Ten Kind Deeds You Can Do Today

The friend on the phone was reminding me about at conference we attended the previous week. "I made a joke and it fell flat," he said. "Fifteen seconds later, you broke the silence with your laughter, and other people joined in. You have no idea how relieved I was when you laughed.”

Sharing laughter is simple, but valuable.  - Photo by
Sharing laughter is simple, but valuable. - Photo by | Source

In that man's mind, breaking the silence with my laughter merited an expression of thanks. In my mind, it registered deeply how simple things—sometimes unintentional, sometimes effortless on the part of the doer can prove valuable to someone else. I had been kind without even noticing.

His thanks may have been one of the simple things he took for granted, but his expression of gratitude has impressed me for three decades. It is the inspiration for this article about simple, kind deeds which make lasting impressions. There are opportunities to perform one or more in any given day. The more intentional you become, the more obvious the opportunities.

This list of ten is by no means exhaustive of the many kind deeds which you can do today. Please feel free to add to the list.


(1) Welcome to a Stranger

It may be at church, at a civic group, or at some gathering in a private home. The newcomer is looking for connection, and that first handshake with a word of welcome will go a long way in making him or her feel accepted. It could be the deciding factor in whether or not the stranger joins the group.

(2) Applause for a Friend

Reward is sweeter when a friend joins in the celebration. Give a spontaneous applause when your friend breaks the news of a mission accomplished. Recognizing an achievement means that you care, and it adds to your friend’s sense of self-worth.

(3) Motivation for a Child

Be the voice in her head saying, “Never give up.”  Photo by Linda Bartlett
Be the voice in her head saying, “Never give up.” Photo by Linda Bartlett | Source

There are many people who remember some encouraging word an adult said to them in their childhood. You do not have to know a child to advise him or her on the benefits of hard work in school; or on maintaining a positive attitude. Be the voice in a child's head saying, “Never give up.”


