Perspectives: Regret and Hope - Do They Belong On the Same Page?

Friends from all over the world come together to share our perspectives on life.
Friends from all over the world come together to share our perspectives on life. | Source

Howdy!

By now you know that the Perspectives Team consists of MickeySr, Marcoujor, Martiecoetser, Docmo and myself. The Godfather of this collaborative effort is our beloved MickeySr. who has organized a group of writers, each of whom he feels has something unique to offer to each monthly perspective. I am honored to have been chosen to be a part of this awesome group of talented writers.

Each month we invite a guest writer to join us to speak their piece. This month we are honored to have Paula, aka fpherj48 join us. She is a woman who does not mince words and more often than not, makes us laugh and feel good about life. Please join me in welcoming Paula to this month's group effort. Welcome, Paula!!

Don't live a life of regrets.
Don't live a life of regrets. | Source

Where Does Regret Belong in Life?


I have toiled over this month’s topic (so what else is new, right?). How on earth can regret and hope be immersed into one perspective? After all, they are opposites of each other! Do I exempt myself from this month’s contribution? No and hell no! I need to look deeper into the correlation between the two, invoke my soul’s voice to see and to speak. And that I did. Whew! I really didn’t want to let my team down. More importantly, I didn’t want to let myself down! I knew I could count on myself. I just needed to find a way into the theme and that I did.

According to my trusted Uncle Random, regret is “to feel sorrow or remorse for; to think of with a sense of loss”. So let’s talk about regret first.

There are many things we humans have done in our lives and choices we’ve made that we subsequently learned were bad choices. I know I have – many times! But do they result in regret? If my bad choices affected someone else’s life, you better damned well know I regretted that choice. But if my bad choices only affect me, do I regret? No, I don’t. This may sound cold to you, but realizing you’ve made bad choices in your life leads to growth and re-directing your thoughts in order to do better. I don’t regret any of my bad choices, with the exception of one. This hub is not about that, so there’s no need to go into it. My point is, as long as you learn from your bad or misdirected choices and don’t hurt anyone in the process, there should be no room for regret in your life!

By the same token, if you don’t learn from your mistakes and you keep on the path of destruction, your life will be synonymous with regret. And that equates to unhappiness, lack of drive, lack of self-confidence and lack of happiness. What do I mean by this statement? It’s really quite simple. If you choose to live a life of regret and bring your soul to ground level, you will never achieve your goals. Life is a journey. That journey is full of trials and tribulations. Those trials and tribs are stepping stones to learning who you are and what you want out of life. Turn the negatives into positives! Cry and piss and moan ‘oh, woe is me’ or get up off your ass and make changes! Make changes to the way of living that has led to regret! You have the power; it’s in your hands. Yours and yours alone!


Hope carries dreams, ambitions, aspirations and so much more!
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The Bird of Hope.
The Bird of Hope. | Source
Every dark cloud has a silver lining of hope.
Every dark cloud has a silver lining of hope. | Source

What Does Regret Beget? Where is the Hope?


There is hope for a good life, there really is. You have to love yourself and believe in yourself. This is the perfect segue to Uncle Random’s definition of hope: “the feeling that what is desired is also possible, or that events may turn out for the best”.

Read again the last part of the definition: “... or that events may turn out for the best”. That, my friends, is why regret and hope belong on the same page.

You see, regret begets hope. Once you have lived regret for something you have done or an action you have taken, there is hope that you will learn from the experience, correct the behavior and move on to do better in your life. Never give up on hope. Hope is the driving force to being a better you. It is the driving force to making a better world because of all the people in the world who better themselves. Hope is where dreams are made. Hope is where life is full of rainbows and sunshine, rather than the clouds and destruction of regret. Hope is:


How

One's

Persona

Evolves



Do regret and hope belong on the same page? Absolutely! Regret is a lesson that opens the door to hope. Is your door open?


Something From My Heart

Rather than leave you with a song - someone else's words - I leave you with a poem I wrote when trying to come up with my take on this month's topic. I originally was going to post this poem and nothing else, but once I got my thoughts on paper my mind opened up. Poetry is a form of expression for me and has always, always been my release. Perhaps I should have chosen to post this at the beginning of my perspective on regret and hope, but I was afraid you wouldn't read down to the thoughts that this poem invoked.

I hope you enjoy. More importantly, I hope these words give you food for thought.



Regret and Hope



Regret & Hope

Seem an unlikely pair.

One holds Promise

The other, Despair.


