago from Shelton

very interesting voted up and interesting Sunshine


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DzyMsLizzy 5 years ago from Oakley, CA

A very powerful testament to the truth of these devastating feelings. My parents were a generation apart in age--the proverbial May-December relationship, and blissfully happy for 31 years. My dad, whom I adored, passed in 1976 just a few months shy of his 79th birthday. My mother was then a widow for 22 years, finally going to join him in 1998, just a few months past her 76th birthday.

My father taught me so many things, instilled in me a love of nature, the great outdoors, and how to deal with "things mechanical."

My mother was my best friend. We shared a common interest in poetry, among so many other things, and were on the phone to each other at least once a day, more often sometimes, and always to share our latest poem.

When she passed, my muse died with her--I've scarcely written any poetry since--and at that only in the last year or so.

When my mother died, it was sudden and unexpected, and I fell into a chasm of loss, despair, grief and assorted other emotions stronger than any I'd experienced before. As an only child, that is perhaps why it hit me so hard. I felt the life sucked out of me; the very air, like a punch in the gut. And I was a mature adult in my early 50's then--that did not soften the blow.

It was a good three years before I was able to speak of her without a crying jag hitting me. And yes, I truly felt orphaned, and said as much at the time to my husband.

It is only this many years later that I am finally able to deal with "offloading" some of her personal effects--things I never really cared for, but felt that to get rid of them would somehow dishonor her memory.

Thanks so much for putting this out there. It will no doubt help many to understand what a friend or relative is going through at such a horribly difficult time in their lives.


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Victoria Lynn 5 years ago from Arkansas, USA

Sunshine, I can't imagine both of my parents being gone, much less at the age of 39. I love it that you look up and wave at them. You have given them quite a tribute here. Your testimony also can help others as they try to cope with such a loss. Beautiful hub.


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blessing980306 4 years ago

I love this Hub grandma & grandpa were awesome people!I know they are both looking down at you.Yes they are very proud of you.You are amazing mom,wife,grams,aunt!I always have grandma memory close to me.She was one of my favorite people I think you know that.I was orphaned at age of 7.Yes it left hole in my heart.But my mom made up for that lose.She carried the role of mom& dad.Now my step dad of 25 yr.is best man I know.I will always Love my real dad.Thank him for life I have the most amazing husband and 3 children!:)


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Hi Ida! I know and I agree with all of the above!!:)


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Hello DzyMsLizzy and Victoria! I'm a bit late responding to your comments but thank you both for sharing:)


BlueSkye 4 years ago

I love this post! I remember my Mom saying she was "orphaned" when her mother passed, and thinking she was being dramatic. I lost her a few months ago and at age 49, didn't have nearly enough time with her. My dad passed away at 42 (my age 17). I do have a wonderful step-dad, and suppose I get this threefold. I will try to focus on having their strength from above. There is definitely a hole, lacking that unconditional love (and sometimes tough love) from her.


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BlueSkye 4 years ago

Thank you DzyMsLizzy for describing exactly what I've been going through. My loss was sudden, and I'm still very teary. Nice to see others expressing what they've been through.


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Thank you BlueSkye for sharing. I'm sorry for your losses. I agree DzyMissLzzy wrote a wonderful comment to compliment this hub and what we adult orphans feel.


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billybuc 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

Awww...this is just beautiful. I was lucky enough to be with both of my parents when they died...dad in 1969 when I was twenty and mom in 2003...and I understand completely your words and feelings. Thank you for sharing such a beautiful, personal hub with us.


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Thank you Bill. I appreciate you taking the time to read, comment and share your story with us.


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Daisy Mariposa 4 years ago from Orange County (Southern California)

Sunshine,

From one adult orphan to another, thanks for writing this beautiful tribute.

A day doesn't go by that I don't think about my parents. Their anniversary would have been four days before the date on which I'm posting this message.


Poetic Fool 4 years ago

What a wonderful way of expressing how much their loss means to you! I'm blessed that my mother is still around at age 84 but I know I will be heartbroken when her time does come. I remember how hard my dad's passing hit me and, in many ways, I still grieve. Our parents can be replaced. Thanks for sharing this, Linda!


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Sally's Trove 4 years ago from Southeastern Pennsylvania

This is such a beautiful testament not only to your parents but to you. I have yet to be "orphaned." But when I am, your words of angels watching over you and living your life with the life lessons your parents gave you will be in my heart and ready for bringing even closer to me.

