Power of Forgiveness

It’s a wonderful thing to be able to forgive.

It takes a very big person that can move on after things have gone a rye.

It also means that the person is willing and wanting to move forward.

Now how they move forward is a different story.

But being able to get over it, is key to growing. No one can tell you when you could/can/should move on but it’s very important that you do, for your own growth and peace of mind.

When you hold on to those negative feelings about someone that person holds you hostage.Yes, hostage in your mind.You’re spending time unproductively thinking about that person and what they did,but trust they are not thinking about you. If they really cared for you,they never would have done the act that caused the negative feelings in the first place.But that’s neither here nor there,you need to forgive or forget or both.

After you have done this very important part to moving forward,the next step is crucial…………


Forgive Yourself!!

Forgive Yourself

Yes,forgive yourself first and foremost!

Why?

We beat ourselves up unnecessairly most of the time.

We have no control over others actions,people have their own outlook and ideas on life just as you have yours.

I was constantly apologizing to myself for allowing myself to be used by people,friends and famly included.Telling myself I will not allow myself to be used like that again,I'm not going to help anyone anymore,I'm just going to be taken advantage of anymore.

Well,the biggest apology to date is for that exact statement.

Why am I going to allow anyone to change me?

Why will allow anyone to stop me from being me?

Why will I allow the ill acts and lies stop me from helping others?

I forgave myself and realized that it's my nature to be kind,sweet,caring,helpful and always positive.

WIth all that being said,my business is growing and doing great things.

We live,we learn,we grow!

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MsDora profile image

MsDora 4 years ago from The Caribbean

I agree with you that we have no control over the actions of others. Let's put the energy into maintaining our own integrity.


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Sky9106 4 years ago from A beautiful place on earth.

That is what it takes to free oneself from the chains that binds , they are usually quite simple , but runs very deep inside most of the time .Forgiveness don't necessarily mean you need to go to the person. It's an inside thing that you will find has a lot to do with your belief.

Bless


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Rastamermaid 4 years ago from Universe Author

@MsDora~Thanks so much for reading and commenting.

True put the energy in things you can control,like your own integrity or own well being.

Blessings!


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Rastamermaid 4 years ago from Universe Author

@Sky9106~so true it's not necessary to go to the person,walking away and staying away is best to stay true to self.

Thanks for commenting, it's greatly appreciated.

Respect


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Rastamermaid 4 years ago from Universe Author

@Sky9106~so true it's not necessary to go to the person,walking away and staying away is best to stay true to self.

Thanks for commenting, it's greatly appreciated.

Respect


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL

Fab hub Rasta! Hand the reins over to karma, that works wonders!:)


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Rastamermaid 4 years ago from Universe Author

Thanks for reading and commenting Sunshine!

Karma rules!

Happy New Year!


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Vinaya Ghimire 4 years ago from Nepal

Forgiveness is very necessary for us, from the Buddha to Jesus, and Nelson Mandela and Gandhi all have emphasized forgiveness. But rarely can we forgive people who inflict wrongs on us.


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mathira 4 years ago from chennai

Forgiving is a characteristic which can make you very humane and unique.


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Rastamermaid 4 years ago from Universe Author

@Vinaya Ghimire~ Thanks for reading and commenting.Forgiveness is very necessary if life,you have to forgive others and also yourself in order to grow and learn from the experience.

I've found it easier to forgive if you no longer deal with that person,not allowing them the chance to repeat such drama in your life.

Just because you forgive and you're moving on,doesn't mean they have.

Blessings!


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Rastamermaid 4 years ago from Universe Author

@mathira~Thanks for reading and commenting,it's truly appreciated.

Forgiveness is a charateristic we should all strive to achieve,if not for anyone else but for yourself.

Blessings


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novascotiamiss 4 years ago from Nova Scotia, Canada

You're absolutely right. Forgiving is the key word to freedom. Hatred is like a growing cancer that will take over your mind and in the end your entire life. Forgiving is not easy but it doesn't mean that you have to become friends with your enemies. It simply means that you forgive, forget, ignore and focus on more positive things in life.


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Rastamermaid 4 years ago from Universe Author

Exactly novascotiamiss,you're freeing yourself to focus on the positive.No need to carry baggage such as hate or resentment as you continue on in your life.

Respect!


