The Reality of Our Habits

Wow, Ben buddy....what a genius you are.
Wow, Ben buddy....what a genius you are.

You tell 'em, Ben...GO, Dude!!

Benjamin Franklin, according to all and anything ever recorded throughout History, was an incredibly wise and talented gentleman. Since none of us ever met the man or chatted with him over coffee, we know only what we read in historic record.

This then, leaves it up to each of us, to determine what sort of human being he was during his lifetime. It's quite possible that someone at some point, wrote about Ben in a not-so-complimentary manner, exposing a few of his hideous and annoying personal habits. If so, I've not run across this bit of historic information. We can, however, safely rationalize that being a mere mortal man, Ole Ben had two or three of those habits.

All due respect, of hundreds of quotes attributed to Mr. Franklin, this one included here, with his photo, "It is easier to prevent bad habits than to break them," leads me to hope this was simply one of Ben's off days. Based on reputation, I expect something a bit more profound. Of course it is easy to rationalize that avoiding bad habits to begin with is preferable. This isn't quite the way human nature seems to work though, now is it?

If we imperfect humans all had the correct amount of common sense and the strength to support that common sense at all times......well, we'd no longer be imperfect. I prefer to deal with reality, as many facts as possible and rational discussion.

I will encourage you to think about the group of people you are most involved with and privy to their personal lives to a fairly accurate point. Is there even one person amongst this group who is totally free from at least a single bad habit?

Who is to say what qualifies as a bad habit, rather than a good one...or even one that remains debatable? If you insist we tear this all apart, it will have to happen another time. Until then, I'll suggest common sense. It works every time. Promise.



Saying "Good Bye," to ALL your friends
Saying "Good Bye," to ALL your friends

WHERE the hell was Ben when we needed him?

Damn. What a bummer. Just to think of the grief, time and struggle we could have been spared,had Benjamin whispered those inspiring words into our naïve ears at the precise moment we picked up that first cigarette, or downed that 3 oz shot of Jack Daniels at our HEY-I'm-finally-LEGAL birthday party? Fact is, had we known that these seemingly innocent activities could easily become repetitive and continued, we just might have thought twice.

A few other geniuses in history, experienced an epiphany. Oft-practiced, finely nurtured habits, have a real possibility of becoming addiction. Yeah, the nasty, vile "A" word.

Relax, we'll not get into the "A" word. I'm in no mood for anything that heavy and because I have such a firm hold on the pulse of my readers, I'm positive you're not into such a depressing topic either. Let me just stay on the subject of personal habits. Thank you.

Again, I refer to habits we acquire that for all intents and purpose, fall into the negative category. Well aware that good healthy habits exist, we can expect to discuss those at another time. If experience has taught us anything, it's safe to say that far more human beings will get on line to brag of their acceptable, healthy and/or productive habits.....and justifiably so.

Speaking of friends, we need to address something important. I'm referring to the quote in the blue square box on this page. The one that reads, "In order to change bad habits.....you must first separate yourself from those who encourage it!!" There was no name attached to this quote, so we can't know who said this, when or under what circumstances.

We can, however, probably know that it doesn't matter who he/she is, because he/she unlikely has many friends at all. How much influence can he/she possibly have? Let's be real, please. If we limit our friends and associates to those super humans, totally void of a bad habit, we should expect to be fairly lonely. As I envision my friends standing in a circle....it's a pretty crooked and twisted circle.....all fibbing aside. You too?


I demand my smoker's rights
I demand my smoker's rights

Hey Big Boy, got a light?

I hope you enjoy sharing in this subject because we're just getting warmed up. Now off the top of your judgmental head, list as many annoying, and/or disgusting habits, you can attribute to just the people you love (or really like) but at times, would enjoy nothing better than banging both your fists, on either side of their head, to knock the habit right out of them! I'll go first!

Nail biting, is it just me or is it not grotesque? Can this be excused as a nervous habit? Sure, most of the repeated and unconscious movements we acquire have a genesis in our psyche. All the more reason to take charge and delve into the reasons. Before a habit can be controlled or shed completely, it must be understood.

We may be sharp enough to realize that most people are simply not consciously aware of what they're doing....it's so automatic. We need to also realize that there's a good possibility, we too have these little quirks. Is it time for a rude awakening? Just make a conscientious effort to focus on yourself.....the things you do and say, how you react, inadvertently or otherwise.

