The Talk Therapist. Their Intricate Value as a Mental Health Resource

"I just need to talk to someone who will understand."

Erase the vision you have of the troubled and confused client lying on a couch in the Therapist's Office. Perhaps this still occurs in a big metropolis at the office of high-priced psychiatrist's whose patients are the extremely wealthy. However, for the hundreds of thousands of mental health patients in this country, unless one is also physically ill or weak, they sit in a small but comfortable room face to face with their therapist.

In the current mental health climate gone are the days of the Dr. Sigmund Freud student of psychiatry who sits patiently with clip board listening to his patient purge his/her inner demons for the allotted hour while nodding but remaining silent. Forget that..

Today, Drs. of Psychiatry have managed to manipulate themselves into the position of dispensers of psyche-medicine....the writers of prescriptions for controlled substances and other various medications used to treat all forms of mental illness and/or issues.

Psyche meds are not prescribed without a prior in-depth physical exam, complete with current prescription usage, allergies and some family history. In addition, when it comes to monitoring use, side effects and results of any medication, be assured that your Psychiatrist will be cautious and diligent.

The Dr. of Psychiatry is most often the medical professional who will determine the best program or treatment he/she feels will benefit you the most. Their suggestion more often than not is that a therapist may be the one to see. This particular member of the professional staff within a mental health facility or environment is the busiest person in the place.

Dealing with the "Emergency Crisis"

The special group of Mental Health Therapists/Counselors who make up the staff of a Crisis Intervention Center are highly skilled individuals. Make no mistake about it. They are the experts who know how to think on their feet and act quickly. This requires hours of special training and a very level head, not to mention acute alertness. A mental health emergency leaves little room if any for mistakes or oversights. Unlike the Hospital E.R or Trauma Center where physical injury is visible to a certain extent, mental health professionals must dig and probe to find the source of the "injury."

It is necessary for Talk Therapists to be expert in Behavior Analysis. Do not mistake this skill for what we know to be profiling. These are two very different branches of the same tree and need to be distinguished from one another. Professional Profilers play an intricate role in law enforcement, while working closely with Criminal Investigators.

In the case of a profiler, there is a crime or series of crimes, crime scene(s), victim(s) and as much background as can possibly be collected on the victim(s). Most vital is a fine-toothed-comb investigation of the crime scene(s). Armed with information and evidence, a Profiler pieces together the possible behavior and various traits of a likely suspect. In other words, a whole lot of expert speculation goes on. Amazingly enough, Profilers are much more often than not, keenly accurate.

In Behavior Analysis, you are face to face with the subject, yet still must piece together what can be heard, witnessed and expected. The Therapist should be capable of looking at a big picture, while noting the group of small snap shots within the mind of an individual, who for all intent and purpose appears to be, momentarily not in control of their thoughts and actions. Thus, the crisis.

Working the front lines of a Mental Health Facility in cases of emergency crisis, behavior analysis performed by a well-trained therapist can make the difference between control and chaos. Unless someone has accompanied the patient, all pertinent information must be gently, but accurately gleaned from your patient. This requires super-talent.

The phrase, "talking someone down," is precisely that. Literally, the professional is faced with the challenge of gaining the attention and trust of an individual in mental/emotional turmoil.

Therapy: A short simple explanation.

Is this what is meant by, "Talk Therapist?"

The answer to this is, "only partially." Talk Therapy is meant to imply the opportunity for the patient to do the talking. This being said, I would once again like to impress upon you that good therapists of today's mental health protocol, do not simply sit silently by, adding nothing to the session. This concept was abandoned decades ago and replaced with active involvement between client and counselor.

In recent years, although Mental Health has gained a bit more attention and respect, there are miles yet to go. The reality simply is that a broken bone is met with societal acceptance and understanding. Broken brains are quite a different story. There exists still, a pervasive fear and difficulty of the average lay person to search for better insight and understanding of mental illness.

However unfortunate this reality is, mental health professionals must continue without obstacle and hesitation to heal the sick. Patients as well, must be informed of the various avenues of help and support available to them and feel confident to seek this out. Only when the myths have been erased and false shame vanishes entirely, will great strides be made in the vital field of Mental Health.

I would ask that my readers avail themselves to the vast collection of sound and accurate information, accessible to all of us. Further, to anyone who suspects that they may be in need of clinical therapy/counseling, please do not hesitate to take that first step and/or make that first call. Your very life, happiness and health may be at stake.

