Making a Habit of Happiness

Make happiness a habit ....
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A Healthy Habit

As a nurse, I want to cure the world. As a woman, I want to make everyone feel better. I am a problem - solver by nature.

Before 1999, I always put everyone before myself. I mean everyone. I was always tired but always felt happy.

In June 1999, I almost died.

At the age of 37, I learned that every day could indeed be my last. I learned that self - happiness is equally important to the happiness of others. I learned that to truly be happy with myself, I needed to make happiness a habit.

Today in 2012, I preach this happiness habit as a mantra for self - care in my nursing classrooms. If I had a calling, this would be my life purpose. I am saddened at how many hard working men and women don't feel they have a moment to call their own. I feel blessed that I have been given a second chance to make every day count.

"I don't have time for lunch." "I don't have time to go to the bathroom." "I will have plenty of me-time when the kids move out of the house."

I have heard every excuse in the book. Nurses are the greatest yes butters in the world.

My response is the same: "You don't have time not to take care of yourself. Self care is not selfish."

We need to nurture ourselves physically, spiritually and emotionally. For each of us, the manner is different. For each of us the end - point is the same. We need to discover what makes us happy.

This is my perspective. My name is marcoujor ....




Nobody reaps happiness without

first undergoing hardships.

— (Phillipine proverb)

Everything Reminds Me of My Dog

My dog reminds me of my dog....
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Takes daily practice ....

When I look for a true role model of happiness, I see my dog. Aunt Baby is a 9 year old yellow Lab. she is a big fur ball of unconditional love and joy.

I start and end each day on a happy note because of Baby. She totally gets me and is up for whatever Mommy wants to do.

She is an easy listener. She actually smiles at me, happy to see me any time of night or day with my schedule.

She is a steady companion when I go walking. She is always up for a car ride, for any reason .... well, maybe not going to the Vet!

Life tends to throw some curve balls that can impinge on our self - happiness. Traffic, misunderstanding, illness, accident, trauma are just some of these curve balls.

We can feel like jugglers in the circus of life with way too many balls in the air at once.

When this happens to me, I immediately look to Aunt Baby. She grounds me. From rolling on her sweet belly to giving me a compassionate sloppy kiss, she makes me happy in the best and the worst of times.






Joy is not in things,

it is in us.

— (Richard Wagner)

Chicago: Does Anybody Really Know What Time It Is

Source

And lots of time ....

In 1999, I was obsessed with time. Time was in my control, or so I thought it was ....

After staring death in the face, I am unashamedly not concerned with time. I still always make/ find time for who/ what is important. I always, and this is new, make/ take time for myself.

Otherwise, I am amused in general with the concept of time.

I recognize there will never be enough time to answer e-mails, attend to minute details of life and be everything for everybody.

I truly became happy when I stopped fighting time. This includes the aging process.

I decided that I could not remotely change my past. I realized that the future could prove to be unreliable.

I found that my gift to myself is the present. I can make today the very best it can be. I need to always start with myself and the rest seems to flow.

I learned to say 'no thank you'; 'not now, but perhaps later'; and 'that doesn't work for me, do you have another idea?' And I find self - happiness to be a natural by - product.

Those who are happy

do not observe how

time goes by.

— (Chinese proverb)

Simon and Garfunkel: Sound of Silence

Enjoy the silence
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To quiet the sounds of your mind ....

Material things don't make me as happy as experiences. I appreciate the simplicity and beauty of nature in all seasons. To me, walking slowly, usually with Aunt Baby, and allowing myself the luxury of clearing my head is an automatic way to achieve happiness.

I am consistently able to erase negativity with a walk. Just as Baby can get immersed with a stick along the road, I am equally amazed at a lovely flower or tree I encounter.

The solitude of watching a sunrise or a sunset brings me incredible joy and peace. There is a feeling of hopefulness, majesty and perspective. Life problems are put in their relative place, as I remind myself I am merely part of a bigger picture.

I find a similar feeling of happiness and solace most every night by spending quiet time looking up to the stars. I think of my Mother and other special people in my world. I actually feel closer to all of them. I remind myself I have done the best I could for the day and will start anew in the morning.

Happiness is a butterfly which,

when pursued, is always

beyond our grasp, but,

if you sit down quietly,

may alight upon you.

