Rejection, Health and Mindfulness

Mindfulness

Research confirms the link between rejection and a person’s risk for health problems; and suggests mindfulness may be a way to reduce stress, cope with rejection and improve one’s immune system. Mindfulness is the practice of being fully present in the moment or the “here and now”. Deepak Chopra, MD describes mindful living as the “highest form of human intelligence.” Mindfulness is a state of mind. Mindfulness skills can be learned and developed with practice. Mindfulness is also believed to increase attention span and boost creativity.

Rejection

Where is the evidence that I'm being rejected?
Where is the evidence that I'm being rejected?

Neurological and Environmental Differences

We all experience differences in our neurological responses to stress and rejection and in our experiences of rejection in our environments.  Some of us are more sensitive than others to feelings of rejection, and have stronger emotional reactions than others.  Some of us experience home, community, school and work environments that are more rejecting than others.  We all belong to cultural groups that are more or less accepted by our society’s dominant culture.  We all have experienced some form of social rejection.  Our view of social rejection can determine how it affects us.  

Emotions

how emotions affect the immune system
how emotions affect the immune system

Psychoneuroimmunology

Psychoneuroimmunology is a branch of medicine that studies how emotions affect the immune system.  UCLA researchers recently identified that how our brain responds to social stressors can influence the body’s immune system and health.  People who are more sensitive to social rejection experience greater increases in inflammatory activity in their immune systems.  This increase in inflammatory activity is adaptive in acute situations because it promotes wound healing and reduces risk for infection when there is a physical injury.  It is part of our immune system’s natural response to potentially harmful situations.  When physical threats have been associated with social rejection, inflammation may be triggered in anticipation of a physical injury.  Frequent or chronic activation of inflammation in the immune system can increase risk for asthma, arthritis, cardiovascular disease and depression.

 

The Research, The Purpose and The Findings

In the study at UCLA, researchers subjected participants to forms of social rejection and stress. They measured changes in inflammatory biological markers in saliva and changes in brain activity during an MRI that was programmed to light up brain regions associated with fear, stress and rejection. Participants who showed high neural responses to rejection during the MRI also showed the greatest increase in inflammatory activity in their saliva following tests of social stress and rejection.

The purpose of the study was to help practitioners who work with people who feel rejected, and teach them more effective ways to respond to rejection. The study was also designed to better understand neurocognitive pathways that underlie inflammatory responses to stress.

George Slavich, PhD, the lead author in the study suggested some solutions for dealing with rejection. One solution is to recognize that a negative thought is not the same as fact. In other words, because I feel rejected or think I am being rejected does not objectively mean that I am being rejected. Some people are quick to conclude that they are being rejected, when there is no real evidence of rejection. Learning to ask myself, “where is the evidence that I’m being rejected?” can be helpful. If there is really no evidence, I can change my belief instead of continuing to believe I am being rejected.

If I am right, and I am being rejected, I can learn not to “catastrophize” or make the worst out of the situation. Catastrophizing is the mental mistake of imagining that an unfortunate event is the same as a major catastrophe such as a hurricane, flood or national disaster, and reacting to that event is if it were a real catastrophe; telling oneself how horrible and awful it is when really it is only unfortunate, inconvenient or uncomfortable. If I think a situation is a catastrophe, I am likely to react in a way that makes the situation worse… and consequently experience social rejection. If I think a situation is unfortunate or uncomfortable, I can better manage my dis-ease and discomfort.

Fully Present: The Science, Art and Practice of Mindfulness

Fully Present provides cutting-edge scientific explanations for how mindfulness positively and powerfully affects the brain and the body as well as practical guidance to develop both a meditation practice and discover mindfulness in daily living.
Fully Present provides cutting-edge scientific explanations for how mindfulness positively and powerfully affects the brain and the body as well as practical guidance to develop both a meditation practice and discover mindfulness in daily living. | Source

Mindfulness and Therapy

Mindfulness techniques can be used to learn to accept feelings of rejection and other strong feelings, and to better tolerate them.  The book, Fully Present, is an introduction to mindfulness as it is taught at UCLA’s Mindful Awareness Research Center (MARC).  The book explains how mindfulness can affect the brain and body, and provides guidance for developing and practicing mindfulness.

 

Mindfulness is also a part of Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), an approach to therapy that combines Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and mindfulness.  (CBT emphasizes that it is our thoughts that cause feelings and actions rather than external things)  DBT has been shown to be most helpful to persons with Borderline Personality features.  These are people who experience a great deal of difficulty regulating emotions, are extremely sensitive to rejection, and have a very strong reaction to rejection that often includes self injurious behaviors.  According to the study, these same people are at higher risk for certain illnesses.

 

For those of us with mild to moderate responses to rejection, a book such as Fully Present can be helpful in learning to better manage feelings of rejection and other social stressors by practicing mindfulness techniques.  For those of us who struggle more profoundly, we may benefit from CBT or DBT therapy in addition to the book, especially if life threatening behaviors are involved.

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alekhouse 6 years ago from Louisville, Kentucky

Wow. This is really good stuff. There's nobody better than Deepak Chopra for learning to stay in the moment.

Thanks, Kim


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kimh039 6 years ago Author

Thank you alekhouse. It makes sense that rejection would have a biological effect, but the scientific evidence to confirm the obvious is always nice! Deepak has been trying to tell us! I appreciate your taking time to check it out and post a comment alekhouse. See you soon.


