Suicide || What Could Have Been Done?

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Many years ago, thirty nine in fact, I was a school teacher for DODS (Department of Defense School in the Pacific) on Yokota Air Base. I was home on the particular Sunday afternoon this happened. A call had been sent out between Yokota Air Base and Tachikawa Air Base for donations of blood and we had all rushed to the nearest hospital to donate.

All we knew was that a teacher had been injured and needed transfusions. And we waited to hear that she was on the mend.

Such would not be the case. When we reported to school the following morning, we were all called to the meeting room where faculty meetings were held. The principal told us what had happened. A living, loving vibrant middle aged teacher was gone. She had been in the hospital and had forced open a window and jumped to her death.

She did not die immediately. That is why the call for blood donors had been made. Efforts to save her were futile. We were all shaken and deeply saddened.

She was plagued by fears and torments that she chose not to share. And thus ended a life, too soon, too tragically.

This was my first experience with death by suicide and I wished it would be the only one.

When you get into a tight place and everything goes against you, till it seems as though you could not hang on a minute longer, never give up then, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn.

— Harriett Beecher Stowe

A young life...

When my daughter was in seventh grade she was surrounded by bubbly cheerful friends. All of them were...it seemed.

One of them was not. One of them found no joy in his life. One of them was unable to face the next day. The future before him offered no promise, no solace, no reason to keep on keeping on.

One Saturday evening, he chose to end his life.

And a wake of devastation he left behind. The children in his class were stunned and overcome with grief. They all blamed themselves for not knowing, for not seeing that he was in pain.

No one ever really shared why he took his life. No one seemed to know, or if they did, they chose not to tell.

How tragic that was.

Suicide ~~~a frightening word.

It translates into a topic that no one wants to discuss. There is a finality to it that no one wants to deal with at all. It is a topic that brings up a plethora of reactions. There are those who find this as controversial as discussing the death penalty.

Imagine someone so troubled, so despondent, that living one more minute is not possible. Unable to see beyond the pain, the sadness, the fear of the future, this person chooses to end existence on earth.

For some, because of religious beliefs casting the person who makes this decision into the valley of the damned takes no thought. Others believe that things are never bad enough to end life and for that reason cannot forgive this drastic measure. Others struggle to make sense of it with no judgment call not taking a stand on either side of this issue.

Again as I am not in the position to judge the decision others make, I myself would not, could not judge that action by another.

It is just that it is an irreversible decision. Most, if not all, other decisions are reversible.

Not so with that one.

When the lights go out at night, alone with only the myriad of thoughts swirling around before them..echoes of 'what could have been done?' resound night after night.

The question remains unanswered.: What could have been done? What could I have done??


Powerful message to all who have lost hope in the video that is provided

The message in the video is powerful and gets at the heart of the matter. One more day he says...give it another chance.

You may know someone who would benefit from hearing this song.

Try Again....

Once you choose hope, anything's possible.

— Christopher Reeve

What could be done??

For some, because of religious beliefs the person who makes this decision should be cast into the valley of the damned. Others believe that things are never bad enough to end life and for that reason cannot forgive this drastic measure. Others struggle to make sense of it with no judgment call and without taking a stand on either side of this issue.

As I am not in the position to judge the decision others make, I myself would not, could not judge that action by another.

It is just that it is an irreversible decision. Most, if not all, other decisions are reversible. Not so with this one.

When the lights go out at night, alone with only the myriad of thoughts swirling around before them..echoes of 'what could have been done' will resound night after night. The question remains unanswered.: What could have been done? What could I have done??

Never ever give up...

Never give in. Never. Never. Never. Never.

If you're going through hell, keep going.

— Winston Churchill
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No matter if it is " a wolf, wolf" cry...I would respond....

A complex series of reactions occurs in those who are left behind when a suicide happens in their family or to a close friend.. Guilt, sadness, anger, denial, blame, never ending questions.

Guilt---why didn’t I do more? Why didn’t I know? Why wasn’t I there?

In cases where the individual who accomplishes suicide, it is especially troubling for those left behind who had heard their friend or loved one say they would end their life on more than one occasion.