While Hope

Embodies compassion and trust,

Regret can still teach a lesson:


Re-direct and go with your passion.


It’s a Must.


Mistakes we all make;

Some may end in regret.

To learn and move on

Is the lesson we must get.


Life at times may seem

dimmer,

When all it contains is regret.


Look beyond to discover

that each regret

Holds a glimmer

of Hope

for life’s re-set.



Shauna L Bowling

Refining, Defining, or Rhyming

All Rights Reserved



Please click on the links below to read our other team members' views on Regret and Hope. The different avenues we take never cease to amaze me. This is why Mickey brought us together. Each person is unique and each person has their own inspiration, belief, morals and mindsets. The Perspectives Team is proof positive of that. May we always be open to others' opinions and open our minds to how life is perceived through others' eyes. You'll be amazed at what you may learn!

Mickey: http://mickeysr.hubpages.com/hub/Perspectives-Regret-and-Hope-Press-On

Maria:

Martie: http://martiecoetser.hubpages.com/hub/Perspectives-Regrets-and-Hopes-Living-in-the-Present

Mohan: http://docmo.hubpages.com/hub/Perspectives-Regret-and-Hope-The-Lost-Apprentice

Paula: http://fpherj48.hubpages.com/hub/Perspectives-Regret-and-Hope-When-to-Hold-OnWhen-to-Let-Go


Each month we invite a guest writer to offer their 'perspective'. If you are interested, please contact Mickey through his profile page. He will give you a list of upcoming topics from which to choose. Hope to see you!



© 2013 Shauna L Bowling

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billybuc 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

Regrets....none! Period! I have made my amends, to others and to myself. I do so each and every day as the day comes to a close. I look at my day, review it, decide if I did anything that needs to be addressed, and then I am done with it. Hope....always!

Loved this Sha, and I love you.

bill


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bravewarrior 3 years ago from Central Florida Author

I love you, too Bill! It's funny how introspect brings out the perspective in any given situation. I was really troubled with this one, but then it hit me like a ton of bricks!


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LaThing 3 years ago from From a World Within, USA

This is beautiful and inspiring to say the least, Sha! I truly believe that with regret comes hope for the future..... We can't dwell on the past too much. Enjoyed reading this, and looking forward to reading the others' work. Thanks for sharing..... :)


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MartieCoetser 3 years ago from South Africa

Beautiful poem and excellent take on regret and hope. And how perfectly you've brought the two together on one page - "Regret is a lesson that opens the door to hope." So true.

Amazing how we all have the same perspective, just differently presented in our unique styles.

Bravo, Shauna!


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bravewarrior 3 years ago from Central Florida Author

Lizzie, I'm so glad you enjoyed. I know you'll love the others' perspectives as well!

Martie, I was surprised this month. To date, our perspectives have been all over the place. This month we all seem to have the same calling.


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marcoujor 3 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

Dearest Sha,

You have gotten to the crux of the matter when you say:

"Regret begets hope"...

You have worked these concepts through with your usual and beautiful due diligence, with Uncle Random guiding the path and your poetry inspiring our journey.

Voted UP and UABI. Love, Maria


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bravewarrior 3 years ago from Central Florida Author

Maria, once I opened my mind, it all came flowing in! I just love this time of the month. It's about the only time I post anymore, but I always look forward to the communication between the P-Family and the rest of our HubFriends!


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AudreyHowitt 3 years ago from California

I think regret and hope can go hand in hand--but often do not--for there to be redirection, one must own their mistakes and learn from them--a painful job that not all are willing to undertake--that being said, I enjoyed this hub quite a bit--


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bravewarrior 3 years ago from Central Florida Author

Audrey, you hit the nail on the head. We must own our mistakes and know they were made by us - no one else. Learning from them is how regret leads to hope. If that step is not taken, well, that's not the kind of life I want to live!


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Kim Grbac Diaz 3 years ago from Upstate, New York

Hi Shauna...well composed...both views and poetry! I have always seen my "regrets" as more of my "lessons learned". Sometimes I have made decisions in my life that may or may not have hurt others...but, never intentionally. It's what I learned from those lessons that made me a better person. As far as hope goes? With each passing day, it should only grow. When one stops hoping, that should be their greatest regret of all...thank you for your soulful impression...:)


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bravewarrior 3 years ago from Central Florida Author

Kim, you are so right. Having no hope surely is the greatest regret of all. I'm glad you could relate to this. You and I seem to share the same 'perspective'!


