44 and Pregnant!

Getting Pregnant at Age 44

So yesterday morning I got the amazing sight of a positive pregnancy test (or BFP) at the age of 44! It came as a bit of a shock for some reason as, although I had been trying for 10 months, I really didn't think it had happened this month. I had absolutely no symptoms up until the day when my period was due so I hadn't really tested before then.

The only reason that I tested was because I had a really high temperature on the morning that my period was due, rather than it going down. Now, if you are trying to conceive, the best way to monitor your cycle is to take your temperature every morning at the same time. You can find more info about this on another of my articles but essentially at the end of a cycle a high temperature can indicate pregnancy, otherwise it would be normal for your temperature to decrease just before your period is due.

So, I had one test in the back of the cupboard and thought I might as well use it. Below is the result:

Pregnancy test on the day my period was due.
Pregnancy test on the day my period was due.

What Are The Chances?

So, I have done a lot of investigations into what my chances were of getting pregnant at 43 - the age that I started - and also the stats for over 40's in my group of friends. Although the doctors do not give a very good chance to those over 40 of getting pregnant, I was not convinced by their statistics as mine proved otherwise. Also I don't know where they get their numbers from as they can't know who is trying to conceive.

Having said that, after trying for 10 cycles (actually 9 as my baby father was away for 1) I feel very lucky to have got a BFP in that space of time. But who knows, maybe that is just normal. I had some tests done and my levels were OK. My FSH level was 7.4 which is OK but not brilliant. The semen anaysis did not come out great with poor morphology, but 3 months of taking vitamins may have changed this to a point where it was much better. I also took a number of supplements myself - in particular I took maca root tablets for 6 months and they are supposed to improve the quality of your eggs.

So today just to be sure, I took a digital pregnancy test and you can see the result below:

A digital pregnancy test will tell you 'Pregnant' or 'Not Pregnant'
A digital pregnancy test will tell you 'Pregnant' or 'Not Pregnant'

Will it Stick?

Well this is another question and there seem to be stats saying that a high rate of pregnancies in women in their 40's end in miscarriage.

I have determined to enjoy this for as long as it lasts and really hope that it will stick, but at the end of the day it is pretty much out of my hands as long as I do not do anything stupid.

This will be my first child and although I will be one of the oldest Mum's in the playground I feel that I am only really now ready for motherhood. I can offer a child a stable and secure life in a nice home with two parents who love it, even if they are not together. Maybe more importantly two parents who get on with each other.

I know it will be a struggle and with back problems I am probably going to suffer but I am sure it will be worth it in the end.

Update - 2013

So unfortunately this pregnancy ended in a miscarriage (it was a blighted ovum at just over 8 weeks). I started getting a bit of brown spotting and then some cramps and I went to the doctor and got an ultrasound which showed a blighted ovum. A week later I miscarried.

But the good news is that I am now pregnant again (almost 9 weeks now) so i have made it past the point where I lost this baby and am hoping that this one will be a healthy pregnancy. I have already had a scan and seen the heartbeat so I am off to a good start I think.

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Bianu 4 years ago from Africa

Congratulations. It will stick. In ten months time you'll write a Hub on sleepless nights.


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Butterfly67 4 years ago from UK Author

Ha ha thanks Bianu, you are probably right!


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cardelean 4 years ago from Michigan

Oh butterfly67 I am so happy for you! I remember so many months ago you commenting on my journey to motherhood hub and I have thought about you often. I agree with Bianu and I will be watching for those parenting hubs! :) Visualize yourself not just going though the phases of being pregnant and what that will feel like but also actually giving birth. Visualizing is a powerful tool that many people forget about using. Best wishes to you and keep us posted!


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Made 4 years ago from Finland

Great news. Congratulations and good luck! :)


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Butterfly67 4 years ago from UK Author

Aw thanks so much cardelean :-) looks like I will have to check out more parenting hubs now. Yes, it does seem like a while ago now that this all started and I was really beginning to think it wouldn't happen!


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Butterfly67 4 years ago from UK Author

Thanks so much Made!


Kat44 4 years ago

I have my money on it turning out well for you...I very much hope so. Congratulations!


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Butterfly67 4 years ago from UK Author

Thanks Kat, I very much hope so but I am not counting my chickens for a long while yet. Now at 7+1 so I guess have got through the early weeks but I won't get a scan until 12 weeks so really anything could happen before then.


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Butterfly67 4 years ago from UK Author

Well I am sorry to share bad news but a couple of days ago I had some spotting and cramping so I went to the hospital and they did a scan and unfortunately there was only a gestational sac measuring 5 weeks so in fact it was a blighted ovum and the pregnancy is not viable. This means I just have to wait now to miscarry which could be days or weeks. It is probably due to my age and the likelihood of my eggs not being as good as they were a few years ago.


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cardelean 4 years ago from Michigan

I'm very sorry to hear this. My prayers will be with you during this time. Don't give up. This recently happened to a family member of mine and she is not 30 yet. Don't chalk up your age to all of this. Try to keep positive.


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Butterfly67 4 years ago from UK Author

Thanks cardelean, I'm sorry to hear about your family member. It is interesting as the doc said it was probably my age. However, I have also read that this rarely happens more than once so if I get to try again (it was an arrangement I had with an ex) then I will for sure still have some hope :-)


4 years ago

What brand is the top pregnancy test? And are there two lines or one line in the first window?


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Made 4 years ago from Finland

I'm sorry to hear the bad news. I wish you luck! Don't give up!


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Butterfly67 4 years ago from UK Author

N, the top test is sainsburys own and there are 2 lines making up a plus sign. It doesn't matter how light or dark the crossed line is as long as you can see it.


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Butterfly67 4 years ago from UK Author

Thanks Made, I will be trying again as soon as my hcg level goes back to zero. I am definitely encouraged by the fact that I was able to get pregnant.


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Made 4 years ago from Finland

That's good to hear. I wish you all the best, Butterfly! :)


sarah 4 years ago

hi, not sure if you still check this board...

I'm also 44 and hoping that one of these days I might also be so lucky to see that mystical BFP. I took maca root, as well, for only one month, since my period came a week early that month. Bit disconcerting, so I stopped.

did you not notice any change in your cycle while taking maca?

any luck in conceiving since your heartbreak of a loss?


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Butterfly67 4 years ago from UK Author

hi sarah and thanks for your comment. I took maca for quite a while and didn't really notice much different. However, when I stopped taking it my cycles became a couple of days longer so maybe it did shorten them a bit and I just didn't realise at the time. Unfortunately because I was trying with my ex I only had 3 more months of trying after the BFP and then we had to give up. I still believe that if I carried on it might happen. Now though I am going for IVF with donor eggs early next year (so that I don't take the chances of using old eggs) so I still hope to be a Mum soon :-)

I wish you the best of luck and hope you get your BFP very soon.

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