(4) Compliments for Young Adults

Despite the many misunderstandings between generations, there are times when your teens and young adults (or their friends) perform admirably—making important decisions, undertaking huge responsibilities, supporting worthy causes. A compliment from a trusted, older person will affirm their actions immediately, and influence their sense of direction for a long time.

~~~ Maids Have Feelings Too ~~~

(5) Interest in People Ranked Below You

People whose jobs rank below yours, have basic needs—for recognition, for attention, for security and other needs similar to yours. The Aibileen Clark character (Viola Davis) in the movie, The Help complained "No one had ever asked me what it feel like to be me."

Show personal interest (within appropriate bounds) in your secretary, your trainee, your housemaid. Make general inquiries about the children and whatever situation they bring to your attention. Your interest can brighten their day and secure their loyalty.

(6) Appreciation for Service Personnel

From an army officer to a janitor, everyone who serves appreciates recognition for services rendered. Usually, you know them by their uniforms and you meet them on the street or at their places of business. Include the postman, the bus driver, the crossing guard, for example. It takes a few seconds to let them know that you appreciate their contribution to the community.

(7) Comfort on the Anniversary of a Loss

Nothing says comfort like a smile and a fruit basket.  Photo by Matthew Hoelscher
Nothing says comfort like a smile and a fruit basket. Photo by Matthew Hoelscher | Source

The first anniversary after the loss of a friend or family member brings back the pain. Practice making a note of the date of the loss, and call the grieving person or family on the anniversary with a comforting word. This thoughtful act eases the pain considerably. Better yet, stop by with a thoughtful gift.


(8) Support for Leadership

Some leaders get bogged down with paperwork and protocol. They lose touch with their followers, leaving them uncertain of where to look for support. A reassuring voice can be a breath of fresh air, to wake them up to their responsibilities to the people, and cause renewal of their commitment. If the leadership position is spiritual, offer prayer support.

(9) Congratulations to a Competitor

Have you ever experienced the withdrawal of friends or team members who make steady strides up the progress ladder? To the winner, success brings a feeling of discomfort in the midst of fellow competitors. You can help maintain a friendly atmosphere by congratulating the winner and stating that the win is well-deserved. The continued association will likely bring mutual benefits up ahead.

(10) Forgiveness to an Offender

It may seem the most difficult on this list of simple things, but you will not lose anything tangible or be worth anything less after you have done it.

Let the offender know that you intend to move on from the hurt, and do not intend to hold any ill-will against him or her. Get emotional help, if necessary, to heal any recurring hurt. Forgiveness means lasting freedom and better emotional health to you. Although you are under no obligation to maintain the same kind of relationship you had with the offender, you also give permission for him or her to move on.

A smile, a nod, a pat on the back can be added to the list. These kind deeds are not worth any money, but they are valuable. They take a minimum amount of time, and they can have positive, lifetime influence.

© 2013 Dora Isaac Weithers

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word55 3 years ago from Chicago

Hi MsDora, This topic was a top notch thought and reminder. I suggest people can call up an ex-girlfriend or ex-boyfriend just to say, "Hello, I just called to see how you're doing? I didn't want anything." If you don't want to call then send a card, email or a text. After a break up we should've recovered after 6 months and be strong enough, huh?


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Jackie Lynnley 3 years ago from The Beautiful South

Very good. I recall coming to HP and being welcomed by Nell Rose, that always meant so much to me and she encouraged me to write and I had never written before. I have had several full years of writing now; a children's book and a poetry book that I really can thank her for; for her kindness in encouraging me. People really cannot know what their kind acts can mean to someone else.


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MsDora 3 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Word, thank you for your suggestion. I call that "Hello to an Ex." I appreciate your input.


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MsDora 3 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Jackie, thank you for sharing. I'm glad that you had a sweet welcome. I salute Nell Rose!


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billybuc 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

Dora, my whole life is about the simple things in it, the ones that many people overlook because they are too busy with life. Beautiful list; I don't feel the need to add to it; this is a wonderful roadmap to happiness.

bill


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sallybea 3 years ago from Norfolk

MsDora, I always look forward to your new Hubs and this one is no exception. I strive to always do all of the things above - except one which I have difficulty with but I am working on it.


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Ericdierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

Wow, MsDora. I started with a thumbs up here. Then I ended up hitting every category across the board.

Sure it was a great hub.

But that is not all the reason. As I read this I remembered a sweet lady that stuck out her hand to me here on hubpages. Lifted me up and inspired me to continue -- a stranger I suppose.

And I hope you know that lady was you. You live your words. I am blessed by you.

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MsDora 3 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Bill, thank you very much. These simple things that are so easily overlooked can really make life happier for many of us.


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MsDora 3 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Sally, you encourage me. Thank you so much. The one that's giving you trouble may prove to be a great blessing. Perhaps, you should pray about it and give it a try. All the best!


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MsDora 3 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Eric, you're a darling friend. Thank you for your kind words. So glad our paths crossed, and let's continue to encourage each other.


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mathira 3 years ago from chennai

MsDora, it is these small things that bring great happiness in life, but sadly most of us ignore it. Excellent hub and very meaningful too.


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MsDora 3 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Thank you, Mathi. As for me, I will start paying attention to do some of these simple things. Hope more people would, too.


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denise.w.anderson 3 years ago from Bismarck, North Dakota

A word of encouragement can go a long way to help someone have a better life. Simply saying, "I know you can do it," "You've got what it takes," or "Keep up the good work," give people a boost when they are working hard and don't know where or when the end will be.


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epbooks 3 years ago from Las Vegas, NV

What a fantastic hub, MsDora and so very true!!


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Marie Flint 3 years ago from Jacksonville, FL