Can you perhaps recall a moment in time when someone may have pointed out to you that "there's this little thing that you do with your hands when you're uncomfortable..."? Until this was brought to your attention, I will safely lay odds, you had no idea it was an habitual reaction of yours. One that is obviously noticed by those observing.

The difficult journey begins at that point, when you've decided to take control and be more alert of yourself, particular movements or facial expressions. The toughest fight you may have is one with a habit you want to break. The reality simply is, habits do not die of natural causes. Habits require we kill them.

Don't stop now. You could be on a roll. Suddenly, people you've known for many years are popping into your head, complete with their bad habit in tow. No one has ever made a big deal of their annoying quirks because, well, it isn't polite nor socially acceptable and besides, we know we all have one or two.

Do you speak quite rapidly, seemingly without intervals of breathing? Might you invariably switch in mid-sentence from one dull subject to another, asking and answering your own rhetorical questions? All the while... waving your arms, pointing fingers and flinging your hair forward and back... on and on?..You think this might be an extreme example of habit out-of-control? It is of course. One that was learned and absorbed so instinctively, this could be one issue needing professional attention. Yet, I promise you, it's a habit that can be broken. You have no affliction!

Unless these habits are pointed out to us, we are usually unaware that not only do we do this, but it's annoying to most everyone we interact with and how disappointing is that? Habits are sneaky and elusive pests.




Quitting a NASTY Habit......YUK!

It's just not easy!
It's just not easy!

How do we develop habits?

There is no reason nor time enough to give a Psychology Class in Human Behavior 101. If you're truly interested in all that book knowledge and Academics, take some courses, do a little research or just wake up and study people as you waltz through daily life exposing your own personal bad habits.

There's no mystery or magic to learning many of the wonders of the human being, brain included. I only caution you to not begin treating people for their various mental issues without being in possession of the appropriate paper work and pigskin.

We humans pick up habits in literally thousands of ways for hundreds of reasons, known and unknown. We use our senses, yet not often common sense, to see, hear, mimic,soothe, and pacify. You should be quite interested to know that some of our little quirks, movements, sounds, labeled as personal habits, are firmly planted in our DNA. It's a fact. As with so many of our faults, this too can be blamed on our parents, and all those who came before.

This is always such a comfort. Passing the buck is a necessary evil. Think of all the self-hatred it prevents.

Is it a fact that as we might attempt to steer our children away from picking up and/or establishing an unacceptable habit, we are simultaneously exposing our own little quirks quite unbeknownst to us? Of course this is possible. Here again, ask yourself. How often do you see one of your own children make a gesture, react to a particular scenario in the exact same unique and/or strange manner that you witness of your spouse? Imitation? Yes....an auto-response...or habitual response. Same thing.

Must we parents be responsible for everything...or just the bad habits our children happen to mimic? How special. And so must we be continually paranoid? No we mustn't.....but careful to behave responsibly, yes. As in the really bad habits? We know what they are. Can't hide behind a smoke screen, if I may be so evident.

If you happen to be of the generation, "Baby Boomer," you must recall, Do as I say, not as I DO." How our parents got away with that one is something I don't think we should admit to...do you? This no longer works anyway. We know this from our kids.

In the interest of disclosure and honesty, I know I have passed on a so-called bad personal trait habit to my sons. It's blatant as a reflex. I do have a distinct habit of using sarcasm in my interactions with most anyone. Especially when I find a comment or question obviously foolish or needless to mention.

Now, I take my punishment as the sarcasm flows non-stop from my sons...always in humor, a humor we take for granted.

My pals know when I'm using sarcasm. My lips are moving. Habits, they sure die hard...real hard.


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Missy Smith 7 months ago from Florida

So True. I judge not, and hope I don't make myself sound judgmental about my mom or anyone. I know she doesn't notice she does it most of the time. I'm so sure she could tell you a bad habit I have too. Although, I'm not sure I could, but that is normal as well, I think. :)


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fpherj48 7 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Oh Missy...I haven't a singe doubt that your Mom is a lovely person. After all, she raised you! Guess what? we ALL have bad habits...even those of us who are sometimes "LOVELY!!"" LOL


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Missy Smith 7 months ago from Florida

LOL...Paula, that is so funny you mentioned that I ate her cooking for years, because when I've politely told her to please don't do it again, she said those exact words, "Well, you've been eating my cooking for years, and it hasn't killed you yet!" I wish I was still a kid and didn't notice. LOL... I don't think my mom is nasty, but I hate watching double dippers. I really do. I feel guilty even complaining about her doing this, she is a lovely person, but I just can't handle that habit of hers.


