Suicidal thoughts- how to avoid it and begin a new life

Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem’-Phil Donahue.

Life is precious

Life is a god sent gift and it is your duty to live it to the full. You might face several traumatic experiences in your life and feel there is no end to your distress. If you are courageous, the fighting spirit in you makes you tide over your difficult time and you come out a more mature and bold person

But for weak minded, they feel overwhelmed by their situation and they want to end it by taking their life.

What are the different reasons for suicide?

  • Loss of a dear one
  • Financial debacle
  • A sudden impulse to end life because of loneliness
  • Love failure.

The reason for choosing this fatal decision varies from person to person, but the end result is sorrow and bewilderment on part of those near to you.

Suicide of the boy I knew due to love failure

I can never forget the suicide my neighbors’ son. He was in love with a girl who worked in his father’s office. There was lot of opposition for his love because the girl was lower than them in financial status. The boy tried to convince his mother, but she was adamant.

I saw him at twelve in the afternoon in the terrace and he smiled at me. Half an hour later I heard his mother wailing and we rushed to their home and I can never forget the sight I saw. He was hanging in the fan lifeless. What a loss of precious life?

Why should a young life be nipped in the bud?

It was because of his lack of fighting spirit and his mother’s adamant behavior. She will never see her son again and if only she had understood her son’s love and accepted the girl he loved she would have not lost her son. The boy on his part could have boldly married the girl he loved and later convinced his mother.

Financial debacle

Financial debacle ignites the feeling of helplessness. If you are dispirited, it causes several mind shattering thoughts in you. You feel waves of hopelessness, tossing you into the abyss of depression. If you are in debt it adds fuel to your depressive situation.

My experience

I have to share the traumatic period in my life with you. During that harrowing period, financial stress joined hands with my husband’s renal failure. Those were the days I found it impossible to keep myself sane as I could not bear to see my husband suffering.

Faith in god made me take control of my feelings and I found an anchor in my daughter. She pulled me out of my depression and here I am today, my financial debacle a thing of past and the memory of my beloved husband my energy booster to fight against everything and come out unscathed.

One bad moment is enough

If you deviate from nurturing relationship you feel you have no one in this world to help you and this feeling makes you depressed. The thought of suicide gets engraved in your mind and one bad moment is enough for everything in your life to go out of focus and you make the fatal decision to taking your life. If only you had talked it out with a family member or close friend your life would be yours to cherish and live.

Loss of dear one

How do you feel when you lose the most precious person of your life?

  • Do you feel like taking your life?
  • Do you feel you can never see happiness again in your life?

It is true you cannot forget the person who meant so much to you. But you can make his memory meaningful and worthwhile. Strive to do something good in his memory, like donating on his anniversary as a fitting tribute to the departed soul.

When you feel overwhelmed by any situation, do not hesitate to talk it out. You should talk with a person who motivate you and make you realize how easy it is to overcome your problems.

Love is the remedy

Even the rich commit suicide, so financial drawbacks is not the only reason for suicide. In this modern world you are in a mad chase for money and in your hunt for money you trample relationship, resulting in deprivation of true love.

Without love everything is meaningless. Lack of communication is the cause of many mental problems as it leads you to a situation where you feel alone and lost. Today this loveless solitude is faced by many and that is why we see a spurt of suicide among even teenagers.

Impulse and rash decisions also contribute to suicide. You must think for a fraction of second and you feel you had been foolish to have even contemplated suicide. Nothing in this world is permanent. All sorrows, stress, financial setbacks and emotional deprivation will disappear into nothingness when you make efforts to overcome them. Courage, honesty, strong willpower and the guiding motivation of friends and relatives go a long way in getting you out of any dire situation.

To die in order to avoid the pains of poverty, love, or anything that is disagreeable, is not a part of a brave man, but of a coward’-Aristotle

Yes, it is utter cowardice to even contemplate suicide. Live your life to prove to the world of your resilience to outgrow any setbacks you might face. The traumatic experience you face is there not to destroy you, but to evolve you into a new person full of courage, raring to face the world with dignity and maturity.

© 2012 mathira

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Anil and Honey 4 years ago from Kerala

Mathira Good and useful Article.


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mathira 4 years ago from chennai Author

Thank you Anil and Honey.


lisa.bom 4 years ago

I have to step up and say that the statement you made " ... if only she had understood her son’s love and accepted the girl he loved she would have not lost her son." is not true. Nobody knows what is going on in someones else's life. No one is to blame for someone else's suicide.


mathira 4 years ago

lisa, you are true when you say that nobody knows what is going on in someone's life. but the thing is it is the weak minded who think of suicide and when there is opposition they do not fight against it and surrender to their highly blown up emotions. Thank you for your comments.


Muldania 4 years ago

I agree that problems can seem too much to handle, and people do have thoughts of suicide. Thankfully, most people do not go through with it, because suicidal thoughts are almost like a way of people reassuring themselves that there is a way out of their problems. But of course it is not a way out, it is simply ending a life. And when life is ended there is no coming back, and loved ones are then left with the sadness that will last a lifetime.

Only today I have heard of a young girl, who took her own life, when she could have had years ahead of her, but because of temporary problems decided to take an overdose. It is particularly sad, as she was only a child.


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mathira 4 years ago from chennai Author

Muldania, it is indeed sad when people resort to the extreme decision of taking their lives. If only they pause and think they will realize every problem has a solution. Thank you for visiting.


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States

Beautiful topic and great write.

As the lord says that man has no right to take his or anyone's life since, it is HE who has given us life. According to hindu scriptures, it is a SIN to take one's life and the soul could be born with a treacherous body next life....

Voted up as interesting!


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Dim Flaxenwick 4 years ago from Great Britain

Excellent, thought provoking hub.