Dora, I confess only skim-reading this article. I loved your bold headings--right on!

I saw the entire movie "The Help" and felt it depicted accurately the treatment and feelings of the maids in the South who had no alternative but to serve "white folk."

Praying for leaders is important for all kinds of leaders, and I keep reminding people of this when I read a bad comment about President Obama. People are quick to share criticism, but short on sharing prayers and vision.

I found it amusing that the phone caller had called the wrong number and imagined you saying, "Thank you, sir--I'm touched, but you've reached the wrong number!"


sheilamyers 3 years ago

Great hub! I think my suggestion ties in with encouraging others. No matter what age someone is they may be trying something new for the first time. It may take someone several attempts to get whatever it is done right and we shouldn't discourage them by saying negative things. We should remind them that just because they failed, they're not a failure.


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mylindaelliott 3 years ago from Louisiana

Those are very good reminders. I'm afraid I'm guilty of forgetting the little things. Thank you.


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Efficient Admin 3 years ago from Charlotte, NC

These are some great tips - what an awesome hub. I can especially relate to the very first one and it's so very true. Voted up and across.


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MsDora 3 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Denise, I appreciate your input. Encouragement will be on my next list. Thank you very much.


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MsDora 3 years ago from The Caribbean Author

EP, thank you for your affirming comment.


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MsDora 3 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Marie, thank you. I especially like your comment about praying for leaders. They are people too, and besides, praying for those in authority is a Christian duty.


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MsDora 3 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Sheila, thank you so much for your contribution. I'm sure that there is a way to add encouragement especially for the older people or those who have persevered for a long time. I'll work on it.


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MsDora 3 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Mylinda, thank you for your comment. These are reminders for me too. The struggles of life sometime push away the memory of simple things.


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MsDora 3 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Thank you, Efficient. I appreciate your kind comment.


lovedoctor926 3 years ago

These are very good principles. voted up useful.


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Frank Atanacio 3 years ago from Shelton

simple, but do-able.. I likw how you make these types of hubs easy to follow and understand although I voted nothing comes to mind something will bless you MsDora


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Mhatter99 3 years ago from San Francisco

True and valuable hub, so I shared


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DDE 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

Simple Things Which Are Valuable and Lasting a fantastic hub! The little things in life matters the most a call to say hello how are you doing are the most wonderful moments. You said it all here and I so agree with you. The heart is happy with the little precious moments.


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Angela Kane 3 years ago from Las Vegas, Nevada

I would like to add helping others that are older or that need assistance with little things such offering rides to the store or yard work.


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Mahir Maric 3 years ago from Bosnia and Herzegovina

some great tips


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MsDora 3 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Love Doc, thank you for your kind comments and your vote. I appreciate you.


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MsDora 3 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Frank, thank you for your continual blessings and kind comments. Blessings on you, too.


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MsDora 3 years ago from The Caribbean Author

MHatter, thank you for reading and sharing. Have a fun weekend!


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MsDora 3 years ago from The Caribbean Author

DDE, thank you for your input. You and I are on the same page concerning the importance of simple things.


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MsDora 3 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Angela, thank you for your contribution. Your suggestion is really an important addition. The old folk especially can benefit from our simple gestures.


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MsDora 3 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Mahir, welcome to HubPages and thank you for reading and commenting. See you around.


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Romeos Quill 3 years ago from Lincolnshire, England

A very solid and hopeful article MsDora - you're a very understanding woman and certainly feel richer for having soaked the common-sense simplicity which surely is the fulcrum in all walks of life, handsomely presented by a caring heart.

To reply to your question of extending your list.....how about,

" Can I Help? " Three magic words that open so many doors.

Thank you, and wishing you a wonderful weekend.

R.Q.


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FlourishAnyway 3 years ago from USA

This is a quality, inspirational list. If you are looking for additions, I will try... . 1) For a person who is struggling or who has made an embarrassing mistake, share a humbling story of lessons you learned, advice that someone gave you that proved true. 2) Learn to tell good, clean jokes. Humor brightens people's day like nothing else. A good enough joke told when someone really needed their spirits lifted will be recalled and retold. 3) Anonymously provide a "YEA YOU!" encouragement letter, card, or token gift like a candy bar. Tell them you're glad to know them, how you appreciate them, etc.


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Anil and Honey 3 years ago from Kerala

Nice and simple, you are a grate writer


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MsDora 3 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Romeos, thank you for your kind comment and your suggestion. "Can I Help" will be on my list.


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MsDora 3 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Flourish, thank you for taking the time to help me add to my list. Your very good suggestions will be included.


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MsDora 3 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Anil, nice meeting you on HubPages. Thank you for your kind comment.


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JPSO138 3 years ago from Cebu, Philippines, International

They are indeed very simple yet bery effective. Perhaps we can also call it the commandments for living well. Great hub!


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MsDora 3 years ago from The Caribbean Author

JPSO, thank you for your kind comment. Glad to meet you!


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swalia 11 months ago

Beautiful acts of kindness!


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MsDora 11 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Thanks Swalia. You just gave me the opportunity to remind myself of them.

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