Don't settle for less than you need

There's an important issue that warrants a few words. It is not uncommon to find yourself unable to connect or feel comfortable with a particular therapist. The last thing you need, is to become fretful over this or be overly concerned with how you might solve this problem.

Somehow, you need to muster up the courage and have a candid chat with him or her, in terms of this very fact. It would be counterproductive for you to remain with a therapist you are uncomfortable with or simply feel unsure of. If necessary, you can suggest to him/her that you are feeling as though you might simply be better able to relate to a woman or to a man...depending on which they are. Perhaps you can mention that you feel there is too much of an age gap between the two of you, which makes you feel that you cannot get your points across well enough. There is not, at least there should not be, a therapist in practice today, who would take the least offense to this. In fact, he/she will be understanding and do their best to help you find a solution and/or a different therapist. Believe me, no therapist wants to take up their time,or yours, only to ultimately discover they were unable to help you. The sooner you take care of this concern, the better, for both of you.

Keep in mind this happens often and solutions are readily offered. You need to be satisfied with him or her and be certain you are able to be as open and honest as possible. Just as with any person you choose to speak with about a personal issue, personalities and trust are necessary ingredients. Having this frank conversation with him/her is suggested ,rather than an abrupt cessation of your visits, with no explanation whatsoever.

Also, understand that your time and discussions with your therapist get better, easier and more complex, with each subsequent visit. Do not be discouraged should you feel that a session went poorly, on your part. These are professionals you are interacting with and believe me, they do not judge you, at any point, for any reason. Say and do what you feel you need to convey and express. Should you burst into sobs, let it happen with no regrets. You are reacting in your true nature. This is a good thing. It can only help your therapist to know you as best as possible, which in turn is beneficial to your recovery.

I will leave you with one more suggestion. At some point, after each session, when the opportunity presents itself, journal your thoughts and comments regarding your visit and any questions you might want to pose at your next visit. Being able to go over your own notes from time to time, will give you more insight into yourself and your progress. This is a great confidence builder.

NOW, you can kick back, put your feet up, while you listen to one of this Boomer's favorite "Oldies."

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fpherj48 10 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Thanks to both of you lovely ladies! You're awesome.

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Faith Reaper 10 months ago from southern USA

Oh, Paula, you know are welcome on my hub space as often as you would like! Plus, remember you're HubPages' best commenter, so you know your commenting is never boring and adds much to the topic of the hub.

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shanmarie 10 months ago from Texas

Well, I wasn't allowed to major in education even though I was in the education program for a master's degree in education. So I majored in psychology. I loved it. Most every genre of it fascinated me, except for experimental. But my math skills are terrible. I explained that in my hub about opening doors, though directing you there might open doors I didn't intend to! ;) LOL Anyway, I'm planning on getting a degree as soon as I get some things in line for it. Probably a creative writing one at this point, but I would definitely consider a double major in psychology out of sheer interest. I really have no idea what I would do career-wise with a degree in that now. Casework does not interest me. However, speaking of opening doors. . .I suppose I could work with my friend and go create our own job in a hospital somewhere. Propose a therapy program that combined the talk therapy approach with art therapy. LOL Definitely for children, especially traumatized ones that have trouble expressing feelings that need to be let out.

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fpherj48 10 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Thanks Shan....It's definitely not for everyone....but it's fascinating and depending on where you work, it can be fast-paced and stressful. Funny you were going for teaching, but now thinking about another major. LOL...I kind of regretted not going for the teaching degree to be able to teach precisely this at a college level.......KIDS? No way. I needed to save my strength & stamina for my own WORK with Kids one has to be a SAINT...and dealing with "parents" is a nightmare!

I'm happily retired. I have done my duty.

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shanmarie 10 months ago from Texas

I've definitely got to get to know you better. It seems we have a similar background. I've been told I would make a good therapist or counselor and considered it at various points. It's definitely easier with those I don't know well. Only a very few that truly know me can I talk to that way and have them also talk to me that way in return. If there is not a true willingness to understand one another, the relationship can get messy otherwise. So, generally, I find it easier to let others share their feelings about certain situations or events. . . .to talk it out. Some just want to be heard and others want my perspective. And everyone just wants to feel loved and unjudged.

