Sex, Drugs and Rock & Roll Mania. Bipolar Women and Hypersexuality.

Are you sure she's just promiscuous?

Having had my sexual escapades in numerous ways while being maniacal or hypo maniacal, I never linked my need for such adventures to Bipolar Disorder in the beginning. It is proven without a doubt that many Bipolar women, mention a state of hypersexuality while being hypo maniacal or maniacal.

Much more women than men, mention this hypersexuality as an extra symptom of their episode. Since there is so little information about Bipolar Disorder and the relation between hypersexuality and addiction to sex, my Hub will be entirely about this topic. Clearly one that isn't mentioned here at all on Hubpages.

Probably because it's no fun to write and relive your own sexual escapades when you weren't thinking straight at all. Let alone share your most intimate details related to those sexual adventures. After all, most women who have gone through similar sexual escapades, know about the price there is to pay and the shame that lays ahead, years after the actual events.

That's why I urge readers to pay close attention to my Hub, because you might have a friend, obviously addicted to sex, always being called promiscuous, behaving this way because the person might be suffering from an important symptom of Bipolar hypo mania. Someone not yet being diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder, not receiving proper treatment and risking his or her own life in a very serious way.

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When the appetite is gone

But first we have to look at an important difference between Depression and Hypo Mania or Mania. Having lived both sides of the illness in its most profound ways, I know from experience that one of my relationships suffered from the lack of sex. During one of my longest depressions, I lost complete interest and appetite for any kind of sexual activity. Meaning I had sex with my partner once every year! This went on for over three years and the few times I did have sex, I just closed my eyes and waited for it to be over as soon as possible.

By sexual activity I also mean masturbation. While being deeply depressed, most people lose interest in themselves and their surroundings. Apart from not showering, changing clothes, brushing your teeth or taking care of yourself, a depressed person can lose complete interest in a pleasant and relaxing sexual activity, such as masturbation. Harmless, good for your health and a wonderful way to get to know your body better.

Since I gained 30 kilos at the time, my self-image took a drastic turn, my partner asked me at some point if I was pregnant and my self esteem was crushed to the bone. No more pleasure for me, I thought. "I'm fat, I'm ugly and it's too much trouble anyway." The few times I did try to pleasure myself, I lost my breath and couldn't keep up with the movement my hand had to make. It was simply too exhausting and I just longed for food, sleep and food.

Depression of course comes with a lot more symptoms than just the ones I mentioned above, but I'm not here to explain depression and how to cope with it. It's a simple example of how Bipolar Disorder can make a person, experience no sexual feelings at all. Next to losing appetite for sex in general, hypersexuality can be another extreme signal of Bipolar Disorder. This can occur when the person is in a state of Hypo Mania or Mania.

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How does a woman lose herself without knowing?

When I think back of my first hypo maniacal episode, one specific feeling I will never forget. It seemed as if everyone was interested in me all of sudden! I felt important, gifted, elegant, beautiful and extremely happy for being so attractive.

The energy I transmitted when entering a room, was overly strong and intense, as if a wave of sexual curiosity filled up an entire dance club. That specific wave of dangerous sexual curiosity, brought me into a higher state of mind, taking me to the next level of the maniacal powers of Bipolar Disorder.

When someone turns hypo maniacal, at first nothing seems really different than normal. The fact that you start wearing more make-up than usual, polish your nails with bright shiny colors and you're walking out the door with extremely short mini skirts, probably makes you think you're just having a really good day. You didn't notice at all that this change in appearance has been going on for quite some weeks now.

Boys, men, grandpa's and even women, turn their heads and lift up their eyebrows. Men gaze at you, having this horny look in their eyes, while women gaze at you in disgust, having that bitchy look in their eyes, making you think they're jealous as hell. You don't realize at all that your bright red string shows when you bend over to pick up your keys from the ground, since your self perspective already is polluted by something called hypo mania.

The point of no return

In fact, when you do realize your red string shows, you bend over again! You think of yourself as Sharon Stone in Basic Instinct, showing what you got down there, while nipping from your Red Bull. You remember how jealous you were of women, having this amazing charisma, always being surrounded by good looking guys. You think of yourself as Penelope Cruz, Jennifer Lopez and Beyoncé.