My mother has always said to me, "For as long as I am alive, you will be my baby." When she is gone, well, it will be a time to grow up into another dimension.

Beautiful Hub.


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Perspycacious 4 years ago from Today's America and The World Beyond

I am sure Poetic Fool meant "Our parents can't be replaced." Fortunately (and I must add "in most cases") our memories aren't replaced, at least the good ones. Parents have the choice. They can leave us with lasting memories of the kind they choose to give us. We, too, with our own children. Make them great ones.


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cclitgirl 4 years ago from Western NC

Beautiful tribute! I realize how time is so precious, especially as my parents get older. It makes me hate when I hear the phone ringing late at night, if only because I wish my parents could live forever and I never, ever want to hear that phone call. So, I try to make sure I call (we live 1400 miles apart) and tell them I'm thinking of them. Coming to think of it, you made me want to send them an "I'm thinking of you card." Aww. Thanks for sharing this. :)


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Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina

I know that this is a rite of passage everyone experiences and no matter how old you are, it affects you on some level. I couldn't help of think of poor Bobbi Kristina mainly because even though 18 is technically an adult, she's in many ways is a child and won't have her mom to guide her through life's tough roads.

While I still have my parents around, I do cherish the time we have as it will slowly wither away. And I know they cherish the moments they had with their parents now that they are orphans. I won't ever look forward to that phone call or email when it comes but at least I will have a lifetime of love and memories to sustain me for when it does. Beautiful hub!


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Oh my! Thank you all for the messages! With Father's Day just two weeks away, I paid a visit to this hub and found your heartfelt comments. I appreciate them and you.


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rsusan 4 years ago from South Africa

Wonderful hub, Linda. I am truly blessed to still have both my parents. I am grateful for that every single day. To be able to count on them for 33 years of chronic illness - a true example of unconditional love.

You may be an adult orphan, but it is clear that your mom and dad left you a precious legacy - one we can all see and enjoy in your writing.

Rika


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Hi Rika, Your parents are blessed to have you also! Yes, they are. Thank you for your comment. It means a lot coming from you!:)


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Stephanie Henkel 4 years ago from USA

This is a beautiful tribute to your parents, Linda! Our parents continue to influence our lives no matter how long they've been gone or how old we are, and you've written about that so beautifully.


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Daisy Mariposa 4 years ago from Orange County (Southern California)

Linda,

I had to come back and read your beautiful tribute, again. I, too, am an adult orphan. It isn't easy, sometimes.


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Marcy Goodfleisch 4 years ago from Planet Earth

I miss my parents, especially on weekends such as this. Thanks for the reminders!


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MartieCoetser 4 years ago from South Africa

Beautiful tribute to your beautiful parents, Sunshine. I agreed all the way. My mother is still with us, I can phone her anytime and see her 4-5 times per year. My father had died in 1989, but he never left my heart and mind. I'm not so sure if he can see me, but I see him very clearly with the eye of my mind.

Voted up and touching.

BTW, you are just as beautiful as your mother.


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Thank you Steph, Daisy and Marcy...Hallmark holidays do make us miss our parents more:)


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Enjoy your moments with your mom Martie!! I've been told many times I resemble my mom. Thank you!:)


Poetic Fool 4 years ago

Beautiful, Linda! Just beautiful! My father passed in 2001 but I still have my mother, thank goodness! She turned 84 in April. Your hub is such a wonderful tribute to them. The wedding photo is great and I can see them both in you! Thanks for sharing this with us all!


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Pamela Kinnaird W 4 years ago from Maui and Arizona

This is such a one-of-a-kind tribute. Thank you for sharing it in your own very special words. I loved your closing phrase. I will share it with my nieces and nephews. They too are adult orphans. Voting up, across and sharing.


Cogerson 4 years ago

I am amazed that I have not read this hub before. Very well done and a great tribute to your parents. Wow your uncle looks like a giant next to your father. Voted up and awesome.


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Dr Funom Makama 4 years ago from Europe

Really a nice job here... Thanks for the share...


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Docmo 4 years ago from UK

Linda. I became an adult orphan 6 months ago. Your words resonate so much to me. This is a heartrending tribute. Your parents are immortalised by your words. The warmth in your heart and the love in your eyes for your family and friends arrive untainted from your parents. A rare but true gift. Bless you!


