Aging and Changes in Physical Abilities ~~ The Journey ~~ 12




This is chapter 12 of a 16 chapter series, written by sixteen hub authors of varying ages, backgrounds, and life experiences. A new chapter will be published each weekday by another author and linked to the previous and next chapters at the bottom of each hub. Additionally, there is a list of all The Journey chapters published to date just before the comments section at the bottom of the hub. Enjoy!


"By speech first, but far more by 'writing,' man has been able to put something of himself beyond death. In tradition and in books an integral part of the individual persists, for it can influence the minds and actions of other people in different places and at different times: a row of black marks on a page can move a man to tears, though the bones of him that wrote them are long ago crumbled to dust." ~~~ Julian Huxley


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A Look at Aging


“Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves, like locked rooms and like books that are now written in a very foreign tongue. Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point is, to live everything. Live the questions now.” ~~~ Rainer Maria Rilke


"The great events of world history are at bottom, profoundly unimportant. In the last analysis, the essential thing is the life of the individual. This alone makes History; here alone do the great transformations take place...in our most private and most subjective lives we are not only the passive witnesses of our age, and its sufferers, but also its makers." ~~~ Carl Jung


Introduction ~~~ We would all surely live very different lives if our years were unlimited, if they stretched out before us with no end in sight. Sometimes we begin to adjust or re-prioritize our goals and lives when we realize that more than half of our allotted years are now behind us. This reckoning and rearranging of one’s life is not based on fear or trepidation, rather it is founded upon the realization that in every life there are opportunities for good choices, better choices, and best choices.

Culture, society, the demands of family (who are well meaning) and earning a living often pressure us to choose the good, and this is not necessarily bad. But aging, more importantly, "aging well" may mean that we have the time, the resources, the wisdom to set the “merely good” aside in exchange for what is “better, even best.” When and how those choices are modified and altered will probably be different for each of us, but hopefully, shifting our attention and energy from the good to the best is something we will all endeavor to do more and more as the years go by.


The Question ~~~~ For all of us growing older involves a diminishment or compromise in our physical abilities or it eventually will. That leads us to consider that our lives do not stretch out before us endlessly. How do these realities affect the way you live?


ThePianoGuys ~~ cover ~~ Rolling in the Deep (Adele)

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"I have enjoyed greatly the second blooming.... Suddenly you find - at the age of 50, say, that a whole new life has opened before you. ~~~ Agatha Christie (1890-1976)


"Friendship is not a reward for our discrimination and good taste in finding one another. It is the instrument by which God reveals to each of us the beauty of all the others." ~~~ Clive Staples Lewis


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Her answer ~ I’m powerfully motivated to stay ‘capable.’ I live alone, relying on my own capabilities, so they require realistic attention. I’m going for 100 and wish it to be a vigorous time of my life. This means DOING certain things NOW. Things done for health and vitality at 80 already require attention.

Obviously, I’ll not be growing younger, so this is a great age to be with enthusiasm, and no meds or chronic illnesses. Just lucky? Not really. I was born & remain half blind. My bones were fragile: broke if I slipped on a wet sidewalk in my youth; - I had plenty of broken bones. At 24, varicose veins were worse than the doctors had seen in anyone of any age, requiring ‘stripping’, a procedure leaving pain and problems in its wake. I endured bad consequences of poor decisions & circumstances. In other words, it’s been an ordinary life. But awareness, endurance, triumph and a modicum of wisdom are its legacies. The lessons learned to choose better are working. It’s a reality-conscious way of life and the way I live mine and will continue to live it while it continues.


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His answer ~ I do not consider that the diminishment of my physical body tells me that my “life” does not stretch out endlessly. My belief is that the spirit within each of us never ends and that everything we do here ads to the great body of knowledge and experience that is the universe. So, having this belief I do not consciously change the things I do physically, but of course there are things I cannot do as I age physically. As this happens, I continually seek new things to keep busy, and seek knowledge that I can share with those following.


http://vincentmoore.hubpages.com/

His answer ~ I have been fit most of my life up until 50 years old. It's then that I had to compromise by watching my diet and my consumption and intake of unhealthy food and drink. I've felt the most part of aging with the soreness of certain joints and therefore had to address that issue. I have cut back on certain exercises and increased with moderation on others. I find watching what I place inside of my body is beneficial indeed as well as certain vitamin intake. I don't worry about my health, I simply become pro-active about any aches and pains and work on decreasing them. I LIVE my life with a positive attitude and that certainly helps me get through each day. I find most problems with the elderly starts with their thinking and how they react to any mental or physical problem they may be faced with. Staying POSITIVE is critical to better health.


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Her answer ~ A 2004 accident left me with physical challenges, forcing me to think about a future that arrived before I was ready, bringing early retirement and significant lifestyle changes. I selected a durable power of attorney and prepared my living will.

For months I went through a mourning process. Pity party over, I became pragmatic. Long self-sufficient, I had to learn to accept help gratefully. Fortunately, my situation grew no worse, and some aspects improved.

I’m blessed to have family living nearby, including a son who cheerfully does outdoor chores and repairs to “this old house.” Downsizing to a condo or apartment is in my future, and I’ll welcome less space to maintain. When my doctor recommends I stop driving, I won’t protest. Acceptance of change is the key to “getting on with life.”

Increased longevity means many of us may need assisted living arrangements in later years. I accept this possibility in advance, and my wishes are in writing. Advance preparation makes such transitions easier on families, and that’s important to me.


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"It is only by going down into the abyss that we recover the treasures of life. Where you stumble, there lies your treasure. The very cave you are afraid to enter, turns out to be the source of what you were looking for." ~~~ Joseph Campbell


"It is a mistake to regard Age as a downhill grade toward dissolution. The reverse is true. As one grows older, one climbs with surprising strides." ~~~ George Sand (1804-1876)


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Her answer ~ The reality of diminishing anything is a rude awakening. Some of the physical things you did just a few years ago are still doable but much more difficult. It seems each ten years of life you lose a little of something. When this happens you start to realize, "Hey, I'm human and I'm getting older!" (I refrain from using 'old' cause old is a state of mind.

Knowing that time is bringing us closer to our creator gives pause to how we are living our lives. I want to make sure that all my loved ones know I love them. To me, that is the most important. I make sure I say "I love you" every time I say goodbye. The rest I can deal with. Instead of five mile hike, it's just a three mile hike, instead of roller-blading around the neighborhood, it may just be a block or two.

As physical things get more difficult, reflection takes it place. We reflect on what we've done and what we still have time to do. We become more caring and more aware, so I guess my answer to this question would be the affect on my life is to become more loving and more reflective.



