Positive Influence

Positively Negative

Do you have people in your life who go around telling you or others any of the following:

“Stop being Negative!”

“Why are you so Negative?”

“Your Negative attitude will kill you.”

“Can’t you think of something positive to say?”

“No one wants your Negativity!”

What do all these statements have in common? They are actually very negative, judgmental and critical. The supposedly “positive” person who is harassing you and others to change their negative attitudes is doing so in a very negative way. Demanding change in an unkind way does not in any way improve someone’s attitude.

Positivity Starts with a Smile

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How to Cultivate Positivity

How do you really get someone to turn her frown upside down and develop a more positive attitude? Well, you don’t do it by being negative and mean. The last thing that a person who is depressed or feeling down needs is more criticism. Instead, try some of the following:

  • Practice what you preach. Rather than judging others and telling them how to think or feel, why not radiate positivity? Be that calm spirit of energy that will attract others to follow your lead. If people see you as truly happy and positive, they will be more attracted to adopting your attitude.
  • Say positive things. Point out the good in a situation. Give others hope and encouragement. Offer smiles and kind words instead of criticisms.
  • Support. Instead of ordering someone to change, try to be a supporter. Be understanding and patient and offer to help others when they seem overwhelmed.
  • Smile. People just might smile back.
  • Change your tone. Be kind. Instead of barking orders and demands, you can soften your tone, take a deep breathe, and think before you speak.

People have to choose for themselves whether they want to adopt a positive or a negative attitude about life. You can’t change people. People have to want to change their behaviors, thoughts or attitudes in order for the change to be lasting and real. What we can all do is leave harassing, judging and critical comments behind and radiate the positive energy that we want from others and be encouragers and supporters of our friends, family and co-workers.

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ishwaryaa22 4 years ago from Chennai, India

A very wise and sensible hub! I have met few people who are too judgemental. Luckily, my mother advised me to be civilized and reasonable to them and thanks to my mother's practical advice, I had normal and happy relationships with my friends and relatives. Your hub taught me more.

Thanks for SHARING. Useful. Voted up.


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truthfornow 4 years ago from New Orleans, LA Author

Glad to hear that ishwaryaa22. Thanks for sharing and the vote up.


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Sparklea 4 years ago from Upstate New York

I'm so glad for your opening! I think the worst thing a person can say to another person is that they are negative, even if it is true. I agree that you definitely cannot change people. Thank you for those great suggestions. I also think it is important to just listen. I've had people who are very upset about something tell me, "There is nothing that you can say that will make me feel better, so don't even try!" So I just listen, and tell them I understand, and that I will pray for them. I usually add a hug. Believe me, it has taken me YEARS to get to this point. I did all the wrong things for a very long time. Trying to make suggestions, suggest do's and don'ts, was a BOMB. It made me look and sound like a know-it-all. Talk about humility! Great hub, THANK YOU, voted UP. Blessings, Sparklea :)


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truthfornow 4 years ago from New Orleans, LA Author

You make a good point about the listening part. Being a good listener is such an asset. I am usually on the receiving end of these annoying "don't be negative" comments when I am really just stating how I feel.


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teaches12345 4 years ago

It's the only way to be and have a happy life! I love being around positive people and enjoy their outlook on life. Great points that will help others to get to this place in life. Voted up!


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truthfornow 4 years ago from New Orleans, LA Author

Thanks for the vote up teaches12345.


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Chris Achilleos 4 years ago

Great hub truthfornow, being positive is very important for ones emotional well being. Voted up!


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truthfornow 4 years ago from New Orleans, LA Author

Thanks so much for the vote up Chris!


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uzma shaheen 4 years ago from Lahore,Pakistan

"Rather than judging others and telling them how to think or feel, why not radiate positivity? Be that calm spirit of energy that will attract others to follow your lead"

wow,what a great thought.I like your hub.thanks for sharing it.


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truthfornow 4 years ago from New Orleans, LA Author

Yes I wish everyone could stop being so critical, uzma shaheen.


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uzma shaheen 4 years ago from Lahore,Pakistan

I wish too, people do it without even realizing that,by doing this they are crushing other's souls.

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