Sometimes this happens. A person will say over and over, time and time again, "I am going to kill myself. I can't do this any more!!"

After a while, hearing this over years and years, it becomes like the little boy who cried
WOLF, WOLF. You know that Aesop fable---a little boy cries wolf, wolf, several times and the townspeople come running, only to find no wolf. Finally there is a wolf, he calls and when he calls for help no one came.

Such may be the case with the individual who had threatened many times and never killed herself or himself. One day, giving fare warning, the deed is done, the fate is sealed.

Many say, "I do not know what I would do if I were in the situation such as the one described above"

I KNOW what I would do. Even if the person had threatened suicide daily for ten years, I would be there or the police would have been dispatched. The police would have been on a first name basis with this person. And, maybe just maybe, as a result, the person would have been committed to a hospital for therapy and maybe, just maybe that loving friend or relative would still be on the planet.

Of course it is easy for me to say what I would do. There are just some things we know we would do. For me there is no wavering on this point.

What can be done? What could I have done? Words that haunt each of those whose friend or family member have chosen suicide.

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Sadness...

Sadness comes close on the heels of guilt if not simultaneously. Sadness that this person we loved as a friend or as a family member could no longer see one reason to wait for the sun to rise another day.

Sadness that all of the promise held within the psyche of that person is lost to the world.

Sadness that no longer can we sit and chat with them, go to a movie with them, go out to dinner with them, spend some quiet time in the same room with them....sad beyond measure.

Sad too that we did not recognize that the pain that she or he felt was so profound that it interrupted the rhythm of life that flowed within that dear person.

Sad that the little ones who had not had a chance to know this lovely human would only know now from pictures and stories told over and over at gatherings where inevitably the lovely person's name would come up and a story would need to be told.

Sad that we did not hear that last cry for HELP that came from the wilderness.

Have you lost a friend or family member to suicide?

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Anger and blame

Anger comes. Rage too perhaps.Anger at anyone that could be responsible for not intervening. Anyone who had hurt or wronged this person in an irreconcilable way would be the target of the anger.

Anger that someone else did not do enough. Anger that you or her or him or me..that we did not see, that we did not stop this from happening.

There are moments to when the anger is directed at the person who chose to end her life. You scream and yell and pull your hair out.."Why???? WHHHHHYYYYYYY did you do this? I would have done anything to help you. I do not understand. I won't understand. I do not want to try to figure it out!!!!"

And there must be someone to blame. Is it me?

"Should I blame myself?"...You may ask in a quiet moment, alone, with only the millions of thoughts that haunt you.

Am I to blame?

I know I did not hurt this person but I must blame someone.

I know, I will blame the therapist who did not see this coming. That's it. The therapist should have seen this coming. Why didn't she??

And, while I am at it, I will blame the boy friend who broke her heart. The boy friend who strayed and had many lovers and then finally broke her heart into so many pieces she could no longer gather them up and put them together again like all of the king's horses and all of the king's men tried to do for Humpty Dumpty.

And, let me not forget the kids who taunted her as a child because her ears were too big and reminded them of Dumbo.
But it all comes back to me.

Why didn't I know?

Why didn't I do more?

Where was I?

Denial

Walking around in a fog, you may find that yourself thinking " This is not real. This has not happened. I will wake up and she will be beside me giggling and chatting."

You wait for her to walk into the room and fill it with her life's blood.

"She cannot be gone" keeps running through your mind. Time passes and still that anticipation of her arrival, of waking from this endless nightmare persists.

And it will for many long days, weeks, months, and years. But gradually you will realize it is no longer possible to deny the reality and it will settle over you.

And you will continue to wonder what could have been done.

Attention getting ploy??

"The first and most obvious behavior that may be exhibited when someone" .... is contemplating suicide " is that they mention the fact that they often feel as if they want to do away with themselves. Unfortunately, many people who express this to others are often viewed as one who wants attention. While this may be true in some situations, isn't it only right that they get the attention and help that they are seeking? If they feel the need to express their desire to kill themselves, it is only right that we take the time to take them seriously and help them get the help that they need."

If you hear this from someone you love, respond as quickly as you can. Lead them to help.