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His answer ~ Karl van Bonstatten (1745-1832), who lived a good long time for his era, said: "To resist the frigidity of old age, one must combine the body, the mind and the heart - and to keep them in parallel vigor, one must exercise, study and love."

The reality of aging is something we all live with, but as the years go by, there is no avoiding the reality that our physical abilities will eventually diminish. I deal with that by eating a healthy diet, exercising as regularly as possible, and I have taken various vitamin supplements for over thirty years now. I joke that I owe my continuing good health and vitality to black coffee, red wine and vitamins, all of which I have some of daily.

I keep a copy of The Lovesong of J. Alfred Prufrock, by T. S. Eliot handy and read it regularly. When I see that line about "how his arms grow thin," I grab my weights and do some curls.

"Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don't mind, it doesn't matter." Mark Twain (1835-1910)


http://tomcornett.hubpages.com/

His answer ~ If I could have looked in the mirror 20 years ago and see myself as I am now, I would probably say, "Tom, you should have taken better care of yourself." I am far more worn out from work when I get home these days. I do a lot of physical labor but I love working with my hands. I take pride in my work.

Retirement just doesn't fit who I am. Even if I hit the lottery, I would still work in some way. I climb ladders almost every day in my current job. I climb a bit slower now but I make it to the top just fine. Over the years, I've learned to deal with stress in different ways. As a younger man, I lashed out at the world. Now I sit back and try to understand...then lash at the world, a little gentler.

I've tried to picture myself at a hundred years old. A tired old man who was ready for death long before his hundredth birthday. I ran through the gauntlet of life in my youth. The gauntlet has changed now that I'm older but my determination hasn't. I've become less tolerant of intolerance and more tolerant of my own failures that haunted me for years.

The reality that I'm growing older doesn't bother me much. Little fears run through my mind occasionally like Alzheimer's, dementia, cancer and other life destroying diseases. I have a greater fear of being a burden than of dying. I often choose bliss over brains for the sake of my sanity. I love the peace of life and I do enjoy the fruits of my labor.

I've tried living day by day and I could do so if I wasn't so obsessed with the whole picture of my life. I see the sweet faces of my wife, children and grandchildren, wondering how their lives will change without me. I will live on in their hearts....maybe there will be no change at all? Love is endless.


http://silvergenes.hubpages.com/

Her answer ~ Accepting limitations is not easy. There are some things I'm not going to do in this lifetime no matter how much I may wish it otherwise. However, there are compromises I can make and indulge my younger self who still lives within this aging body. It's true that I will never be a prima ballerina but I can play the music and dance in my living room. I can go to an evening ballet class structured for all ages and yes, there really are such things. The question I must ask myself is whether or not this is of paramount importance to me. It is time to prioritize because there are only so many hours in a day. Do I really want to go on that photography trip to Guatemala and how much am I willing to sacrifice to make that happen? Do I want to learn a new language? Jump out of a plane? These are the things I ask myself but when all is said and done, what I want is a little house by the sea where I can write a novel and curl up by the fire in the evening with a good book. Instead of finding all the reasons why I can't possibly do that right now, I decided to make it happen. The house is waiting for me and I am driving 3000 miles to fulfill a dream. By the time this is published, I will be there.


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"Time is the coin of your life. It is the only coin you have, and only you can determine how it will be spent. Be careful you let other people spend it for you." ~~~ Carl Sandburg (1878-1967)


"We must strengthen, defend, preserve, and comfort one another, We must love one another. We must bear one another's burdens, We must rejoice together, mourn together, labor and suffer together." ~~~ John Winthrop



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His answer ~ Honestly, if I allow it, I get severely-depressed at knowing that "I" cannot run with my grandchildren because of this "beast," Accelerated Fibromyalgia, and do other things with him and his sisters, who are truly "gifts" of God. I can only work to remain focused on what I 'can' still do like verbally-encourage them and coach them in teachable moments. Do I feel good all of the time? No. Can I live with the feeling-less changes that come over me that affect my body and emotions? Yes. A moment at the time, for strength is not measured by one heavy lift, but several small lifts.


http://kathleencochran.hubpages.com/

Her answer ~ I don’t know when exactly it happened, but at some point it dawned on me. I have fewer days left than the number I’ve already had. It does change things. If my husband and I can pool our pennies and go on a trip, we go. We can fix the roof when we are too old to travel. We aren’t guaranteed good health, so we are not going to take it for granted while we have it. The kids all got their college educations, and now that is done, what else really matters? We feel a freedom to choose our financial priorities now instead of the way they are pretty much set for you when you have a young family. In this economy we’ve felt compelled to be a financial safety net for our grown children, but I think we can to do less of that as they are standing more on their own. I believe you should always have a dream, but over the years, they do get pared down some. If I’m going to become a world renowned author, you know what? I actually have to write something. So I’ve made writing a priority instead of just a sideline activity. Maybe I would have sooner if there had been a HubPages twenty years ago!


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His answer ~ The evidence of my diminished physical capacity is a clear reminder that I am a mortal and finite being, whose days on earth are numbered. This physical evidence in conjunction with the Biblical reality that “It is appointed for a man to die once, and then the judgment”, gives me a sense of urgency to do as much good as I possibly can and to love the Almighty with all of my heart, soul, and mind.

Because I know that death patiently awaits and that judgment lies just beyond the grave, I know the things I do while I live on earth will be the basis of my impending judgment. I know Jesus will be my advocate before His Father’s throne, so anyone who reaches out to embrace Him in this life, will be in good hands in the life to come.


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My answer ~ We are growing older, that is for certain. Knowing that, I try to make wiser choices, distinguish between the urgent and the important, the good and the great. That means being more selective about the responsibilities I accept, more cautious about additional duties. I spend less time straightening the house and more time with family and friends, having a good time and messing it up. Surprisingly, I find that I read fewer new books, but find myself re-reading older ones that have been particularly meaningful at some earlier point in my life. I listen more and interrupt less; my opinions and judgments are not as important as I once thought. Great, beautiful, and inspiring music, although, always important to me, has taken center stage in my life, along with language which nourishes my heart and soul.

I am still curious about everything, but not everything deserves my full attention. Thankfully, it has become less necessary, that what I say receive everyone’s full attention; I am still working on maintaining a healthy, but not overweening ego. I have a practice which may seem depressing to some, but does not depress me; it helps me prioritize and maintain balance and is very freeing. Now, before I make an important decision or begin a new project, I ask myself, “If I only have five more years left to live, do I want to spend them doing this?” Then everything becomes exceedingly and abundantly clear.


