Repression Release - Chapter 14

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Talking Therapy

The problem with most talking therapies is that communication is through the critical filter of both the Client's and the Therapist's mind. The best way for me to describe it would be to imagine watching a movie but all the way though the wife of the leading actor kept interrupting telling him his dinner was ready or that she wanted him to have a word with one of their children or some such every day occurrence that had nothing to do with the movie.

If the underlying root cause of a problem is emotional then reasoning will only go so far to resolving it and the most that can be achieved is find some way of handling the symptoms.

Hypno-Psychotherapy is a feeling therapy requiring the client to engage emotionally and not just as an observer from a safe distance. Intellectualising the problem serves no purpose until the emotional charge has been released. In order to do this feeling rather than thinking is required on the part of the Client.


Repression

Let's say a person is suffering from asthma. The asthma is a physical symptom symbolising or standing in the place of a repression (that which is subconsciously pushed away from conscious awareness).

Something happened when the person was very young and the natural mental processes were interrupted because the child found the experience emotionally overwhelming. The subconscious then put the experience in cold storage but left a symptom to remind the person to deal with the repressed experience when s/he had acquired the necessary emotional resources.


Reporting an incident isn't the same as feeling it!

Because the experience was repressed it is not under conscious control so it is not fully available to the Client. The Client can remember what happened and is more than capable of reporting what happened but only as a reporter and from a safe distance. The Client may have related the traumatic event many times before and may even have shed a tear in doing so but the repression remains with all the emotional charge associated with it.

Simply talking about the event from the stand point of an observer from a safe distance is a far cry from the process that was interrupted at the time it first happened. In order to deal with and resolve the underlying emotional cause for the repression the initial traumatic incident needs to be re-enacted in all its glory in the present and to do this the imagination must be called upon.


Hypnosis in Psychotherapy

The client has to engage the imagination to such an extent that s/he imagines the incident actually happening in the present. This is where hypnosis comes in. The Client will feel all the feeling sensations, all the sights, the sounds, the smells as if s/he is a child once again and experiencing the event but this time being given the opportunity to allow the normal mental and emotional processes to go all the way to completion.

To do this the Client needs to suspend the critical analytical mind and engage the imagination as you do when you watch a movie. The story is ruined if the actor's wife keeps reminding the audience that this is only a movie. Thinking and analysing is the exact opposite of imagining and that is why it would interfere with the therapeutic process of repression release.


Releasing repression

Once the Client cooperates with the therapeutic process, the experience that caused the asthma in the first place is re-enacted in every detail several times. With each re-enactment more detail is remembered and there will be a noticeable shift in intensity and in the way the Client expresses the associated emotional charge. The Client normally goes from someone crying uncontrollably to eventually relaying the story in a bored tone indicating that all the charge has been released.


Consolidation

Once the emotional charge has been released the Client is then given the opportunity to arrive at conclusions for him/herself about why the subconscious chose that particular symptom and to come to realisations about the experience and its effect on his/her lives to date.

Repressions addressed in this way are permanently released and the associated physical symptoms are immediately or soon after alleviated and in most cases completely disappear.


Goyakla practises what he preaches

In my series of hubs Chapters 1 to 13 I have described the repressions I released in therapy. You will notice that I wrote each chapter in the first person and in the present tense to give you a feel for what re-enactment of a traumatic even entailed. Since I had released all the emotional charge associated with these repressions in therapy I no longer feel them and even when I was writing them as if they were happening in the present I felt no emotion. They are now resolved and are part of what I have learned in my life.


Acid test of repression

If you have suffered traumatic events in your life and feel that they no longer affect your life try writing a hub about them the way I did. Write your experiences in the present tense and as you are writing re-enact the events in your mind as if they are happening in the present.

If you are able to do this free from any emotional expression then you can rest assured that the events no longer influence your life in the present. If however you feel the emotion welling up and you find yourself unable to control your feelings then you harbour at least one repression and as long as you do you do not have the power of choice in your life. You are at the mercy of your past and albeit subconscious your choices are always influenced by the experiences you continue to repress to this day.