You suddenly feel inspired by their fashion, you buy too much expensive magazines like Vogue or Elle, and you start to consider a real career as one of those top models you've seen in the pictures. Every new compliment you get from horny men passing by, makes you believe more and more you're life is about to change finally. From the meaningless young woman you were into a well paid fashion model, concurring the world with your looks and brains.

The remarks of your dad and the comments your friends make, are the only annoying comments you hear. You get angry with your dad for calling you a whore, you shout at your best friend for making you feel lousy and you avoid your mum's eyes, for the lack of enthusiasm she has for your new career. Why is everyone making it so hard on you? You're just having some fun. People you don't know, can see that for sure. Why can't they? Your hypo maniacal state of mind takes over day by day, until you've reached the point of no return.

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Penelope Cruz and Santa Claus

Just to make you understand how difficult it is to recognize, you are indeed suffering from hypo maniacal symptoms, I will tell you a little bit about my standard, well thinking self. Normally spoken I like fashion, I wear nail polish once in a while, I like wearing make-up and I am a fan of Penelope Cruz and other strong and powerful women.

My wardrobe is a mixture of sexy, elegant summer dresses, miniskirts, lingerie and other clothing. I drink Red Bull once in a while and I am a flirtatious Latina woman with a great appetite for sex in general.

I talk about sex with friends as if talking about a sandwich I just ate, I am an open minded person and I feel no shame whatsoever$6, for sharing details about my sexual life with close friends or just a stranger sitting at the bar. My single life has been a life of numerous sexual adventures, for the simple fact that I am not the type of woman to do without sex more than a few months.

I'm no saint

I made sure I had one or two friends with benefits to keep my sex life limited to just two different men and I normally used condoms. I'm no saint, so telling you that I always used condoms, is the same thing as telling you I still believe in Santa Claus. Therefore I tested myself twice a year for anything I could have caught along the way and to my own surprise, I've never caught any sexually transmitted disease, not even when I was completely out of my mind!

So add this information to the rest and to really understand what's happening, when someone turns hypo maniacal, can be as difficult to grasp as learning a foreign language. Therefore you need to know all about yourself, your warning signals and the consequences of turning maniacal, to prevent that state of mind and the possibility of killing yourself along the way.

When your sex drive becomes lethal

Possible Symptoms of Manic Hypersexuality:

  1. Not feeling in control over when and with whom to have sex with.
  2. Losing constant amounts of fluid from your vagina during day and night.
  3. Thinking obsessively about sex every minute of the day.
  4. Feeling horny for no particular reason.
  5. Going out clubbing every single day of the week to hunt.
  6. Feeling overwhelmed by the urge of needing sex.
  7. Wearing almost nothing at all, every day to any kind of location.
  8. Masturbating several times a day without the control to stop.
  9. Watching a significant amount of porn movies all of a sudden.
  10. When having sex, safe sex is hardly an option.

Possible Consequences of Manic Hypersexuality:

  1. Very sensitive to new and risky sex games.
  2. Very sensitive to men offering money for sex.
  3. Very sensitive to men offering jobs in the sex industry.
  4. Very sensitive to combining drugs and alcohol with (violent) sex.
  5. Very sensitive to joining in on sex parties.
  6. Having sex with both men and women.
  7. Not being aware of any of the consequences your actions might have.
  8. No more sensitivity to the concept of right and wrong.
  9. Not being aware of possible sexual abuse.
  10. Losing complete track of time and place.
  11. Risking possible death due to sexually transmitted diseases.
  12. Risking to die of murder for being in dangerous environments.

Possible long term Consequences:

  1. Cheating on your partner.
  2. Losing your partner.
  3. Losing your family.
  4. Ending up in the sex industry without finding your way back.
  5. Needing years of therapy to cope with the guilt and shame later on.
  6. Finding it difficult to trust yourself again.
  7. Finding it difficult to trust others again.

How to treat Manic Hypersexuality?