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fpherj48 7 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Missy....Happy to see you here on my site. LOL.....Some bad habits are tolerable by those around us. Some are simply too much to handle! I'm sorry to say your mother's is not only gross & unsanitary, it's also pretty rude (Bless her heart..LOL) Here's a suggestion: Should she do this again, pack up whatever she was double-dipping and ask her to please take it with her......OH...and smile too. If she doesn't get the message, put your kitchen utensils under lock & key when she's around!!

Hate to tell you honey, If this is a life-long habit of hers.....just remember you ate her cooking for years, at home!!! LOL YUK!

What can we do? We can take extra care to curtail our own bad habits, so we don't annoy others! That's about it!


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Missy Smith 7 months ago from Florida

Interesting subject, seeing as I was getting totally annoyed with one of my mother's habits just last night, and you did say to think about the bad habits of those we are around.

Most peoples' bad habits, I suppose, could actually be called pet peeves to the ones that are bothered by them. Like my mother taking the wooden spoon I use to stir my spaghetti sauce and having a taste time and time again, until she basically had a meal, and mind you, stuck that saliva spoon in her mouth and back in the sauce like four times in a row. Yuck! I was steaming, but see, I have graciously told her of this gross habit of hers a time or two before, also sighting my apologies of my pet peeve about this. It still ends up bad, because she ends up getting offended, and I end up feeling guilty as hell. So, I bit my tongue yesterday, needless to say, no spaghetti for me thank you...

When you say they don't even recognize their bad habits, I believe it is very true, that is why I tried my hardest to bite my tongue on my mother's unrecognized habit she has.

Separating ourselves from people with habits, hmmm... Well, my mom's isn't extreme enough to take a hike from her, although, I believe I do keep my distance from people who continuously contribute to an awful habit like; drinking, drugging, and picking boogers. Lol. Yeah, those are a few I like to stay clear of. Although, I do it in the most respectable manner; talking to them politely when I see them, but not getting entangled in the web of closeness. Yep, therefore, becoming the loner type.

Fact is, these days I stay away because I speak the truth and tell it like it is more than I used to. I guess you can say that has become my bad habit, so my "common sense," then tells me that's the reason I need to stay far from habit hoarders. Lol

I enjoyed reading this, Paula. You always write about interesting things. :) ~Missy


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fpherj48 11 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Hi Val.....You really cleaned up your act, so to speak. That is an enormous amount of will power and determination to push aside several bad habits! Congratulations.

We all know I'm sure what unpleasant things we might do, but often the effort to conquer them evades us. As I get older, I realize that our cooperation isn't even necessary! Our bodies TELL us it's time to drop some awful habits!! LOL Thanks for visiting! I appreciate your comments.


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ValKaras 11 months ago from Canada

It took me a while to decide whether my sharing here would look like "shameless bragging"; but then, while admitting about my crazy EX-habits I will be putting it into some kind of a balance - so here it is.

At different times, but all some decades ago, I quit cold turkey my daily two packs of cigarettes, a six pack of beer with occasional "chaser"- or -two - or - three, several coffees, half a gallon of coca cola (at different period from beer drinking).

The craziest part is that I didn't quit all that for health reasons, I always enjoyed a robust health - but to achieve a deeper state of meditation and altered consciousness. When young(er), I was a creature of contrasts: apparently on a suicide mission with my life style, but at the same time pulling myself by bootstraps in a quest of personal evolution.

Am I missing my chemical crutches? No. I got my mind now to produce the same effects - plus.


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fpherj48 14 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Missy......I may not be much help at all with this issue. I've been accused of being a little too naive, myself!

I continue to vehemently argue this! LOL. My belief is that people like me and you simply aren't expecting others to be abusive or deceitful because we are not those nasty things. It's less of a naivety than it is a "good heart."

The secret may be to understand that there are just as many wonderful people (men) as there are jerks.....We just have to be more vigilant in recognizing the good from the bad. This takes time and experience.

Guess what......Once you figure it out, you've nailed it!!