About Hypno-Psychotherapy

To read more about my work as a Hypno-Psychotherapist and the therapy I have described in this article please click the following link:

               Analytical Hypnotherapy by Xavier Nathan

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kimh039 5 years ago

Interesting and informative, Goyakla. The present focus sounds very existentialist. That's the way I journal. I use it in dream work as well. Thanks:)


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Goyakla 5 years ago from United Kingdom Author

Thank you kim039 for visiting and commenting. I don't know what you mean by existential in relation to this hub. Could you elaborate? Thank you.


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kimh039 5 years ago

I was referring to the use of first person, present tense as a way of re-experiencing events and related emotions; and the importance of accepting emotions as part of the human experience, in order to do this work. I was thinking of experiential, existential, freudian, gestalt and jungian theory and techniques as well. Perhaps I'll gather my thoughts a little better, and put together a hub:) Here's a link if interested: http://www.existential-therapy.com/Special_Topics/...


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Goyakla 5 years ago from United Kingdom Author

Thank you for taking the trouble to explain yourself. The method I have described in this hub is psychotherapy as practised by Freud but using hypnosis to suspend the conscious mind in order to more efficiently access the subconscious mind.


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Beverly Stevens 5 years ago from College Station

Nicely written! I have wondered about this whole communication issue when I have thought about marriage counselors and psychologists. Words and one's perspective of one's actions can't always convey reality. And, the counselor is only able to interpret from his/her own experiences/knowledge. A video camera of daily life would convey so much more, better. Anyhow, that's what your article brought to mind for me even though I know that this was not exactly the point of your article.


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Goyakla 5 years ago from United Kingdom Author

Thank you Beverly. I can see the hub has got you thinking and that what it is supposed to do. Thank you for taking the time to comment.


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Denise Handlon 5 years ago from North Carolina

Excellent points. Very useful-thanks for sharing.


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Slarty O'Brian 5 years ago from Canada

I am working on a list of comments. I commend you for this series of hubs. Very vey well done

My only question for right now is: Do you get many people like me who can't be hypnotized?


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Goyakla 5 years ago from United Kingdom Author

I have treated many people over the years who claim they cannot be hypnotised. The same people experience hypnosis everyday when they are not looking!

They have all tended to be over analytical and they are always the very best candidates in the end for hypnosis.

I myself thought I could not be hypnotised and it took me the best part of 6 months to teach myself to let go.

I cannot be hypnotised is a belief you can change at will but that is your choice and nobody else's.

Thank you for reading this series and I look forward to your reaction.


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Slarty O'Brian 5 years ago from Canada

Good response. ;)

I've been busy all weekend chomping at the bit to respond to this hub. The first thing in my mind is that I do empathize with the pain you went through as a child. It hurts just hearing stories like that.

So i'm off to start more detailed comments now that I have some free time. I may do what you suggested and write a series on my own journey.

But as my childhood was rather ideal, I won't be doing in the same style.

I'm not even sure anyone will be interested in it. But I may just write it with my kids and grand kids in mind. That's something I've always wanted to do anyway.

Thanks again for a thought provoking series of hubs and a small window in to you.


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Slarty O'Brian 5 years ago from Canada

The story of your regression is a familiar and painful one. As I said, reading it I grieved at the pain and confusion you endured.

However, one of the first things you said struck me as ironic. When I explained to you that love was simply the act/desire of making another a part of self, you denied that and said that love was not rationally explainable. And yet you explained it to yourself as a small child. “I want to tell him how much I love him but I don’t know how. I ask inside myself that I become exactly like him. I want to be my father because I love him so much.”

Exactly so. You wanted him to be part of you so much you wanted to be him.

Though I had a particularly good childhood despite my hatred of being a child because I wanted to get on with things, I have had a lot of experience with people close to me who were abused. This is why I say your story is familiar.

You are right in saying we come from different worlds. Mine was eventually a world philosophy and living in the drug culture of the 1960s and 70s.