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Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

Hi Linda, this was so beautiful, I became an orphan in 98 and then again 99, my dad went first them my mum. I still miss them so much, this was a great tribute to your mum and dad, wonderful.


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Vellur 4 years ago from Dubai

It is really very sad when we loose both parents. Orphaned - yes that is the word - really difficult to deal with. I understand your feelings and am sorry that both your parents have passed on. You know one thing for sure, is that we have so many wonderful memories of them in our mind that we can re-live. Very sad that we cannot hear their voice. I always wish there was a telephone to heaven, so that we can at least hear their voices if not see them - toll-free so that we can keep on talking without worrying about the bills.


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Fennelseed 4 years ago from Australia

Your attitude to life is just amazing Sunshine, you really are a ray of sunshine and your being that way is the gift your dear Mum and Dad provided you with. When it all boils down to it there isn't a lot in life we have control over, certainly when it comes to keeping our loved ones safe and well. We do have control over how we react to and how we personally manage what comes our way. You are an inspiration. I had never really thought about being an orphan, I still have my Mum, she is 82 and my Dad passed away 6 years ago. Unless I pass before her, I will be an adult orphan at some stage and I can't even imagine what it would be like not having Mum always there for me.

Your dear parents hold a very special place in your heart and in your life. Thank you for sharing your story and for the inspiration and guidence your story has provided.

My votes and best wishes to you.


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Thank you all for your thoughts and comments. I appreciate you and them.

We continue to keep our parents memory alive by sharing our wonderful thoughts.

Happy Father's Day to all dads!


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unknown spy 4 years ago from Neverland - where children never grow up.

It was very painful not to see the person you loved so much all your life. I learned a great dealt of lesson about that Shine.. they will always be in our hearts..no matter what.


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Jools99 4 years ago from North-East UK

Linda, I am fortunate to still have both of my parents and I see them both every week because I only live about 15 minutes walk away from them. Every day, I try to remember that I am very lucky that they are both still in my life and a big part of who I am.


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Janine Huldie 4 years ago from New York, New York

Linda, I am not orphaned by any means yet, but my very best friend Natalie lost both her parents before you even turned 30 and couldn't ever imagined being in her shoes. She is such a strong and wonderful young woman and will be 35 in December on Christmas in fact. I know one day I will not have either of my parents and am so not ready for that day. I think nothing can quite prepare you for that loss, but for my friend she has had to deal with that at such a young and tender age. Never having her parents their for her wedding or the birth of her kids. I admire her and her strength, but again couldn't even begin to imagine. Anyway, have voted up, shared and tweeted too!!


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CarlySullens 4 years ago from St. Louis, Missouri

Linda, I can so relate to this. I am a recent adult orphan. My mother died in Feb. 2011, and my dad died in Jan. 2008. I was orphaned at the age of 38, very similar to you.

It is hard when my children do something and I know my parents would love to hear or see them do the activities that would make them happy.

I miss them both very much. Holidays are not the same.

I agree with this statement, "You are not a true adult until both of your parents have passed on, you are then an orphan."

I don't think one can truly understand what that means until they are an adult orphan.

You wrote, "The two people who created me and brought me into this world are gone and I'm left behind to live my life and continue to make them proud and I feel that I'm succeeding." I agree with this, accept for me the two people who created me and brought me into this world abandon me. My parents who died where my adoptive parents. It makes for more complicated grief and the quest to find, "Who am I?" and deeper and darker transition.

Great Hub. Definitely going to share this especially with my sister.


KDuBarry03 4 years ago

Very beautiful, Linda :) You are a strong person to write this and share your thoughts and feelings!


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ishwaryaa22 4 years ago from Chennai, India

A heart-touching tribute to your parents! Your parents did an amazing job of making a strong and free-spirited person out of you! I am blessed to have my parents with me as I am now quite young and my parents are both quite young, relatively speaking. I still have a long way to become a mature adult with my dear parents by my side. Thank you for sharing your heart-warming story about your dear parents with me and many others!


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Sally's Trove 4 years ago from Southeastern Pennsylvania

A beautiful tribute to your parents, and wise words for those of us adults who are not orphaned yet. My mother, who just turned 90, has been saying to me all of my life, even when I gripe about the the aging process I'm now in, "For as long as I'm here, you will always be my baby."