First of all....If you suffer from Manic Hypersexuality, you probably suffer as well from Bipolar Disorder. If you've been diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder, the first step has been made. The second step has to do with finding a specialist on Bipolar Disorder. With that specialist and a psychiatrist, you have to talk about good medication for Bipolar Disorder. Preferably medication that doesn't make you gain a lot of weight and has side effects, you can manage in a satisfying way.

Finding the right medication can take a lot of time before you're really satisfied and you have to use your own strong opinion about different kind of medication, when a psychiatrist is reluctant to change your meds. Lithium is the first option for a lot of psychiatrists, but it is definitely not the best option!

Meanwhile there is another long road to follow. Set up a crisis care plan with your specialist. Treating Manic Hypersexuality means treating Bipolar Disorder in every aspect of it. Getting Hypo Maniacal not just happens to someone. It will though if that person is not aware of his warning signals.

Detect strange changes in your behavior

In your crisis care plan you have to find out all about circumstances, triggers, development and consequences of your Maniacal, Psychotic and Depressive state of mind. Only then you will be able to set up a list of actions, to undertake as soon as you detect strange changes in your behavior.

Not only will you learn about every small and important warning signal there is, your family and friends have the opportunity to help you out as well. They can be part of this plan and point out certain changes as they will see those changes sooner than you will yourself. Bipolar Disorder has its way of sneaking up on you, getting you into trouble without realizing you're following a certain pattern again.

As you might understand, all of this can take years of preparation, research and therapy. This makes it very understandable why people suffering from Bipolar Disorder, first learn about the destructive side of this illness. Some lose their marriage, others lose touch with their complete family and I almost ended up behind a window in the red light district of Amsterdam.

When you lose control you lose more

When I joined a support group in Holland for people with Bipolar Disorder, I met the first woman telling me about Manic Hypersexuality. A normal day of the week. Her husband had gone of to work and she expected a guy to come and clean the windows. Her uncontrollable need for sex, made her flirt with that guy by wearing a sexy dress and high heels.

As he was cleaning the windows of the living room, he flirted back while she was inside. She started to dance on the table, trying to make him horny but the guy stayed at his side of the window. While telling me all this, she told me how hard it was to realize afterwards, she made a terrible mistake but she didn't know how to control herself anymore. At the time it seemed a naughty game.

"Only one thing would make this guy come in", she said. "I took of my dress, I took of my string and showed myself from top to bottom, while laying on the couch, waiting for him to enter the living room, to free me from this smothering need for sex."

She confessed later to her husband, since she couldn't bare living with a lie and lost her marriage over it. I was shocked by her story but I recognized that uncontrollable need for sex in every maniacal episode I've had. I also found out about the guilt and the shame you carry on for years, since it's hard to accept you weren't actually your well thinking self.

It's no understatement, that I could have died on many occasions, while being maniacal but mostly while I was suffering from Manic Hypersexuality.

Completely free from any judgement in life and totally embracing the wonders of sex and love.
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When you learn to enjoy

Even though I've made very clear that you should not think too easy about this topic, I have to also keep reminding you readers of the importance of sex as a wonderful part of life. Don´t let Bipolar Disorder take that away from you.

Whatever opinion people might have about your way of life, dealing with Bipolar Disorder or coping with the consequences of Manic Hypersexuality, doesn't mean you can't explore life by having innocent sexual adventures. It is still something completely natural and normal to want if you are living your life as a single person.

Women in general will be facing tougher judgment than men for choosing such kind of liberate and adventurous roads, for humanity will be running around in these forever circles when it comes to prejudices towards sex and women. Just like we never get rid of the harsh opinions about mental illnesses or people with different skin colors

The trick is to learn, enjoy and explore your world the best way possible. For being a Latina woman, I'll always strive to find a relationship with someone who's a lover of passionate nights like me. This will always make the difference between friendship and love, making it possible to bond over the joy and wonders of satisfying pleasure.

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sassyk73 5 years ago from Milwaukee, WI

Great hub...I am bipolar. I admit to having a higher than normal sex drive. I didn't understand what was going on with me. It turns out that I was having full blown episodes. This happened to me when I was younger.