Regression can also come from alcohol and or drugs. I’ve spent nights listening to people talking about their feelings about their childhood, and reliving them as if they are happening. They even talk as if it is all happening right now. They can see it and taste it and feel it as if it is happening right now.

Of course they never get that real release you speak of because they don’t often remember much about it the next day. They can’t explain it all to themselves in the light of day. It can help somewhat if there is someone there talking them through it. And often they do end up talking about it all calmly as if they did have a major release.

But often the pain comes back when they drink again and the cycle starts over. Some do eventually come to terms with their childhoods; and as you say, some don’t survive. I went to the funerals of several friends. But I and others helped many survive.

A technique that works better than alcohol or drugs, of course, is meditation. Meditation is a form of hypnosis, if I understand the term correctly. Meditation comes in many forms, and can be designed to relive past experience. I notice that your patients are often taught self hypnosis techniques. I’d like to know the details of that but I suspect that they are not unlike some meditation techniques.

“To do this the Client needs to suspend the critical analytical mind and engage the imagination as you do when you watch a movie. The story is ruined if the actor's wife keeps reminding the audience that this is only a movie. Thinking and analysing is the exact opposite of imagining and that is why it would interfere with the therapeutic process of repression release.”

Yes. In this stage one has to suspend the analytical process and live the experience so they can release it. But to confront it and end it there has to be an understanding and acceptance of what happened. The deep emotion causing the pain or fear has to be released by in a sense reliving, but surely that is not the end of it either; unless one can accept and understand what has happened? If all it took was the release though the reliving then alcohol would be a viable alternative to hypnosis.

There is another aspect to this. Forgiveness. One of the main things I have told people to remember is that their parents did not make themselves. Each has a story that tells a tale of confusion and pain and very often abuse. Knowing that story often helps explain why. It doesn’t excuse what happened, but it helps explain it and that often helps.

You are obviously familiar with the fact that the abused often become the abusers unless they heal. Others cannot abuse exactly because they have been abused. I think these are genetic predispositions.

The end of the healing process is often forgiving the abuser and thereby putting an end to it all for either type of person. From my end of things it seems very much like victims have to go through the same pattern of steps one goes through in the grieving process. This often includes anger, depression, remorse, fear, guilt, understanding forgiveness of self and the abuser, and then acceptance. Forgiveness of the abuser doesn’t have to be part of it, as long as no hate is felt for them. Hate eats at us and does not allow us to heal.

One of the reasons I wondered about your personal link to the Holographic Universe interpretation was because you seem to also be espousing it’s ideas in your blog. But if that is so then this quote contradicts that entire theory: “I uncovered truth, and not the truth that depends on who owns it, but truth independent of the perceiver.”

Well said. Yet you can’t believe that if you also believe in a holographic universe or it’s principals. This is the idea I have been trying to get you to explain to me. How do you resolve this?

“I wondered about such possibilities as, what if it turns out that I am just an elaborate computer seeking to know my user?”

So this is where you got that idea from. As I said in my reply to this when you asked me the same question, a computer could know a lot about their user from what they make it do. What they look up o the web, etc. The computer would know even your financial history and perhaps even you credit card number. It could look you up to find more information from a variety of sources, and would likely be adept at hacking into other computers to get information about you from them.

The computer is in a perfect position to know a lot about you, just as humans are in a very good position to know about the world and how it works, despite our rather obvious limitations. The way we can start is by asking what does the universe force us to do? But more to the point we are able to know about ourselves by knowing about the world and how it works. One is the reflection of the other. Perhaps this is why the holographic analogy is appealing.

Through the study of the patterns of existence one notices that all manifestations of energy/matter are reflections of each other. Some more complex than others but repetitive patterns on a theme. It is like a hologram but it is not a hologram.

The more I read of this hub the more it was obvious that we really do agree on a lot more than we think we do. And since this is already getting to be too big for a response I’m going to leave the rest of what I was going to say for later conversations. Perhaps I will weave some of it into the series you suggested I do. Since you were kind enough to open up a window in to your past, it’s the least I can do.