Signs and symptoms

There are pages on line and books filled with articles on the signs to look for ...what to be aware of in a friend or family member that might alert you to the danger of suicide.

These lists of signs and symptoms are all well and good. And I do not say do not look at them. I do not say they are not of importantance.

I am saying that despite these lists and despite being proactive, suicide still happens.

It still happens.

Have you ever heard this: no matter what you do, intervene as you may, that if a person really wants to kill herself or himself, no one can stop it? They will find a way?

I am not sure if I agree with or believe it but it does make me wonder.

That is still not an excuse for not intervening. As I mentioned earlier in this article, if I knew someone was contemplating suicide, I would be the busy body friend or relative who would get involved, every time.

I just would.

That would be to salve my conscience in part but to save my precious friend from an untimely death.

I would know that in my heart of hearts I had done everything I could possibly do to help.

Does that mean I would not go through the stages of grief?

Obviously not. But that would remove one element of the process to a degree. I would know I had done as much as I possibly could for this person who had been a huge part of my life.

What to Look For

What to look for....

"Excessive sadness or moodiness

Sudden calmness

Withdrawal

Changes in personality and/or appearance

Dangerous or self-harmful behavior

Recent trauma or life crisis

Making preparations

Threatening suicide"

the short list

  • Who is at risK?
  • "Older people who have lost a spouse through death or divorce
  • People who have attempted suicide in the past
  • People with a family history of suicide
  • People with a friend or co-worker who committed suicide"

There are many other triggers such as horrors endured during war, failed relationships, lack of self worth, feeling hopelessness. These are only a few triggers that may send someone into the abyss from which there is no return.

Suicide hotlines


If you are having thoughts of suicide, this be a wake up call. Run, don't walk, to the nearest mental health professional. There is no shame in seeking help. There is still a stigma in our country about having mental healthy interventions. But it can save your life, or the life of someone you love if you get help.

Call the National Suicide Hotline at 1-800-273 TALK. Someone is waiting to receive your call and to listen.

Goodness out of sorrow....

Can there possibly be any goodness that results after this kind of devastation?

Absolutely, yes.

It can lead you to closer ties with your family and friends.

It can cause you to once again be aware that this life we have been given is so tentative and that at any moment it can end.

It can renew your personal passion for life and with introspection find that no problem is so great that suicide is ever the option. Death by one's own hand is never an option, never an answer.

It can be a way that families and friends reconnect and learn to listen better to each other. It can cause families and friends to look at each other with new eyes and look less at the imperfections and more at the unique qualities each can bring to our lives and to the world.

Do not wait for some sorrow to come to your family. Call or go see that person that you have been apart from for far too long.

Of course you don't die.

Nobody dies.

Death doesn't exist.

You only reach a new level of vision,

a new realm of consciousness,

a new unknown world.

— Henry Miller

No More Demons or Pain of Any Kind

And for the beloved friend or family member, there no longer is pain and sadness. No demons to torment their soul are present. ♥ ♥♥♥ ♥♥♥♥

Questions will remain

And questions will remain. They will. Every waking moment and even into sleep, you will ask yourself the same questions again and again.

What could I have done?

Why didn't I listen better than I did?

Why didn't I hear what she was saying?

Why didn't I go there when I couldn't reach her on the phone?

Why didn't I send the police when I could not get there in time?

And to her you would say,
"Why did you do this? Why did you leave us too soon?" My mind finds it so very difficult to wrap itself around this as hard as I try.

© 2013 Patricia Scott

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pstraubie48 14 months ago from sunny Florida Author

Hi Jackie

It is definitely a complex issue and if someone could ever really determine how our brains work, it would be a wonderful thing.

In the meantime you are right...we need to be attentive and alert and aware of the needs of other offering a listening ear and comfort as needed.

Angels are on the way to you this morning ps


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Jackie Lynnley 14 months ago from The Beautiful South

My doctor asked me one day if I ever thought about suicide and I said of course I have, hasn't everyone? I think that is true whether it is a fleeting thought or one that is thought about a little perhaps just from hearing about someone who has; but I think most of us just know better; no matter what has gone wrong.

I have had two teen nephews commit suicide on different sides of my family and they were so good looking and had such wonderful parents that loved them so much.