Anyway, I was majoring in psychology and education. I could not major in education so I had to pick another major and do a masters program to obtain a teaching degree. Unfortunately, I took a leave of absence my senior year and was not allowed to go back. Now, I'd be more interested in pursuing psychology than teaching. Child development and the like is very interesting. I loved working with children, but the red tape that goes with the job and teh stress is not for me.

My best friend got a masters in art therapy. I would love to be able to do something like that. She found that those who hired ar therapists did not do it one on one, though and it was not the way she imagined it. But could you imagine the impact of art and talk therapy combined, especially for youth?

This is definitely an interesting hub. Thanks for pointing us to it.

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fpherj48 10 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

You're quite welcome Miss Thersa.....Thanks for stopping by. Sorry I hijacked your hub!! LOL

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Faith Reaper 10 months ago from southern USA

Oh, wow, Paula,

I found your hub here to be so informative as to the particular differences between the Behavioral Analyst and Therapist and equally as fascinating.

I have never understood how back in the day someone sitting there just nodding and jotting down a few notes without ever saying a word in return could help anyone, so I'm glad to know the process is changing. I know people need to talk to good listeners, but they do, from time-to-time, need thoughtful feedback it would seem.

Your hub certainly helps to take away the stigma of seeking help with mental health issues, for as you have stated here, it could be a matter of life or death!

I like how you said that you gather little bits here and there and piece them together to form the bigger picture, as that is certainly what it takes, I would imagine.

Okay, Ms. Detail Diva, excellent job on this one, and thank you for sharing your knowledge on the subject.

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fpherj48 18 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Catherine.....You and the rest of us.......but it's not important WHEN we "say something," only that eventually we do. Therapy, much like education is not wasted. Something came of it, even if you feel it was not enough nor timely.

We do what we can when we are able......."When we know better, we do better." (Maya Angelieu).....We are fallible, mortal beings. Our imperfections give us "purpose."......Thanks Catherine. Paula

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CatherineGiordano 18 months ago from Orlando Florida

Excellent advice. Unfortunately, I went to the type of therapy where you lie on the couch. And I wasn't wealthy. I did it for many years. Maybe it helped, but not enough and not quickly enough. I look back and I want to say, "Why didn't you just say something?"

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fpherj48 3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

JANSHARES...I am most grateful for your generous comment! IMO, the reality of how therapy can help so many individuals, in so many ways, needs to be explained repeatedly and patiently, until so much of the mental health "help" STIGMAS.....disappear.

Thanks for stopping by, Jan and by all means, come again! Have a happy, safe 4th.

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janshares 3 years ago from Washington, DC

Hi Paula. I'm a "talk therapist" and want to thank you for this hub. This will enlighten a lot of people who have a stereotype of what therapy is all about and may decrease anxiety about trying it. You clarified a lot in a clear and candid way. Great hub, voted up and useful. Off to private practice now . . .

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fpherj48 3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author




So good to see you all. I am happy to know you appreciate the info in this hub. Thanks so much for your valuable input. Feedback from fellow writers is important and appreciated!......Have a wonderful Independence Day Celebration!!

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xstatic 3 years ago from Eugene, Oregon

Good advice here. It is as important to take care of our emotional well-being as it is to care for our bodies.

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AudreyHowitt 3 years ago from California

As a psychotherapist, I really do believe that psychotherapy is invaluable. Therapists come in all types: behavorial, humanistic, ericksonian, jungian, relational, etc. I really believe it is the relationship that can heal--great hub!

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Vinaya Ghimire 3 years ago from Nepal


the common ways to treat mental disorders are talk therapy and behavioral drugs. My father went through both methods, however, it was talk therapy that helped.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts on the topic.

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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

RecoverToday......That you were released from something you may have enjoyed doing, I hope that eventually it became a blessing in disguise. Momentary sadness and feelings of disappointment, are what make us reach inside and realize how much more we are and have to offer. If something far more significant hasn't come your way, rest assured, it is on it's way. Peace!

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RecoverToday 4 years ago from United States

Great information here. It narrows it down and explains the roles of mental health professionals.

I'm very familiar with crisis intervention specialists: I used to be one, until I was released. (Sadly). Very strenuous job, but rewarding in itself. Few people have the calling for this job, but when you find one who does....then it's taken away from them, you've lost out.

Voted up!