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The String Quartet ~~ cover ~~ Clocks (Cold Play)


"To keep the heart unwrinkled, to be helpful, kindly, cheerful, reverent - that is to triumph over old age." ~~~ Thomas Bailey Aldrich (2003)


"Perhaps one has to be very old before one learns to be amused rather than shocked." ~~~ Pearl S. Buck (China, Past and Present, 1972)


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His answer ~ Great question. I think it's like a forced shift of focus for us from the physical to the mental/emotional. We're more physically strong when younger and more mentally (and hopefully emotionally) stronger when older. I have friends who still carry a wistfulness of youth with them as they age - the "glory days" mentality. I don't criticize, even though I don't understand why someone would live in yesterday instead of today. I like to understand, and I like to be prepared. So those combine to create a curiosity for me about aging and death. I'm not afraid of and I look forward to both. I'm not trying to hurry them along, but as they creep toward me, I'm going to smile and peacefully accept them. So I ran my first marathon last year, to prove to myself I could do it, and because I know as time goes on, that will be a harder and harder goal. In my sunset years, I plan to devote more and more of my time to writing and intellectual pursuits, which match up better with physical decline.


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His answer ~ One day at a time is how I live my life. As I wake up each morning, I utter a prayer of thanksgiving for another glorious day of life. As I place my head on my pillow each night, I thank God for His grace in granting me another day of sobriety. I recall my childhood bedtime prayer as if it were learned just yesterday:

“Now I lay me down to sleep. I pray the Lord, my soul to keep.

And if I die before I wake, I pray the Lord my soul to take.”

During my waking hours, I drink the savory juices of an abundant life. My ears are tuned to the music of God’s symphony. My eyes are open to the many miracles of God’s creation and His presence. My hands are extended in readiness to be of service to others and comfort them in their trials. My feet dance daily the jig of joy which I have been blessed to feel. I live life as if each day is the last.

"Life can only be understood backwards, but it must be lived forwards." ~ Soren Kierkegaard


http://jackwms.hubpages.com/

His answer ~ At age 76, I realize these things more and more. For most of my life, I've been an avid hiker and quite active in other ways. I live in the Northwest and spend times in and around Mt Rainier National Park and on the Olympic Peninsula. In recent years, my head has told me I can still climb mountains. Then my body says, "no way". Hip replacement, major back surgery, and other ailments have entered into the picture. I still hike, but at a much slower pace and with a different (senior) group. Probably when I was in my 20's and 30's, it seemed that life stretched out endlessly. I had four sons and was quite involved in their activities. We hiked, camped, traveled, and generally lived the good life. I've blended into the aging process such that I enjoy it even with decreased physical abilities. I like being able to relax more and I like the slower pace. It is also such a pleasure to watch your children grow and develop and have their own children. I have ten grandchildren and a new great grandson. I have no desire to keep up with them and like being the grandpa figure.

Of course, I don't like the aches and pains that come with age, but this is a great time in life. We're all going to pass on at some point, but we sure don't want to dwell on that aspect. There is so much to enjoy today.


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His answer ~ The wonderful thing about growing up is that we progressively let go of trivialities, things that don’t really matter and we give more attention to the things that do. I suppose it is like a natural theory of conservation. I have less fuel, but, I’m not going as far. There is less waste at my age, because my car doesn’t accelerate as fast, it doesn’t go as far and it doesn’t carry as much baggage. However, a well planned excursion, with the top down, my gal in her seat and some cranked up tunes, still provides me, one hell of a ride. As most of you know, I am a natural at nap. I discovered long ago that it is a gift and its occasional employment lengthens both my day and my attention span. The nice thing about driving at reduced speeds is that you actually see where you’re going. If you go real slow, you can simultaneously see where you are, where you’re going and where you’ve been. No wonder I’m tired. You try being in three places at once.

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"In spite of illness, in spite even of the arch-enemy sorrow, one can remain alive long past the usual date of disintegrating if one is unafraid of change, insatiable in intellectual curiosity, interested in big things and happy in small ways." ~~~ Edith Wharton (1862-1937)


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Das Ende Isvada Conclusio’ Wniosek L’extremite’ Casgliad Sonuc


"In all of our lives, it is ultimately the Journey, not the destination that matters. Many destinations are never, can never be, attained; sometimes the days and years of the Journey are all we have. Lived purposely, wisely, joyously, the Journey will surprise us and be more than enough." ~~~~~~ Theresa Ast (1996)



Conclusion ~~~ Time can be viewed as an implacable enemy who robs us (but this is neither constructive nor slows the passing years), or time can be embraced as one of our dearest friends who reminds us to choose wisely, to embrace life fully in all its vagaries and imperfections, to hold family and friends close telling them often how much they mean to us, to marvel at the Creator and his infinitely inspiring and breath-taking creation, to explore new and wondrous things by traveling across this amazing planet we call home or by traveling inward to discover and appreciate the things of the heart, to make peace with less than stellar choices made long ago, to revel in music and art and design and beauty, to appreciate language, the words of others, and even the words we are fortunate and blessed enough to pen ourselves. Selah.


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The sixteen authors who participated in this series, The Journey: A Look at Aging, all have two things in common: 1) all are fellow Hubber-writers, and 2) all are 'of an age' which qualifies them to speak first-hand on the subject of Aging. We're not all at the same stage in the aging process. We are in our fifties, sixties, seventies; one of us, Nellianna, who compiled our fist chapter is eighty. We are a cross-section of real people with varied life-experiences, willing to share some thoughts with you about our lives, and the aging process as we understand and have experienced it.

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PREVIOUS CHAPTER: The Journey: A Look at Aging ~~ Chapter 11

Question: “If you could write a script that described your life, what was its driving force or the principle which gave you direction. Is it what you want to be remembered for?" http://cjsledgehammer.hubpages.com/hub/The-Journey-Chapter-11


NEXT CHAPTER: The Journey: A Look at Aging ~~ Chapter 13

Question: “What was your most important, fork - n - the road - moment? With the wisdom that comes with experience, would you make the same choice? Why or why not?“ http://gerg.hubpages.com/hub/The-Journey-Chapter-13


Vitamin String Quartet ~~ cover ~~ Set Fire to the Rain (Adele)

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billybuc 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

I'm so glad you are a part of this series, Theresa! You are an excellent writer and I value your opinion on all subjects. Wonderful job here!


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tillsontitan 4 years ago from New York

Voted up, useful and interesting. It is interesting to see how each answer though different shares a common thread...we seem to try to take our physical limitations in stride. "Accept the things I cannot change" the prayer we all need to live by.

You've done a lovely job with your quotes and beautiful pictures to compliment this pensive question.