— (Nathaniel Hawthorne)
G & M Photos
G & M Photos

Just do it...be Happy...!

I am often told that I look happy and peaceful, that I have a beautiful smile!

Honestly, I feel no more or less fortunate than the next gal...! But I sure am glad that I radiate a happy aura to others. For happiness is quite contagious...!

I believe a smile is the physical evidence of happiness. A smile is the most sincere non - verbal manner that we can express gratitude, love and joy.

Even if my mood does not necessarily match my smile, it may follow shortly thereafter. it's a chance I'm willing to take!

Through my life, I have encountered many people in all walks of life. Perceptions can easily be made based on socioeconomic, cultural, gender, age and a myriad of other considerations.

Time and time again I have had perceptions shattered. I have met homeless people who have been more internally at peace and filled with a joy for living than some of the most affluent, who felt a sense of despair and emptiness on a daily basis.

To me, the key is self - acceptance. When I am happy, really happy with myself, everything else falls into place. Life will be filled with tragedy and joy that happens to us and around us. I can decide whether to live life joyfully or in a self - defeating manner.

In the end, we are truly left with ourselves as the Captain of our life journey. This is not sobering. Instead, I find it exhilarating and life - affirming.

So, whatever, you do... be happy...! Take it from me, "I'm the happiest girl in the whole USA!"

© Maria Jordan (revised July, 2015)






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marcoujor 12 months ago from Jeffersonville PA Author

Thanks for the visit, Swalia - I agree about the wonderful benefits of our dogs.


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swalia 12 months ago

An inspirational and uplifting hub!

I loved the pictures of your dog. Dogs are ultimate stress-busters for sure.


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marcoujor 2 years ago from Jeffersonville PA Author

Thanks, dear Peg. You visited this at the perfect time because it reminded me of reasons I need to be happy too...even though I miss my baby girl so much, I know she will send the perfect puppy along at the right time to fill our home once again with joy.

Love you and have a wonderful weekend. Give the girls a hug for me, mar


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PegCole17 2 years ago from Dallas, Texas

This lovely and uplifting hub was just what I needed today to get cranking. It is as beautiful and inspirational today as it was the first time I read it. You are blessed with so many devoted friends who adore you not only here but in your world of sharing through teaching. What a privilege it is to know you.

I know times are tough in this aspect (so sorry for your loss) but I just had to watch that video again and it made me laugh so much. "Einstein reminds me of my dog, I just want to pet his puppy head..." hahaha! so funny.


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marcoujor 2 years ago from Jeffersonville PA Author

Thank you, manatita...so lovely of you to visit and leave such a kind comment. May 2014 be filled with many blessings and good health for you and yours.


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manatita44 2 years ago from london

A super-excellent and commendable read. May He continue to fill your heart with His beauty.


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marcoujor 3 years ago from Jeffersonville PA Author

Thank you, Walter, for the visit and the helpful feedback. I believe I can be generous with my white space, so I have decreased it in this hub...will get to others as well as time permits.

I will look forward to reading your latest as well. Take care, Maria


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WalterPoon 3 years ago from Malaysia

QUOTE: "Today in 2012, I preach this happiness habit as a mantra for self - care in my nursing classrooms. If I had a calling, this would be my life purpose."

I totally agree with that. In fact, I've just published a hub a moment ago about life purpose and why goal-setting fails. Your writing is great. Just a little comment on the layout. I think you're too generous with your 'white space'. Try to reduce that so that there's less scrolling to do, especially in a long hub like this. I'm voting this hub up. Your method of interlinking the hubs in the first paragraph is unique and very effective... and not to mention, very generous to fellow hubbers too!


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marcoujor 4 years ago from Jeffersonville PA Author

OK, Sista, first of all I am sooooo not surprised that we are the same about our pooches...I mean, really!! They are our kids!

Now, you have seen what "Perspectives" is...and now you now our Shauna (bravewarrior). We have only written thus far on Self-happiness (Sept); Vanity (Oct) and will be writing on Gratitude for November.