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oceansnsunsets 4 years ago from The Midwest, USA

I think you are right, many people do beat themselves up too much over past mistakes! Its not healthy, if nothing else, to focus on the negative, to dwell on guilt. I think after making any amends possible, give it up, forgive yourself! (speaking in general there....to all of us)

I like the title of your hub, the power of forgiveness. People underestimate this power. The person that hurt you, no longer has power over you either, when you let it go. Its freeing all around. Thanks for sharing an important subject with us all. It is so needed. We can make sure to be wiser also in the future, no need to let people hurt us again.


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Rastamermaid 4 years ago from Universe Author

Thanks for reading and commenting oceansunsets,I appreciate it.

Forgiveness is very powerful indeed,especially if used on ones self first.

Respect!


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Lady_E 4 years ago from London, UK

A beautiful and Inspiring attitude. It's such a heavy subject. I like the way you wrote about it.

Ps. I forgive people, to be at Peace with God and myself.

Best wishes.


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Rastamermaid 4 years ago from Universe Author

Hey Lady_E,Thanx for reading and commenting!

It takes will power to forgive,and once you do,you're able to live a life free of resentment,anger,hate and a heap of other luggage you don't want to haul around for life.

Being at peace is the only way to live,with self and with God.

Blessings!


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tobusiness 4 years ago from Bedfordshire, U.K

To ere is human, to forgive is divine, but when someone causes you pain, forgiving does not mean forgetting, but it lets you move on. good subject, voted up


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Rastamermaid 4 years ago from Universe Author

Thanks for reading and commenting tobusiness,it's greatly appreciated.

Blessings!


Melovy profile image

Melovy 4 years ago from UK

Great hub. I agree that not forgiving holds us hostage and forgiveness is freeing. I also agree that self-forgiveness is essential for true happiness.


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Rastamermaid 4 years ago from Universe Author

Thanks for reading and commenting Melovey!

It's true, self-forgiveness is essential to true happiness and you are in control of that so don't allow anyone to take your happiness away.

Respect!


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NightFlower 4 years ago

This is oh so much truth Mz. Rasta...and not very easy to do obviously considering so many of us would rather not confront the situation at all. I really like you life-lesson hubs. You are a woman after my own heart.


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Rastamermaid 4 years ago from Universe Author

Nobody said said that the road would be easy,but the journey is yours. We all learn something along the way,atleast you should.

All things happen in God's time,not your time or my time but His time.

Respect!


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pstraubie48 4 years ago from sunny Florida

So glad you shared this. Forgiving can be so difficult. But once it is done it can be life changing especially if it is a need to forgive that has gone on for toooooo many years. Being able to recognize the importance of moving on and perhaps asking God to carry one through that makes one's life so much better....if it sounds as if I am speaking form experience...it is because i am...


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Rastamermaid 4 years ago from Universe Author

The benefits of forgiveness are life changing indeed.It puts other things in perspective,allowing you to observe what is really needed in your life and what you don't need at all.

Thanks for reading and commenting pstraubie48,it's greatly appreciated.

Blessings!


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KrystalD 4 years ago from Los Angeles

Fprgiveness is definately tough. I also thnk self-forgiveness is really the hardest to acheive but possibly the most rewarding.


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Rastamermaid 4 years ago from Universe Author

KrystalD,you're correct,forgiving ones self is certainly hard to achieve,but you need it for yourelf,to truly love yourself is key to a happy life.

Thanks for reading and commenting.

Respect!


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Ashantina 4 years ago

I really enjoyed reading this hub Rastamermaid. And I love the quote at the top of the page, right on!! Forgiveness is a fickle thing. Its real hard to do sometimes, comes to pass in its own time and is so freeing when you do choose to...

Thanks for sharing.

Stay Blessed


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Rastamermaid 4 years ago from Universe Author

Thanks so much Ashantina,so glad to hear from ya,lady!

Life is wonderful and flourishing to new horizons,hope the same is happening for you.

Respect!


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Sphinxs Sanctum 4 years ago from Southern United States

Rastamermaid- Well spoken of experience; a teacher to those in need. I am trying to find the ability to forgive, but some things, too great to bear for now. It depends how close, how involved, how knowing the person who transgressed upon me was, at the time of their misstep. You have much to offer the world; a wonderful writer.

I too share medical conditions that cause my day-to-day to be difficult. My first poem here on HP was on that very topic, if you get a chance to read it. It's called, "Invisible Oppressor"

Hope this finds you well.

Sphinx's Sanctum

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