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Jackwms 4 years ago

Fantastic. I knew your post would be great when I read your original post and your responses to others. Your photos, videos, and tremendous wisdom really made this outstanding. Good job.


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JayeWisdom 4 years ago from Deep South, USA

I continue to be exhilarated as each new chapter of The Journey meets that high bar set in Chapter 1. I really enjoyed your inclusion of relevant quotations, which were augmented by others within the answers to your question. The quotation from 1996 by Theresa Ast that speaks of The Journey gave me goosebumps, and I think your participation in this series on Aging was meant to be!

Nellieanna gives new meaning to the word "triumph", and I say "Hurrah!" to silvergenes' seizing the moment to fulfill a special dream. The other answers from my colleagues in this venture gave me much food for thought. I continue my education (and adventure) in aging well.

A terrific hub! Jaye


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phdast7 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

Jaye - Seeing each new chapter posted is exhilarating, isn't it? :) I started collecting meaningful quotations in my journal when I was 19. By my mid twenties the demand of three active little boys put an end to my journaling days. :) But I kept collecting snippets of everything I read and tossed them into a large envelope. There are now three large envelopes and when I went hunting for quotations a couple of weeks ago, I was surprised to find the one from 1996.

I was in the middle of grad school back then and I have no idea what I was reading at the time or what led me to write that. But as you said, it was like my participation was meant to me, intended all along. The connection was so perfect, I couldn't not include it. :) Thank you for your encouraging comments. This has been a wonderful and expansive learning experience.


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Curiad 4 years ago from Lake Charles, LA.

Beautifully written Theresa, a great continuation of this Journey!


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xstatic 4 years ago from Eugene, Oregon

As others have said this is a wonderful presentation. I was really enjoying the quotations you used in the introduction (and throughout) when I came upon my own answer wherein I used two quotations. I had forgotten I did that altogether. This will be a Hub that deserves reading and rereading for the quotations and for the wisdom contained in the various writer's answers.

Thank you for being a part of this, and thank Alan for the concept and Nellieanna for her wisdom and expertise. Thank all the other writers who joyfully put their best effforts into this series about the Journey as they do in living their lives.


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phdast7 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

Hi Billy - It has been a great experience. We answered the questions weeks and weeks ago, so it has been really interesting seeing how each person designed their individual hub. An come to find out we some great writers among us...and poets...and musicians. Who knew?. Thank you for your kind and encouraging words and for following the series so consistently. We appreciate you. :) Theresa


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phdast7 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

tllson - It was a pensive question wasn't it - I guess I am drawn to such questions, they speak to me somehow. Thank you for your generous comment - I am so glad that you and others have enjoyed the quotes and pictures. It was apleasure and a privilege pulling it all together and collaborating with the rest of you. Have a great week.


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sligobay 4 years ago from east of the equator

There is such a nice balance in your presentation. Your chosen photos move from spring to winter so nonchalantly. Your first photo depicts water under the bridge and your last displays the vastness and eternity of the universe.

Your musical score is evenly spaced and nicely accompanies the reading of the comments of our colleagues and the quotes of those who have experienced the aging process before us. There is much wisdom shared.

Your chosen quotes grab the reader's attention from the starting gate.: "...by 'writing,' man has been able to put something of himself beyond death." For a coven of aging writers, it was sheer witchcraft to tease with the immortality of words.

This chapter is a wonderful addition to our collective Journey and the 1996 quote of Theresa Ast was chock full of insight and prophecy. Well done!


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Nellieanna 4 years ago from TEXAS

I knew your Chapter would be outstanding, Theresa - and you fully surpassed "best" - (by the standard you introduced - good, better, best.) Yet you didn't seem to strive for it; it just poured forth like fine wine from a seasoned cask!

Each element of your hub is, frankly - thrilling! The music blew me away. The quotations fit so perfectly, surely they must have originally been written for our collaboration; - the writers just didn't realize it! Your pictures seem to depict aspects of the process of aging in splendid , delightful and - at times - surprising ways!

I love the way you broke up the answers with injections and sprinklings of these elements when and where it enhanced the procession of answers so well.

Your own quotation, - speaking of the Journey so many years before this venture with this collaboration, - is truly mystical, like it was a peek into the future. Who knows how many peeks into the yet-unknown futures of each of us these ideas and the extraordinary camaraderie we've experienced in writing this together, yet separately - may be presenting!

I'm so pleased to be able to encourage my online (and even offline) friends to look into this Journey, knowing I can fully assure them they will NOT be disappointed and that each Chapter is outstanding, an experience in itself. Each one I'm reading makes my heart swell with delight and - yes -pride, in being a part of it!!

(And - I appreciate the kind words many of you have expressed about my input!)


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ThoughtSandwiches 4 years ago from Reno, Nevada

Theresa,

This a beautifully nuanced view of ageing and recognition of what is important when you realize that the hour glass is running out. At 48 I have been feeling how quickly those sands tend to run. Gravity, like ageing, happens.

I like your 5 year rule to see if something should have relevance to you. As I always assumed I would kick it at like 60...I have been applying the 12-year rule. You seem to have a more healthy approach. I usually feel like I am applying it in desperation...you know..."Shit, I only got 12 years left...!"

Great Job! In reference to my above statement...I REALLY like the Agatha Christie quote above!

Thomas


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phdast7 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

Thank you Jack for your gracious comments and encouragement, I think this has been a great and eye-opening experience for all of us. BTW, I am going to show your comment to my three grown sons as soon as possible...they do not generally think of me as someone who possesses "tremendous wisdom." :) But now I have it in writing. :) Have a wonderful week.


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phdast7 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

Thank you so much Curiad. And you put it well, the chapters of The Journey are a continuation of each of our personal journeys. Take care.


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phdast7 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

xstatic - The quotations are interesting. I decided to use some and was going through the unfinished hub trying to decide the best fit for each one...and there was your answer with two quotations. Such a perfect collaboration, in more ways than one. :) We do owe each other a thank you, but especially Alan and Nellieanna are worthy of a great thank you for calling us together, inspiring us, designing the collaborative project and for smoothing out and providing all the technical expertise needed. Quite frankly, in the dictionary under the word "collaboration" there should be a picture of all sixteen of us authors together. :) Blessings.


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arb 4 years ago from oregon

I tire of saying it was expected. Perhaps I simply surround myself with people so extravagantly endowed. Perhaps I am simply drawn to elegance in words tempered with character worth knowing, worth spending time with. My expectation comes in knowing you and knowing whatever you choose to do you do with heart, with intellect and despite your measured way, your soul slips in to subdue whatever mind and heart have failed to capture. An exceptional effort, an exceptional conclusion. All that I knew was forth coming.