I would love to share our schedule with you if you would like to be a guest writer. I think you'd be awesome but you know I have a bias! We are fun... Love you and just e-mail me if you are jiggy, Maria


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PegCole17 4 years ago from Dallas, Texas

Hello Maria, I LOVE this series on Perspectives and look forward to more hubs of this nature. My dogs are the center of my universe as well and the video "Everything reminds me of my dog" was completely me. Sometime back, a co-worker pointed out that I related every story she told me about her children to something about my dogs. No kidding? They are the harbingers of joy. The centerpiece of my world.

What a great way to get to know one another better than to share our values and speak of those things that make us happy?


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marcoujor 4 years ago from Jeffersonville PA Author

Michelle, Thank you for your insightful comment. I have been seeing you around and want to pay your work a visit soon.

Ignugent, Lovely to meet you and isn't that a beautiful example of self care. I have told my nursing students if they don't take care of self, they are not doing their patients or family any service at all.

I appreciate both of your comments so much. Hugs, Maria


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ignugent17 4 years ago

Very beautiful. I remember the flight crew will say during the safety procedure before the plane takes off. "Be sure to put your oxygen mask first before you help other." Your hub is so great in telling others that be happy first and others will follow.

Voted up and more. :-)


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midget38 4 years ago from Singapore

Maria, happiness is indeed a choice. We find it in the quietness of our minds and we really have to make up our minds to just do it! No one else can be happy for us. I love your introduction and fresh take on this subject! Sharing!


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marcoujor 4 years ago from Jeffersonville PA Author

Dear Mary,

I read your upbeat hub a couple days ago and found your philosophy to be quite refreshing. Thanks so much for stopping by.

Hugs, Maria


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida

I, too have a Minature Schnauzer named Baby. She is Queen of our house and adds so much to my life. I just published a Hub on overcoming being sad by getting busy. Too many people roll in self pity and are not grateful for the blessings they have in this life. You certainly are grateful.

I voted this UP, etc.


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marcoujor 4 years ago from Jeffersonville PA Author

Dear Kathy,

I am so glad you visited this and thank you for your kind observations.

You are a decent and beautiful woman. Hugs to you, Maria


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Lucky Cats 4 years ago from The beautiful Napa Valley, California

Hi Mar...what uplifting, sweet and wise words..and you exude every bit of this. You give to us and share with us, you offer support and care; you are, actually, ministering to us when we need it and urging us on when we need that, too. I am smiling as I read your hub; such happiness, positivity (is that a word?) and encouragement. Look at all y ou've done for so many people here and, being a nurse; just underscores your kindness, empathy and love for others. I am glad I came here tonight and found this hub among your wonderful chapters in the HP women's series. Thank you!! Kathy


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marcoujor 4 years ago from Jeffersonville PA Author

Oh my goodness, spy,

Thank you so much for this lovely and humbling feedback, especially from one who is both beautiful inside and out.

I love when you visit and hope all is well. Hugs, Maria


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unknown spy 4 years ago from Neverland - where children never grow up.

Maria..you are such a beauty!!!! Oh my! Would really love to see you in person :)

you really inspired others with this awesome hub. very great to read all your work.


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marcoujor 4 years ago from Jeffersonville PA Author

Alastar, My Dear,

You are wise and good. I am so happy that we are buddies. Your visits and comments mean the world.

Hugs, Maria


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Alastar Packer 4 years ago from North Carolina

Only by realizing what you have Nurse mar can a person recognize their true destiny and be at peace with what is in this life. What is a human being? A body and a name. When you take that away what's left is the fundamental essence of a person which is spirit--so why sweat it. Your a decorated Captain of your journey, Marie. Smiles and XO in abundance my friend.


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marcoujor 4 years ago from Jeffersonville PA Author

What a glorious way to spend this beautiful day, Gail. This is my favorite time of year to walk as the seasons are changing.

Thank you again for your friendship and inspiration.

Love, Maria


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Happyboomernurse 4 years ago from South Carolina

Hello Again Dear Maria,

So glad you'll consider submitting it to American Nurse Today and thanks for your good wishes for a very happy Sunday. I followed good "self-care" habits today with an invigorating bike ride at the beach while hubby read a book and fed the seagulls.

Hope you too had a blessed day.

Love,

Gail


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marcoujor 4 years ago from Jeffersonville PA Author

Gail, Your GENEROUS feedback humbles me. I will give serious thought to submitting a cleaner copy of this to American Nurse Today. You are a beautiful and GIVING person and a GREAT friend.

