How Can I be Happy? - 9 Ways to Promote Happiness

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How Can I be Happy? An Introduction

Welcome to this hub of happiness where I shall do my very best to instill a feeling of happiness within you, and have you leave this page with a smile on your face and an optimistic outlook for the day!

What is Happiness?

Happiness is a state of overall satisfaction with life and our place in it. Studies have shown that when we are happy, we are far more productive, much more willing to help others and of course we smile more.

For me, there are 2 main types of happiness - Secure Happiness and Pure Happiness. Yes, that's right, I did just make those two terms up, however, let me show you what I mean by those two very different types of Happiness.

Secure Happiness or Extrinsic Happiness

We have this type of happiness when we feel secure and in control of our lives due to extrinsic factors such as:

  • Money
  • Job/career
  • Relationship
  • Family
  • Possessions
  • Living Location


Pure Happiness or Intrinsic Happiness

This type of happiness is 'pure', in that it needs nothing in order to be. A person with this type of happiness is happy because they exist and they need nothing from outside of them in order to initiate this wonderful feeling.

We have all felt pure happiness at some stage of our lives and most of us still do, albeit sporadically.

This type of happiness is felt in those moments when a person:

  • Wakes up from a fitful rest
  • Meditates
  • Is in love

This is the kind of happiness we should all be striving for. A happiness that doesn't require anything outside of us and doesn't need to be boosted by purchases, achievements and monetary gains.

Still, in this hub I shall give you a mixture of tips. Tips from the Pure Happiness spectrum and tips from the Secure Happiness spectrum.

Enjoy!


A Sign of Happiness!

Insightful words, Indeed!
Insightful words, Indeed! | Source

How Can I be Happy? - The Methods

Find A Job You Love
Find A Job You Love | Source
Help Others and You Help Yourself
Help Others and You Help Yourself | Source
A smile a day keeps the blues away!
A smile a day keeps the blues away! | Source
Gratitude creates a healthy attitude!
Gratitude creates a healthy attitude! | Source
Take part in fun activities
Take part in fun activities | Source

How to be Happy - Useful Methods to Help you Find Happiness

1 . Evaluate Your Career or Job

In today's gloomy economic climate, jobs may be more scarce than ever, however, there ARE still jobs out there if you are dissatisfied with your current job. Don't forget, that you still have a choice. You can still decide where to work or what career path to follow. Just take action. Stagnation brings misery, action breeds happiness!


2. Spend Some Time Each Day Making Others Happy

Are you happy when someone offers you assistance or asks you how you are feeling? Yes, of course you are. Unfortunately, although we all love it when someone takes an interest, we rarely offer other people more than what we must. Whether you realize it or not, making others happy is one of the most simplest ways to be happy yourself. Making others happy will make you happy. It is that simple. The more people you make happy, the happier you'll be. Start your day off by making someone feel good, smile at them or assist them in some way and your day will turn out much better as a result!

3. Smile at and Talk to the People You Meet in the street, It Makes a Big Difference

Smile at people in the street regardless of whether you know them or not. Sure, some people don't smile back, but the one person that does, lifts your spirits and fills you with joy because deep down, we all want to be loved. We all want to be 'seen' and 'cared for' and being smiled at by a complete stranger in the street is a great indication that there is love everywhere if you look hard enough. Count your smiles. Make it a game and record them each day.

4. Remember to Practice Gratitude for all the Good in Your Life

Be grateful for the good in your life. Keep a gratitude journal and as often as you can, write in it the things for which you are grateful. Myself, I keep a small pocket book which I take everywhere with me. Because it is so small, I can carry it in my back pocket or a shirt-pocket and whenever I experience something that makes me smile, I record it.


5. Spend Time Doing Something That Makes you Happy Each Day

Sometimes we are so busy with our responsibilities and obligatory tasks, we forget to actually participate in 'living'. When I say living, I mean actually enjoying life and experiencing it in all its glory. What is your hobby? When was the last time you actually got involved with your hobby and had fun? Take time each day, even just 20 minutes to really enjoy yourself and when you go to sleep each night, remember it and smile before you drift off. Purposely have fun each day. Plan it. Vary the activities and get others involved too, joy is wonderful when it is shared with others.