God only knows sometimes. Possibly drugs or alcohol that would intensify the depression and make a thought reality...but I am sure that is not always the case. All we can do is show people love and encourage them to confide in us to help them. It is such a terrible tragedy and may this article help anyone entertaining this thought.


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pstraubie48 14 months ago from sunny Florida Author

Hi Ladyguitarpicker

You did the right thing....

thank you for stopping to read and comment. Angels are on the way to you this morning ps


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ladyguitarpicker 14 months ago from 3460NW 50 St Bell, Fl32619

I called the police several years ago on a family member that told her daughter that she would kill herself. She was mad at me for over 2 years but is still here. There was nothing else to do. Thank you for writing on this subject.


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pstraubie48 19 months ago from sunny Florida Author

Sylvestermouse....truly we are not to judge, in my opinion. As you say I do not believe those that die by their own hand will suffer eternal separation from God. He is all knowing and forgives our bad decisions. I do not however think that suicide is ever an option.

Angels are on the way to you today ps


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Sylvestermouse 19 months ago from United States

I was still very young when a family member committed suicide. I knew the adults were discussing things, but I only knew the sadness of loss. Forty years later, I still find no blame with either the individual or the family members who tried to help, but could not keep her from committing suicide when alone and when no one was watching. Do I feel she is doomed eternally? Absolutely not! I believe God knew her heart, mind and sorrow far better than anyone on this earth. I also believe He in His forgiveness.


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Hi JPSO138 I know. I had no idea my friend would die in this way either. It was alife that held so much promise. We were all devastated.

But we picked up the pieces and moved on.

And are ever watchful for some sign in others that such a thing is being contemplated.

thank you for stopping by.

Angels are on the way this morning.. ps


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JPSO138 3 years ago from Cebu, Philippines, International

I had a friend who committed suicide way back then. It was very sad indeed as we never thought he could do such a thing to himself. You certainly created a great hub...


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Yes, Vicki, it is so scary and overwhelming when you have a friend or loved one who has lost someone to suicide. And the lingering, haunting question is: what could I have done?

We are struggling to make sense of a suicide that ripped someone from us that we loved. We are still shaking our heads wishing we had been able to prevent it.

I do hope and pray that if any of the hubs I have written are ever meaningful and helpful to anyone that this will be the one.

Blessings and Angels are on the way to you this evening, Vicki


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Yes, Vicki, it is so scary and overwhelming when you have a friend or loved one who has lost someone to suicide. And the lingering, haunting question is: what could I have done?

We are struggling to make sense of a suicide that ripped someone from us that we loved. We are still shaking our heads wishing we had been able to prevent it.

I do hope and pray that if any of the hubs I have written are ever meaningful and helpful to anyone that this will be the one.

Blessings and Angels are on the way to you this evening, Vicki


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Victoria Lynn 3 years ago from Arkansas, USA

Oh, this was so hard to read. So painful. I have friends who have lost close family members to suicide--a mother, a son. Someone I used to work with lost her son just a few weeks ago. She tried to help him with his troubles so many times. I think of her all the time. I do hope and pray that your words here will reach out to someone and save them or help them save someone else.

Blessings. --Vicki


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Good morning DDE

I only wish that I could have intervened to save the lives of those who found this to be their only option. It is an irreversible decision that leaves those left behind thrown totally off kilter and feeling so sad.

I shared this personal story in the hopes that one life may be saved.

Angels are on the way ps


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Good morning DDE

I only wish that I could have intervened to save the lives of those who found this to be their only option. It is an irreversible decision that leaves those left behind thrown totally off kilter and feeling so sad.

I shared this personal story in the hopes that one life may be saved.

Angels are on the way ps


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Good morning DDE

I only wish that I could have intervened to save the lives of those who found this to be their only option. It is an irreversible decision that leaves those left behind thrown totally off kilter and feeling so sad.

I shared this personal story in the hopes that one life may be saved.

Angels are on the way ps


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DDE 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

Harsh times can drive some individuals in different directions and suicide becomes one of the options, you have created such an informative hub on this topic thanks for enlightening me on Suicide, What Could Have Been Done?