BTW, the answers alone deserve praise. They are not trite. They are raw, honest, unguarded, reflective, sincere and worthy of applause.


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eHealer 4 years ago from Las Vegas

Wow, this is epic! An amazing and interesting subject. Aging is uniquely ours and everyone handles it differently, but we all age very similar. Beautiful hub and very well written. Can't wait until the next one. Thank you so much to all of you that worked so hard and so well together.


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pmorries 4 years ago from Golden, CO

Phdast,

Your article was well said, well done, and a pleasure to read. I love quotes , and you combined them with pictures and music to make a rich tapestry to communicate and entertain us with. I found it interesting that you brought up your love of music. Music is so important to us when we are teenagers... then it seems to fade out of our lives. A few years ago, I realized that I missed music and started to really listen to it again. In closing, I voted your hub up and shared.


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phdast7 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

sligobay - You are the first person to comment on the fact that the pictures move from spring through to winter. Maybe I was too subtle, although I like your word immensely, "nonchalantly." :) I am so glad you enjoyed the music; I kept rethinking the spacing. It probably sounds silly, but I like each piece so much, it was hard to put one of them last.

Your comments are generous and thoughtful, and I have a favorite sentence. "For a coven of aging writers, it was sheer witchcraft to tease with the immortality of words." What a marvelously descriptive sentence... I just loved it. :) When I found the 1996 quote in the bottom of huge envelope it was almost too good to be true. You are a true encourager. Be well. Theresa


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phdast7 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

Dear Nellieanna - Oh, I am so glad you loved the music. Everybody has different tastes in music...finally I decided to just use pieces that I listen to a lot. :) And I agree with you, I think all those writers were writing for us, unbeknownst to them. I was so pleased and amazed when I found my own quote from 1996 while looking for all the others.

The level of camaraderie has been amazing...I think the only hubbers I really knew before we embarked on our collaborative literary adventure were Alan, xstatic and you. Just like you, I not only have no qualms, I am delighted to recommend this series to my friends and followers. :)

I hope the rest of your week goes splendidly. Theresa


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phdast7 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

Thank you, Thomas -. I understand 48 and 60. And I understand the "desperation nature" of your twelve year rule (very funny by the way). My mother died when she was 49, so all through my forties, I tried to spend my time wisely, invest in family and friends, and so forth , in case 49 years were my allotted years as well. When I turned fifty-one I started applying the five-year guide. When I turn 60 (just three years away) my standard will be two years. If I live past 65, I guess it will be the one year rule. :)

I like the Agatha Christie quote as well. I so appreciate your visit and your comments. :) You have a unique and charming ability to be both very funny and very encouraging at the same time. Have a wonderful week. :)

Theresa


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phdast7 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

Alan -

Your warm and lovely comments are encouragement to continue moving forward, but also affirmation of what already is, and who I already am. It has been a joy to read each hub and see the authors stamp upon it. I think we are better at this than perhaps I thought we were.

You are right - the answers are raw, honest, unguarded, reflective, sincere and worthy of applause. Great things often have quiet and small beginnings. And all this abundance and creativity began with your idea. Rather amazing. All thinking should be so fruitful. :)

Theresa


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Gerg 4 years ago from California

Theresa - wonderfully done. My favorite line? Yours: "Now, before I make an important decision or begin a new project, I ask myself, “If I only have five more years left to live, do I want to spend them doing this?” Then everything becomes exceedingly and abundantly clear."

Kudos for a great hub!

G


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phdast7 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

Good Morning eHealer. Can we please be best friends? I don't think anyone has ever described anything I have been involved in as "epic." :) Your point is well taken - the most important facet of our aging is how we handle it. I couldn't agree more. I am glad you thought it was beautiful. I wanted it to be meaningful, but also lovely to look at. I hope you are having a good day. :)


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phdast7 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

Good Morning Patrick. It is funny how so many of us do let our focus on music fade. I guess there wasn't much music in my life between 21 and 29. I was busy raising three little boys and we were poor, close to Food Stamp poor, so there was no money for records or tapes. But our finances began looking up and my husband, who as a teenager was quite the audiophile and music snob, came home one day with mysterious new music components, including some very impressive speakers - sent the children outside to play, handed me head phones and told me to close my eyes, and started playing a CD by Mannheim Steamroller. The music just washed over me ad it was so beautiful and so pure I started crying. Since then I have not been without music. I listen primarily to rock, alternative rock and folk music. Don't care for a lot of classical music, although I love a symphony orchestra or strings backing up a classic rock song. Just recently I discovered the groups I featured in Chapter 12 - classically trained musicians doing these incredible and luscious (yes, I said luscious) covers of very modern songs. Needless to say, I love it.

Thank you for reading and commenting on my chapter - Your description of it as a "rich tapestry" pleased me no end. And aren't quotes wonderful? :) I have been saving them in several notebooks and folders since I was in my late tens. I appreciate the encouragement and votes. :)

BTW, I completed Chapter 12 about two weeks ago and then posted it on my assigned day. So intrigued by your suggestion I have been working on two "different" pieces. I tried and tried to imagine how I would write a short story set in WW II, set anywhere in the world and anytime. I got nothing. But two personally based stories emerged. One about creativity and one about a life-altering family crisis. Perhaps we can negotiate the original terms of the deal. :) Take care, Theresa


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phdast7 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

Hi Gerg - Thank you so much. Your words are encouraging. That line has really helped me to sort out my priorities. In my family people tend to die fairly young, so when I turn sixty, the new paradigm that will guide my decision making is --- what do I want to accomplish, how do I want to invest my time and energy these next "two" years?

I hope you are having a great week. Blessings! Theresa


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fiftyish 4 years ago from UK & South East Asian Region

Sometimes I think I look, and feel, incredibly young for my now 50 years.

Other times I feel that I'm ageing prematurely.

It is times like the later that I ask myself if I have everything in my life to live a good day TODAY. The answer so far, has always been YES :)

It's times like the former that I remember my favourite old English Proverb; 'A man is not old until his dreams become his regrets'

Andy Aitch


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Frank Atanacio 4 years ago from Shelton

Phdast its good to read your views.. and as important as aging is.. aging is like taxes inevitable... but it really boils down to what you do in that length of time you have also called life.. this chapter makes me think (ponder) even doubt.. well anyways thanks for sharing your views


Vincent Moore 4 years ago

Your Hub and topic like others before you and those yet to follow is magnificently written. I loved your inclusion of quotes from various writers. To enter old age is a challenge indeed, to enter it with all body parts working fine and in tune and harmony is definitely a bonus.