Augustine, Please give yourself the credit you deserve for you have survived much and become a remarkable & decent man. I'm not sure how I would handle it if you 'remained in check'! Thank you for your kind thoughts, my friend. You will ALWAYS be AWESOME to me.

Hoping you both have a very happy Sunday. Hugs, Maria


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A.A. Zavala 4 years ago from Texas

Miss Sammy would have been proud.

Yes, happiness. It is much easier to talk about being happy than to actually be happy. But once you experience a life changing event, then all the drama and trivial problems with life seem to become insignificant. You are much more stronger than I.

You need to remind me that you're teacher, maybe it would keep me in check. Thank you for sharing.


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Happyboomernurse 4 years ago from South Carolina

Dear Maria,

You ooze happiness across the written page and I can only imagine the sweet beauty emanating from your lovely smile.

Knowing all the challenges and heartache you've experienced in the past leaves me with a feeling of awe and utmost respect for the gems of healthy living and joyful zest that you pass on in hubs like this one.

I am so glad you teach your nursing students about the need for self care and the importance of making their own happiness a habit. I think that is one of the best ways to avoid the burn-out that affects so many nurses and it is also one of the hardest lessons to learn.

Like you, I make happiness a habit, even in times of great stress and it now flows naturally from the essence of my being.

It is truly a blessing that I give thanks for every day of my life.

Am voting this up across the board except for funny and am also sharing it.

Sending You a Hub Bouquet of Hugs & Love,

Gail

PS: I would love to see you get the guts of this hub published in the Mind/Body/Spirit section of "American Nurse Today." With just a few small deletions about the HP portions, I think it would get accepted as is. Please think about submitting it as so many nurses could benefit from your hard earned wisdom.


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marcoujor 4 years ago from Jeffersonville PA Author

Good Afternoon, Y'all,

LORD, It is never too LATE at my place and I am LABORIOUSLY behind in my reading... I LAMENT it actually, so let's LAUGH and LIGHTEN up about 'keeping up'!

carter, You are CLEARLY a sweetheart... anyone who can put away those virtual CHEESE danish with me at the Cafe is COOL in my books!

Svetlana, Thank you SINCERELY for your STATEMENTS on the SUBJECT. Your situation with the brick was SOBERING and life altering, SPEAKING of perspectives... stuff like that makes you STAND back and take STOCK. Hugs, Teresa

Frog, Sometimes I get the FEELING Mom is FINDING her way to me. Your comment is one of the times. Love you, babe.

Hope y'all are doing well today and many hugs, Maria


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The Frog Prince 4 years ago from Arlington, TX

Maria - As a nurse, I want you to first heal yourself then worry about the rest of the world. You are about as true a person as I have experienced. You have value and a special place in many people's hearts. Stay true to yourself and I believe you will get what you need in life.

The Frog Prince


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kallini2010 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada

Dear Teresa:

Yes, I think there is not much more to say - all we have is now. NOW.

Last year a brick missed me falling from atop of five storey building. And I thought to myself "What exactly am I waiting for? My funeral?"

Of course, my story is not nearly as dramatic as yours,

but it is very drawn out... and I learn by losing.

Losing things,

losing wealth,

losing health,

losing relationships,

losing old assumptions,

losing knowledge

and ultimately

losing my mind.

The more I lose the more I gain. Material possessions ... they do cover our basic needs, but once the needs are covered, there is not much satisfaction. We start taking everything we have for granted.

So, yes, NOW is only NOW.

Happy or not, I am more into awareness of what is (it does not have to be Happiness).

Sometimes forcing oneself into happiness is sheer denial only blinding the one looking for answers and shielding the root causes. But maybe my love affair with the quest for happiness is over.

Vanity is not really my thing either.

It is the search for the life that is mine.

And every moment is NOW,

good or bad, exhilarating or painful,

is only NOW.

The pain,

the beauty,

the poetry,

the ugliness in this little drop of existence, in this tiny breath of life.


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carter06 4 years ago from Cronulla NSW

Yes well I think this is ridiculously great!! & it's so nice to get to know you better girl...love that attitude of yours going down there, that's what I love about ya my friend...cheers


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Lord De Cross 4 years ago

Late for this party Maria. I appreciate your thoughts and your wisdom. Seems that Happiness is more valuable than that green cash from the U.S. Department of Treasury. Excellent phylosophy my friend. Mom taught you so well. Hope to read other installments from this series, while time allows me. Have a great week... still behind with another interview of yours.


