Healthy Aging-Really?

Love, Life, and Aging, Ugh!

Buzz, BUZZ, BUZZ! I slowly rolled over and hit the snooze button. “How could seven hours fly by that quickly?” I said to myself. I climbed out of bed and headed to the potty. I rubbed my eyes to focus and ran my hand through my hair. Boy, was I feeling bad, but of course, today is my 40th birthday. I stepped into the bathroom, flipped the light on and looked directly in the mirror. I screamed! “How could this be?” I said to myself. I closed the door, striped to my birthday suit and looked in the full-length mirror at my entire body. All the things they tell you about your body changing, is true. My eyes were puffy, I had wrinkles around my lips, how can that happen overnight? I looked down and saw that my breast were sagging, actually sagging! Overnight, I have transformed into a sagging breasted women with puffy eyes. All I kept saying to myself was how can that happen? Now my breasts were at my rib cage, my navel was at my pubic line and worst of all, my butt was sitting on top of my thighs. “Where did my hips go?” “Do you wake up at 40 and this is what happens?” I popped the shower on, brushed my teeth and hoped that once I got out of the shower, I would realize that this was just a silly dream.

Yep, I am Getting Older!

NOPE! It was real; everything I saw in the mirror was still there! Sagging boobs to droopy butt! Does gratuity pull your eyes, breasts and butt down all in one night? That’s it! I ate something bad last night and it caused this chain reaction in my body! I stared in the mirror and asked, “Should I join a gym?” No answer. Maybe surgery, that’s what I will do. I felt better already, and then I realized that I couldn’t afford surgery. What was I thinking? I really don’t want to go to the gym either. Maybe I should do some research, am I going through mid-life crisis? I thought only men did that. Maybe I should ask my husband, but if I point out my new surprises he might not like them. If I don’t point them out, then he may not even notice them.

Upon leaving the bathroom I wondered if I liked this new me, I ran back to the full-length mirror, stood in front of it naked. Yuk! All I kept thinking is “is this really my body or is the mirror lying?” I ventured back out of the bathroom to see my husband sitting on the bed putting on his shoes.

“Hi honey,” he said to me. “Happy Birthday! I got you a surprise but you have to wait until tonight to get it” he said as he kissed me on the mouth. Marriage is a wonderful thing, but I want my marriage to be the best, when I look this way, I am concerned. Do I need counseling? Will he divorce me when he sees what I see?

“I don’t know if I can handle anymore surprises today.” I said softly.

“What dear?” he responded.

“Do I look any different to you?” I asked him

“Different? No, but are you okay?” he said

“You see nothing unusual about me?” I asked again

“Other than your naked and I am not?” he said jokingly

“Answer me, am I different?” I said frustrated

“No honey, you are perfectly normal, I see nothing wrong with you, okay?” he said and hurried out of the room.

I ran back to the full-length mirror and looked at myself, yep, I was different. I was 40 years old, married and realized that I would never be twenty or thirty again. I realized that I have things I want too accomplish but haven’t. I looked in that mirror and notice that I haven’t really taken care of my body. I always thought I would have time, but I never TOOK the time. I stood there so long that I began to become conscious that I am 40 years old! I have accomplished something’s but not all things I set out to do. I stood there long enough to realize that I still have time to do the things that I want to do.

I looked in the mirror hard and said “I may be forty, I may be drooping a little but I am alive and I have many years left in me!” I turned around and looked in the full-length mirror again and saw that I was a different person! Physical changes have taken place but mentally I am ready to conquer the world. As I stared at myself, I recognize that I am ready to be a better person and to live life to it’s fullest, not let it pass me by. I walked out of the bathroom and knew I had one thing I needed to do today, go shopping!

The Aging Process is Hard!

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wesleycox 7 years ago from Back in Texas, at least until August 2012

Getting older sure does suck but I keep in mind that things get better with age. I'm not forty but I am thirty and I feel great about it. It must be different for women though. Anyway, great story.


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judydianne 7 years ago from Palm Harbor, FL

You are still young at 40. Forties were the best years of my life. Good hub. Everyone can relate that's over 40.


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Ladybird33 7 years ago from Georgia USA Author

Wesley, it does suck but it's a part of life so I am embracing getting older and you are still very young :0)

Judydianne, I am enjoying my 40's and loved my 30's but aging is hard.

Thank you both for commenting!


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Feline Prophet 7 years ago from India

I think forty is a great place to be...that's when you really begin to get comfortable in your skin and stop worrying about what others think about you. :)


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bingskee 7 years ago from Quezon City, Philippines

i remember a post i wrote with the title "So What If I'm Forty?" so i tell you now, so what? ha ha

i laughed reading this. it's a good read. made me feel i am not alone ha ha ha


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Julie-Ann Amos 7 years ago from Gloucestershire, UK

Love this thanks!


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Ladybird33 7 years ago from Georgia USA Author

Feline, yes, you are sooo right, I feel more comfortable in my skin now then I was in my 30's. Plus, I am so much more confident :)

Bingskee, this is how I felt when I turned 40, which is funny because I have enjoyed my 40's and I am not alone!

Julie-Ann, thank you so much!


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Philipo 7 years ago from Nigeria

Aging is a process we have to pass through.


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Beth100 7 years ago from Canada

Forty's come and gone, and I'm still feeling like 25. The mirror isn't my problem -- it's my teenage daughter and son, a grandson and the realization that I'm through with having more babies (my youngest is 4). :) Thanks for sharing -- I now know that I'm not alone!!!


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Ladybird33 7 years ago from Georgia USA Author

Philipo, the aging process is hard on us all :)

Beth100, wow, I thought you were much younger, I am impressed and thanks for reading.


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lorlie6 7 years ago from Bishop, Ca

So, Ladybird, you think that way, too? Now past 50, I rarely look in that old mirror, but when I do, I speak to my mama, whose mug I have inherited!


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Cheeky Girl 7 years ago from UK and Nerujenia

I enjoyed reading this! We all age in the end, and no plastic surgery or treatments can change it. I would love it for us all to be able to live longer, but sometimes that can backfire. What if someone had a serious illness? WOuld they want to endure it for a long time, if they could live for so long. I know lots of people who have dream lists and wishes of things they want to do before they die or grow old. I want to to them and see the world before I become too old! I already made a start. Life can be good too. Nice hub! (ps. 40 is not too old! Cheer up! Imagine how you'll feel at 60!)


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Lita C. Malicdem 6 years ago from Philippines

Ladybird,

You made me laugh all the way. Here you are at 40 and worried out of your wits! Anyways, it's good you realize early. I like your last words- "go shopping". Fine writing really.

To tell you, no woman would like to end up like that doddering old lady by the church door. So get up, don't pack up! I do!


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Ladybird33 6 years ago from Georgia USA Author

lorlie66, it's really not bad getting older, it's all how your mind is set on it, right? Thanks for commenting!

cheekygirl, you are so very right, I am 40 and 20 years away from 60, I need to embrace it. Well, I have but it's still fun to write about. Thanks for reading!!!

Lita, how are you? You words of wisdom is very important for us all. Love your comment and I appreciate you taking the time to read and comment :) Hope you are well!!


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Ayaba1 5 years ago from Abuja

Life is full of experience. I believe it depends on how many life you've bless!

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