Are you Happy? Listen and Experience some Pure Happiness!

More great ways to find happiness

Personal Development will lead to happiness and then Success!
Personal Development will lead to happiness and then Success! | Source
Take some time out to just relax and perhaps think over your life.
Take some time out to just relax and perhaps think over your life. | Source
Stay in the now. Leave the past alone!
Stay in the now. Leave the past alone! | Source
Challenge Yourself!
Challenge Yourself! | Source

Four More Steps to Help You Find Happiness

6. Personal Development

Improve your current set of skills each and every day and learn new skills that will complement the set you already have. Make yourself the best you can possibly be and don't just rely on courses and formal education. The internet is a veritable feast of knowledge right here at your fingertips. Go to sleep at night knowing you have improved yourself.


7. Take Some Time Out Everyday

Set aside some time each day to simply relax and unwind. Go somewhere peaceful and read a book or listen to some music. Allow some time, each day for your mind to slow down and not have to suffer the constant onslaught of thoughts, for the entire day.


8. Don't Carry the Past Around With You

Leave the past alone, unless it is a memory that inspires you or makes you feel good in some way. Rather than allow your future actions to be decided by your past, use your imagination to decide the actions you will take. The past is gone. Don't relive it over and over. That gets you nowhere and will severely limit your growth. Look to the future and all the wonderful possibilities it holds for you.



9. Challenge Yourself Everyday

Challenge yourself on a daily basis. As humans we need to be growing and learning all the time, otherwise we stagnate and are filled with hopelessness. That's nature. All things must grow or they stagnate and eventually die. In our case, we become miserable and end up being weighed down by a feeling of uselessness. We lose confidence in ourselves and settle for less. However, when you challenge yourself each day something wonderful begins to happen. You start becoming more confident and sure of yourself (growth), and as you overcome the challenges you set for yourself, you increase the difficulty of the next challenge and so on. This is growth and will eventually turn you into a powerhouse of a human being, who never backs down and laughs in the face of adversity.

"Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they are supposed to help you discover who you are." - Bernice Johnson Reagon


One More Word on Happiness Plus Some Jokes to Lift Your Spirits

Follow the above guidelines or at least some of them and I guarantee you, that true happiness will find you. Learn to rely on yourself for happiness and not have to call upon friends all the time or indulge in acoholic binges etc. Partying is nice, sometimes but does it really make you happy in the long term? No, it merely papers over the cracks.

Whatever happiness you seek, Pure or Secure, it doesn't matter as long as you have fun and enjoy life. Remember, despite the fact that 'Money makes the world go round', it can't buy happiness so don't think that buying more possessions and commodities will be a short-cut to it, because it won't.

Happy people are more productive and therefore make more money that their unhappy counterparts. Therefore, I suggest you first use the above techniques to boost your happiness levels massively, and then you make more money in order to enable you to experience more by traveling etc.

Happiness=Money and success if a person is so inclined.

Now go forth and prosper!

Funny Jokes to Make You Giggle!

Police arrested two kids yesterday, one was drinking battery acid, the other was eating fireworks. They charged one - and let the other one off.

A man walks into a bar with a roll of tarmac under his arm and says: ''Pint please, and one for the road.''

My mother-in-law fell down a wishing well, I was amazed, I never knew they worked.

A sandwich walks into a bar. The barman says ''Sorry we don't serve food in here''


Watching videos like this one is a great way to be happy! Enjoy!

Happiness Quotes to Enliven Your Spirit

"If you want to be happy, be." ~Leo Tolstoy

"Most people would rather be certain they're miserable, than risk being happy." ~Robert Anthony

"Nobody really cares if you're miserable, so you might as well be happy." ~Cynthia Nelms

"Happiness is a form of courage." ~Holbrook Jackson

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Are you happy? Did this hub at least cheer you up a little? 26 comments

Sneha Sunny profile image

Sneha Sunny 4 years ago from India

Great points. I agree with all of your points! Making other people happy also makes you happy. :-) great share!


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LaThing 4 years ago from From a World Within, USA

Wonderful hub! Makes me happy just reading it! :)

I like the gratitude part, so true! We don't always remember the things that makes us happy, and keeping track of them will serve as a reminder at the times when you are down.