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marcoujor 4 years ago from Jeffersonville PA Author

Dear Rajan,

Thank you so much for stopping by. To me, you RADIATE positivity so I am humbled by your REMARKS. Hugs, Maria


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rajan jolly 4 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

I like your positivity and I realize that one who is happy and at peace with himself/herself can spread happiness.

Thanks for sharing these wonderful and positive thoughts Maria.

Voting up and beautiful.


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marcoujor 4 years ago from Jeffersonville PA Author

Good Morning, Y'all,

Becky, I will write you BEFORE long. Thank you, sweetheart.

Janine, I know you bring JOY and balance to your life with that beautiful smile and laughter.

Ruby, I know how to RECOGNIZE beauty and you are the REAL deal.

Sue, Your SHARING personality is a SMILE maker every time.

Car51, I am so grateful for your CONSTANT support in every aspect.

Leslie, Considering the LOVING LENGTHS you go to in your writing, I am humbled by your comment.

Tom, You are TOPS with that 'positive attitude' THANG... I learn from the best.

Nette, NEEDLESS to say, your comment made me cry, in the best of ways... how I love you.

Mary, Your support and friendship MEANS the world. You are MORE cool every time we connect.

Hope you all have a lovely, peaceful and happy day. Hugs, Maria


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tillsontitan 4 years ago from New York

It is easy to see you are as beautiful outside as you are inside ... reading every word and sitting here shaking my head in agreement! People like you make the world a better place, your joy and enthusiasm...and your love for your dog...I totally relate to that. My little guy always knows when I need him and curls up with me. He appreciates life and enjoys it as we can hope to do as well.

Thank you for this series and for the inspiration and happiness it brings. Voted up, useful, awesome, and interesting.


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thebluestar 4 years ago from Northern Ireland

My dearest Maria, baby, I have never stared death in the face directly myself, but I have twice shouted and thrown tantrums as death took my loved ones. You know me well Maria, of all the people on Hub Pages, you and my dear Martie have ridden and crashed the waves of doom, gloom and pain with me.

Everyone has a time in their lives that they have to face head on, mine lasted 30 years before I wrote my memoirs and allowed my perspective on life to change. I forgave myself and as such am able to write to the extremes of life that my mood takes me too. I wish I could say that it has made me a happier person, but sadly that is not the case. What it has done is to allow me to reach out to others with an open heart to help them with their pain, which in turn, gives me a way of life that still continues to challenge my thoughts.

You are a beautiful lady Maria, kind, gentle and compassionate. Your strength has arrived from your own dice with death, which has given you a special insight into life. You often make me cry with your words, love and generosity, today is no different. I admire your strength and the fact that you care so much, about so many. Be happy Maria, true contentment will not avoid you for too long. When I was little they called people as lovely as you "salt of the earth" you my dearest friend are truly that and much, much more. You still inspire me Maria, I guess you always will.

Nette xxxx


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kashmir56 4 years ago from Massachusetts

Hi my friend, great hub and a great positive attitude toward life and a in- depth look into the personal side of Maria. Well done !

Vote up and more !!!

Have a great week my friend !


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Movie Master 4 years ago from United Kingdom

I was so immersed in and so moved by your words, that I am completely lost for any myself.....

So, I am just going to say a big thank you for writing this!

Love & hugs Lesley


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Car51 4 years ago

On this glorious Sunday morning, I read your piece on happiness. What a beautiful outlook on life (especially the challenge to live in the present with a positive attitude)! Your hub is a perfect beginning to my new week. Thanks for sharing your personal thoughts, obviously motivated by your lived experiences!


Sueswan 4 years ago

Hi Maria,

You have a beautiful smile and a caring compassionate heart.

I think it is best to enjoy the moment as we cannot change the past and we do not know what the future holds for us.

Happiness should be a choice not a condition such as I would be happy if.......

Voted up and away


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always exploring 4 years ago from Southern Illinois

Only a beautiful person could relay that happiness ' don't come easy. Looks like you found that opening and ran with it. Loved this. Thank you..