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Hi KoffeeKlatchGals

It was difficult for me to write about but it is something that we need to think about and watch for in others. It is so easy to hide how you are feeling and sometimes it happens that it ends sadly.

Thank you for visiting today. Angels are on the way ps


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KoffeeKlatch Gals 3 years ago from Sunny Florida

You handled this difficult subject with compassion and heart. I cannot judge someone who has committed suicide, afterall, I didn't live in their shoes. Unfortunately, you will always be left with questions. Excellent hub.


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Please know that I feel so sorry for your loss. I have heard and read that 'when someone decides to commit suicide it can't be stopped, they will find a way'. But If just ONE life can be saved because someone intervenes and if it only delays what they have in mind, it is worth it to me.

My daughter's young friend mentioned above gave no signs and no clues and his family wondered as did his friends what they had missed.

It is so hard for those left behind.

Your comment does get at the heart of one aspect of this whole matter---too often the family and friends are blind-sided by suicide having no inkling that such a thing was a possibility. I am so glad you shared your thoughts. Angels are on the way to you and yours. ps


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Author Cheryl 3 years ago

When I was a teenager my half brother killed himself by throwing himself into on coming traffic. He left a wife and a year old baby girl. There were no signs, no symptoms, no reason and nothing even entered our minds as to why he did it. No note, no nothing nada. Even after all these years there is still no reason. When people decide to kill themselves they will do it whether anyone stepped in or not. When it has gone that far if they don't do it one way they will do it another because this is their choice. I don't think it would have mattered what we did or said because there were no signs that he would even do something like this. My sons half brother committed suicide by going to a hotel and overdosing on drugs. No one ever thought as he was always happy and in a good mood. He was going to school to be an electrician and the week before he killed himself he called me and said mom you will be so proud of me and in the same instance a week later my son was calling me telling me he overdosed. Who would have known. There is nothing that can be done in some instances because no one would think that they would do it but they did. You can't feel guilty for not being there because the hard facts are even as much as they hurt if someone is going to commit suicide they are going to do it no matter what.


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Hello, Dear Peggy

O, my. It is just so sad. And no matter how many years between you and the suicide my mind still creeps back from time to time to think of what may have been.

It is so difficult to watch the family and friends who are left behind who wish they had done more, listened better, and intervened.

Angels are on the way back to you Peggy and to all who are wracked with sorrow and hopelessness.

ps


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Peggy W 3 years ago from Houston, Texas

I know of several people who committed suicide and one was very close to me. You handled this difficult subject well. My heart will always go out to the family members who remain and who suffer the loss. Sending angels to surround and comfort you. Sharing this important topic. Up votes.


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Hi rajan jolly

You are soooo right...lives need not/should not be lost in that way. It is so tragic that they cannot see beyond their pain.

My wish is for this not to happen to another person.

Glad to see you today Angels are on the way ps


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Hi rajan jolly

You are soooo right...lives need not/should not be lost in that way. It is so tragic that they cannot see beyond their pain.

My wish is for this not to happen to another person.

Glad to see you today Angels are on the way ps


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rajan jolly 3 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

Committing suicide is a step that shows the depth of despair the person must have been in. So it's always the right thing to get help for someone who shows these symptoms and signs you list here or talks often of doing so.

Lives need not be lost this way.


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

You are so right sometimes they do give clues..and sometimes they tell you over and over ....and you wish you could have prevented it.

My heart aches for those who left this life too soon.

Angels are on the way to them and to you this evening. ps


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drbj 3 years ago from south Florida

Some times, Patricia, those who are so depressed that they contemplate suicide, give us a clue beforehand. But more often than not, they do not. Perhaps one day we will find a way to decipher that mystery, but we cannot blame ourselves. Life is to be lived, not filled with regrets.


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

O, Eddy, you are one of the reasons I love HubPages. You are so sweet and uplifting whether you are commenting or writing.

This is a subject that is close to my heart right now.....so I found the words to say what I was thinking and feeling

Angels are on the way to you this evening ps


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

O, Eddy, you are one of the reasons I love HubPages. You are so sweet and uplifting whether you are commenting or writing.

