Self Realization is the Solution to Family Cohesion.

Self Realization is the Solution to Family Cohesion

Families consist of people with same genes or living under same roof. It is ideal and wishes of every member to live in cohesion and happiness. They should be a source of support and encouragement. This does not mean all will be well all the time. Conflicts are a part of family life. A minor issue or an incident can become cause for misunderstanding hence strain in relationship. We notice in our own or other neighboring families cohesiveness and harmony missing. We then wonder why and how family congenial environments changed. We look for reasoning and solutions and seek for advises. There are of course institutions, psychiatrists, books and individuals whom we approach for bringing back family cohesion and happiness.

Often in corporate world, also a big family, aim is to achieve win-win situation in any deals to maintain cohesiveness and harmony. They will be creating cause and effect diagram for each of their actions and bring about idealized situation to achieve result. It is also known in corporate world individuals are asked to do self evaluation visa-vies his colleagues and peers. This is to bring in self realization in him to adjust his behavioral pattern to homogenize with surroundings and corporate policies. Success of organizations' goals is linked to employees that are its family members. Therefore top priority in corporate world is cohesiveness and harmony amongst family members.

A family is a conglomerate of people with own perceptions of him or her. Husband, wife and children behavioral pattern is influenced by the perceptions they carry about themselves. This will result in qualifying other person using adjectives like egoistic, selfish, jealous, envious, dull, and good and so on. This is to say I am ok you are not ok. We get into arguments and create tensions. Each one of us in our loneliness realize the situation could have been different had we behaved or moved differently. Often such realizations can be consciously put to practice by individual members. These self realizations are more effective solutions for family cohesiveness and happiness.

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vijaylakshmi 8 years ago

dear arun,

it is a vey good article. in time where there are more nuclear families ,competition ,family values is missing. you have nicely brought about the need to understand our actions an realise the importance of understanding other peoples point of u as well.



Illusion of family relations 6 years ago

Illusion of family relations

All the fights between the human beings in the name of family-outsider, caste, sex, nationality, religion, language etc., are only due to the illusion of Maya that is prevailing over the soul. Arjuna killed several kings in the battles previously when his brother performed Rajasuya sacrifice. But in the karukshetra war, Arjuna could not kill the opponents since they were his relatives. You are taking bribe from an outsider for the sake of over enjoyment of your family and you are going to hell for that. Your sin is not shared by your family members who enjoyed the extra wealth. On this point Valmaki, robber was transformed in to sage.

Boys are dejected and some times commit suicide since the unreal love and the unreal beauty of a girl is not attained. This is the climax of the illusion (Maya)! With reference to Maha Maya, this Maya (beauty and love) are unreal.

If you cannot come out of the illusion in the lowest level, how can you cross the other levels of illusion like Maha Maya and Mula Maya to attain God? Arjuna was also overcome by this basic illusion and treated the unreal relatives as the real kith and kin. He was unable to identify the Lord acting as his driver as his real kith and kin. He was worried about the incidental death of those unreal kit and kin. Therefore, the Lord laughed at the very outset (Prahasanniva….Gita) because even the lowest Maya was not conquered by him. With the help of analysis of Maya, all the devotees in this universe should be united as one family irrespective of religion, caste etc.

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