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Missy Smith 14 months ago from Florida

Interesting hub, as I was just today pondering why I have the dreadful habit of being naive. That's the big one right there, it kind of rules all the rest of my bad habits like; picking the wrong men every single time, or giving way too much to others that obviously do not care that I even do. And just simply being naive enough to think there is a good side to everyone. It burns me in the ass every time. So, yeah, my big bad wolf of a habit is NAIVITY! I really could use some help in this area. lol.


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fpherj48 19 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

peach....In cases of the destructive habits of addiction, I would surely agree with you. It's necessary to avoid those individuals we once associated with and followed along on the path to nowhere.

For the vast number of simple annoying habits, It's fairly certain we must take control of our own behavior and work on being a bit more self-aware.

Thanks so much for your comment. Have a pleasant week! Peace, Paula


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peachpurple 19 months ago from Home Sweet Home

You got it right my friends, everyobe has a few or more bad habits picked up by someone else hard to change unless get rid of that person first


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fpherj48 20 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

au fait....I'm not surprised to read a comment from you, more interesting and entertaining than the last few hubs I have read!.....I love this story you've shared with us. It's easy to understand how this lovely older English woman would have left an impression & smile-worthy memories with you.

Yes, we absolutely have to have a bad (annoying) habit or 2, if for no other reason, than to be recognized as "REAL" rather than robotic. Some of the most fun we have is pointing these things out to one another!!............Thanks so much, C.E......


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Au fait 20 months ago from North Texas

A while back when in my early 20s I used to chauffeur an older woman (late 70s) around so she could pick up her carbon tetrachloride with codeine. She claimed it helped her cough and it was a permit drug. We would hit about 4 drug stores (couldn't buy only 1 each time at each store) in a hundred mile radius. That is, druggists could sell the drug to people without prescription, but the customer had to sign for it. A semi-controlled substance.

She did her best to give me some bad habits because she was convinced I didn't have any (she didn't know the other side of me;) . She would try to persuade me to have a drink with her for lunch -- she always insisted we stop at a nice restaurant for lunch in payment for my time and vehicle, etc. She said it wasn't healthy not to have any bad habits.

She was from England and had been a nurse during WWII and entertained me with stories about delivering babies under dining tables while air raids were underway in her delightful English accent. She smoked, but not much around me.

To be sure she should be proud of me now if she can look down and see all the less than desirable habits I've acquired. Still don't smoke, drink, or do drugs, and quit chewing my nails (no teeth left to do it), but I've still managed to develop a few irritating habits here and there.

Yes, I'm one of those people who can discuss 2 or more things at once and sometimes in the same sentence or with not much pause before switching subjects. Used to talk really fast at it too, but after living here in Texas for so long I've slowed down a bit.

One has to have some bad habits to fit in and pass for normal doesn't one? Voted up, IF, and pinned to Awesome HubPages.


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fpherj48 22 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Ditto, GF....I will add that the harder I try to squelch any unpleasant habit, the more it haunts me! Apparently our habits like the attention!!


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Sunshine625 22 months ago from Orlando, FL

The younger I get the more I realize I'm a creature of habit and you know what? I'm good with that :)


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fpherj48 2 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

and you're better off for it! I study people. I listen intently, watch for body language, pick up on tones of voice, little ticks and movements....and yes, that's a HABIT of mine! It pays off more often than not, but I would like to curb the intensity a bit!

Thanks for stopping by.


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David Stone1 2 years ago from New York City

It's interesting how habits can define us. I've never looked closely at them as as important and informative as they may be.


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fpherj48 2 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

LOL.......Oh, I hear you. Poor table manners sends creepy chills up my back......Hello? Are you AWARE that you are slurping, burping, drooling, chomping and have your damned elbows on the table, as you reach all the way across the table to snatch the last roll...without asking if anyone else might like it??? You are aware? OK, just asking!


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Blake83 2 years ago from Poughkeepsie, NY

This was really well-written, and maybe the first time I've seen anyone question Mr. Franklin. Kudos for that alone.

As for breaking bad habits, it seems different for each person. For example, some folks will plan quitting cigarettes and just do it. Myself, on the other hand, crushed my cigarettes for no reason one day, threw them away, and never smoked again--not planned.

And a habit that drives me bonkers is people who smack their lips when they eat. It's borderline infuriating.