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Janine Huldie 4 years ago from New York, New York

Maria, I am so glad I took the time to read your article tonight. It was so very beautiful and practically left me in tears. I very much agree with your overall message in trying to find happiness each and everyday. I too am a smiler, even if things are not perfect, I try to smile and laugh as much as possible, because sometimes laughter truly is the best medicine. Have of course voted, shared and tweeted too!


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Becky Katz 4 years ago from Hereford, AZ

bravewarrior, it is his severe PTSD talking. I know that and yet it still gets to me sometimes. Most of the time I know it is and ignore it. Sometimes it gets to me. We have been married for 26 years and firing him won't work. I will yell at him sooner or later and that will work for a while. Until he starts getting down again. Vietnam sucked the joy out of him. Thanks for caring.


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marcoujor 4 years ago from Jeffersonville PA Author

Good Evening, Y'all,

These comments make me happily tearful... (just like Vinaya and proud of it!) Each of you are remarkable, insightful and so very sharing... what a wonderful group of friends:

Yvonne-- Your daughter is such a gift and I believe there is nothing wrong with your vision. Speaking of inspiring, so are you...

Becky-- You are cool and no one has the power to dampen our spirits. We need to keep reminding each other of this!

Vinaya-- You are such a honey. Your comment is one of the most beautiful I have ever gotten. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

Sha-- I LOVE your style...thanks for reaching out to Becky.

Sunnie-- What a wonderful compliment from one of the most caring and compassionate nurses. How blessed I am to have your friendship.

Paula-- OMG, remind me to never let you catch me 'first thang'! A smile is my best make-up suggestion these days...just stretch those wrinkles, right? I love your trio of pals...the three of them sound like they have quite a bit of sense.

Mickey, Mickey, Mickey... you make me laugh and love at once. "You remind me of my Aunt Baby...so we'll probably get along!"

Rosemay, You certainly have the gift of positivity and for bringing peaceful and joy to our community through your words of wisdom.

Hugs to y'all, Maria


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Rosemay50 4 years ago from Hawkes Bay - NewZealand

Maria reading this is so uplifting and inspirational. Your love of life shines through every word... and loving life surely is happiness. That happiness reaches out to others on so many levels. Your positive attitude and skill at turning negatives around is a skill not everyone developes. So everyone needs a 'Maria' in their circle of friends.

Aunt Baby is so lucky to have a Mom like you, you make a wonderful team

I too was often too busy being everything to everyone both family and collegues to stop and think about myself. I was happy in making others happy, but maybe not content.

It is only since I gave up work that I have found happiness and contentment in just strolling along a deserted beach or just sitting on a log listening to nature and appreciating all around me and just taking time to be me.

What is life worth if we are not happy.

Love and hugs


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MickeySr 4 years ago from Hershey, Pa.

. . . yeah, well . . . this one I didn't really care for too much.

(now, seriously)

Yours is the best Maria, because you got right to the heart of the matter - Labrador Retrievers are the secret to perpetual happiness. Dogs, not pets, not cats, not animals, but dogs are a strikingly special gift to man from God . . . no other animal is like them in the desire they have for a relationship with us - a dog will die for you. That kind of devotion to the wellbeing of another is more than inspiring or comforting - it is humbling and instructional. God gave us a most remarkable companion when He gave us dogs - and Labs are right at the very top of the heap, they are simply the best dogs there are. They do indeed make us (genuinely) happy.


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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

Gosh, Maria....you are an exceptionally beautiful woman.....I mean these pictures put The Celebrity beauties to shame....especially since this is the real you...no professional make-up artists and photo shop. That face must melt your husband's heart....and I will go no further with that because I went to Catholic school.

Oh...yea...btw.... this hub ROCKS, GF!! You are on the money with this advice. Might have taken me a long long time and a whole lot of lost sleep, aching bones and unforgivable self-neglect......but I'm in fine company now.....me, myself and I....all 3 of us are just FINE!...........UP++must be read by ALL!!


Sunnie Day 4 years ago

My dear friend, One of my favorite quotes in all the world is "We are as happy as we make our minds to be." You know doubt live this every day. Your inner spirit is one that lights up a room and can be felt across the pages at hubs. You are so kind and loving to all. Being a nurse is not only what you do..it is who you are and have been all your life. Through circumstances, it has only fined tuned what was already there. I am so happy to know you and call you a close friend. It has been over two years now since we met and I feel it has been years. You touch my life everyday in some special way whether you know it or not. Vinaya said it best...Compassion lives inside of you...it is you!