So far I have reached my 63rd birthday in fine fashion. A few aches and pains in my lower back and knee joints and that's about it. No medications of any kind and doing my best to choose wisely the foods and drink that enter my body. I look forward to coming back to read this brilliant work time and time again. It's inspiring to me. Peace and blessings to you Phdast.


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Kathleen Cochran 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia

This is a crazy week for me with grandchildren and family dinners and trying to head to the beach. Somehow I got the chapters out of order and just read yours. I feel like I picked up a coffee table box from a great gallery. Loved the layout and the way you broke up our answers with a visual treat of varying kinds. I knew yours would be unique!


CJ Sledgehammer 4 years ago

Oh, Theresa - you have done a marvelous thing. What a lovely addition to our series. Your beautiful and carefully crafted hub, is a work of art, and the twelfth feather in our collective cap.

At the end of the day, I do think it is important to realize our mortality, and thus, come to terms with the hereafter. Once reality has settled in, and aging is no longer seen as the bane of our existence - we can better prioritize the time we have by investing our days, hours, and minutes, in meaningful pursuits.

Thank you, once again, for such a sterling performance...you gave us a gift and you should be commended for it. :0)

May God bless your every thought, word and deed - C.J. Sledgehammer

P.S. I forgot to mention that I feel the collection of quotes, music, and lovely pictures, added beauty and depth to an otherwise fantastic hub.


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JaneA 4 years ago from California

Wow - what a thing you have created! Especially true for me is "letting go of trivialities". That, surely, is the true dividend of aging.


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phdast7 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

Hello Andy - I love the proverb. I had never heard it before. I am a lot like you, sometimes I fel quite young and other times I feel quite old. Thanks for commenting. :)


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phdast7 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

Good Evening Frank. You are such a faithful reader and commenter and you are much appreciated. :) If this chapter made you think, ponder, even doubt a little, then I consider it a success. You said in few words what we said in so, so, so many. We must use our time wisely. Take care. Theersa


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phdast7 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

Hi Vincent - I am so glad you appreciated the quotes. I had been collecting them for years and this seemed like a perfect opportunity to make use of some of them. Old age certainly can be a challenge; that you have reached 63 with nothing more than aches and pains (not that I am making light of them) is quite an accomplishment. Isn't it great that wecan come back and read the chapters any time we feel the need to or the inclination. Thank you for all the generous and encouraging comments. Blessings to you as well. :)


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phdast7 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

Hi Jane- Why thank you. It was a lot of work, but extremely satisfying to design and create my thing/chapter! :) Thanks for visiting and commenting. Hope you are having a great week. :)


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phdast7 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

Kathleen - I know what those crazy weeks are like, but we wouldn't have it any other way, would we? I love coffee table books and I have several, but alas no coffee table so they sit in a place of honor on a side table. So I take your mention of coffee table books and a great gallery as high praise. :) Have a wonderful time at the beach with your family!


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teaches12345 4 years ago

This helps put things into perspective: live life to the fullest and enjoy the ride. Aging is a process that we should look at as a journey to wisdom. Great hub post and very enjoyable to read.


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phdast7 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

Good Early, Early Morning CJ -- Thank you for your wonderful and generous comments. I had very artistic grandparents. I do think I inherited any artistic sensibilities I have from them and they would be so pleased to hear you compare my hub to a work of art. I am so glad you enjoyed the quotes, music, and pictures. They meant a lot to me and looking for just the right pieces was truly a labor of love.

I think you are right, we should prioritize so that we can attend to meaningful pursuits and then trust God to help us use out time well. Take good care. Blessings! Theresa


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phdast7 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

Hello teaches - And we so need perspective as we move through our lives! At least I certainly do. :) "Journey to wisdom" I like that. :) I am so glad you enjoyed this chapter; it was a pleasure to create it. Theresa


SilverGenes 4 years ago

Theresa, I have read this hub and come back to it many times because your question speaks volumes to me right now. I have been carried off in thought by the music you chose and been present for conversations with remarkable people through the quotes and the responses from our group of sixteen. Each time I read, I come away with more. Limitations - just the word used to filled me with dread but it doesn't anymore. It is just another factor in considering choices and may require the construction of an alternate route but this revelation was a long time coming. My personal story includes a devastating illness in my mid-thirties that left me with limitations years ahead of time, if one considers the normal course of aging. My 23-year old daughter recently reminded me of the path one takes when faced with seemingly insurmountable obstacles. It was a funny story really - her hair colouring experiment at home had gone wrong, resulting in flaming red hair. She looked in the mirror, then dug out some rather different colours from her makeup palette and began re-creating her look. "If I have red hair, so be it. Embrace the ging (ginger)." That has become a standard phrase now at our house, when one is faced with challenges!

Thank you for putting forth this question. You have created a piece of art filled with signposts and gentle guides to fulfilling George Sand's observations.


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phdast7 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

Alexandra - My apologies for taking so long to respond to your wonderful comments. I am teaching history and Interdisciplinary studies courses this summer and they keep me awfully busy. I am so pleased that everything in the chapter spoke to you on some level. And I surely understand about limitations; they do not have to stop us - we just find new and different ways to do those things that are most important to us. I had a stroke and was unable to return to work for a year when I was 50, I cannot even imagine a devastating illness in my mid-thirties. I love the story about your daughter and her red hair - she has moxie. :) I Think I will add, "Embrace the ging!" to my personal list of favorite sayings. Thank you for your meaningful comments/ Take care. Theresa


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Tom Cornett 4 years ago from Ohio

I read the answers and listened to the music....both were wonderful. Every moment I read, listen or create is well spent because I learn. This has been and continues to be such a fine project. Thank you for this fine work of yours and for introducing me to such beautiful music. :o)


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phdast7 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

Thank you Tom. I appreciate your generous comments. :) Like you, I treasure the moments I spend in creative explorations, enjoyment, and endeavors. I am so pleased you enjoyed the music. Music like that crys out to be shared and it was my pleasure to do so. Take care. Theresa


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snakeslane 4 years ago from Canada

phdast, I really enjoyed your contribution to the 'Journey". I can see right from the start how much you value writing. From your opening quote by Julian Huxley, and all the other inspiring quotes throughout, a message rings loud and clear: Savour life, do not take it for granted! I also enjoyed the images you've used to illustrate the piece, and love the music you've selected. This is a fine and worthy piece of writing, and I appreciate so much that it is a collaborative effort, so well planned and orchestrated by arb, and played out beautifully by each of you. I am very impressed with your combined efforts. Regards, snakeslane


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phdast7 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

Hello snakeslane - Sorry for taking so long to respond to your generous and thoughtful comments (the Fall semester starts for me in two weeks and I just finished summer classes, so I am trying to get all my lectures and handouts and syllabi ready for the courses that will soon be starting).