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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

All very true, MT......Thankfully, the stigma and "fears" are slowly but surely beginning to lighten up, if only slightly. Any progress is better than none. If only the brain was viewed as another organ in our body....however, it is seen as a separate entity!! Seriously. A bad heart, liver, kidney......all accepted as normal illnesses....ah BUT!

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Millionaire Tips 4 years ago from USA

This is great advice on an important topic. Too many people are afraid to see a therapist for fear that they will seem weak in some way, and especially if they have a mental illness, the stigma may make them more afraid to talk openly with their therapist. All of us - even those of us who aren't diagnosed or think they don't know anyone who is - should take the time to learn about mental illness and at least enough to realize that a mental illness is a physical condition and can get treated. Voted up.

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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Thank you suzette....I'm glad you appreciated my hub. Most people will agree that it is often life-saving yo seek help(therapy)....but are fairly reluctant to do so. This is a direct result of the stigma....that uneducated, misinformed people ...unfortunately still hold.

It takes time for people to change age-old beliefs......Take care.

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suzettenaples 4 years ago from Taos, NM

effer: This is a very helpful, informative and interesting article. This is so needed for those who are confused and stumbling around trying to find help during a period of mental crisis. You certainly explain well and give all the information they need to find a "talk therapist." As you said, psychiatrists today are nothing but dispensers of medication. It is a sad state of affairs. Talk therapists are so helpful to those who need someone to listen!

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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

M.T. We have years, perhaps, decades to go, until a healthy, rational and compassionate attitude breaks through the well-established stereotyping, but will be well-worth the struggle. Thanks, MT!

Jaye: You are definitely on the right page and have a welcome outlook on the topic of mental health, it's victims and the professionals involved in the ongoing study of the complexities of the human brain. Thanks for the visit, Jaye......Hope Puppy girl is better.

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JayeWisdom 4 years ago from Deep South, USA

Psychiatrists do seem to mainly write prescriptions these days. Some mental disorders require drugs, that's true, especially those that are severe enough to need psychotropic drugs, such as schizophrenia. However, there are many people in "trouble" emotionally and mentally who would do better to find a good talk therapist. Even if they also need medication for depression or anxiety, behavioral therapy is also necessary.

Therapists who use cognitive therapy help people without coping skills gain them. This type of therapy literally saves people's lives, because it can pull someone out of a pit of hopelessness on the edge of becoming another suicide victim and help him or her learn to live in a less-than-perfect world and react to it in a mentally healthy way.

The mental health professions have come a long way even in the past century. Mental health HELP is for everyone who needs it...not just celebrities and the wealthy. Most insurance plans these days include mental health benefits, for good reason.

Great hub, Paula. Don't know how I missed it the first time around. Voted Up++++


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Millionaire Tips 4 years ago from USA

It is amazing the stereotypes we have of what happens in a psychologist's office, not to mention the prejudices against people with mental illness. You have brought up an important subject and dispelled some of the myths. I definitely wouldn't want to pay to talk to someone who just sits there and listens - my dog will do just fine for that. I would expect some help and insight. Voted up and shared.

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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Martie...So good to see you, my friend. Our parents, I'm sure had many "dreams" for parents do. The dreams that come true, are the dreams we have for ourselves.....not for our children or others. Sadly, it is therefore, why we may sometimes feel as though we disappointed our parents. The truth is, had our parents simply awakened from THEIR dreams and entered the dream world we existed within......they could have seen that we exceeded all and any expectations and gone where we were "meant" to be........This would bring bliss to any parent. Thank you so much for your heartfelt input. I always love your replies, Martie!

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MartieCoetser 4 years ago from South Africa

My father's dream for me was to be an advocate and eventually a judge - I've proved my talents in this field already as a child. Personally I would have loved to be a Behavior Analyst and Therapist. Unfortunately, or fortunately, Life never gave me the opportunity to become any of them. Excellent hub, fpher48, emphasizing the difference between Profiling and Behavior Analysis. Voted up and awesome and all except funny :)

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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Oh yeah, me MOJO back....oh yeah......

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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States

Hi Paula,

Excellent message. I agree Talking does help esp when stress revolves around the person. Also if there is no one to could either look at the mirror and talk or just write it down. that helps too.

Thanks paula and good to see your mojo back :) cheers, my friend!

