The Pros and Cons of Emotional Venting


In this day and age, what with the economy as it is, the strain on relationships is approaching monumental levels. It’s interesting to note that back in the days of the Great Depression, people were making babies and sticking together, through thick and thin, creating all sorts of “baby boomers” in their wake. In today’s world, however, the stresses and strains of everyday life seem to be ripping relationships to tatters. Everywhere we turn, people are venting all over the place.


The act of venting has positive and negative effects on more than just the person doing the said act. The opposing sides of this issue are what are being discussed in this writing.


On the positive side of the “vent” topic is the fact that all manner of health professionals say that releasing the rage is way more beneficial to the body than keeping it inside and creating a “stack attack.” That term was coined to express a visual of stacking issue upon issue deep down inside and allowing it to build up and explode much in the same way the steam explodes out of the top of a tea kettle once it gets hot enough. Explosions are not good in this sense of the word. So, releasing it in POSITIVE ways is much more beneficial not only to the physical body, but to the mind, the emotions, and the spiritual part of the whole being.



Positive ways to vent might include the following:


*screaming into a pillow, as it is not physically or emotionally harmful to the “ventor” or anyone within the immediate area


*punching a pillow or a punching bag, as this, too, hurts no one else


*taking a long, fast – paced walk, to burn off some of that frustration and anger – the endorphins created by this energy are the bio-chemicals that not only release physical pain from the body but also work as calming, vibrational energy to soothe the entire state of being


*listening to some calming, peaceful music while sitting quietly in a comfortable spot with your eyes closed, focusing on your breathing


*going to the movies to watch a funny film because they say laughter truly is the best medicine of all


*writing in a journal or a diary in 3 separate parts.


The first part is where you write what you’re feeling, why you’re feeling that way, and to whom that anger is addressed


The second part is where you write the above thoughts from the other person’s perspective – for example: how they feel about seeing you so angry, why they think you are angry with them, and how you think they would resolve the issue if they would choose to do so


The third part is where you would write the above as if it was being witnessed by a third, totally objective party. You would state what they are seeing as they observe your anger, they would state why they think you got so angry, and they would give a perspective as to how they would resolve that anger issue if they could.



By writing this scenario as if being viewed by three separate parties, it totally minimizes the negative impact and makes the issue seem less damaging and less overwhelming. Deepak Chopra is the man who spoke of creating this kind of exercise in his DVD entitled, “The Happiness Prescription.”


Each one of these positive choices is sure to bring some kind of positive result to an otherwise miserable experience.


On the negative side of venting, we have the effects of that venting being deluged upon the “ventee” as we shall so name them. The one listening to all the venting has good intentions, for the most part. They care about the “ventor”, they have compassion and empathy and concern for that individual and for those people in that person’s life that are being impacted by all that venting. The “ventee” is usually one who does all they can to be strong and to not take on the effects of the “ventor”. They realize that all the anger is not about them personally but the fact that they are human does not always protect them from the emotions and spewing of the above-said “ventor.” Even the most highly evolved beings have some kind of impact upon their personhood if they are continually barraged by a swarm of “ventors.” Swarm isn’t the appropriate word, but you get the gist of the idea.


This last paragraph is not stating that the “ventee” should shut down and refuse to listen to someone who reaches out for them in desperation. It is just saying that the “ventee” should prepare themselves mentally, emotionally, and spiritually if they are going to choose to be the “lifeline”, so to speak, for those they care about.


Each person, each event all have ways of playing themselves out and yet some “preventative measures” are most helpful in dealing with the end result when it comes to being on either side of the venting issue.


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama

12/6/2011

Dear Lene, voted up and away on this great hub. Very helpful to me, a person who needs to learn how to vent, for I have always just pent up what's eating me and those close to me always say that I am being negative when I DO vent. Thanks, friend, for this hub. I appreciate YOUR talent and for following me. I can learn lots from you. Hey, have you ever used the "Focus on A Red Dot Method" of venting? This is fairly-new, but all one needs to do is get by themselves in a room with NO noise and with a hand-painted red dot on a solid-white poster board, just stare at the dot as you rid your mind slowly of the reason you are angry. In about 30-45 minutes, you feel relief, exhaustion, to a point, but not as angry as you did when you came to the room. Anyway. Just sharing. Keep the great hubs coming. Merry Christmas to you.


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Lene Lynn 4 years ago from Glendale, AZ Author

Dear Kenneth,

Wow! Thank you SO much for your compliments! I have heard of the red dot method but haven't used it. I learned a rainbow meditation technique that works for me. Don't let others convince you that you are "being negative" because if they understood venting, they would understand that it's important to let out that frustration so that you can live a positive, great life! :) Thank you SO much again for your kind words and Merry Christmas to YOU as well! :)


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama

Hi, Lene...THANKS for the support and encouragement. I will do my best to vent in a non-confrontational manner. And Lene, thanks so much for being a great friend and writer. Kenneth


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klidstone1970 2 years ago from Niagara Region, Canada

Venting can be very therapeutic, if done as you pointed out, in a positive way. A person can get so overwhelmed if they keep everything inside and don't open up to somebody. Thanks for the tips.


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Lene Lynn 2 years ago from Glendale, AZ Author

You are most welcome! I totally agree with you! :)

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