I do indeed value good writing and of course clear thinking which underlies good writing. :) So glad the message was clear, that was my hope and intention. It was a great deal of pleasure to collect and decide upon which quotes and pictures and music should go where. And the collaborative aspect of this project has been very interesting and fruitful. arb did an excellent job of encouraging us and motivating us to see that together we are so much more that we are individually It was a great experience. Thank you for taking the time to read my chapter and I have noticed you leaving great comments for some of the others and I appreciate that as well. :) Take care. Theresa


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suzettenaples 4 years ago from Taos, NM

Beautiful hub! I like the quotes by others that you have included here. The photos are gorgeous. When I retired from teaching after 30 years, people were aghast. Whatever are you going to do? Do? I don't know where I found the time to work! LOL For me, retirement is bliss, because now I get to do all the things I didn't have the proper time to do - write, read, photography - now I get to do the things I have always wanted to do full time.

There are physical limitations as you get older. I try to age gracefully - exercise in some form, eat healthier, and reduce the stress. Your body does go through changes as it ages, but hopefully, I can take those in stride. Over all, Life is good!

Thank you for a thought provoking and insightful article on aging. I thoroughly enjoyed reading this.


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John Sarkis 4 years ago from Los Angeles, CA

Hi Theresa, and what a profound and beautiful hub this one is.

As you probably know, my dream is to one day retire to Florida.

I'm going through some difficulties with my Mom at this time; she's 81 years old and getting on. So your hub has personally touched me - but then so have most of your other intuitive and informative hubs have touched me as well.

Enjoy your day!

John


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tobusiness 4 years ago from Bedfordshire, U.K

A beautiful informative hub, insightful and so relevant for so many of us.

Traditionally, as we approach the age of 60 most of us are looking forward to a long retirement, not so these days, a lot of people. Have to go on working, to do this, one must learn how to keep body soul and mine ticking. I love all the quotes and input from other hubbers. Nice work.


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phdast7 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

Good Evening Suzette - I have loved quotes all my life and stated collecting them when I was 15. When I started thinking about this particular topic and looked through my envelopes. I was amazed and pleased at what I found. :) People have no idea what we "don't have time for" when we are working full time. I have all kinds of things I want to do when I retire - just eight more years. :) I am so glad life is good for you in spite of age's little encroachments. Thank you so much for your kind and generous compliments. :) Theresa

P.S. I must admit I have been a bit jealous, and in awe, of your prolific posting on HP (yet always quality - which is not true of a lot of hubbers, sadly), when it is all I can do to answer comments and try to finish a Hub a week. Often I do not even manage that. So, I look forward to retirement. :)


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phdast7 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

Thank you for your generous comments John -

It was a privilege, challenge, and pleasure to be involved in a thematic series on aging and how we live while we age. I am sorry things are difficult for you and your mother. Does she sill live on her own? Does she live near you?

My father died December 2010. He had been in very poor health (living with my sister) for the previous five years. Fortunately I lived pretty close and I spent every other Saturday with him. He was in a wheelchair, but we were able to include him in family dinners and gatherings and he loved his church, so that was a great blessing.

Being with our loved one's as they approach the end of their years can be both joyful and at times emotionally painful and stressful. I will pray for you and your mother. Blessings.

Theresa


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phdast7 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

I appreciate your comments tobusiness. And you are so right about how retirement expectations have changed. I will not be able to retire until I am 68 if I want to receive my full Social Security benefit. I love what I do, teaching, but I do have some health concerns that may prevent me from working full-time until then. We have to start planning now for our emotional, and physical lives in the years to come. Thanks again. :)


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AudreyHowitt 4 years ago from California

This is such an interesting hub! Interesting series really! I am a 50 something and sang mezzo-soprano professionally for most of my professional life--and in the last 2 years I have moved up to spinto soprano--most 50+ move down--so I think I will go with it while it lasts--sharing this!


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phdast7 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

Thank you Audrey. It was Alan's brainchild and he gathered us all together and organised us. Answering each other's questions and building our individual chapters was our focus for about six weeks this summer. That is interesting, because the expectation would be for the voice to drop lower, mine certainly has, not that I ever sang professionally. Definitely go with it. :) Thanks for sharing. :)


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marcoujor 4 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

Phdast7,

I am slowly going through this fascinatingly compiled series.

Your question was excellent and brought forth much wisdom and self-actualization in answers. Your quotes strewn throughout were perfectly selected.

I have never heard Adele's music as instrumental... How exquisite.

Voted UP and UABI. Thank you, Maria


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phdast7 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

Hello marcoujor -- It is an interesting series, isn't it. Thank you for your kind and generous comments. I have been collecting quotes off and on for years and this seemed like the perfect opportunity to use some of them. I am crazy about Adele work and when I found the instrumental, I fell in love with it too. Thank you for the votes and for working your way through the series. I hope you have a good week ahead of you. :)


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Mr. Happy 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada

"Sometimes we begin to adjust or re-prioritize our goals and lives when we realize that more than half of our allotted years are now behind us." - Not long ago, in a discussion with someone about 2012 and the perception of the end of the world (one I do not indulge in but I do see floating around), I was told that if the end of the world is indeed coming, we should get our "spiritual house" in order.

I laughed and my only response was that, if one needs to be scared into getting their "spiritual house" in order then, I suppose the end of the world story is necessary. The same may be said about the way we live our lives in general. Sometimes, a near-death experience or even just thinking about our Death, can help us make more thoughtful choices in our lives.

"aging well" - I like this term. Makes me think of really good wines and cheeses. I like wine and cheese - they also make a good combination. : )

Great article! Thank You to everyone who worked at putting it together.

All the very best!


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TIMETRAVELER2 4 years ago

As with all of your work, this one was beautifully done. As a person who is undoubtedly older than most of the people who write here, I have an "enhanced" view of aging LOL!! This is what I can tell you: Living is hard, dying is easy. I have faced death several times in my life and I have a number of major health problems...yet, here I am sitting in my RV in a resort area waiting to go to yet another senior buffet and play a few slots. The strength of the human spirit is limitless!!! Great job, as usual and voted up.


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phdast7 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

WhiteWolf -- I am in total agreement. One should not have to be scared into getting their spiritual (or emotional or familial) house in order. It is pretty sad if it is only fear that motivates some people to really examine their lives and the principles they live by.