Life is a precious gift from God, although l do feel that with many suicides, the person is ´´slightly out of his mind´´ at the time.

It would be good if we could all remember ´´This too shall pass´´ when times are difficult.

Thank you for a great hub


mathira 4 years ago

Dim, as you say if only people remember 'this too shall pass', there will be no thoughts about suicide. Thank you for visiting.


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mathira 4 years ago from chennai Author

Ruchira, as you said we do not have the right to take the life god has gifted us and when we feed positive thoughts into us, every problem looks solvable.


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carolinemd21 4 years ago from Close to Heaven

Great hub Mathira. Very inspiring.


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michememe 4 years ago

I really enjoyed this article. I am like you in my thinking, killing yourself is giving up. It's a selfish thought, without thinking of those who are left behind feeling the impact of their lost loved ones.


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Jessie Whitmire 4 years ago from Charleston, South Carolina

I'm suicidal today. I've been hungry for a week and I might be losing my home. If a check doesn't come I will have to quit my job on Wed. This sucks.


mathira 4 years ago

Thank you, carolinemd21.


mathira 4 years ago

Jessie, don't ever lose hope. I have lived a life where I had no money even for my daily existence, but things always change and always remember the hour before dawn is the darkest. The dark phase you are facing will one day move into past tense and this period of your life will help you see what is good and bad in the world. Keep praying and good luck.


mathira 4 years ago

michememe, thank you for visiting.


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mottiandbander 4 years ago from Chd

You are awesome mathira and very good article too. Thanks for sharing. And now yes anybody can begin a new life.


concerned 4 years ago

How can you hope to help people who are experiencing suicidal thoughts if you call them weak -willed and cowardly? I certainly wouldn't talk about my feelings with someone who would believe that about the direction of my thoughts. Quoting Aristotle is just another obvious example of how ancient your philosophy is about mental health problems. Although a brilliant man, he was a man of his times. Try reading some scientific papers about the causes and treatments of depression and don't spread that sort of negative thinking around these poor people who are struggling. How can you call a child a coward? It is an act of cowardice to kick them when they are so far down they are one foot out of this world. Take a look at how you insult them - how you judge them. You have no right.


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mathira 4 years ago from chennai Author

concerned, I am in no way trying to demean anyone who is undergoing sorrow and difficulties in life. All I want to say is that there is hope for everyone in life. If you go through my hub again you will see that it stresses the need for courage to face life and nothing else.


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dinkan53 4 years ago from India

Suicide is actually a double disaster as it not only end a life, but also breaks the lives of those left behind. It may seem that there is no way to solve your problems, but remember that there is always a way to solve your problems and start enjoy your life again. This is really a useful article, up and shared!


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carriethomson 4 years ago from United Kingdom

mathira, thanks to discuss the topic......yes suicide is really a stupid thing any one can do to his/her self.....you would even amazed by knowing that how i handle my pain of life........failure in love.....how i handle my depression and how my own loved ones support me to come out of that depression..............it is difficult but not impossible.........


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MsDora 4 years ago from The Caribbean

"Without love everything is meaningless." You gave very good thoughts about respect for life. The Phil Donahue quotes surely puts it in perspective. Thanks for sharing.


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jpcmc 4 years ago from Quezon CIty, Phlippines

Life offers us challenge so we can become stronger. As we grow, we realize how beautiful life truly is. inspite of the difficulties we may see. This is a beautiful hub.


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mathira 4 years ago from chennai Author

Thank you carriethompson, Msdora and jpcmc for your good comments.


Krescent 3 years ago

Its very easy to judge suicidal people from where u r sitting.

"Yes, it is utter cowardice to even contemplate suicide."

The thing is, it takes great courage to even attempt suicide. Knowing that you will never again experience happiness or pleasure again and still trying to do yourself in, that takes guts.

Have you felt the pang of the loss of a loved one? The pain of unrequited love or the knowledge that your life is a mess and you are a failure? If not, then you have no right to pass off such judgement on other people.


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mathira 3 years ago from chennai Author

Kresent, I too had lost my husband and there were times when I felt suicide would be a better option. But the hard fact is life never stands still for anyone. It has to move along and you to have to move along with it. Does being alive mean you do not love the person you lost. How can you forget the loss that easily. But you must feed the guts to go through your life that god has gifted you. As times flies, the agony you felt will fade and you too can be normal again.


Krescent 3 years ago

I'm sorry. It appears that I, too, have judged u harshly. But, you are wiser and more experienced than I am and perhaps made out of sterner stuff. To someone like me, suicide is not something we really stop and think about. But take my word for it, it takes courage, real courage to go thru with it. U see all those things u will miss in ur life flash in ur mind before u try n off urself. Ur parents, friends, everything that u left incomplete, ur passions, books u wanted to read, games u wanted to play, places u wanted to see. And in spite of that, if ur still willing to go thru with it, then how can anyone call it cowardly. I'm not advocating that suicide is a brave thing. I'm simply saying that all people have problems; some find ways to deal with them, some can't, not don't. Depressed people can't. It's a condition. For such people, suicidal and depressing thoughts just keep coming. They can't control it. At some point, they would prefer the blissful oblivion of death over life in misery.

I myself attempted suicide bcos of unrequited love and it was only bcos of some people at Snehaindia.org that I am alive today. This is my story: http://suicideproject.org/2013/04/unrequited-love-...

I admire ur courage but please do not judge such people so harshly even if it is on your own hub. I found this hub while searching for some encouragement, but your article simply angered me. Where there should have been hope, there is criticism and judgement. I wouldn't want someone really sensitive to go through this hub, particularly, when they are feeling vulnerable.


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mathira 3 years ago from chennai Author

I appreciate your views Krescent.

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