I expect you to analyze my many neuroses as completely as possible. ;)


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Goyakla 5 years ago from United Kingdom Author

Thank you Slarty for taking the time to read this series of hubs and I appreciate the time and effort you have put into your very thoughtful comments.

Before I answer some of the points you have brought up I would to remind you of the purpose of this series of hubs. The hubs are written to show what repression release is so the reader has an idea of what takes place in therapy. Rather than just talk about what happens and the theories behind it I thought it would be more beneficial for the reader to be given a report of the experience by someone who has been through it.

Slarty says:

However, one of the first things you said struck me as ironic. When I explained to you that love was simply the act/desire of making another a part of self, you denied that and said that love was not rationally explainable. And yet you explained it to yourself as a small child. “I want to tell him how much I love him but I don’t know how. I ask inside myself that I become exactly like him. I want to be my father because I love him so much.”

Exactly so. You wanted him to be part of you so much you wanted to be him.

Goyakla says:

I have tried as accurately as I can to express the feelings I felt as a boy. I am not sure how you see this expression of feeling as a rational definition of love especially as the boy who felt those feelings did not have a fully developed conscious analytical mind to be in a position to explain any feeling let alone what he felt for his father. I do however see this as a very good example of attachment and how it can develop very early on. Love however, just is and as such cannot be rationalised in my opinion.

Slarty says:

I notice that your patients are often taught self hypnosis techniques. I’d like to know the details of that but I suspect that they are not unlike some meditation techniques.

Goyakla says:

I require each client to learn the art of self hypnosis prior to starting therapy.I made an audio that achieves this and which they download from my website and play for at least a week before starting with me. Hypnosis simply enables them to suspend the critical factor so the subconscious can be accessed. The therapeutic process can take anywhere between 12 and 15 weekly sessions but many resolve their issues sooner and there are some who take longer. Repression release is described in the hub but I have not explained the role the therapist plays as that is more complex and cannot satisfactoriy be explained in a hub. As with any profession, I studied and trained to do this and it is not something I would recommend anyone to do without the proper training.

Slarty says:

One of the reasons I wondered about your personal link to the Holographic Universe interpretation was because you seem to also be espousing it’s ideas in your blog. But if that is so then this quote contradicts that entire theory: “I uncovered truth, and not the truth that depends on who owns it, but truth independent of the perceiver.”

Well said. Yet you can’t believe that if you also believe in a holographic universe or it’s principals. This is the idea I have been trying to get you to explain to me. How do you resolve this?

Goyakla says:

I am not too concerned about ideas and models but can appreciate them and use them to achieve shift. What I mean by this is that people can become stuck in the way they think about things and sometimes it is not in their interests for me or anyone else to present to them ideas that will simply not fly with their critical factor. The holographic model like any other model is a way to get people to entertain new ideas. Unless the mind is in a position to shift then the shutters will come down. Exposing people to as many ideas as possible gets them thinking outside the box and that in itself is a major achievement in my opinion. I see all ideas as just that, ideas and I give no special credence to one above another. As far as my thinking goes one illusion is as good as another but the least a person needs to be able to do is to be able to move from one to another without becoming attached to any.

Learning not to attach to any one idea in particular is only the first step in a process that eventually enables us to realise that it is all an elaborate illusion anyway.

Slarty says:

Through the study of the patterns of existence one notices that all manifestations of energy/matter are reflections of each other. Some more complex than others but repetitive patterns on a theme. It is like a hologram but it is not a hologram.

Goyakla says:

You have deviated somewhat from the object of this hub but I am happy to respond.

I am interested in theories and models only because I can appreciate the thinking involved but that is as far as my interest goes in seeking rational explanations for things I feel have none. Studying an illusion will only suck you further in and will never help you see behind the trick. Studying the patterns of an illusion will never help you be any the wiser.

Slarty says:

The more I read of this hub the more it was obvious that we really do agree on a lot more than we think we do.

Goyakla says:

I agree.