I never thought about how the phrase "aging well" so aptly applies to wine and cheese (good things indeed) so perhaps it is quite appropriate for human aging, seasoning, ripening as well. Glad you liked the article and the series. It was a bit of work, but so very worth it...the brain-child of arb / Alan. :)

I trust things are well with you. My apologies for being out of touch so long...my middle son ended up in the hospital four weeks ago with a massive leg infection that became a systemic infection. The potent IV antibiotics controlled the infection, but severely damaged his kidneys. It has been real touch and go, but a week ago they sent him home and he will return to work in another week or two. We are all breathing a little easier now and getting some sleep.

Take care. Theresa


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phdast7 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

TT -- Thank you for your kind and generous comments. Your opening comment brought tears to my eyes...I am not usually quite so maudlin, but it was nice to have someone notice that I do try to make each hub elegant or striking or beautiful, as well as interesting to read....it helps of course that I don't expect to make any serious money...and I don't!! :) It was quite an experience, both as a group and individually, to craft this particular hub.

You are right of course, dying can be relatively easy compared to the hard work of life itself. I have about 9 more years of teaching before I can retire (67 if I want full SS benefits). My mother died at 49 (and I have some of her health problems) and my father at 76. I am hoping that like you, I will still be enjoying life in spite of difficulties for some time to come. A string and determined spirit, as you point out, is crucial. Glad you are enjoying your life! :)


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TIMETRAVELER2 4 years ago

Thanks so much! Two things for you to think about: 1) just because a parent died young it does not mean that the child will also die young 2) get the heck out of the classroom as soon as you are financially able to do so! I have seen too many teachers wait too long, kill themselves working and wind up with a pension they don't live long enough to enjoy. Death whispered in my ear "live, for I am coming". Nuff said.


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phdast7 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

I will take your advice to heart. I think I have nine more years before I can afford to retire, but that is not too bad, as I have only been teaching 17 years. I got married at twenty, spent ten years having and raising three babies, went to college at 30 and spent ten years getting three degrees and started teaching college full time at 41. If the economy doesn't implode again I can retire at 67, However, keeping what you said in mind, if I win the lottery (not that I play) or some such, I will retire sooner. Thanks for the warning and encouragement. Theresa


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sligobay 3 years ago from east of the equator

Hello Theresa. I reread your entire Hub word for word and the comments. I reiterate my original comment. This is an excellent production integrating beautiful images, music and thoughts; paticularly your own quote. I would go on and on but I need to leave for an appointment. Best wishes to you and yours. Gerry


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phdast7 3 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

Good Evening Gerry. You are so far ahead of me in reading! You are the "speed racer" and I just plod along. Of course it doesn't matter at all. :) What matters is re-reading and"savoring" again (this time with no deadlines) the very good work that we all did together. Alan was a terrific instigator and leader.

Nellieanna, a great second in command and organizer...and all of us a great and supportive team, no, a family -- a literary family is more what we were. And who we are.

I think your reunion idea is a wonderful one and I thank you for your generous and encouraging words the second time around. :) Theresa


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AudreyHowitt 3 years ago from California

I saw this article up on my feed and I thought it appropriate to read it today--I cannot tell you when I realized that the back half was looming--but at some point I made that realization. And I have decided to do some things that I wasn't able when I was younger--maybe that is my way of keeping age at bay--or maybe that is my way of dealing with the press of time. It was so interesting to read everyone's experiences and feelings on the subject--I think this is a wonderful project!


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phdast7 3 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

Hi Audrey - I think I realized when I turned 45 and all three of my sons had moved out and started their own families. I began to go through my things and gave a lot of stuff to my children, but also to Good Will. I tried to minimize my possessions and reevaluate all my obligations, so that my time and energy was well spent. I was also motivated to do so because my mother died when she was 49. Of course every 3-4 years I try to reevaluate my possessions and obligations and make sure that I am living consciously and not just drifting. When I turned fifty I started doing something new. Every year as I think about and plan my life I assume I have a five year window and no more and then I plan and try to live accordingly. There are a few things that I will do if I have 10 or 15 years, but they will take care of themselves if I get there ( a cruise around Alaska after I retire, for example, but that is nine years away).

I am glad you have decided to do things you couldn't do when you were younger -- it may be keeping age at bay, but I think it sounds like living well and consciously and making whatever time you do have left count. It would be nice to arrive at the end of our lives with very few regrets. That would be my hope and prayer for both of us, well, really for everyone.

I am glad you found our personal; responses interesting. It was a wonderful project and the collaboration was both different and invigorating. One of the participants, Sligobay, has just contacted all of us to suggest that we do an anniversary hub, something much shorter and simpler. I think we will. :) Take care. Theresa


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sligobay 3 years ago from east of the equator

Hello Theresa. I am not racing -just gorging myself with the wonder of it all. Great hub as part of the greater whole is my observation. Be well.


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Don Bobbitt 2 years ago from Ruskin Florida

Hoorah! as a Young Marine would Yell on his way to his destiny on a Battlefield.

We are on our own Battlefield, swords out and with a thrust or a parry, we dodge the inevitable and when give the chance, we sip our Lager before entering the fray once again.

----- Great Article, I TOTALLY Enjoyed it!

Thanks for your work,

DON


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phdast7 2 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

Good Morning Don.

Hoorah! may just be one of the best compliments I have ever gotten. Thank you sir. And my thanks and gratitude for your service on behalf of our nation. I am so glad you enjoyed the article. And you are very welcome, it was a labor of love to fit it all together. The longer 16 part series on aging, envisioned and brought to life by hubber arb, is also excellent. Thank you for your encouraging comments. Have a great week! :) Theresa

I am so glad you enjoyed the article on Aging


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sligobay 2 years ago from east of the equator

Hi Thersa. Hoorah! This is high praise. I am glad that we are still getting some traffic to our project. Best, Gerry


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phdast7 2 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

Hi Gerry - It is indeed high praise and very welcome too. I just Shared your chapter and i the next week or two will share all of them. It was a gret project and I think in some ways touched and maybe even changed all of us. Take care. Theresa


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ahorseback 2 years ago

Theresa ! Wow , the quotes , the MUSIC ! The insight , I must say , if I had to pick the best hubber on hubs ?.......well we just won't go there , You always impress me in the depth ,in the awesome and total completion of your articles ! You my dear are a writer of the first order ! ....Ed ----Oh and the music !


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phdast7 2 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

You are too kind and too generous, Ed. I would never have thought to do this except that Alan Berry (arb) came up with the idea and gave us a focus and structure to work within. I have to admit I do love the quotes, pictures and music. :) I got to pick some of my favorite things. :) Have a wonderful weekend.

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