Voting up and useful.....


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Alastar Packer 4 years ago from North Carolina

Richie I used to know a wonderful old Hollywood showman who gave words of advice and one of them was to always leave a conversation or whatever on an upbeat note. You've really gotten happy down pat here- and a great looking article too btw- so will only comment on two of your points: Smile at and talk to people; its biologically proven now that smiling is actually good for us in more ways than one and we should look at the good things we have instead of pining for the things we don't. The glass is half full, not half empty. Super hub my friend!


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Richawriter 4 years ago from On Top of the World Author

Thank you Sneha Sunny! Sunny indeed! :)

Yes, it gives you a wonderful feeling when you see someone else smile because of something you have done.

For me, happiness is worth far more than money and should be the new currency of our race in the future, Seriously!

Peace.


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Richawriter 4 years ago from On Top of the World Author

Thanks La Thing!

Although it is easier said than done, the keeping of a happy journal, it is one of the most effective ways of staying happy.

I shall see you again very soon La thing. :)

Peace. :)


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Richawriter 4 years ago from On Top of the World Author

Hello dear Friend, Alastar!

Nice to see you! I was thinking of getting back over to read one of your smashing stories when up you pop! Awesome!

Thanks. I thought it was about time I really pushed the boat out and experimented with a hub, more pic, more info, more everything, as you can see. Although, I have had to go back through and edit because I was so exhausted while writing it. I noticed my writing had become sloppy in the second text module and the quiz, for that matter. All done now though.

That showman sounds like a very wise man and obviously very gifted at what he did. I'll remember that one myself as it is a sound piece of advice and will help build relationships.

Perhaps I may even strive to use it here on hubpages, in fact right this second! Thank you Alastar for being such a focused and thoughtful supporter of my hubs, as well as the many others I'm sure you also support.

I have taken a leaf out of your book and started a new system (couldn't do it yesterday) whereas soon as I log onto my profile page, I comment on the 16 followers pictured on my page. Obviously if they are the same as yesterday I will choose the next page but I'm sure Hubpages changes it often. And of course, yours and Cardisa's hubs are always at the forefront of my mind!

Peace Bro!


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Cardisa 4 years ago from Jamaica

I wish I could hug you right now Richie! This is wonderful. I wish people could see that positive thinking and actions is the key to happiness. You have to create your own happiness by your attitude. I especially love number 4 to practice gratitude. The caption on the photo says that gratitude creates a healthy attitude and you are so right.

Have I told you how happy I am that you are back?


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meloncauli 4 years ago from UK

Good hub. I particularly like the idea of not delving into the past. Unfortunately due to memory, we tend to do an awful lot of dwelling in the past especially on the negative aspects. Voted up.


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penlady 4 years ago from Sacramento, CA

With so many unhappy people wondering around, this hub is much needed advice. I believe that everyone deserves to be happy and we must find our way to that happiness. With a hub like this, you can help people find their way.

Voted up and useful.


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jasmith1 4 years ago from UK

The picture of the squirrel relaxing had made me very happy! :D

Really useful hubs and advice here. I find a gratitude journal really helps to remind me to be thankful for what I have.

Jen


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Richawriter 4 years ago from On Top of the World Author

Hey Cardisa, I would gladly be the recipient of a warm hug from you! :)

I'm glad you enjoyed this hub, Cardisa and it is nice to see you again.

Oh thanks, my friend, I'm really glad to hear that. It is great to be back and this time I am really getting involved for the long term. Last time I was just dipping my toe in the water, so to speak.

I'll see you very soon! Peace


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Richawriter 4 years ago from On Top of the World Author

Hello Meloncauli, great name by the way!

I see you are from the UK like me, jolly good to meet ya! :) (Not that anyone ever speaks like that in the real world! ha)

Yep, those memories can be like cinder blocks tied to our shins holding us back in life but they can be overcome if one practices constantly.

Thanks for coming. Peace


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Richawriter 4 years ago from On Top of the World Author

Thanks Penlady, for those kind words.

I love helping people in any way that I can and thankfully I am able to do so as a language teacher and hubpages author.

Hopefully many more to come.

