Getting To The Root Of Anxiety!

Roots of Anxiety

Let me start with: Mental illness can be caused by child abuse, stress or trauma. Let's face it readers, 'shell shock' now renamed PTSD- Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, is what we use to call what happens to many veterans who come home from war and were shocked/traumatized by the killing and war. And this is how their body deal with it. In order to survive (and not die) our body adapts, or "deals with it" resulting in depression, anxiety, etc.

Talk Therapy

I believe everyone who has "issues or things" to work out should see a good therapist, for talking. I have done this for 18 years but lately have seen some interesting results. (I've always had results...but these are the latest. This isn't to say that my current therapist is better than ones I've had before, I think I was ready.


Anger is often a result that can surface from talking about childhood abuse. Thinking on the past can bring up a lot, but there's really no other way to heal. Burying your emotions will only hurt you and if it's really extreme, you can reveal a little at a time. [I just learned also that medication can cause anger :(

Some need to be in control as a result of stress or upbringing. This is very common. I need to be or feel in control most of the time because I grew up in a chaotic environment and I felt things were out of control back then and it made me feel often unsafe or scared with the yelling, fighting, being in uncomfortable situations for long periods of time...I grew up in fear of my father who was like a tyrant so I react now by trying to be in control--probably why I'm a neat freak- I can control my environment.

What does abuse do?

I am here to tell you that abuse--emotional even, can cause depression, anxiety, and bipolar (if you are predisposed (likely) to get it from genes; abuse will aggravate it or set it off early.) This predisposed illness recently came out in Catherine Zeta Jones, who had the potential for it, and being under severe stress with her husband being very ill as well as other things, she became bipolar and was hospitalized for 5 days to get it under control. Thankfully she is fine now and is doing well. Sometimes it's just a little bit of help we need and we can feel ourselves again. Stress is a killer in many ways, if you think about heart attacks and high blood pressure.


By becoming forced me and my body, to be able to stick up for myself unlike before because I could not take the yelling and abuse anymore. I became a force to be reckoned with!! I became my own and other people's Advocate. This agressive way of protecting myself and others developed into assertiveness over the years.

Good Therapies

There are many good therapies besides having a licensed psychologist or therapist who knows how to use tools to help you get over anxiety. For example, other than just listening to you vent, a good therapist will ask you how you felt when those stressful childhood events happened, and what would you say to comfort yourself? Techniques like that, of getting to the root can be very helpful.

Also, CBT- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, is a class originally developed for people with personality disorder, but often used for everyone, which teaches mindfulness which is staying in the moment, not wandering off all the time, but focusing on what's here and now.

This and other therapies such as self hypnosis, The Midwest Center For Anxiety and Depression, and "Battlefield of the Mind" a book by Joyce Meyer- famous Christian speaker are just a few examples of the good therapies out there that you can try with or without medication. Also for many, a good prayer and bible reading works wonders.

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K9keystrokes 6 years ago from Northern, California

SG, you're very kind to note your appreciation, My heart sings a song because you have a graceful soul.

I think this is a wonderful hub full of truth and open honesty, offering a wise tone for healing and help for all of those who read it. You're sharing things about how you became you and it is an honor to read, I am humbled by your path to this day.

I feel that at times you may have struggled but found a strength in your writing beyond what you expected, and I hope this gives you happy moments.

I find you bold and formitable to put your 'pen to page' on this day, and regain your rightful place within the hub community. Inspired I am, and I wish for you only a happy smile for the moments you may need it and a quiet heart to rest upon.

Your hub-buddy,


~Always choose love~

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schoolgirlforreal 6 years ago from USA Author

K9, Can't thank you enough :)

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Mike Lickteig 6 years ago from Lawrence KS USA

SG, you clearly write from your heart and it is wonderful to read.

Some folks believe that parents who abuse children were abused themselves--not necessarily by their own parents, but by someone who made them feel the way they in turn make their children feel. We act out oppressive behaviors as a response to feeling oppressed.

I don't know your family or your particular situation, but I hope the hurts do not run so deep that you cannot work through them. It sounds as if the direction you are taking is very positive, and writing seems to be helpful for you, as well.

Take care and stay strong.


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schoolgirlforreal 6 years ago from USA Author


thankyou, I appreciate that comment :) Yes, I do agree, though it is nice to break the cycle of abuse...something I've been working on. I know not everyone can do it/or is inclined to. This is just my unique personality I think. I don't want to repeat errors that would injure any potential children I may have- truthfully. But though I may try my hardest, I'm sure I won't be "perfect"LOL.