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Escobana 5 years ago from Valencia Author

I'm happy in a way, you've found out later what was going on for real. We are gifted in a way for being Bipolar and sensitive to more things than normally. It can enhance your life if you know how to deal with it and stay on track:-)

Thanks for reading and commenting here. I know commenting on this topic is not that easy:-)


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catsimmons 5 years ago from Mission BC Canada

This is awesome. Thanks for explaining something which is not often discussed. I'm have Bipolar I and although I wasn't diagnosed until my early thirties, when I had a psychotic episode, this certainly explains some parts of my past behaviour that have been at odds with my general character. Now I have a partner with similar issues to me who can understand and accept me and my behaviour and I feel much better about myself.

I also have a medication, designed for emotional reactivity which helps too.

Thanks again..it's a great hub voted up:-)


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Escobana 5 years ago from Valencia Author

You're so very welcome! I was hoping for response like this. The fact that my Hub helped you out in explaining past behaviour, makes my day:-)

Having a partner who understands and accepts you, medication works and you feel much better about yourself, makes me think you kicked Bipolar's ass very well!

Well done and thanks for reading and voting!


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epigramman 5 years ago

....great title - one of the best ever at the hub - but with all due respect, not to take away from the seriousness of this subject - I am a student here and you are my teacher - I am learning about all of this - and you write with such incredible candor and honesty - thank you for sharing your experiences and shedding some light on this subject that most people have no idea about - thank you for your courage, bravery and honesty - this is an essential hub in communicating - and isn't that what hubpages is all about - making the world a smaller place .....

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Escobana 5 years ago from Valencia Author

Dear Epigramman,

Hubpages is indeed about making the world a smaller place. Thanks so much for finding my Hub one of the best ever here. Really means a lot to me! Courage is something beautiful in life.

It makes you overcome your biggest fears and shame. I wish for you to feel as brave as I do, as it enriched my life a lot.

Valencia, 8.55 am Spain:-)


Debbie, 23.42pm South Africa 5 years ago

I think one of the things you do when you are in a depressive state is reasearch on to net to try and find answers to the questions you have search for many times and never found the answer to (or I do anyway) This is the first every time i have found sexuality on the subject and it explains alot. Although I was only diagnosised 3 years ago and I'm 43 now I can see right back into my school years and identify with this completely. The risks I have taken over the years are now exolainded and I no longer feel that this is an "additional" side to my illness. You have giving me a nedd way of coping with a side of me that i thought was an added complication and not part of my illness. Thank you so much for your braver and sharing this with us. Have to say this is the first time if had the courage to reply to anything on line but I fell it imperative you realize the importance of what you have said. You will definitely be bookmarked for future reference!


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Escobana 5 years ago from Valencia Author

Dear Debbie,

I applaud you for your courage to reply online to a subject so delicate as this one. It really makes me happy, knowing you've found so much recognition in my Hub!

It must be hard, not understanding that specific part of being Bipolar, since it's even more difficult to respond to it in order to prevend, taking wrong decisions.

You won't find much on this subject, simply because a lot of psychologists, don't want to talk about it themselves. They find they're not trained enough to give the right therapy and a lot of them are ashamed to touch this subject.

Thanks so muh for bookmarking my Hub and for the sincere compliments you gave me! Hope you'll find the courage to reply to other Hubs about Bipolar Disorder, since I think it can help you find your way, in the maze of this complex illness.


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carolinemd21 4 years ago from Close to Heaven

I really think all of your hubs are very interesting. I am glad I found you. This was very informative and you are a really good writer. Thank you for sharing with us.


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Escobana 4 years ago from Valencia Author

Dear Caroline...

Thanks so much for all of your compliments! It's good to know you like all of my Hubs. The more I write the harder it gets to make them all as interesting as possible.

Glad I've found you too!


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Jlbowden 4 years ago from Long Island, New York

Hello Escobana:

I came across your artice about Bipolar disorder and found it not only informative but interesting as well. I have a friend who suffers from Bipolar disorder and takes depakote to help stablize his moods. I was never diagnosed with this disorder, but now am wondering if I am somewhat hypomaniacal as well. Because after reading your well written article, I hate to admit this, but it has in turn made me horny lol. Never the less, I really enjoyed a great read, which I also voted up.