This is a subject that is close to my heart right now.....so I found the words to say what I was thinking and feeling

Angels are on the way to you this evening ps


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Eiddwen 3 years ago from Wales

Such a sensitive subject but you have covered it wonderfully. You are a great writer and your work also says so much about you as a person. Here's wishing you a wonderful weekend PS.

Eddy.


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Yes, Vicky....We left behind always wonder but after a while will come to terms with it....make peace with it somehow and know that the friend or loved one is now at peace...I do believe that.

Angels are on the way to you and yours this morning...ps


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Yes, Vicky....We left behind always wonder but after a while will come to terms with it....make peace with it somehow and know that the friend or loved one is now at peace...I do believe that.

Angels are on the way to you and yours this morning...ps


Vickiw 3 years ago

A very important topic, and you have covered it well. One of the most traumatic things for those left behind is the mystery of it - not understanding why it happened, and the constant question, "Could I have done more?" There is never an answer, and therefore for loved ones it is difficult to come to terms and a place of peace with it.


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Thank you, Pamela,

for the Angels...I can feel them and need them this morning.

This was an article that I felt needed to be shared for me as well as for many who have considered suicide or have lost someone this way.

My hope is that we can find better ways to avert this kind of death.

Angels are on the way back to you, my Friend ps


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Thank you, Pamela,

for the Angels...I can feel them and need them this morning.

This was an article that I felt needed to be shared for me as well as for many who have considered suicide or have lost someone this way.

My hope is that we can find better ways to avert this kind of death.

Angels are on the way back to you, my Friend ps


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Pamela99 3 years ago from United States

I had someone in my life that committed suicide recently and it was such a shock. I'm glad you wrote this hub as it is a very important topic, and I had not considered what good come out of it. Very well done! Sending Angels for your this morning.


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Yes, livingsta, if ONLY.....We can only do what we can do. We can be there and encourage and help those in pain to seek help. We can listen and commiserate with them and point to a brighter day ahead..and then after that it is pretty much out of our hands.

Angels are on the way to you this evening. ps


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Yes, livingsta, if ONLY.....We can only do what we can do. We can be there and encourage and help those in pain to seek help. We can listen and commiserate with them and point to a brighter day ahead..and then after that it is pretty much out of our hands.

Angels are on the way to you this evening. ps


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

You are so right, Carol. It is not us on the outside looking in at their lives; it is them looking at themselves and finding their life is not one they can live any longer. How sad. Too many times this has befallen those we love.

Angels are on the way to you this evening ps


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

You are so right, Carol. It is not us on the outside looking in at their lives; it is them looking at themselves and finding their life is not one they can live any longer. How sad. Too many times this has befallen those we love.

Angels are on the way to you this evening ps


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carol7777 3 years ago from Arizona

I have known way too many who have given in. It is not about what washapping in their lives but how they felt about their lives and themselves. My theory it is about people who find no joy in life...no matter how good their lives may be...There is often no correlation ...Well written and discussed...as always


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livingsta 3 years ago from United Kingdom

Thank you for this hub. So many thoughts ran through my mind as I was reading this. If only we could stop ourselves from doing it and also help others stop from doing it...

Voted up, useful and sharing.

Sending you blessings and hugs :-)


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

I agree Chitrangada

Life is so precious...who knows what demons must have possessed those to such an extent that they were unable to see beyond that torment.

Hopefully others will reach out and find someone to listen and help.

Angels are on the way to you today. ps


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

I agree Chitrangada

Life is so precious...who knows what demons must have possessed those to such an extent that they were unable to see beyond that torment.

Hopefully others will reach out and find someone to listen and help.

Angels are on the way to you today. ps


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ChitrangadaSharan 3 years ago from New Delhi, India

Great hub on a very sensitive issue!

Sometime back, I had asked a question, related to the topic of Suicide and had received mixed responses. I believe that the Life is too precious to be ended like this. We must make conscious efforts to train our children into mentally strong individuals. So that when faced with the many adversaries of life, they do not take this extreme step, in a state of helplessness or hopelessness.

You have made some excellent points in this hub, which will prove a useful guide for many.

Thanks for sharing!


