Social Life and Depression

The social lives of those living with depression are one based on isolation or having a small social network. There is a tendency to resent companionship from other people. People living with depression can be untrusting of other people, especially if it was hurt from a previous relation that caused the onset of depression in the first place. This will lead to missed opportunities to develop social skills and a network of friends. There are some social issues with depression that reinforces the illness.

Family Life

Most psychologists argue that most cases of depression stem from within the family network. It may be due to social conflicts or genetic inheritance. Family plays the role of the nurturing ground for each individual as they grow. It is during this stage of our live, we learn basic social patterns and expectations. We learn right from wrong and the moral principles of society. Children of parents living with depression are more likely to become depressed themselves. They will also develop a negative view of the world. The rate of divorce can be directly correlated with depression. If both or either party is depressed, it is very likely the marriage will end in a divorce. Divorce also leads each party into a path of depression. Hostile environments within the family unit are one of the main initial causes of depression.

Social Isolation (no network)

Not having a healthy network of friends is dangerous. Social isolation can be seen as a causative factor as well a determining factor of depression. Given that depression causes people to fear social interactions with other people because of perceived conflicts that may arise. Persons living with depression make a special effort to stay away from social arenas where someone may try to engage them in conversation. They fear that relationships developed may end in more pain and hurt. Fear of rejection is a main concern.

Poor Social Skills

Isolation results in social skills being underdeveloped. Given that one of the traits of those living with depression is being unable to deal with rejections; depressed individuals are heavily impacted by rejection. Non-depressed individuals handle rejection much better than depressed individuals. Social awkward situations may also arise because depressed individuals have poor social skills. They may respond incorrectly to normal social queues. For example, they may not know when to laugh at a joke or know when to show empathy. This leads to the depressed person being misinterpreted or misunderstood. Hence, poor social skills reinforce depression by causing rejection in social circles.


Having a negative outlook on life will always lead to negative results. If you think something will work, you will try everything in your power to make it work. If you think something will not work out, you will not give your best shot, because of the fear of failure. Pessimism is the number one reason why depressed individuals have problems forming relationships. Breaking out of depressions is about embracing rejections and taking on more social risks.

Lack of Self Worth

Living with depression is associated with low self-esteem. Thinking that you are not worth anything is negative. Having a low self-esteem is a powerful reinforcement factor of depression. For example, a musician gets depressed and no longer wants to play music. The musician is forced to play on the band in a depressed state. Performs poorly, which leads to criticisms. This leads to the musician feeling worse than before and eventually dropping out of the band. This is an analogy of what happens in social relationships. Depression is normally broken when the depressed individual takes on a positive attitude in life.


For More Articles about Living with Depression

· What Suicidal Risk Factors to Look for in Those Living With Depression:This is basically a guide in assisting those that are living with depression and may be thinking about suicide.

· How to Spot Teenage Depression: The life of teenagers is filled with a lot emotionally turmoil. This article explains how to spot teenagers living with depression and offer assistance.

· ·Foods that can cause Depressions: Discusses the negative impact that processed foods can have on someone living with depression.

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jasper420 5 years ago

Depreshion defiintly put a strain on my socail life thanks for this hub makes me feel like someone out there understands and for someone suffering from deppreshion that can be life changing!

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rasta1 5 years ago from Jamaica Author

Respect Jasper, I have been through it, so I know the ins and out of depression. I am very happy I could have shed some light on the issue.

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louiseelcross 5 years ago from UK

Depression seriously affected my life and social skills. I spent too much time alone and trusted no one. Life was less complicated if I stayed away from people, especially those who could not understand my depression and told me to pull myself together. I have written about my life and what I think caused my depression, child abuse, in 'Difficult beginnings'. Thanks for hub and highlighting the problem of depression.

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m0rd0r 5 years ago from Sofia, Bulgaria

I am sorry to say, that "I've been there and done that". All of it.

I am an IT and my social life in the first days of my career was quite poor.

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Madurai 5 years ago from Online

Yes, I am sure. Depression will cause only due to the failure from social relation only. So be careful from making your social relation. Thanks for sharing:)

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rasta1 5 years ago from Jamaica Author

Respect cross, thank you for appreciating and confirming what I have written. Blessings

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QualityContent 5 years ago

Good hub on depression.

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rasta1 5 years ago from Jamaica Author

Respect Mordor, I am also in to IT, It is one of those jobs where you do not have to interact with customers and you don't have to work in groups. I know what you mean.

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rasta1 5 years ago from Jamaica Author

Respect Madurai, the most important thing is trying to make positive social bonds and taking the risk of being rejected.

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rasta1 5 years ago from Jamaica Author

Respect Quality, thanks for the energy, you should check out my other hubs on depression.

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Brett.Tesol 5 years ago from Thailand

It is a sad fact that the depression can make it harder to make friends and the lack of friends can increase depression. It really takes a strong person to 'force themselves' to break free of this, but is not always possible, especially with biological causes.

Socially sharing, up and interesting.

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Millionaire Tips 5 years ago from USA

It certainly is a vicious cycle. Do you have any suggestions on how to get out of the cycle?

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rasta1 5 years ago from Jamaica Author

Respect Tesol, It is a viscous cycle, forcing themselves on other people may even lead to more odd social situations. Then again a risk has to be taken.

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rasta1 5 years ago from Jamaica Author

Respect Millionaire, getting out of the cycle requires taking risk and LEARNING from social mistakes so that they wont be repeated. After a couple of embarrassing situation, it will be more easy.

Breaking the cycle itself is risky, because it can lead to sociopath behavior. Learning how to make friends and entertain social groups can be learnt without being genuine. However, socialization needs to be mastered.

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SuperChickenMan 4 years ago from United Kingdom

This is an interesting post dude, cheers! Do you think depression can cause memory loss to the point where you are struggling to remember early childhood memories?

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rasta1 4 years ago from Jamaica Author

Respect Super, Depression can lead to memory loss. It can also lead to insanity. However, the damage is not biological (permanent). This is can happen due to chemical imbalances in the brain. Memory loss can be further compounded by alcohol and smoking. The best natural cure is to start eating more blackberries or similar fruits rich in antioxidants.

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Julie Pham 4 years ago

Social life requires so much energy from a depressed person that often times, it's just so much easier to hide in the corner of the room. It's a lonely journey for sure.

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rasta1 4 years ago from Jamaica Author

Respect Julie, It is easier for the depressed to avoid confrontation. However, their best option is to take risk and learn how to handle rejections.

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onejah 2 years ago

Lovely hub! Joining groups/clubs that struggle with the same problems. I have yet to find a Rasta community close to me, but when I do, I will be a regular for sure! Forums help too!

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rasta1 2 years ago from Jamaica Author

Respect OneJah. Those types of communities are rare. Found mostly in New York or Fort Lauderdale. Keep in touch with me.

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