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shiningirisheyes 3 years ago from Upstate, New York

fpherj48 has an awesome take on hope and regret, showing us that one is as important as the other. She gave a great take on her impressions and thoughts and you, Shauna did a fabulous job with the interview. I so enjoyed the awesome poem. Perfect ending.

Voting up and sharing while adding my love and fireflies to you.

Beckie XOXO


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bravewarrior 3 years ago from Central Florida Author

Beckie, what interview? I'm confused.


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Sunshine625 3 years ago from Orlando, FL

Hi Shauna, I enjoyed your perspective. My favorite part was "Life is a journey. That journey is full of trials and tribulations. Those trials and tribs are stepping stones to learning who you are and what you want out of life. Turn the negatives into positives!" I agree 110%!!! Your poem was an awesome finishing touch.


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shiningirisheyes 3 years ago from Upstate, New York

Did I read this wrong or is this a recap of Paula's answers?


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bravewarrior 3 years ago from Central Florida Author

Linda, I'm so glad this hit home for you. Glad you liked the poem, too!

Beckie, I'm still confused. You seemed to have addressed Paula's hub on mine, although she didn't have an interview in hers either. I don't have an interview in my hub. Maybe read it again?


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shiningirisheyes 3 years ago from Upstate, New York

Hi Shauna:

After the introduction paragraph, this is what continues:

"Each month we invite a guest writer to join us to speak their piece. This month we are honored to have Paula, aka fpherj48 join us. She is a woman who does not mince words and more often than not, makes us laugh and feel good about life. Please join me in welcoming Paula to this month's group effort. Welcome, Paula!!"

Either way, it is a fantastic hub!


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Mhatter99 3 years ago from San Francisco

I think we "are on the same page", though with different words. I have some regrets. But my positives far outweigh them.


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btrbell 3 years ago from Mesa, AZ

Thank you for a great perspective on regret and hope. I loved the poem! It all hit home for me. I wish I could be like Bill and say I have no regrets bit I am more like Frank Sinatra....I still have a few! I am really enjoying the contrast amongst the perspective writers!


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shiningirisheyes 3 years ago from Upstate, New York

I read it thoroughly the first two times.

Take care


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bravewarrior 3 years ago from Central Florida Author

Beckie, ok, I get it now. Sorry for the confusion! Anyway, glad you liked it.

Martin, as long as the positves outweigh the negatives, all is well!

Randi, if you can sing your regrets like Old Blue Eyes, it's all good. Ha ha.... Can't wait for you to join us next month!


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always exploring 3 years ago from Southern Illinois

I love the fact that you are not afraid to express your feeling's in down-to-earth language. ( Smile ) I agree with your assessment concerning hope and regrets. I have learned, over time, when we spend time regretting past mistakes, we lose sight of hope. BTW, I love your poem. Thank you. Best Wishes.


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bravewarrior 3 years ago from Central Florida Author

Always, I just tell it like it is and how it moves from my heart to my mouth (or pen)! I'm glad you like the poem. Thanx for taking the time to comment!


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Gypsy Rose Lee 3 years ago from Riga, Latvia

Great hub Shauna. No sense in regretting. Energy should be put into hope, hope for a brighter future. Liked the poem. Passing this on.


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bravewarrior 3 years ago from Central Florida Author

Rasma, life is too short to live full of regret. We must learn and move on. Consider detrimental decisions as stepping stones to where we want and need to go. When we see our mistakes as positives, there's only one way but up!


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fpherj48 3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

Sha....Looks like I'm bringing up the rear, here!....Sorry to be a bit late to the party.

Looks to me like you nailed this, girl....no need to ever fret before hand. The right words just flow freely and beautifully from your heart onto the page and straight into the hearts and minds of your readers.

Mickey did a good thing when he introduced, "Perspectives,." He did a GREAT thing, when he chose his team. You are all so very inspirational. Thank you, Sha...UP+++


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bravewarrior 3 years ago from Central Florida Author

Paula, you're not bringing up the rear... I have yet to hear from our fearless leader!

Thanx for your comment. I speak it as I feel it!


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ImKarn23 3 years ago

Shauna, your insight into life and human nature are deep, and clearly comes from experience - and a lot of it!

i adore evolution, insight, self-exploration, knowing one's strengths and weaknesses - and truth..

as far as hope and regret go - i believe you nailed it..

Out of regret can grow hope and vice versa - out of hope can grow regret..

The main thing is to learn...from both..