My father has been gone for a long time, but my mother remains. She also says to me, "Why haven't you called me?" I think I need to call her now. Thank you, Linda.


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Uninvited Writer 4 years ago from Kitchener, Ontario

Thanks for sharing this. I lost my father when I was 21, my mother when I was 41. She was living with me at the time so we had gotten very close. She died 14 years ago and I still miss her every day. I was not as close to my father as my older sister was.


Joi 3 years ago

At least you have a family of your own. How about those with no family, not another soul in the entire world to call their own or to be loved and cared for?????


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Sunshine625 3 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Carly, Thank you for sharing your story.

Keith, I appreciate your comment.

Ish, Thanks for your kind words. Your parents are lucky to have you.

Sherri, Wishing your mom many more years.

Susan, I could understand missing your mom everyday.

Joi, Sadly there are many people who have no one. That's heartbreaking, but on the positive side they could always create their own family. Families don't have to be blood related. A good friend could be your brother or sister. Families are what we make them. Thank you for your comment.


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remaniki 3 years ago from Chennai, India

Hi Linda,

As you say, it is a blessing to have my parents close to me (literally too). They live in an apartment across from mine and I am here to take care of their needs though both of them are quite healthy as of now (they depend on me for their banking operations and regular medical visits). I can understand the term 'orphaned as an adult' Linda.

Beautiful tribute to your parents. Cheers, Rema.


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Sunshine625 3 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Hi Rema, I wish you many, many more years with your parents to hug and cherish. I wish them continued good health. Thank you for your comment.


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rcrumple 3 years ago from Kentucky

Linda - I should have obviously read the hub before making my post in the Facebook comments. My apologies. I lost my mother at my age 13. Since my father and I had never been close, it was almost like becoming an orphan, as I no longer had anyone to discuss life with. It's a tough road, but one that can be sometimes forgotten as we look at the faces of our children and grandchildren and know we are the figure they will once remember. Keep smiling, Sunshine!


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mary615 3 years ago from Florida

My parents are both gone, and it makes me sad to know they will never know their beautiful grandchildren. They would have been so proud. They've been dead for many years, but I still miss them. I was very close to my Mom and Dad.


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Sunshine625 3 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Thank you RC, I understand about FB. Sorry about your loss. You've done well for yourself along your tough road:)

Hi Mary, I appreciate you sharing your journey. We don't want to be adult orphans, but it's something we have to deal with. We are blessed with your kids and grandkids to carry on our memories as we are doing for our parents.


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lrc7815 3 years ago from Central Virginia

Linda, what a beautiful tribute. You have lived through my greatest fear and I can only hope that I can do it with as much grace and honor as you have done. Your Mom must be so proud.


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Sunshine625 3 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

I appreciate your comment Linda. At one time losing my mother was also my biggest fear, my dad passed when I was young and clueless. I gained a strength that I didn't know existed, you will also.


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teaches12345 3 years ago

Awww, Linda, I am so touched by your sharing from personal experience over your great loss. I too lost my parents as an adult -- over twenty years ago. They are still a precious memory to me.


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marcoujor 3 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

Time for a big hug, Linda...us orphans have to stick together.

I know birthdays are days we are especially in tuned...and I believe they are with us.

Love you ever so much, MM


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Sunshine625 3 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Thank you Dianna and MM for your comments and sharing your story. I appreciate you both very much. Birthdays are a nice time to reflect on wonderful memories.


garyg 3 years ago

I have a more unique situation--I came from an alcoholic family where I did not get nurtured or loved. I learned about love from God. But I confess I do not miss my family because of the bad childhood. I forgave them for everything but now as a 58 year old with no children and no relatives, and being type 1 diabetic 30 years, I have no one. My wife left for greener grass, now no woman wants a sick broke guy even though I look great and have kindness and character. Only money seems to be of value in the dating world. My email is garyg@surewest.net. I live near Sacramento CA and welcome a response from anyone, especially adult orphans who can relate. Thank you for reading


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Sunshine625 3 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Thank you for sharing your journey Gary. I hope that someone has reached out to you. You seem to have done very well on your own. Wishing you well.


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marcoujor 3 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

Thinking of you today, as I do each and every day, dear Linda.

Hoping you, D and family are having a LOVEly day. Hugs, MM


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Sunshine625 3 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Hi MM, Great minds thinking alike once again! I hope you and Geoff had a wonderful Valentine's Day! :)

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