Jl


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Escobana 4 years ago from Valencia Author

Hey there JlBowden,

LOL...like your comment! I'm sure you're just a very healthy guy and not at all hypomaniacal. I guess I just write about such a topic without trying to find 'decent ways of saying what's there'.

Maybe it helped you visualize my Hub some more but I take that as a compliment LOL. Thanks for the voting and your refreshing comment!


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jainismus 4 years ago from Pune, India

No comments, but I am sharing it. Voted up.


reeltaulk 4 years ago

Esobana I am not mad at you.....informative as usual and not ashamed of your game....you always keep it 100%. Enjoy your weekend!


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Escobana 4 years ago from Valencia Author

Thanks Jainismus for not commenting LOL and your share! Means a lot to me just like the votes do:-)


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Escobana 4 years ago from Valencia Author

Hi there Reeltaulk:-)

Thanks for your wonderful comment! You give me the feeling you know very well how I write. The way I express myself and what I feel needs to be shared with others.

Sorry for replying so late...I'm on holiday in Libanon and I'm getting totally washed away by this beautiful country!

Have a beautiful day Reeltaulk!


Luis Miguel 4 years ago

im only 13 and have bipolar disease also.I really didt knew about bipolar mani and all that stuff....Now i realize when one of those bipolar manic strikes i really wanna stop...but my mind doesn't let me for some reason...I really dont want people thinking im "crazy"or something so is really annoying trying to think on what to do next time.Thanks for the passege!


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Escobana 4 years ago from Valencia Author

You're very welcome for the information! Crazy you're not although people like to call it that way. People who don't know what Bipolar Disorder is about.

Thanks for stopping by Luis. Hopefully my Hub helped you in some way...


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gagig 4 years ago

nice hub


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Escobana 4 years ago from Valencia Author

Thank you Gagig


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traslochimilano 4 years ago from USA

Nice hub dude.


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Escobana 4 years ago from Valencia Author

Thanks girl:-)


Layla 4 years ago

I am so glad i have found this. I have recently been diagnosed with bi-polar. I am in my early 30's and so much now makes sense to me. I am about to start new mood stabilising meds, after previously being treated for depression alone and being put on Prozac, which resulted in 12 months of escalating on and off manic behaviour. I am currently going through a manic phase. I feel so sexual, all of the time. Its driving me crazy. Nothing satisfies me, i am married, but met someone at the weekend and we kissed. It was such a rush, it felt fantastic!! I know its wrong,Ihave never done anything like this before!He has been texting me for 2 days, i can't stop replying, it feels amazing to be so wanted! I dont know if this feeling is because i am 'high' or its an incredible chemistry with this new man! I feel no guilt, this scares me! Your advice would be greatly appreciated. x


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Escobana 4 years ago from Valencia Author

Dear Layla

I have to agree with your own observation. You seem to suffer from a very powerful force due to being hypomaniacal or maniacal.

I would talk with your psychiatrist and find a way to get stable. The consequences can be huge if you don't act soon.

Talk with your partner if you can after this period to inform him about this effect of bipolar disorder. That way you can work together and avoid any risky situations.

Glad you found this article and thanks for stopping by!


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FrankieGoding 4 years ago

Thank you for this amazing hub! I haven't been diagnosed with Bipolar disorder, but after researching it, finding symptoms and behaviors, and also having to hear from my family that I'm a bitch. Or I'm too sensitive, etc. I strongly feel that I am bipolar. I came across this, and you have described things I couldn't find answers to. I never knew there were so many different 'sections' of being bipolar. I'm hoping to get diagnosed soon so that I can fix my marriage, and my relationships with family members. Thank you so much for posting this, it explained so much. Voted up and awesome :)


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ajayshah2005 4 years ago from Mid Asia

Great Hub Escobana ! Voted up and shared.


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Escobana 4 years ago from Valencia Author

Hi FrankieGoding,

If I described things you couldn´t find answers to, I am super happy you finally did! I should write more on this topic since many people still search for answers on a topic this delicate.

Getting diagnosed is the first step in the right direction. Getting misdiagnosed would be worse. Therefore make sure your psychiatrist is a specialist on Bipolar Disorder.