Voted up.


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fpherj48 2 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

LOL!! Well...now let's see ........I'd have to take an "educated guess" at the answer to your funny question, Nell.........

I KNOW the answer......not due to my "education," you see.....because although I am VERY smart (cough)...there are those few things I do not know for certain. Nothing of importance, mind you...but, well, you know.

Therefore.....yes, you GUESSED it......I must guess at the answer. Another word for "guess," is "speculate." "Speculate," sounds like a word used by the more intelligent, wouldn't you guess?

So actually....should we be saying, "I'll take an educated speculation?"

Nah......Hell, that just sounds plain old dumb......and in that case, it would not be an educated guess, but rather a dumb guess.....and.....................................................


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Nell Rose 2 years ago from England

Hiya, came back for another look and giggle! the one thing that drives me insane these days are people who insist on say 'an educated guess! how the hell can it be educated when they don't know the darn answer?! lol! voted up and away!


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fpherj48 2 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Bobbi.......Teen-agers and their phone calls! LOL By paying attention to my grandchildren, I can assure, nothing has changed......except now they can actually carry the phone WITH THEM, where ever they go. LOL. Hey, Bobbi, it's a rite of passage & YOU, I'm sure, had hundreds of friends.

I would have your loved your Dad too! Sounds like something mine would have done! Thanks for stopping by. Always good to see you.


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PurvisBobbi44 2 years ago from Florida

Hi Paula,

I love reading your hubs---so refreshing and never boring. I bet you were a great sister to grow up with and share so many little girl talks.

My worse habit growing up was talking to friends on the phone. I would walk home from school after talking with them and then we would start calling.

I knew to hang up when Daddy came home--he would take the phone and say, "Good Night---Daddy is home!" My friends loved it and I would look at him and say---I love you.

Bobbi Purvis


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fpherj48 2 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Thanks Eddy.....You have a habit of being a sweetheart!


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Eiddwen 2 years ago from Wales

A great read; voted up and shared.

Eddy.


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fpherj48 2 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Ruchira......Not for one second would I entertain that YOU have a single bad habit!!! You are much too sweet and good-hearted. How nice of you to stop by to say Hello. I wish you really lived in my neighborhood!

I'm OK....ups & downs like all of us.

When I hear from my hub-friends, it's always a good day!


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Ruchira 2 years ago from United States

bad habits?

oh hell no...lol

I just dropped by to say a hello to my dear friend. how have you been paula?

as usual this hub resonated so much wisdom and insight into a common man and his natural delight to indulge which could be categorized as bad or good :)


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fpherj48 2 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Harish....Of all the hubs for you to read.....I hope you realize that this one is "Sarcastic Humor!" LOL.....Whatever you do, Harish, please do not associate some of my FUN-hubs with WHO I am....LOL. I mean, let me put it this way.....Isn't it possible that Mother Theresa may have used a pen name to write Romance Novels??

NO, you say, without smiling?.....Oh well, I tried.

Thanks for stopping by Harish. I hope my humor doesn't scare you away!!


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Harishprasad 2 years ago from India

Very interesting hub,Paula. I think we all have one or more bad habits and to get rid of them is really difficult. One of my bad habits is shaking one of my legs and it looks as if it is vibrating fast. I saw a high ranking Chinese military officer doing this while he was engaged in an interview on a TV channel. I empathized with him. Though sometimes this unique habit remains under control if given due attention but somehow or other, it raises it's head again. I really enjoyed this hub and your description of the persons was picturesque and memorable.


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fpherj48 2 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

And a great & prosperous New Year to you, my dear lady from across the pond!!


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Nell Rose 2 years ago from England

Have a wonderful New Year paula! :)


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fpherj48 3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Martie.....I say it's a blessing that we, ourselves, are simply not aware of the little things we do, that quite possibly annoy those around us. We cannot please the entire world, after all, now, can we?

The key is to HOPE we are loved and accepted, despite those weird little quirks we have. In the case of the ever-fascinating Aries woman.....who can help but love us?? LOL! Don't answer that.


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MartieCoetser 3 years ago from South Africa

OMW, I have chewed my fingernails since I were a toddler until the day I no longer had the teeth to do it. (Tried biting it with my denture - what a frustration!) Now who had taught me to do it? Why did I want to do it? Why were I not able to stop in spite of using all kinds of bitter remedies?