I know you are only joking about the analysing your neuroses comment at the end but I would like to say that many people misunderstand the meaning of analysis in psychoanalysis. I have never cured anyone of anything. I have however helped people to access their own inner source of wisdom and healing and as such simply facilitate the process. I have never offered anyone advice or told them what was right or wrong for them as I each person the the highest authority in their own lives. I have never told anyone in session how to interpret anything that emerged though many have begged me to do so. It is not my place to influence people in this way and that is why each person must come to their own conclusions about what they themselves bring to their conscious awareness after repression release.

It is a most interesting process and I feel fortunate to be involved in anyone's healing process.


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Slarty O'Brian 5 years ago from Canada

"I have tried as accurately as I can to express the feelings I felt as a boy. I am not sure how you see this expression of feeling as a rational definition of love especially as the bot who felt those feelings did not have a fully developed conscious analytical mind to be in a position to explain any feeling let alone what he felt for his father."

He didn't need an analytically mind to know what he felt and he explained it rather well even though he didn't know it.

We will likely never agree on this issue and that's fine.

But perhaps over time we will get a little closer to a consensus.

It's not important.

Again. Thanks for directing me to these hubs. ;)


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Goyakla 5 years ago from United Kingdom Author

Thank you Slarty. It is not important but what is important is the relationship I have developed with you and that is more important than any idea or theory. The connection you have made possible by entertaining and encouraging my communication with you has enabled me to communicate with the Slarty inside myself and a part of me whose voice I am only now hearing. Maybe he is the boy who wanted to make sense out of it all because the feelings were hard to deal with!


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Slarty O'Brian 5 years ago from Canada

Hey. It's always all about me. And if it's all about me, it's all about you. ;)


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Goyakla 5 years ago from United Kingdom Author

There is no separation!


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Slarty O'Brian 5 years ago from Canada

Well yes and no. ;) But we can talk about that later. Perhaps since this is a hub for clients you should remove all my comments. I really shouldn't have made them on these pages. Sorry about that.


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Goyakla 5 years ago from United Kingdom Author

What seems to be the problem? I don't understand why you want me to erase your comments. I don't see anything worng with anything you said. Do you?


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Slarty O'Brian 5 years ago from Canada

Nothing wrong with my comments but perhaps inappropriate if this is a page you send clients to. I'm saying I wouldn't be offended. If I had thought about it I would have made the same comments in another venue. But if you're good with it, I'm good with it. ;)


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Minnetonka Twin 4 years ago from Minnesota

This series was so captivating that I read them all in one sitting. Thanks again for sharing your journey. It was so helpful and educational because it was written in the present tense. That made it not only powerful but insightful. I have to say it again: You are the real deal when it comes to a genuine therapist with the client's best interest in mind.


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Goyakla 4 years ago from United Kingdom Author

What a lovely thing to say. I am very flattered by your comment and I am also very happy that a professional as yourself in the caring profession would find what I have written helpful and educational.

I deliberately used the present tense as you so well spotted as it is only in the present that we have the power to release from the past. Thank you for your reading the series and I truly appreciate the time you have taken to do so and to leave such thoughtful and insightful comments. Now it's your turn!


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Minnetonka Twin 4 years ago from Minnesota

Yikes, I think it is my turn. I do feel ready to purge more. This would just be a different style of purging for me as I have written many hubs that do that. LOL I think writing in the present tense will help me remember more and help heal it. If it would be ok with you, can I send you a copy on your hubpages email of my first chapter just to see what you think? it would mean the world to me. I struggle with how much to purge!


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Minnetonka Twin 4 years ago from Minnesota

I just re-read some of what you wrote at the end of this series and do realize you do write in present tense and see if your overwhelmed with feelings when writing it. I can tell you right now that I will feel many many emotions when I write my story. I've been in therapy a few times yet I feel I have a long way to go...and that's ok. I am so glad I met you here as you don't know how healing it's been for me. I know you were put in my path for a very important reason. I have much to learn in my journey here and your series really showed me that. Thanks so much :-)


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Goyakla 4 years ago from United Kingdom Author

I wish you the very best Minnetonka Twin and thank you for taking the time to read my series. Here is my gift to you.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ACGVffblaas&list=UU...

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