The Truth about Being True to Yourself
For those of us raised in dysfunction - being true to ourselves is a somewhat daunting task after having spent years of our lifetime caught up in the chaos of co-dependency. We spend so much of our time trying to be what others want us to be. We spend so many years left clueless about the true desires of our own hearts.
When we are raised throughout our childhood not being allowed to make choices so we can learn from the consequences, we come to believe that the outside world has the right to dictate who we are, what we do, and how we are supposed to feel about life.
Because we have learned to kowtow to the wishes and expectations of everyone else, we wonder why our health is bad, our emotions are a mess, and nothing in our life is ever smooth or calm or peaceful. We don’t realize that because we are NOT being true to ourselves, we will NEVER be able to experience success, fulfillment, peace, or our heart’s desire in ANY area of our lives. We won’t ever achieve any of this until we gather up the courage, the empowerment, to speak our truth, to take the steps and the action we need to take in order to experience our TRUE self and the life that goes with it.
Giving in and believing that “this is all there is”, that we don’t believe we are worthy of even having our dreams come true is one of the worst things we can do to ourselves. We begin to believe that God is not a loving God or that we have no reason to be here except to suffer or that we have to learn to meld our beliefs and wishes to conform to the beliefs and wishes of someone else. Once we have convinced ourselves of all these misperceptions, our attitude of just tolerating what we experience begins to affect everyone else around us, not just our own physical and emotional and mental perceptions.
A couple things here are worth noting – pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional. Once we find that innate empowerment deep down inside us, we can start living our lives knowing we do not need to suffer. We CAN make changes, we DO have the right to do so, and we CAN live our lives true to OURSELVES. Another noteworthy item here is the fact that tolerating and accepting things are two totally different perspectives. When we tolerate something, we give in and surrender to what we believe is “all there is.” When we accept something, we believe that we are meant to “grow where we are planted” and that we are at peace in our deepest soul and spirit with the circumstances and surroundings in our lives.
It’s all about perspective. It’s all about TRUTH – living our TRUE lives, not just existing in the shadow of who we were truly meant to be.
May 2012 find us all living our TRUE lives, strong and free and confident that we are fulfilling our TRUE destiny and living from the very innate empowerment we were blessed with before we were even conceived.
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