Duh!

Oh, and don't let me mention all my other bad habits.

The problem with quotes, all quotes, even, "If your teeth are bothering you, extract them," - they only make sense after you have had the experiences. I mean, tell me to stay out of a tree and watch me go search for the reason why on each and every branch.

What a brilliant, thought-provoking hub!

And why haven't I received a notification of this long-awaiting hub? Mmmm?


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fpherj48 3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Hi Eddy!.....I sent you an email a little while ago. I wanted you to know I love your new profile pic! You look fabulous!!


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Eiddwen 3 years ago from Wales

A brilliant hub and voted up, across and shared.

Eddy.


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fpherj48 3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Hey Vee.....I knew you'd be popping in at some point! Even perfect people like you, with no bad habits, like to read about those who do!!

Is that what I was supposed to say? I tried to memorize it!

Hey...are you raking in the big bucks at Bubblews?? I can't tolerate their procedure with notifications. It's really kind of a "clusterfudge."....don't you think?


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Victoria Lynn 3 years ago from Arkansas, USA

Yay! Another hub from you! It was worth the wait. I do feel sorry for you having to watch your friend cannibalize herself. You would think she could at least do it in private!! LOL. Well, I won't send you my list. I'd have to use an extra stamp. hahaha! You're awesome, girl. Glad you're back on the Hub!


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fpherj48 3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

JG....Nice of you to stop by and add your comment. I understand we shouldn't concern ourselves with when and how our habits became a part of our lives....but work on overcoming them (quitting/stopping)

Personally, I think it's easier to just accept yourself & loved ones, warts and all. ......and just ignore the jerks we don't like.

Is that mature?....Never mind. I don't really care

Thanks for the visit....stop by anytime.


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JG11Bravo 3 years ago

I wish it didn't take so long to get to the bottom of your comments section. Anyway, this is a really interesting hub. I've got more than my share of habits, but how I developed them never really crossed my mind.


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fpherj48 3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Phew! Thank God for good friends who know and actually UNDERSTAND me, GF! After I read my own hub, I kept looking out my windows for the cops............I figure some hubber who knows not "the Weird & Looney Effer," might report me for threatening to stab people who ANNOY me!!!

Thanks for flying to my rescue......glad I could cause you a little giggling today!

Oh honey....can we talk?? I have (had!) a LONG term friend who insisted on traveling back to her horrible childhood, horrifying marriages, dysfunctional family members...blah blah.....How badly I wanted to say....."Char, we met at the age of 14....it's taken you 51 years to bring us up to 1975...yet another of your years from HELL....at this rate girl, we can't LIVE long enough for you to get us to 2013......and that's with me, not talking....can you maybe speed it up a bit?"


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tillsontitan 3 years ago from New York

Hurray! She's back and with a vengenance. This is great...I laughed, I cried, and I nodded my head. Your firm hold on the pulse of your readers shows through with every bad habit, flippin or annoying thing you mentioned.

May I add people who refuse to give up wrongs done them in the past? I'd like to give them new ones for the future but I am above that, well most of the time.

All I can say is, you returned with a masterpiece! Love ya.

Voted all buttons, shared and pinned.


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fpherj48 3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Doc.....Yeah....No, the kite-flying doesn't count. I know of your perfection......you may have sent me a private e-mail, not sure, but someone told me. This is why I am so surprised you even commented on a hub like this.

See.....even your compassion and generosity is perfection in motion. For you to cavort with the sinners, is sort of like Donald Trump choosing to celebrate Thanksgiving at the City Mission....(I'll let you know if he shows up)....

I am blown away by your humility. Did I tell you we're being hit with the tail-end of that last hurricane? Yeah, we are. Sure is WINDY.


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drbj 3 years ago from south Florida

Hi, Paula, nice to see you here. I know Ben Franklin had the bad habit of flying kites during rain and lightning storms - but that had a happy ending. It's said that getting rid of a bad habit takes at least 21 days. But to get rid of an addiction, I would say takes much, much longer. I can't be certain about the timeline of course since I am perfect with no bad habits. (smirking broadly)


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fpherj48 3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Hmmmm...let me think about that one, shelia......OK...I got it.

IMHO...it is NOT a bad habit to get annoyed at those with bad habits of their own (all of us)....who point out your bad habits.