If there is something else that causes you to react the way you do, it should be diagnosed the right way. Thanks for reading my Hub and hope you´ll find more answers and the beginning of the right treatment.

Bless you!


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Escobana 4 years ago from Valencia Author

Thanks Ajayshah2005! Sharing is a great way to get more readers!


anon 4 years ago

Thank you, I was married to a woman who continuously flirted and exposed herself to other men. Her sister was diagnosed as being bipolar. She kept telling me I was too sensitive and nothing was wrong. as time went on it got worse. She didn't come home after work till late at night. She started spending weekends away, supposedly with her girl friends. I later found out that she was very sexually active with many other men. I feel like such an idiot now, but after you have been married to someone for three decades, someone who is normally very honest, you tend to be very trusting. We are seperated now and I am able to see how foolish I was. I've met someone who makes me happy. She went wild and acted like a twenty year old, out every night with different men. Not acting like a 58 year old grandmom. She seems to be very depressed now, after a couple of years. I'm happy now, but oddly feel sorry for her.


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Escobana 4 years ago from Valencia Author

Thank you Anon for leaving your comment....

It sounds to me like the typical story of a loving husband and a Bipolar wife. It´s practically impossible to live a normal, steady married life, if the other isn´t willing to face reality.

I somehow understand why she went wild. It´s the easiest way for a Bipolar woman to forget about all the shame, pain, sorrow and destruction, you left behind in your life and in those of you who loved you.

It´s not the way to salvation or stability but I know all about that way and it takes years and years of suffering, before you´ve had enough of it. Before you´ve had enough of yourself really.

I´m sorry to hear you lost your marriage over it and happy for you to have found your soulmate after all. 58 Years is quite an age. Hopefully she´ll find a reason to confront herself one day...

Be well Anon!


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MsDora 4 years ago from The Caribbean

Escobana, thanks for sharing these details from you research and from your personal life on the hypo maniacal situation. I have to re-read this and even look for more information. This is indeed a first lesson on the subject for me. There is so much I do not know and should know. Thanks, sister.


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Escobana 4 years ago from Valencia Author

Hi MsDora:-)

Great to see you stopping by here on a topic that is indeed new to many people out there. It would be great to see my Hub linked to yours as well, if only to reach out to all women facing similar struggles.

Bipolar Disorder is a major topic with the hypomaniacal episode as one of the three possible stages. It's a complex illness and it can destroy the lives of many who suffer from it or just standing by.

As a surviver of the illness, my main goal is to set an example and inspire those who still suffer from it. Hubpages is a great place to share my knowledge and leave some room for hope and inspiration.

I really appreciate you taking the time to read about this other side of promiscuous women. Blessings to you sister:-)


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blondey 3 years ago

I'm glad I don't have hypersexuality...lol...I may be hyper or excitable at times...but def not what you listed ;)

thanks for the hub..nice salt n peppa...I used to hear them in highschool. :)


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Escobana 3 years ago from Valencia Author

Hi Blondey,

I'm glad you don't experience any of the more serious symptoms, listed in my Hub. Salt n Peppa is awesome! I have fond memories of their music:-)


Elodie 3 years ago

I'm a 22yr old woman who is bipolar (early teenage onset) and almost perpetually hypersexual due to mixed state. What simple measures would you say I could put into place to help me with it? The rest of my bp symptoms far eclipse this so more medication would be silly as I manage reasonably well. Although since I became sexually active in recent years I realised I do not have a regular 'balanced' approach to sex and also a sex drive that emasculates men. I want to curb some of this obsessive behavior and thinking but I'm afraid if I try to get rid of it in addressing it psychologically sex will lose all its appeal...and what a bipolar thought, despite the ensuing social/emotional damage, in that moment I can escape from everything all my past bipolar trauma, whether I'm depressed or manic. Having a real relationship seems impossible, as the first date usually ends in sex, but then I can't concentrate or ultimately don't care about the guys personality anyway so. Writing it down my worries sound so petty and promiscuous, but the fact that I've had such confused emotional affection for most (all) of my sexual partners and that I seemed to almost beg a relationship from them just to have a constant source of sex. I'm ashamed of this particular problem, another bipolar yelp of 'how could anyone possibly understand?' but I think it is the most seductive problem of them all (more than mania, which I fervently hate now), and maybe if I finally managed the rest of my bipolar condition, the cycles really well (working on it) I would gain some relationship sense without losing my sensuality..why does it have to feel like a superpower?!!..or is this fanciful and I will still probably crave to feed a stand alone sexual addiction...I can't make up my mind. Would love to hear some wise thoughts?