God bless you dear one,

Love,

Sunnie


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bravewarrior 4 years ago from Central Florida

Becky, sometimes people (us included) need a smack in the face or a kick in the ass. If hubby doesn't listen to words, perhaps jerking a knot in his tail will get him to hear. Ignoring sometimes works, too. If they can't get a rise out of you, they'll not get the result (feel sorry for me) they're looking for and quit the behavior.

If all else fails, do what I did - fire him!


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Vinaya Ghimire 4 years ago from Nepal

Maria you brought me into tears. All my life I have tried to stop my tears, even my mother says I stopped crying since I was five. However, I admit I cry. And when I cry tears do not stop easily.

Life is about give and take, you give something to someone,and receive something in return. Happiness is not about what you wish in life, but about what you have. As a Buddhist practitioner, I believe happiness is transient, you have to nurture compassion instead. I see compassion the Buddha talked about, inside you.

Regards


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Becky Katz 4 years ago from Hereford, AZ

I love your perspective on life. I get so frustrated with people who just give up every time life throws them a curveball. I have to figure out a solution and get it straightened out. My husband has recently gone to the give up approach. Nothing will straighten things out and he just sits back and rants. I am about to smack him because he is effecting me now. I will not be kept down.


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Melovy 4 years ago from UK

Maria, this is beautiful. How wonderful that out of something so dark you found such light. I have heard from so many people that coming close to death leads to so much more appreciation of life. I sometimes think I see in my daughter who diced with death several times when she was just a few days and months - but that could just be my imagination. Either way, she inspires me and so too does this article.

I especially loved that you learned to look after yourself as well as others, that's so important and to my mind makes what we give to others far more beneficial.

A great hub.


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marcoujor 4 years ago from Jeffersonville PA Author

Good Afternoon, Y'all,

In general, thanks to each of you. Some of these comments could so

easily become their own hub. I am forever amazed at the generosity of

our community. I continue to learn so much from all of you.

Sunshine, You are SPIRITED and beautiful, the best of friends.

Bill, Having stared at death as well, you are BLITHESOME now... As it

should be.

Sandra, Having you stop by is SPECIAL, thank you.

Docmo, I don't see how I could ever be more DELIGHTED with you, yet

I am...!

Audrey, You are AWESOME. Thanks so much!

Martie, You make me feel MERRIMENT each and every day... Sure

cannot get enough of your perspective.

Sha, SAME with you SISTA... You are SUPER cool!

Frank, I FEEL FESTIVE to see you, humbled by your comments.

Gypsy, I am GRATIFIED to see you, GIRLFRIEND. Thank you.

Faith, You are one of the FINEST ladies in HubVille. I appreciate your

support of my Perspectives FRIENDS as well.

Mike, Through your occasional MIRTH, your comment is so very

MEANINGFUL and appreciated deeply.

Hyph, Your take on HAPPINESS is right up my alley!

I have loved this whirlwind of a month and am hoping many of you express an interest in writing with our series as guests, singly or frequently. Hugs, Maria


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Hyphenbird 4 years ago from America-Broken But Still Beautiful

I firmly believe we are as happy as we want to be. Everyone has the ability to find beauty and a reason to smile. Once we learn the important things as you did, we do indeed have perspective. And what better teacher than Baby or our own precious four footed friends?


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mckbirdbks 4 years ago from Emerald Wells, Just off the crossroads,Texas

Perspectives

I have just read four distinguished authors write and present their views on happiness. A realization occurred to me and even though I have pressing pending projects patiently paused. I wished to congratulate each and every one of these authors for plying their trade as writer’s and their intellect to address an unanswerable philosophic question.

While it is universally known that “One pill makes you larger And one pill makes you small And the ones that mother gives you Don’t do anything at all”, it is less well known that there is some individual choice to be made along the way.

There is an array of emotional ‘cards’ to be dealt. Each of us is dealt a hand. In some games of chance you can toss a couple of cards back on the table and ask that your hand be filled again, hopefully for the better. What is he talking about now? I hear you saying? No one holds all the cards. Some get a good hand, first time around; some go bust right from their beginning. The first ‘hand’ of emotional cards is dealt to us by adults. No free choice here. That arrives later.