However, it may possibly be a bad (unhealthy) habit to take that crap from anyone!!......Start swingin, girlfriend!


sheilamyers 3 years ago

I love the way you wrote this hub. You took a serious topic and made it not boring by adding the humor. Is it a bad habit if I always get annoyed with people who point out my annoying habits while indulging in their own annoying habits? If so, I'll add that to smoking as my bad habits.


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fpherj48 3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Ann.....I'm pleased my hub provided you with some entertainment. Your factual comment gave me a good laugh! No, Ann...you need not go on...I get the picture, clearly! LOL Life is good......"Happy Thanksgiving," to you & yours........Peace, Paula


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fpherj48 3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Pam...It's good to be back, amongst such fine people. I have missed everyone and all the interaction. Trying to make up for lost time.

You are correct.....we needn't DWELL on our bad habits. Everyone else does that FOR us, just fine! LOL....Happy Thanksgiving to you & yours.


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fpherj48 3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

DDE......Hi neighbor!......You have a great attitude. We all need some "challenges!!" LOL


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annart 3 years ago from SW England

Great to read something of yours again; I was smiling from start to finish, thoroughly entertained! It would be so boring if we had no bad habits and there would be nothing to moan about, no one to yell at, no one to criticise and slander to our friends.... Need I go on?

A great way to start Friday evening, wind down to the weekend. Hope you have a great weekend too. Ann


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Pamela99 3 years ago from United States

Paula, it is good to see you back writing a hub again. Obviously everyone has bad habits and there is no point on dwelling on them unless you really want to change something. I figure my good habits outweigh my bad, so good enough. Interesting hub.


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DDE 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

The Reality of Our Habits very interesting and useful without such habits our lives won't be so challenging. Habits make individuals who they really are, and once noticed it is difficult to put up with but nobody is perfect.


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fpherj48 3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

It IS Christy....trust me.

ROFLMAO!!!!


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ChristyWrites 3 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

Those silly bad habits... But then again, being perfect would just be so boring!


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fpherj48 3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Leena...Hello and welcome to an HP newbie! I'm pleased you stopped by to visit! I just recently saw your site and marked down a few of your hubs to read asap......especially the one about "easy chants." Good luck to you. You're sure to love it here.......Come back anytime!


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fpherj48 3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Sha.....Hey, if you have a direct line to Heaven...by all means, tell my parents what a Brat I am. They'll be so proud......they're the ones who trained us! Truth is, our home, all throughout our family life, was a structure overflowing with laughter, practical jokes, singing, dancing and Mastering the art of sarcasm. Even both sides of our extended families.....there was no escape. Just a huge Tribe of laughing hyenas and wise guys. and we cried just as hard, together, when we needed to.

OK...you can go smoke now!


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fpherj48 3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

SFAM......I just said that very same thing to 6 different bill collectors today! What a coincidence! See how much alike we are?


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fivesenses 3 years ago from new delhi

We all have our good and bad habits and it is not so easy to dump the bad habits I guess.


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bravewarrior 3 years ago from Central Florida

Paula, I love this! I miss your sarcastic sense of humor. Don't worry, I won't tell your folks....! I agree with Bill. I wasn't ready for this to be over. Now excuse me while I go outside to smoke a cigarette.


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Sunshine625 3 years ago from Orlando, FL

The check is in the mail :) Love ya!!


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fpherj48 3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Linda Sue....My BEST-est buddy! I wrote a comment to you and did that stupid thing again, of leaving without posting....THERE'S a bad habit!! Of course I would know that your good habits outweigh your bad.....SFAM...your bad habits are barely noticeable!!

Can you send me the check right away? I'm broke, GF.....Love you!!


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fpherj48 3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

suzette.....aHA! There you are! I knew there had to be someone who had the goods on Ben! Air baths? The ole bugger really was pretty smart, eh? He had a term for making it sound healthy to be a pervert!

As for the "women"....I dunno, Suz.......I have this picture of nude Uncle Ben and it's just not doin it for me. You too?


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fpherj48 3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Diana......I don't know if I've said this already...but "Congratulations," on your Hubbie Award! You most surely deserve it! It's good to see that hard work pays off. Have a wonderful Thanksgiving......I'll be keeping my terrible habit of OVER-eating, under control......maybe.