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

thank you for stopping by. This was just a hub I had to write as I have known too many that have ended their lives in this way even though I only shared two of them.

Hopefully someone will read and seek help or someone will read and be there for a friend or family member.

Angels are on the way ps


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

thank you for stopping by. This was just a hub I had to write as I have known too many that have ended their lives in this way even though I only shared two of them.

Hopefully someone will read and seek help or someone will read and be there for a friend or family member.

Angels are on the way ps


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

How horrible for you, Mary, to find someone that way. It seems that once the mind is made up there is little that can be done but if I could divert someone for just one more day I would. that's just me.

Angels are on the way, Mary. Thank you for stopping by today ps


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

How horrible for you, Mary, to find someone that way. It seems that once the mind is made up there is little that can be done but if I could divert someone for just one more day I would. that's just me.

Angels are on the way, Mary. Thank you for stopping by today ps


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Thank you, Rebecca, This is a topic we need to discuss. We need to bring it out of the closet and into the light of day in hopes of keeping it to happen to anyone else.

Angels are on the way to you. ps


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Thank you, Rebecca, This is a topic we need to discuss. We need to bring it out of the closet and into the light of day in hopes of keeping it to happen to anyone else.

Angels are on the way to you. ps


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Thank you jpmc. You are so right. Everyone needs someone when they are in a dark and lonely place. Maybe someone who reads this will be there for someone who is in need. Just maybe someone who is contemplating suicide will seek help. That is my wish.

Angels are on the way. ps


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Thank you for stopping by, Martin. You are a gift and I am thankful I found your writings here on HubPages. I look to others for words to uplift me and often to cheer me.

Angels are on the way ps


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Mhatter99 3 years ago from San Francisco

Thank you for this insight in light of the most recent studies.


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dilipchandra12 3 years ago from India

A well written hub. Good one.


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mary615 3 years ago from Florida

I rent out rooms in my house to help pay the mortgage. One of the young men who lived in one of my rooms hanged himself. I will never forgot that experience. I wrote a Hub about suicide, too. I always felt guilt: maybe I could have helped this young man. I was told by one doctor that if a person decides to end it all there is nothing anyone can do to stop them. You may stop them temporarily, but not for long.


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

You are so right, Billy. It does make no sense to the living and so much sense to those who have died.

Taken from us too soon....I hope someone can find some hope from reading this article.

Angels are on the way to you and to all who are suffering in silence tonight. ps


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

You are so right, Billy. It does make no sense to the living and so much sense to those who have died.

Taken from us too soon....I hope someone can find some hope from reading this article.

Angels are on the way to you and to all who are suffering in silence tonight. ps


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billybuc 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

I have lost five to suicide....four we never saw it coming....there are questions in life that we will never have answers for, PS.

You handled this as well as it can be handled. It is senseless to the living, but it makes great sense to the dead.

hugs and blessings coming your way,

bill


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rebeccamealey 3 years ago from Northeastern Georgia, USA

Thanks so much for writing so well on such a delicate subject. You sure tore the doors open. Great job1


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jpcmc 3 years ago from Quezon CIty, Phlippines

Every person needs someone especially during trying times. Family and friends must offer their support in every way possible. The tragic event happened many years ago, but I'm sure it can still affect you. Suicide affects not only the victim. The people around him/her experiences the blow as well.

This is a must share for everyone.


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Faith,

We all need to be ever watchful that we lose no more too soon in this manner. You are so appreciated for your kind and encouraging words each time you visit.

Angels are on the way to you and your loved ones this evening...ps


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Faith,

We all need to be ever watchful that we lose no more too soon in this manner. You are so appreciated for your kind and encouraging words each time you visit.

Angels are on the way to you and your loved ones this evening...ps


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Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

Thank you for this heartfelt hub here my dearest friend, PS.

Yes, that question will probably always haunt anyone, of what they could have done, but there will never be an answer to such.

However, you have brought awareness to this life/death issue which will help others to possibly zero in on any signs.

My heart breaks for any person who has experienced the loss of a family or friend in this manner.

May God bless you and yours always.

Always sending Angels your way, my precious friend.

Hugs, Faith Reaper

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