It is the waiting, reading, listening, learning that may payoff later in life. Once you become aware that you can toss a couple of those cards back onto the table.

You each in your own way have set the standard for excellent writing so very high.

Some people are happy helping others, even on the days that it is not fun.


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Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

Maria - what a blessing this hub is here to read. Thank you for sharing yourself and your happiness here with all of us dear one!!! Happiness is a choice in this life, and that is why I choose to find happiness in the little things of this life as well, and also have written about this very same thing - as that is how very important it is - to just be happy no matter what life is throwing at you. We know that this life will bring many trials and tribulations, as He tells us in His word, so we should not be surprised by it, and trust in Him to bring us through whatever, and make that lovely choice to be happy. Let us just cherish each moment of each new day. You are truly an inspiration here on HP and a beautiful person inside and out. We are all blessed to know you through your wonderful writings. Must go back now and read the others as you have suggested. God bless. In His Love, Faith Reaper


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Gypsy Rose Lee 4 years ago from Riga, Latvia

Voted up and awesome. Love the whole series on happiness. Maria this is delightful. Love your Aunt Baby. My Sid also makes me just want to smile. Today it was pouring rain. Sid comes in dripping wet, tail soaking but he's like wearing a smile and looks so pleased with himself. lol So why do I grumble if I ever get caught in the rain? Delightful series and passing them all on. Love all the videos and pics. Hugs.


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Frank Atanacio 4 years ago from Shelton

This was actually so revealing and it takes looking into a mirror to help quiet the cries.. so many things go by so fast that if you don't reach you can't grab.. thank you for this well... for the lack of a better word journey bless you girl :) Frank


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bravewarrior 4 years ago from Central Florida

Maria, my cyber sister, you are amazing! Your joie de vivre comes through loud and clear in this hub! I had to smile to myself when you spoke of taking walks and looking up at the stars. I love those solitary moments, shared only with nature (and in your case, Baby!). We seem to be on the same plane in many areas. But then, that only makes sense, doesn't it?

Great job, sis! It was a blast getting here!


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MartieCoetser 4 years ago from South Africa

My dearest sista, Maria, you actually pulled my tears when you made me realize for the umpteenth time how many of us have to look death in the eyes before we finally wake up to appreciate Life and to experience happiness and joy in spite of all the imperfectness on this planet.

Something to ponder: “I truly became happy when I stopped fighting time. This includes the aging process.”

So true! ~ “….. a smile is the physical evidence of happiness. A smile is the most sincere non - verbal manner that we can express gratitude, love and joy.”

Maria, your happiness is indeed beaming all the way down to South Africa. I could feel it since the day we’ve met. And that is why I adopted you as my sista in CyberSpace. Although I love all people, I need to be in the company of a happy person. Because happiness is as contagious as unhappiness.

“There is only one thing more contagious than enthusiasm, and that is the lack of enthusiasm.” ~ Thomas S. Monson

I love the videos in here! Especially ‘Sound Of Silence’ – one of my favorites.

Here’s to happiness!

With love and a happy smile I’ve danced all over your buttons :)) Amazing, beautiful, interesting, useful and Magnificently Meaningful Majestically Maria :))


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AudreyHowitt 4 years ago from California

Beautiful, beautiful write!


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Docmo 4 years ago from UK

Awesome, amazing and ebullient. Such insight into your awesomeness and learning some life lessons along the way is a true adventure for the readers. your attitude to life and your willingness to share this with others is the beauty of your soul. I've learnt so much here. From you. voted up and shared.


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sandrabusby 4 years ago from Tuscaloosa, Alabama, USA

Great hub! Great attitude toward life. Voted up and shared.


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billybuc 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

What a lovely glimpse into Maria! You are a person I would like to meet one day....just to be in the company of a positive, happy, appreciative human being. I, too, almost died, in 2006, and I can agree that once that happens, one has a new appreciation for what is truly important in life.

Thank you for an outstanding hub, one I will read again and again.

Peace and happiness to you today and always,

bill


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL

Amazingly awesome and from the heart. Girl, you got it going on! :)

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