I think my bipolar itself is the hardest thing really and I work on it often. I believe that keeping up prayer and church and writing are essential positive tools.

Thanks for keeping it real ;-) Schoolgirl4real (Rose)

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Dave Mathews 6 years ago from NORTH YORK,ONTARIO,CANADA

schoolgirlforreal: Thank you for your acknowedgement, but honestly dear sister, I only respond with the word, the thoughts, from Holy Spirit. Here are more pearls of God's Wisdom through His Holy Spirit. Trust God for everything. Ask your therapist if he/she believes in God, and would mind praying with you.

When I read your mention of "Talk Therapy" my mind jumped to the very very best Doctor and Talk Therapist the world has ever known, actually the inventor of this form of therapy, Doctor Jesus Christ is His name, and I would gladly refer anyone with a problem to Him.

As I read further, WOW! "What does this do with my anxiety?" "I get anxious when I feel like I'm not in control." WOW! I was reminded that we are never really in control by ourself.

God's Holy Spirit can and will quickly bring our anxiety under control and establish a relaxing calmness the instant we ask Him to do so. A few deep cleansing breaths after asking Holy Spirit for help and all is under control.

Remember every problem every difficulty in our life is totally completely "Mind Over Matter" I don't "Mind" or care about anything that can upset God's Balance in me and absolutely nothing but my relationship with God and Jesus "Matters." This also goes for what others might say or think about me.

Through Holy Spirt's help,If you can accept this philosophy and believe it and apply it,one day at a time, your anxiety and any other sickness will in time cease and you will feel great.

God bless you and keep you.

Brother Dave.

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schoolgirlforreal 6 years ago from USA Author

Brother Dave,

your welcome. I guess I would just say that I've found not everything is cured by prayer. Like if I had diabetes, it wouldn't necessarily go away with me praying. I'd still need the insulin and upkeep.

The same is with my bipolar and anxiety. I do pray when I'm having a panic attack while driving and I've always survived. It's no fun though for that to happen, I've decided not to drive at night anymore for I seem plagued with anxiety at night and having that feeling like I'm going to lose control of my car is really awful.

So, yes I believe God helps me when I'm praying to Him, I believe He will keep me safe. But my suffering doesn't end...and I just can't help but to look for a way to make it end -by medicine or something; AND it is necessary for me to keep up my "therapy".

I have a sister who is Baptist and she thinks God alone can cure people- but I've lived it...God is not going to cure me (not now anyhow). I tell her, that if she is suffering from mental health issues, she needs to get help. "God helps those who help themselves."

My life is a tough one, Dave, but I appreciate any and all prayers and your positive influence. This is the best I can do, and increase my (recent lack of prayer and church) as well as my other 'therapies' like eating healthy, exercising, going for walks, and friends, ETC

God bless

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schoolgirlforreal 6 years ago from USA Author


At times you overwhelm me with your precious comments; I truly take refreshment in what you provide. It brings happy emotion to my heart when someone understands so well, So I just wanted to "respond" a little more than before lol :) You put my life into perspective with your words. And always bring joy and happiness and a big smile to me!

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Dave Mathews 6 years ago from NORTH YORK,ONTARIO,CANADA

schoolgirl: I know that it seems like maybe God is selective about what he will and won't cure. It is so for a reason. Somethings God leaves with us as reminders of who He is and who we are.

If God can reach out and cure someone with cancer, make it disappear completely, he can cure Diabetes, or Bipolar if it is His will to do so.

Dear sister use what medicines are necessary, and yes continue with your therapy, I would never suggest anything different for I am not a doctor, but never ever give up on prayer or God. Doctor Jesus is still the best doctor in the world.

Love and big hugs, and may God bless,

Brother Dave.

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schoolgirlforreal 6 years ago from USA Author

Thank you Brother,

I can always use a reminder to pray to Dr.God :)

Michelle 6 years ago

Hello... Schoolgirlforreal I suffer from anxiety disorder myself I will be 39 .. Your childhood sounded just like mine.. I am also very forgiving to my parents also.. Where mental illness was probaby a diagnosis for them also but didn't have the info back then.. I enjoyed your post.. All of us with anxiety problems are very similar.. Thank you

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schoolgirlforreal 6 years ago from USA Author


Thanks for responding with your comment. Yes, I agree that we with anxiety have very similar problems, thank you for pointing that out! That means that this article can be revelant or helpful to many many people with anxiety! I would like to read some other's articles on anxiety (will have to do a search). Thanks again.

