Small things that hurt your feelings.

‘Nobody can hurt me without my permission.’-Mahatma Gandhi

There are times when even a small thing cause you pain and you feel depressed. It is surprising that it is the small and innocuous things that play havoc with your emotions. Thinking back it might seem silly, but at the time of happening it makes your life miserable.

Why do you allow yourself to be hurt? You love someone and when that person deliberately insults you, the hurt goes deep down you. You are hurt in all phases of your life and feel emotionally drained.

Hurt feelings in married life

Married life makes you depressed with hurt almost daily. It is very sad that you and your spouse do not make efforts to be happy, but find it easy to hurt each other with biting words and insulting reactions. When you buy surprise gifts for your spouse and she\he just glances at it and looks away, you feel incredible hurt.

When you are sick, you yearn for attention, but when your spouse takes it casually, you are very upset. You want the appreciation of your spouse more than anything else, don’t you? But appreciation is never forthcoming. Your husband does not appreciate your good looks but feels it easy to flatter his female colleagues and this hurts you.

Your wife always nags you and finds fault in all your doings and you are resentful that you are being over looked in the family. You feel a pang in the heart when your wife does not respect your family, but goes out of the way to be good to her family.

Your spouse does not apologize for the harsh words spoken and meanders about as if nothing happened and you seethe inside in deep hurt. When your spouse compares you with her\his colleague and passes hurting remarks that you lag behind them in performance and intelligence, you are completely upset.

Hurt feelings in work place

When your hard work is met with harsh criticism from your boss, you feel terribly upset. The transportation is delayed and you are late for work and your higher officials yell at you in the presence of your colleagues and you cringe inside in shame.

When you are off color your work suffers and you know it is not your lack of dedication for the poor show of work on that day. But the management thinks otherwise and you are told of your insufficiency without mincing of words and you are hurt at their selfish attitude.

You know that you make worthy contribution to your company, but when your worth is overlooked and the promotion goes to your less deserving colleague you are terribly disturbed.

Hurt feelings of children

Your parents think that earning money is the most important thing and do not spend quality time with you. You do not know how to convey to them that you need their love more than anything else. Your parents think that you are incapable of doing even ordinary things with perfection and treat you like a child without efficiency which upsets you very much. When you are not given freedom, you feel intolerably offended.

Hurt feelings of parents

You feel hurt when your children do not consult you regarding any major decisions they take. They spend too much of time with friends but find it boring to say a few words to you. They spend lavishly on gadgets, on his\her spouse, but do not give you a penny for your needs.

’The worst wounds, the deadliest of them, aren't the ones people see on the outside. They're the ones that make us bleed internally.” –Sherrilyn Kenyon

These are some of the small things that can hurt you really bad. There is nothing wrong if you feel momentary hurt as it will pass away without leaving a scar. But if these small things persist in hurting you, you might become mentally weak and shaken.


© 2011 mathira

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carolinemd21 4 years ago from Close to Heaven

Great hub Mathira. It is also good to communicate with the people who hurt you and tell them that they are hurting you so they will prevent it in the future.


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sankari.nayagam 4 years ago

Nice hub! The examples you have cited all seemed to be simple but felt the pain it would cause while reading it. Also was able to understand that I'm also creating some of the pains mentioned to others. Your hub made me think and it is time now for me to change and not hurt others. Thanks for the timely advice!


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mathira 4 years ago from chennai Author

Thank you carolinemd21 you are right when you say communication can solve lots of problems and that is something we are averse of doing.

Thank you sankari,we hurt people unknowingly and if we can just think before we do anything, lots of hurt feelings can be avoided.


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Beata Stasak 4 years ago from Western Australia

From little thins big things grow...good as well as bad...we need to stop our actions before it is too late:)...thanks for sharing:)


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writerspavilion 4 years ago from India

Nice hub..really these are small things but enough to hurt a soft heart....


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mathira 4 years ago from chennai Author

You are right when you say that it is the small things that assume enormous proportions to hurt us immensely.Thank you Beata Stasak.


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mathira 4 years ago from chennai Author

We ignore the small intricate things in life thinking it is not essential, but it is these small things that have great importance in life, writerspavilion and thank you.


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weestro 4 years ago from Virginia

Really good, it seems we say the most hurtful things to the ones we care about! Voted up


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mathira 4 years ago from chennai Author

Thank you weestro for your good comments.


Shari 11 months ago

You are 100% correct even the smallest of the negative comments or actions can cause a great deal of pain I know I've experienced it! Also even the smallest of positive comment or action can cause an awesome amount of happiness in someone else's life! After all we do not know what another human being might be going through at any given moment in time so I agree let's try to take care of each other be kinder to people and it will come back tenfold positive energy breeds positive energy as well as a negative breeds the negative. God bless

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