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fpherj48 3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Wesman.....I'm pretty sure your "vision" issues are not related to your little habit as a child. In fact, you were probably doing that to your eyes because in some way, they were bothering you already........

I must say, I miss having you around here all the time, but it's good to see you once in a while..

Keep a lid on those nasty habits, cutey!!


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fpherj48 3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Audrey...Happy to see you! I like your story. It is a fact, most of the time, bad habits are simply replaced with another bad habit. As humans, we're cornered! LOL


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suzettenaples 3 years ago from Taos, NM

Hilarious as usual! LOL Ben Franklin had a habit of taking "air baths," in which he opened all the windows and sat around in the nude. Then, he would entertain any ladies that happened to visit during his 'baths'. True story by the way. So take an "air bath" and chill!


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teaches12345 3 years ago

Remembering those little habits I had when young: nail biting, running barefoot, swinging on tree limbs. Mom thought I was never going to be a lady. Has fun reading this. Still smiling.


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Wesman Todd Shaw 3 years ago from Kaufman, Texas

Well seeing how easy it is to start smoking cigarettes, and yet so hard to stop, I think Ben was on to something.

When I was a very small child, I had some bizarre habit of liking my fingers, and rubbing my eyes. I distinctly recall my mom asking a doctor about it, and the doctor being completely horrified. I don't recall having a hard time breaking that habit, but suffice it to say I've never had good vision.

As an early 20's meth addict, I had yet to break out of breaking out with zits, and I would pick them obsessively. The end result was that if I got into some serious dope I wound up looking like that little girl on "The Exorcist."

CHEERS PAULA!


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brakel2 3 years ago from Oklahoma City, Oklahoma

Hi pferyj you are full of great descriptions and discussions of bad habits. We sure are not perfect. The fingernail story hit home as I bit my nails when a wee child. If I would stop chewing I could eat candy again Which habit was worse as my teeth ended up the loser from candy? You can go on and on. Thanks for sharing your writing. Pinned. Blessings. Audrey


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fpherj48 3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Nell.....LMAO!.....I simply don't believe you have any bad habits. Well, OK, maybe you have one or two, but you, I excuse. I have a habit of being totally biased and unfair!!


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fpherj48 3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

bill Bro......and Amen, to our Miranda Rights. I have no idea what came over me....I'm normally so docile and demure......no, wait, they may not be the right words....heck with it.

The real truth is, I had an encounter with that tenant! We have choices in life. It was either choke her with my dog's leash and roll her into the creek......or come home and pound on the keys. Today was her lucky day......


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England

Lol! loving every word paula! glad to have you back writing, and I always know you will make me laugh! reading this while chewing my nails, burping, and shaking my head so much my hair is flying around my face! lol!


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billybuc 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

Paula, thank God for my Miranda rights!

Seriously, Sis, you are on a roll. I was disappointed when this diatribe came to an end. Part II perhaps? Soon perhaps? Your hordes of followers eagerly await another lambasting from she who dares not be sarcastic.

Great fun and the perfect way for me to end this day. Thanks Paula!


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fpherj48 3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Maria, my most favorite Maria!......I approve of your habit....especially since it works for you. So now I know how you keep smiling.......what's my reason? Always good to see you too! hub-hugs


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marcoujor 3 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

Hi effer,

I habitually imagine most idiots I encounter as clowns sans their costumes just big red noses and floppy ears...

I know it's silly but it keeps a smile on my face. Just like you but for completely different reasons...so good to see you. Love this!


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Sunshine625 3 years ago from Orlando, FL

My good habits make up for the bad! Perfect! I picked that one. Yep, I have a couple of bad habits, but I compensate, so it's all good. At least for me it is. Also, if I got rid of my "friends" who encourage it, I would have grew up without my siblings or cousins. They rocked! Some still do! Some don't. Fab hub Effer!!!


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fpherj48 3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

carol.....Like you, I haven't done much here in HP country. This is the first hub I've written in many months.....I found some spare energy somehow and gave it a go. I just re-read one of yours, yesterday, come to think of it. I sneak back to yours now & then for the "Astrology" info that only YOU can give so well! Good to see you!


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carol7777 3 years ago from Arizona

I haven't been writing here for a long time but still keep in contact and comment from time to time..I noticed your name and knew it would be worth reading...that is a bad habit of mine...Anyway seriously you did a great job as always ..Hope your life is good.

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