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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Yes, Tammy honey....You got THAT right! The busiest, craziest time of a woman's life......caring for a home and family, working a full or part-time job, as well, beginning to deal with the "teens", maybe even as a single parent because Mr. Wonderful left you for a 20 year old without stretch marks & chronic fatigue.......(they can be so sweet and considerate that way...sometimes, can't they?....the little rascals!)

Possibly concerned for parents who are aging and depend on you more.........Oh yes, EVERYBODY depends on Y O U!!! It can get a bit scary. With a therapist you can TALK and purge and laugh and cry.....and dig down find the strong, beautiful woman you are and always will be!.............Oh, this TALK can go on and on and on............The good news is: By the time you're in your 50's, you find how EASY it is to tell someone to EFF off............SMILES & Giggles!

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tammyswallow 4 years ago from North Carolina

That makes a lot of sense fpherje. Women ages 30 to 40 really support so many people day in and day out. It only makes sense that they would need someone to talk to. Great thoughts!

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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Tammy.....Would you be surprised if I told you the highest percentage of people who seek professional therapy are.......women, ages 30 to 40??? I'm considering doing a hub on include the "reasons why." Stay tuned.

Kelly! We can TALK anytime, girlfriend......your coffee or mine?

Your daughter has an aspiration to work for the BAU?? GOOD for her! and more power to her! Don't know how old she is, but encourage her to keep the grades way UP! The FBI is into BIG brains......The power of the FEMALE!! Yay!!!!!!!!

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RealHousewife 4 years ago from St. Louis, MO

Hey Effer - can we talk?


Excellent hub - I have a girl who wants to work for the BAU when she grows up:) shed love this hub too:)

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tammyswallow 4 years ago from North Carolina

This is great advice when it seems like most doctors today want to write a prescription and be done with a patient. Many people, especially the really young may just need a good ear and a sounding board. This is very interesing and very helpful. Great hub!

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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Sis.....We realize far too much after the fact......What's that called? "Too soon old and too late, smart?" It amazes me how so many people suffer needlessly through issues that impede their happiness and peace of mind....when the solution is simple and accessible.

Thanks for your input. I appreciate your finely-tuned WISDOM.

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Angela Blair 4 years ago from Central Texas

Girl, when you pick a deep subject you pick a deep subject -- and hooray for you -- it's one that desparately needs to be addressed. Now that I'm older'n dirt I've met a lot of people who could have used the help of a talk therapist -- if we'd known what one was back then. Thanks for the head's up and I'm sharing this one with my friends -- excellent work and bottom line enough for all of us. Best/Sis

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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

teaches.....You are so correct. Often, this type of therapy may be the one thing that can change someone's entire life around from hopeless to very happy and productive. As I stated, it just takes the first move....and the journey can begin.. Thank you for commenting. Always glad to see you and appreciate your input!!

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teaches12345 4 years ago

This type of therapy is much needed by so many out there. The ability to have someone talk through their problems and to have someone actually listen and give them positive direction is priceless.

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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Gracias Maria, amiga mia.....Ah preshate your wise perfeshanull opinyun!! means a lot to me!!

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marcoujor 4 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

Wonderful job, effer... From the heart with all kindsa common sense thrown in. Voted UP and UABI. Hugs, Maria

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tillsontitan 4 years ago from New York

Effer at least you know the best one to talk to ;)

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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Glimmer......I hope so. It always concerns me that many individuals will suffer for a long time due to "fear" and/or being labeled. I really hate that this exists, but it does. Thanks for reading!

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Glimmer Twin Fan 4 years ago

This will be a very useful and important hub for many people. Thank you.

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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

LOL!! Yeah....I guess I must have had a good night's sleep. I think it's very mystical how our mind has a panel of switches....On, Off, Pause, Rewind....hey! wait a minute......this all sounds vaguely familiar. hmmmm......question: Is the human brain the original prototype for our electronic recording devices?

Thanks Til.....I don't know about you, but I sit down with my therapist, Dr. MeMyselfAndI all the time. She's always available, very cheap and agrees with me 90% of the time. Oh sure, she's given some crappy advice now and then, but I seem to muddle through somehow.

I love your compliments! Don't stop now! LOL.......

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tillsontitan 4 years ago from New York

When you come off a writer's block you sure do it with a bang! Not only is this an excellent, well written hub, but one that touches on many nerves in this area. Wouldn't it be nice if it was accepted, just like a broken bone? Wouldn't it be nice if it was okay for everyone, not just the rich and famous to sit down with their therapist? It's time!