It's the cycle of life and go together like peanut butter and bananas..lol..

can't wait to see what Paula has to say on the topic..

voting up and hub-sharingxx


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bravewarrior 3 years ago from Central Florida Author

Leslie, you're a doll. I was thinking of you today and wishing you didn't live so far away. Thank you for reading and understanding me. You're a true friend!


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Eiddwen 3 years ago from Wales

Os so beautiful Shauna and here's to so many more gems like this one for you to share and treat us to.

Have a wonderful day and lots of love from my little corner of Wales.

Eddy.


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bravewarrior 3 years ago from Central Florida Author

Thank you, Eddy. Love to you from my chilly corner of Florida (it's actually cold today!) Brrrr.


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unknown spy 3 years ago from Neverland - where children never grow up.

wow..what a great hub dear Sha! i know i have so many regrets in life..my could have beens.. but as long as we live, there will always hope.


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bravewarrior 3 years ago from Central Florida Author

Yes, Spy, there is always hope. Keep your chin up and maintain a positive attitude in life and all should be fine.


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Pamela99 3 years ago from United States

I have put all my regrets away and realized they were a learning experience anyway. Hope is eternal and joyful I believe. I thought your poetry was splendid and I enjoyed the hub.


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bravewarrior 3 years ago from Central Florida Author

Pamela, thank you so much. For some reason I thought we were already following each other; I see you everywhere I go!

You've already fixed my assumption. I'll have to do the same!


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Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

What a great write here. I just really love your beautiful poem filled with truths, and I am glad you had written your very own. It is excellent. Thank you for sharing your honest thoughts here, how refreshing indeed!

I do not have any regrets, as the regrets are what makes us the person who we are today no doubt! I am sorry if I have every hurt anyone and apologized, but that was also a learning lesson too, as you have stated, one for me of humility!

Voted up +++ and sharing

Hugs and love your way, Faith Reaper


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bravewarrior 3 years ago from Central Florida Author

Faith, you and seem to be of the same mindset regarding regrets. Without them we wouldn't be who we are today. We'd be crotchety old ornery people with a major chip on our shoulders!


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tillsontitan 3 years ago from New York

While your 'perspective' ties in so nicely with the others writing this month, you have a fresh approach in your honesty in tackling the subject. "Regret is a lesson that opens the door to hope." That's a quote you could hang on your wall! Hopefully those reading this wonderful hub will learn that lesson and open that door.

Your poem was beautiful and full of hope!

Voted up, useful, awesome, and interesting.


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bravewarrior 3 years ago from Central Florida Author

Mary, I'm glad you hung on to the phrase you quoted. I didn't intend for it to stand out, but according to the comments, it seems to have become the crux of my message. It's amazing what you can learn from yourself when you put pen to paper, isn't it?


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MickeySr 3 years ago from Hershey, Pa.

This is what I love about 'Perspectives:' and what I hoped it would be - I would never in a million 'Perspectives:' say something along the line of "You have to love yourself and believe in yourself", that's just plain and simple not my perspective - but I'll bet that sentiment struck a chord with a great many people.

I think my monthly 'Perspectives:' consistently receive the fewest visits and comments of any of our group's, I think I speak to a very small audience - but I love the idea that they are being spoken to, that each of us have those who are particularly eager to discover our 'perspective' on each theme, and that some delight to consider them all. Thanks for another great 'Perspective:' Shauna.

. . . and Paula thought she was "bringing up the rear".


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bravewarrior 3 years ago from Central Florida Author

Mickey, you finally made it to my post! I was beginning to think I'd dropped a notch in your cyberharem!

Although we seemed to all share the same perspective this month, the beauty is in the way our writers' voices come forth.

Love Ya!

Shauna

P.S. Where the hell is Doc????


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Docmo 3 years ago from UK

I love it. Your honest discourse on the 'unlikely pair' culminating in that wonderful poem is a delight to read. This is what I love about being part of this wonderful enterprise, you get to mine the riches from the collective brains of this wonderful group. Thank you, Shauna.


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bravewarrior 3 years ago from Central Florida Author

Love ya, Doc!


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Crystal Tatum 3 years ago from Georgia

A very no-nonsense approach to how to deal with regret. I personally have to wallow in it a while (sometimes much too long) in order to get clarity on how to change. I wish it didn't take pain and regret for me to be willing to do that, but it does. It's my process I guess! Voting this one up and awesome.


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bravewarrior 3 years ago from Central Florida Author

Crystal, we all have are own ways of coping. As long as we cope (and don't hurt anyone else in the process), how we get there is not important. The key is to move on and not go thru life with a chip on your shoulder.

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