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geofawunyo 6 years ago from London

Your story is very informative.. Anxiety can be caused by over reaction to a situation and unresolved issues.

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schoolgirlforreal 6 years ago from USA Author


Thankyou for reading my story. I'm glad it was informative. And thanks for the link!


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JeffDawson 6 years ago

I wish you the best of luck in relieving some of your anxiety. I know what it's like to have parents that work you a bit too hard, but it looks like you've got plenty of support and awareness to help yourself here!

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schoolgirlforreal 6 years ago from USA Author


Hi. Thanks. Today and last nite was very difficult. I left this morning as my dad was trying to coerce me into taking him shopping-and I know he will (yell and be extremely controlling etc.) I cried for 2 hours last nite, thinking it's like my elderly parents are "alread dead (in spirit)" sort of cause dad-82 is sorta giving up and Mom is sad, their manner of communicating is not really straight forward and it seems manipulative and confusing. My dad has been ill..for 3yrs

I left. But it seems to a toll on me almost the most of my 9 siblings- but i was there the most recently

God helps me to survive and I'm just glad I'm at my own place for some downtime and peace.

God bless you -I appreciate your comment

And I am getting there! :)

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Panic 6 years ago

Family issues can show up as anxiety, depression, illness, phobias, relationship issues, unhappiness, addictive behaviours, etc.; without knowing it, we are entangled in patterns from our family that keep us from living life fully.

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Goodpal 6 years ago

Everything mentioned in this hub and the comments are reminder of issues practically we all face, but few have the courage to admit and talk about it openly. It is definitely relieving.

From my experience, I have found that the company of motivating and positive people and encouraging/inspiring books can do a lot. The other useful tool I discovered is the practice of mindfulness meditation. It has worked very well for me and I recommend it to everyone.

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schoolgirlforreal 6 years ago from USA Author

Dear "Panic"

Thankyou for your comment. you are so right. I fight this everyday and I think I'm winning! Hope you are too:)

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schoolgirlforreal 6 years ago from USA Author

Hey Goodpal!

What an awesome comment, so glad you visited :)

Thanks for saying I have the guts to talk about this.

Hey, can you recommend a book on mindfulness meditation? I might just have to look one up!! thanks

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Goodpal 6 years ago

I really feel strongly compassionate about you and can sense that you are a real fighter. All you need is relaxation, selfless guidance and emotional and moral strength.

For relaxation: I suggest you try something that works fast on you - may be yoga, or plain long distance running, intense sports that make you really tired, or whatever else that you can enjoy. If you wish trying brainwave entrainment audios may be a good idea - they work fast and have no side effects. If you need guidance, read my hub:

For selfless guidance: I suggest you share you feelings with Brother Dave or anyone close to you -- in local Church or a counselor. Though I personally don't believe in God, but the compassion you get from really spiritual people is highly healing. But be careful.

For Moral and Emotional Strength: Read motivating books, see inspiring videos, and keep company of good people.


You are much STRONGER than you THINK. So, never ever give up. I can sense that you have tremendous amount of will power.

PS: For Mindfulness, you may read my recent article

Bad things happen to GOOD people. That's all. So, Keep growing stronger.

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schoolgirlforreal 6 years ago from USA Author


thankyou. I will read those hubs you mentioned! And I appreciate the suggestions and "boost" :) You are really a goodpal!!

[no pun intended] "Laughter is one of the best medicines"


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Denise Handlon 6 years ago from North Carolina

Brave work, sharing openly. :) Be gentle with yourself.

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schoolgirlforreal 6 years ago from USA Author

Thanks, Denise. Kind of you..I understand that now.

Rereading this today, I realize I was "rusty" then; I'm feeling alot stronger now, thankfully. ]

It is very open but it's ok if it helps me feel better and others too, you think? thankyou for your kind words! I'm actually been able to help out w/ out losing my temper, a big milestone.

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PanicAnxietyInfo 6 years ago from Sydney

Great hub - The bit about being in control was very insightful and good you canbe so introspective. I have sen a lot of people with Anxiety who do not realise that their problems comes form thier desire for control and when they lose they they start to panic.