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Escobana 3 years ago from Valencia Author

Dear Elodie,

Writing down your worries is what it all begins with. If your crave for sex feels like a superpower, I'd say your still somehow hypomaniacal.

Even though you are ok with your medication, I'd look out for better alternatives or increase your medication. The super power feeling is something I recognize very well but I don't suffer from it anymore since I am on the right dose of Seroquel and Carbamazapine.

I agree this side of the Bipolar condition is far more complicated and I understand the shame but I think it's possible to manage this as well as the moodswings.

I went to have therapy with a sexologist to understand my behavior in the first place. She knew about Bipolar Disorder and this side of it. Very important to find someone who knows about both of your problems.

A normal relationship is difficult to be honest. My relationship with enjoying sex, being Bipolar and being Latina (who experience sex as part of the day like food and water) makes it fairly difficult for me to stay with someone for a longer time than two years.

I mainly give up after two months because....the sex is average. It's plain, it's boring, it's dull. I need to be with someone who keeps seducing me, who likes to play and who keeps surprising me once in while with a sextoy for instance.

My last partner was great in bed! The relationship failed anyway due to long distance factors and him being too young and immature. However it proved to me I loved him in many ways and I loved his appetite for sex. He was Latino, Brazilian!

Your need for sex will stay but you can learn to control it and you will enjoy the wonders of not having to be so ashamed for your actions. Having a higher appetite for sex than other women isn't a problem really.

What IS a problem is that you get less selective. I learned how to be selective and I learned how to have safe sex. In this overwhelming power of wanting sex, safe sex is hardly an option but you HAVE to!

That's why I say....the overwhelming part of your sexdrive, indicates to me you're not stable enough yet. Hypomaniacal behavior can continue on and on if the medication is a little below the right dose.

I'm stable for over ten years now and I did suffer from my hypersexuality once in a while but never to the extend I was suffering from it before. It can be lethal just like I wrote and this simple fact, helps me in darker days to control my behavior when I see it's getting out of hand.

Hope to have helped you out. Ask me anything if there are any more questions. Sorry for responding a little late!


Raksta13 3 months ago

Hello everyone. Firstly I must apologise as I realise this original post has been up some years now at the time of my writting.

About me, Im a man, Im 42 and Ive had a secret Ive harboured for many many years. I have always had a high sex drive.

Let me take you back 10 years, back when I was 32 and having dinner at my brothers house. We were joined by his friend a male school teacher who, after dinner began asking me about my greatest achievement thus far...

Long story short, my reply led to my being diagnosed as dyslexic.

I always had an issue with numbers and mathmatics which he discribed as discalclia...

Lastly he intergected that some dyslexic people are kinetic learners, ending this anicdote by telling me most kinetic learners have a higher than average I.Q but also kinetic learners with high I.Q's tend to drift through life not nailing down a career as they master certain things and get bored easily.

Sorry, please bare with me here Im getting to the point im about to make lol I just feel I need to lay the foundation to my story.

Armed with this information I began to take online I.Q tests...

142, 139, 141 etc

Back to the present day... Last week I started to look at my life. Why have I not nailed down a long career in I.T my chosen field? Am I a classic case of a gifted kinetic learner?

I then analised deeper. Why do I have a very limited circle of friends. Why have I cut people out of my life at the drop of a hat? How come I have isolated myself for periods of time?

Deeper still, into the rabbit hole... Why is it when I do manage to get out and socialise I am the life and soul of the party?

Something was wrong, patterns emerged that told of a deeper darker issue.

