Life after menopause is not a disaster

Thicker waist line
Thicker waist line

A year after menopause

OMG! I love not having my period. I love not having the mood swings that accompany the menstruation. I love not having to have anxiety. I swear when I had my period, I was moody, mean, tired and grumpy.

If there is one thing I have noticed the most, it is the on-set of achiness in the joints, 30% more grey hair and facial skin changes. The pigmentation of skin around my neck changed. My husband first saw it last summer, he thought something was terribly wrong with me. Men have this way of just spouting out, 'What happened to you? What happened to your skin? I wear my hair down usually and I rarely look at the back of my neck. I know I did not have leucoderma last July. So the changes in my skin must have happened overnight. The scary part is I did not have any warnings or symptoms of pain.The texture is still the same.

There is no book that can tell you exactly what you will experience."I think after menopause your genetics plays a big role in how you will age in the end."

The whole menopause thing took me a full year to adjust.. I am finally in a good place mentally and physically. I think partly is because it takes you a full year to adapt and accept the aging process.

If anything I try not to sweat the small stuff and see the big picture.

Your mental outlook and attitude plays an important role in life after menopause.

Vitiligo white patches
Vitiligo white patches

Things I did not anticipate so soon

1. Joint pain in lower spine/sacrum

When I wake up every morning, I am more achier. Gosh it stinks! I sometimes wake-up arthritic . But it does not stop me. I am careful with the way I sit, stand and bend regarding my spine. My brother who is a martial arts expert gave me excercises to help keep the joints from getting too stiff and he gave me advice about the position of how I should sit and stand. I now have little to no lower back pain.

2. 30% Increase in grey hair

It is a race to keep the roots less grey with hair color. Being a licensed stylist allows me to color my roots any time, but because my hair grows so fast, it is nuisance. I have to color it every 3 weeks.

3. Slower Digestion

I eat much smaller portions. My stomach gets fuller easier.

4. Diet Change

I eat hardly any wheat gluten because I now can't digest it. I have increased protein, lots of eggs, edamame, chicken and fish. I buy the bothouse green drink that I mix into a protein shakes in the morning. I have increased vegetables and fruit portion. I drink much more water daily. I take a daily vitamin supplement, fish oil, cod liver oil, vitamin D, magneseum, and Calcium . The benefit is that I do not have as much stomach fat and I do not have squishy back and or arm fat that i see on other women my age that occurs in post menopause.

5. Eyesight

My sight was always 20/20, umtil i hit my mid 40's. Then i noticed i needed reading glasses. But most recently, I have gotten multi-focals. I love the! I can wear them for reading, and distance.

6. Skin

Skin is not as supple. It doesn't bounce back like it did. Facial skin is still oily, THANK GOODNESS, but I notice some sagging beginning in the jaw, chin and smaile lines area. I do not look my age as i have been told. The area I think most women suffer in, is the gut. If you hwere ever pregnant you know what I am talking about. The skin is loose and it will never revert back to pre-pregnancy unless you go under the knife to remove it.

My pigmentation loss, white patches (Vitiligo) appeared in the neck area was a real bummer. I use to wear my hair up and now I am too self conscious. I have read that it could be a combination of autoimmune, lack of viamins B12, folate and C. I honestly think it is is just the body aging.

7. Emotions and Attitude

I don't care as much about the things I use to. Your priorities change. You no longer get hormonal and so you do not fly off the handle or get anxious. I think I am more patient than i use to be.

8. Memory

I went through a tranisitionary period of being very forgetful during perimenopause. Now I am less forgetful but I have also taken steps to help my brain. I take piano lessons. I love it. I also play onlines games at Lumocity.

9. Belly Fat

I noticed my waist line increased a size. It makes me very upset because I have always fought to stay some what trim. I discovered that the fat cells enlargen. Sure you can exercise, but it is twice as hard to lose the fat. It isn't the worst thing to happen. It is just so darn unfair. Women go through so much with their bodies being in constant flux.

Men think women overreact or that we make excuses

Men think women get too emotional. They don't seem to understand the changes that a woman goes through. My husband finally got it, when he saw my middle school daughters entering puberty.

I have toyed with the idea of letting my hair go grey, but my husbands said,"You will look to old." My kids also did not like the idea. Men do not have to color their hair. A man can even be bald and it would be ok.

So now I have to figure out how to keep my waistline from expanding.Yes, this a is a chore I dread. The wrinkles will just come as they do. I much prefer aging gracefully than to be injected with weird chemical like botox. When I see pictures of movies stars with botox, they all look so distorted, they do not even look like themselves. I also want to be an example to my daughters that it is ok to get old.

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alphagirl 3 years ago from USA Author

Wow, You must be really close to your mom. That is wonderful.

Thanks for stopping by.


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Keri Machin 3 years ago from Miami Florida

very interesting hub, im going to send it to my mom!


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alphagirl 4 years ago from USA Author

Pstraubie! I guess it is a matter of personal view! As women we experience so much with our bodies! One would think after bearing children we would get a hormone break! So much to endure along parenting! Keep your spirits high! Thanks for being funny!


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pstraubie48 4 years ago from sunny Florida

alphagirl..So life after menopause is not a disaster?? Is it a train wreck?? I am just joking, really. I guess maybe that is a PM thing....saying corny things. At least I am guilty of that but truth be told I have always done my fair share of that too.

We really do go through a lot of changes, don't we? And somehow, we carry on.

This should be recommended reading for those nearing this time in their life. It helps to know what to expect. Shared.


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alphagirl 4 years ago from USA Author

Jackie lynnley,

Thanks! Women do go through an awful lot! Glad you thought it was worth voting up!


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Jackie Lynnley 4 years ago from The Beautiful South

OK, so what's the good news? lol

Voted up, a great thing to open up about!

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