Thanks for dropping by. I'll come see ya soon! :)


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Richawriter 4 years ago from On Top of the World Author

Hey Jasmith 1, you liked that squirrel huh. I'm glad because I was about to choose another less cute picture when that little fella caught my eye. Little cutie he is!

Thanks for the nice comment.

I see you have some interesting and varied hubs other at your place. You are quite the prolific writer!

I'll see you soon.

:)


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yoginijoy 4 years ago from Mid-Atlantic, USA

This is great! I usually am a happy person and I hadn't thought how challenging myself feeds my happy self. I do challenge myself and sometimes it can be stressful but eventually it brings me joy. I love the picture of the squirrel resting on the roof. One thing I do is consciously look for happy moments like that! I see lots of them every single day! :) Peace!


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Richawriter 4 years ago from On Top of the World Author

Hello and Welcome Yoginijoy!

Yes, although challenging yourself is a way to increase happiness, it can also stress you out when overdone and I can certainly relate to that!

Yes, that Squirrel is gaining himself a fanclub at the moment. Cute little begger!

Looking for happy little gems in the events and scenery around us is a very effective and fun way of keeping one's spirits up!

Peace Yoginijoy!


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rdsparrowriter 4 years ago

Great thoughts Rich :) More like count your blessings :) Thank you ! God bless!


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Richawriter 4 years ago from On Top of the World Author

Hey rdsparrowiter!

Thanks for dropping by and yes, my basic message is count your blessings because there are so many of them, countless.

Money pays the bills, it will never buy priceless happiness.

You are very welcome!

God Bless you too and have a wonderful day! :)


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quicksand 4 years ago

My friend, happiness is also a relative thing. Seeing others having a great time too has a positive effect on many people.

It works well and is somewhat like magnetic induction! Doesn't cost anything at all! LOL!


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Richawriter 4 years ago from On Top of the World Author

Hey. Yes you are right quicksand.

It is great seeing others have a laugh and a smile and even nicer when they share that warmest of feelings with you.

Happiness is the key to a good life my friend and it is totally free, as you say!

Thanks for commenting my friend!

See you soon.


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TheListLady 4 years ago from New York City

Love your quotes and jokes and everything else - it all made me so happy. I am still so amazed at how many people totally depend on others to make them happy instead of saying 'wait a minute, I can do this, I must do this' - great hub. Thanks a million!


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Richawriter 4 years ago from On Top of the World Author

Thank you for your kind comments TheListLady!

Always glad to spread a little happiness. :)

Yes, i'm also guilty of relying on others for happiness or at least blaming others for my dissatisfaction with life. I'm mostly in control of my mind but I gotta admit ... there are times a day passes by in a blink at the end of which I ask myself, "What exactly did I do today? ... Blame and complain? Yep!"

Happiness is a surprisingly difficult goal to achieve huh!

You are looking good though so good on you!

Peace. :)

P.S. Sorry for the long wait for an answer. Been neglecting my writing for a while, because of exactly what I mentioned above! I'm back though. :)


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thefedorows 2 years ago from the Midwest

Richawriter, I recently finished a fantastic book called "The 4:8 Principle The Secret to a Joy-Filled Life." The last chapter was about the importance of having an attitude of gratitude, so I paused when I read that tip in your list. What an incredible gift to yourself to carry a gratitude notebook with you! Wow! Thank you for sharing all your ideas on happiness. I gave you a thumbs up! Well-written hub!


Vina 22 months ago

Thanks for helping me to see things in a difnreeft light.


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Glenn Stok 14 months ago from Long Island, NY

I bet you trade stock options. That’s where I have knowledge of the difference between extrinsic and intrinsic. I love how you applied these words to the meaning of secure happiness and pure happiness.

Not only did you give me a lot to think about, but I also challenged myself to decide which of your nine points of happiness had intrinsic value and which had extrinsic value.

What really surprised me was when I got to your ninth point – challenge yourself everyday! I guess I just did, and I'm happy about it.


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quicksand 2 weeks ago

Hi Richie,

Traveling also generates happiness ... :)

I wonder what impact HRH Vajiralongkhorn's ascend to the throne will have, on the tourism sector in Thailand.

Hoping for the best ... Cheers!

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