Now back to my closest secret. This high sex drive. The sex drive that has caused alot of past relationships with gorgeous women to fail. The sex drive that would allow me to have penitrative sex for hours at a time, allow me to climax and cum and still continue. Even after my partners had reached fulfilment Id mastubate lying next to them. Not realising my actions left the ladies in my life feeling inadequate and unable to satisfy my desires.

When no girlfriend was 8n my life the masturbation sessions got longer and longer. I started to use my webcam and allow women strangers to watch me climax over and over. Then I staryed teavelling further n further to meet random ladies for wild casual sex. There was a thirst I couldnt quench no matter how much I tried. That was my secret. I had a superpower and I was more than happy to share these feats of strength with any female of legal age. The rush i would experience when my partners would confess that they have never ever seen someone perform like that before. The stamina the imagination the multiple male orgasms...

Two weeks ago I started to reflect on the bigger picture. Surely this lack of work, small social network was not just down to kinetic learner with a high I.Q "drifting" as per the revelation revealed to me over dinner 10 years ago.

Then I started to read online about high sex drives.. Not something a dyslexic person tends to do alot.

Then I started to read about the term sex addict. Surely I couldnt be a sex addict, sometimes I can go weeks without touching myself.

Then I read about the term hypersexuality, increasingly seeing it linked to bipolar.

Now two weeks on from my initial investigation I find myself here. Reading about the times you skipped showers, skipped brushing your teeth. Wearing the same clothes day to day. And its now I look at my life as a whole and I realise im bipolar. I am bipolar and I suffer mild lows but very high manic periods when I become hypersexual and have long nasty unprotected sexual encounters with females I wouldnt normally date.

So here we are... a light has been cast on my whole life. Now I understand who and what I am. Now thay I know who and what I am I can now start to use my I.Q to better effect and work this thing out. Tame it, control it and learn to be a better me.

Regular hard excersise, a change of diet and reading are my tools to start this new journey.

Knowing who and what I am finally means I can now put my life on track and be the person I want to be.

Thank you for helping me find myself.


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Escobana 3 months ago from Valencia Author

Hi Raksta13,

First of all you're very welcome to comment to my Hub. I've been away for quite a while but noticed your comment. If I helped you finding yourself I'm happy I did by writing about this topic.

But before you jump to conclusions in diagnosing yourself with Bipolar Disorder based on my Hub, I'd definitely recommend to see someone.

"If you've been diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder BY A SPECIALIST, the first step has been made. The second step has to do with finding a specialist on Bipolar Disorder. With that specialist and a psychiatrist, you have to talk about good medication for Bipolar Disorder."

"Regular hard exercise, a change of diet and reading" will not at all treat the serious illness that Bipolar Disorder is. It will be good though and an important part of your day but there's serious medication needed and serious treatment for an illness that can be so destructive.

You might want to read my Hub "Bipolar Life and the Positive Effects of Self Knowledge." This will make you understand what I did to become the stable person I am today.

I wish you all the best with turning into the person you really want to be and the best advice I can give is....be patient and kind with yourself:)


Sad puppy 5 weeks ago

Hello Escobana,

Thank you for sharing your story. It gives me strength that there are people who have experienced difficult times and come out the other side happy. I don't think I suffer from the condition you've described, but I have been diagnosed with obsessive-compulsive disorder and depression. Manic depression is in the family on my father's side. I became promiscuous a few years ago when I was 28. I'll be 33 next week. I'm not sexually active anymore. I discussed my escapades openly with some friends at work, and have contracted three STDs, luckily none of them serious and treated very soon (I am also hypochondriac). I have destroyed any chance of a 'respectable' life in my hometown, but mostly I feel bad for my family, that I've brought this shame on them. They are very supportive of me considering the mess I've made of my life. There are times I think of ending it. My story gets worse. I ended up with a very controlling and abusive man and was a victim of revenge-porn (so far I have not found any photos resurfacing online since I took the originals down). He is no longer in my life. It sounds pathetic, but I recently lost my dog. He died of an illness. He kept me going. He was such a gentle and beautiful creature. I feel very alone. I plan to move to another continent next year. I look forward to a fresh start, but I don't want to hide my past. I don't want to broadcast it either. I want to be accepted and respected for who I am. I'm a good person. I haven't hurt anyone apart from my family and myself.

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