I'm sure this hub will touch many hearts and minds and may even save a life.

GREAT hub Effer, no kidding here. You've covered a lot of territory in a small space with great success!

Voted up, useful, awesome and interesting.

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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author nice to hear from the beautiful red-head!! You remind me of my gorgeous daughter-in-law..........Thanks so much for the comment and compliment. I strive for "down to earth." Nothing worse than too much medical/professional lingo to just confuse the heck out of people!! Peace~!!

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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Travelabout....although you joke about the call to Suicide prevention, would not surprise me that it can happen! It is true that some areas of the country are a bit lax in their Mental Health strength...and I doubt things will get better before they get worse...with all the ludicrous cutbacks in our current state of affairs...aka the Great Mess. Thank you for the compliment! I appreciate your input!

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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

bill.....Correct..."no joking here." Truth is there are enough jokes circulating around mental illness......and while in the right company, at an appropriate time....some comedy in this vein is acceptable......we all know that the real deal is quite devastating. I thank you for your intelligent input. Always good to hear your voice!!

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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

slackermom...Hi! Good to see you! Thanks for stopping by to comment on my hub. I'm glad you found it interesting. Always nice to hear from you!

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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Bobbi...Bless your sweet heart and STABLE mind....both wonderful thing to have! Sometimes, it's a benefit to be aware of mental health availability to be able to guide a friend or loved one. Especially since those closest to us, tend to come to us for advice! Thank you for your wonderful comment. You are a special lady!!

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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Dear Sunshine....I can't be bothered with Holidays and colors......I'm from the OLD School......It is my belief only VIRGINS can wear white. You may as well have a Bonfire tonight!! Should you decide to wear white anyway......Please wear a sign stating the clothes are antiques.


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Lucky Cats 4 years ago from The beautiful Napa Valley, California

Hi there fpher48! Extremely well written, very easy to read and follow and exceptionally down to earth which removes much of the stigma connected with matters having to do with mental/emotional issues. Thank you for sharing these enlightening words which calm the nerves and assure us that help is available. UP Useful Interesting!!!

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TravelAbout 4 years ago from United States

Good choice for a topic. Here on the Eastern Shore they are a little behind the times. When I called their suicide hotline, I was put on hold, indefinitely. Just joking about the suicide hotline, however, they are a bit behind the curve here.

Seriously, this is a subject that needs to get more attention. Over the last few years, severe cuts have been made in the area of mental health. Insurance companies are opting out of including any coverage for professional services. A prime example is the shooting at the theater in Colorado. It was well known he was in serious need of mental help. The media is starting to do more stories about the subject and hubs like this one help those who feel they need intervention need not feel ashamed. Great Hub! Voted up.

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slackermom 4 years ago from Attapulgus GA

Very interesting hub. Lots of useful information here. Great job.

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billybuc 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

No joking on this one Paula! Your words and advice are very important and a must read for those out there who simply feel confused or lost. There are far too many who need help but for one reason or another do not seek help. Maybe it is the social stigma; maybe it is ignorance about the help that is available. Whatever the reason, it is okay to seek out help. We all, in one way or another, seek help from others.

Thank you for writing an important hub that speaks to millions of people. Looks like that writer's block is gone for now.

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PurvisBobbi44 4 years ago from Florida


I found this hub to be insightful, informative and well written. Since I am a very strong minded person I lack the knowledge of being on a couch talking to someone about my issues.

However, I do think it is wonderful there are professional people who can help the ones who need it.

Eons ago anyone with emotional or mental issues were kept in their rooms upstairs.

My grandmother told me this about one of her great aunts who had a mental problem. And my grandmother as a young girl with her cousins would visit her room, and stand at the foot of the bed at just stare at her---until she invited them to sit and talk.

I love the modern world we live in today, but I would enjoy living in the past if I could take my computer.

Love your work.

Your Hub Friend,

Bobbi Purvis

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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL

Dear Dr. Effer,

We need to talk. I have been considering making a drastic move. I've weighed the pros and cons. I've spoke to friends and family, they said it's my choice.

I've considered the alternatives. I'm just very confused still and I could use your opinion.

Should women still wear white after Labor Day or not???? This question continues to baffle me! HELP!

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