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epigramman 6 years ago

.....I've had my fair share of rejection and sometimes it leaves a bitter taste which has shattered my confidence on more than one occasion ...so I guess we should all be mindful of one another and always try to say the right thing or do the right thing .....I guess life is a learning process and I'm still learning - and I certainly learn from you in a very enlightened way - and by the way how long will you be away from your laptop - I like having you around - lord knows good people are hard to find these days .......


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kimh039 6 years ago Author

I don't know that we should or even can always do and say the right things. I did try once, and failed miserably! I actually never left my laptop as planned. I got side tracked. I decided to play a game of scrabble, then got an email notification of a comment on facebook, then an email about a comment on hubpages, and before I knew it, I was reading hubs and leaving comments...although I haven't gotten to any of yours yet. Thanks for being a die hard fan e-man.


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vrbmft 6 years ago from Yucaipa, California

Very informative hub. I always enjoy reading about mindfulness and I always enjoy reading your hubs.

The issue of rejection keeps coming up, doesn't it? How important it is for us to have a solid foundation of acceptance when we are very very little, so we can deal with rejection, perceived or real, as a big person.

I just picked up a book from my small library in my offie which I had totally forgotten I had. Called "Cool Water: Alcoholism, Mindfulness, and Ordinary Recovery" by William Alexander. I like what I have read so far, bringing mindfulness to recovery.

I know there are an abundance of folks who have gifted us with "mindfulness" what? Dating back to the BC times. I am so grateful that in the last fifteen years, my life has been blest with mindfulness. My favorite book for mindfulness is Jon Kabut Zinn's "Whereever You Go, There You Are." It is a good book for men because each chaper is only about four pages, so it doesn't take much to read several chapters and have a sense that you are zooming through the book!! Wow! I am on Chapter four already!! I hear most men won't hang with a book for an extended period of time. That probably isn't true, but a stereotype that applies probably more to tactile learners than to men in general!!

Anywho, I could relate better to CBT if they would just alter the premise slightly and be more accurate neurologically. Our thoughts do not cause our feelings. In fact most feelings come from a reservoir in the amygdala of very old feelings that are triggered by events that appear similar to an old event. The emotions fire off long long before (when you are talking 360,00 miles per second)our thoughts begin to register. There is NO thought process in the emotional reaction and that is the problem. The problem is the lack of dialogue between our thoughts and emotions, and a dialogue between our thinking brain and emotional brain would lead us to the awareness of whether or not the emotion fits the event or not. It is a pet peeve of mine. It makes so much more sense than to say your thoughts cause your feelings especially when we keep telling folks that no one or no thing cause your feelings. They are simply spontaneous reactions or responses that come and go very very quickly.

Anywho, I am on my soap box again.

THANKS FOR ANOTHER RELEVANT AND INFORMATIVE HUB.

vERN


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kimh039 6 years ago Author

I'll have to check out that cool water book. mindfulness is used in trauma work, and 60% of women in treatment for substance abuse and 40% of men in treatment have trauma symptoms. it makes sense to include mindfulness in CD treatment. meditation has been used, but it's often really a nap time in practice! Thanks for your loyal readership, vern and for your thought provoking comments (AKA soapbox)!


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dallas93444 6 years ago from Bakersfield, CA

Great article. My son as an actor, taught me a valuable lesson. It is not "rejection, it is selection." Often times we feel, or take it personal when we are not rejected - just not selected...


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kimh039 6 years ago Author

Thanks dallas. I like that....and just not selected this time..... You can feel the difference; it takes away some of the sting. What a wise son you have! Thanks for passing along the lesson learned.


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Tony DeLorger 6 years ago from Adelaide, South Australia

Great hub. Have done a course in Mindfulness based therapy and found it invaluable with depression disorders.


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kimh039 6 years ago Author

Oh, I bet! A person who is depressed is very sensitive to rejection. Thanks for stopping to read and comment Tony. I might have felt not selected if you hadn't, but that would be ok cause I can handle that!


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tonymac04 6 years ago from South Africa

Great and usefrul Hub. Thank you. I really learned a lot from this Hub, and in a most delightful way!

Love and peace

Tony


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kimh039 6 years ago Author

Thank you tonymac. delightful?! I like that. glad you found delight in my hub. may your day be filled with delight:)


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Benjimester 6 years ago from San Diego, California

Psychoneuroimmunology. Now that's a pretty ridiculous word. I'm not even going to try and pronounce it :) I can definitely see how there is a link between rejection and the development of certain ailments. Difficulty regulating emotions and being sensitive to rejection are definite precursors to stress and illness. Good thoughts.


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kimh039 6 years ago Author

LOL! Yeah. Ridiculous! .... a bunch of pseudo intellectuals, no doubt! No I actually attended a seminar on psychoneuroimmunology. It's good stuff. Thanks again for reading and commenting, Benji....appreciate it.


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Sun-Girl 5 years ago from Nigeria

Awesome and interesting article you actually shared in here. Honestly, am really grateful for coming across this informative article in which i was immediately informed after reading from you.


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kimh039 5 years ago Author

Thank you Sun-Girl..... for checking it out and commenting. I appreciate it, a lot:)


SandCastles 4 years ago

I like that, don't "catastrophize”. It's good to see the humour in things too.


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kimh039 4 years ago Author

Glad you like that SandCastles ..... or awfulize! Thanks for reading and commenting, and keep on seeing the humor (AKA humour:)


SandCastles 4 years ago

:) thanks

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