Thank you for sharing!

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schoolgirlforreal 6 years ago from USA Author

Thank you very much, that's a beautiful analogy! I'm honored you really "got" my hub!!

Thanks again for stopping by

Haqmani 6 years ago


anxiety disorder is NOT any form of mental illness. Please alter your understanding on this. It is sad that many people are being misinformed about the facts of anxiety disorder symptoms. Anxiety disorder are behavioral conditions and not any kind of illness.


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schoolgirlforreal 6 years ago from USA Author


Oh! Sorry about that. I have "bipolar" too, so I just wrote it that way.

You're right, (actually), anxiety is NOT a mental illness! thx for pointing that out. I am less stigmatized lol-seriously. I'm not mentally ill, you hit the nail on the head. Thax for the comment :))

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Druid Dude 6 years ago from West Coast

These are things dumped into our dark sub-conscious. Each trauma in life, is a Dragon we must slay. It is the internal battle for yourself, your own personal Armageddon. These are not mystic things, very real. People pay thousands and thousands of dollars for a psychiatrist which allows you to surface your dragon from out of the past, and slay it. Relying on drugs is never good. It is really, the same thing that That certain fellow from Galilee experienced after the Jordan river incident. Native Americans call it the Medicine Dream. Not understanding a natural human learning process has led us to a system where the very thing that should liberate us is not even considered a viable treatment. The spirit within craves to be cleansed of the garbage cluttering our sub-conscious mind. Slaying the Dragon allows us to perceive beyond the veil, to our own Holy of Holies within the very Temple Jesus spoke of. Not imaginary. The path to true understanding and enlightenment, which the Great Buddha himself tread.

Pachuca213 6 years ago

I am a serious sufferer of depression, panick/anxiety disorder and sleep disorders. I personally know that PTSD is one of the triggers that spiraled me into a deeper problem. I think I was genetically susceptable for panic and anxiety but the PTSD made it worse. I have been through serious tragedies and experienced a stalker trying to kill me, where I had to move over 5 times to get away from this person always worrying that they would show up at my door and try again. It really messed me up. So I understand the anxiety issues. Good hub.

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schoolgirlforreal 6 years ago from USA Author


Wow, God bless you! Your difficulty makes mine seem small in comparison though I think we all individually feel our own "hell" or pain, and no one else can really know how it is exactly. These types of pain are like mysteries because they are invisible mostly to the human eye but it's just as painful as a physical pain or worse.

Again, Good health to you, and thankyou for sharing. I empathize with you, I have a lot of love for my "fellow sufferers" .

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i4u 6 years ago

Words from inside always comes out loud!

This hub surely does that.

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schoolgirlforreal 6 years ago from USA Author

Thanks very much!

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DANIELSORTOS 6 years ago

Great information! Always love learning more, especially about topics like these. I've definitely found talking therapy to be a massive help in my life. It's worth facing those fears.

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Sheena Graham 6 years ago

you seem to have a great information on anxiety! i like the way you write this article. Great hub!

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schoolgirlforreal 6 years ago from USA Author


Thankyou for commenting and visiting my hub. Glad you feel better with talk therapy and facing those fears! Great work!


I feel blessed for your lovely compliment! Thankyou so much and it's lovely to have a new hub friend who understands these issues!!

SG :)

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pearlmacb 6 years ago from Switzerland

Well written Hub. May God keep you strong, and soon nolonger fighting but instead living and enjoying a full life of Peace. I know the painful world of anxiety and not having any real cute-childhood memories.Today I live a blessed life...I owe my life to God- who really is the ExpertHealer of emotional sickness.

Ps. I will say a prayer for you, my sista in christ.

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schoolgirlforreal 6 years ago from USA Author

Hello pearlmacb,

Nice to see you again and thankyou for gracing the page.

God is keeping me strong yes, thankyou very much!

Yes, my wish is that too for me. Blessyou....prayer works wonders, do pray for that.

Thankyou again sweet sister. I believe you will pray.

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howcurecancer 5 years ago

I had a long period of time when I wanted to control and to have the power to control anything in my life.

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schoolgirlforreal 5 years ago from USA Author

Hi howcurecancer,

Nice of you to stop in:) thanks for your comment!

Glad you are over it now, It's not necessarily a bad thing to want your life to be in control but it can come along with painful anxiety as well.

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