Things To Think About If You Feel You May Relapse

A PROUD AND SOBER FATHER ON MY DAUGHTER'S WEDDING DAY

WALKING MY BEAUTIFUL DAUGHTER DOWN THE AISLE ON HER WEDDING DAY AND DOING IT COMPLETELY CLEAN AND SOBER.
WALKING MY BEAUTIFUL DAUGHTER DOWN THE AISLE ON HER WEDDING DAY AND DOING IT COMPLETELY CLEAN AND SOBER. | Source

MY THOUGHTS ON GOING BACK TO DRINKING

Here are some things to think about about if you feel you may relapse and go back to drinking alcohol. These are the thoughts I had when the temptation and the urge to drink alcohol came over me while I was trying to stay sober and live life with long term sobriety.

The temptation and the urge to drink alcohol came over me so many times in the very beginning, but I needed to stop and think what I would be doing to myself and my family after I was doing so well staying sober.

I can understand why so many people that have been sober for some time and all of a sudden something happens in their life and the first thing they think about is having a drink to make things all better.

Well you know as well as I do that drinking alcohol fixes nothing. It only make the problem even worse, not better. You may think that alcohol is the fix all drug, but I am here to tell you it doesn't work at all. You may forget about that large or small problem or that upset in your life while downing those drinks, but in the end and you sober up that problem will be sitting on your doorstep and still needs to be tended to.



THE TEMPTATION AND THE URGE

HERE IS WHAT WENT THOUGH MY MIND WHEN THE TEMPTATION CAME OVER ME. HOPEFULLY WHAT I SAY HERE WILL HELP YOU TO NOT DRINK OR RELAPSE.

  • The first thing I thought of was, I have worked so hard to get to where I am now being sober.
  • I would be so disappointed in myself if I were to drink alcohol to solve a problem.
  • I would disappoint my family and friends that were so supportive, loving, caring and understanding while I was struggling to stay sober.
  • I would have to start back at day number One (1) and relive the hardest part of sobriety and that would be to stay sober and to get through the initial days, weeks and for some months of that hard part of leaving your demons behind.
  • I would lose my positive attitude and begin to be negative all because I let myself down and broke a promise to myself that I would never start to drink alcohol again no matter what happens in my life. I will NOT break and drink again.
  • I thought to myself I was doing just fine being sober so why would I ever need to drink alcohol to feel good. I feel just fine and happier than ever not drinking.
  • Everything is going so great with my new sober life and I am afraid if I drink and relapse everything will start to be negative and go wrong again just as it was when I was drinking alcohol every single day. I don't want to ruin a great thing I have worked so hard to get.

STOP AND THINK BEFORE YOU PICK UP THAT DRINK!

Think about what you are about to do to yourself and your family. Think of the heartaches that one drink you are about to consume will do to you and your positive outlook on life and your sobriety.

Is it really worth drinking alcohol to ease your problem? you can handle any problem or upset in your life being sober and believe it or not you will solve it much better sober than being drunk and trying to figure it out.

Yeah I know, everything sounds like a wonderful idea while drunk until the next day when you sober up is when you realize it was a stupid idea and why you ever even thought of it. It was the alcohol talking and thinking for you!!!

Alcohol in anyone makes horrible decisions and always the wrong ones!!


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always exploring 4 years ago from Southern Illinois

I applaud your thought process. My husband committed suicide while intoxicated. Thank God you found sobriety before you reached that depth of hopelessness. Thank you for sharing..Cheers


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the clean life 4 years ago from New Jersey Shore Author

always exploring- OMG I am so sorry to hear of your husband passing. That is awful and feel so bad for you and your family. This is why I try so hard to get the point across to never give up on yourself and do anything possible to beat your demons. If you even need to talk I am always a click away and would be glad to try and help you deal with your loss.

God Bless You!!!

Mark


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always exploring 4 years ago from Southern Illinois

Mark, This happened in 1984. We were divorced. I have moved on, but the memory of what he was before alcohlol took over his life is with me and will always be. Thank you my new friend...


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CloudExplorer 4 years ago from New York City

I had my run ins with drinking indeed, this hub is definitely helpful to those who have issues with alcoholism, and also for those who may be heading that direction.

So thanks Mark for looking out for us all, and I'm glad you've found the courage in yourself to put it to a halt, and to become more self aware of the fact that your life wasn't going anywhere by abusing alcohol. You have definitely achieved growth in an area where many people have simply failed to conquer.

Great job man, and keep up the battle, because it isn't easy to resist such temptations as using alcohol as an escape from potential life stresses and problems, for sure.

Voted up and getting shared and I'm preparing something cool in the works for your motivation to help others. Awesome stuff!


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CloudExplorer 4 years ago from New York City

Sorry for your loss Always Exploring, God bless you and your family.


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Julie DeNeen 4 years ago from Clinton CT

So nice to see someone writing so honestly about the journey of alcoholism and recovery. Voted up!


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ruthclark3 4 years ago from Arkansas, USA

Thanks for this. It's a lot to think about. There are times when the alcoholic has no defense against drinking except his relationship with his Higher Power. If one has lived day by day cultivating that relationship, then he (or she) has the choice. They have the time to think it through. All the way through to the end when sobriety would be lost. It just isn't worth it.


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robie2 4 years ago from Central New Jersey

I love the honesty of your sharing, clean life and I love the picture of a sober you walking your daughter down the aisle on her wedding day-- what better testament to sobriety could there be? It's always one day at a time and a question of gratitude. Thanks for sharing this. I'm voting it up and awesome


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SilentReed 4 years ago from Philippines

In my younger days I have indulge in binge of alcoholism for various reason; when I'm sad I drink, when I'm happy I drink, when I have nothing better to do I drink.:) It's always the following day while nursing a hangover that resolutions of "never again" are made, only to be broken as the cycle starts again. I still drink occasionally but not in the capacity of my past drinking habit. Perhaps it is because I have taken the "I" out of the equation of the argument "why should I stop drinking." Watching my grandchildren growing up around me made me realize what you must have felt in your photo of a beaming father walking his daughter down the aisle...Problems will continue to arise, that is unavoidable. but life's simple pleasures and joy need not come from a bottle. And they help reinforce one's resolute


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the clean life 4 years ago from New Jersey Shore Author

always exploring - Thank you for your comment and I am sure those memories were great one before you were divorced. I know it must be so hard for you but stay strong and take good care of yourself :)


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the clean life 4 years ago from New Jersey Shore Author

CloudExplorer- I am so sorry for the long delay on replying to your comment but thank and I am looking forward to seeing what you have in store. I was the same as you were. Any reason to drink was good for me. I have a sign that reads "I ONLY DRINK ON DAYS THAT END IN Y" So there you have it everyday drinking for many years.


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the clean life 4 years ago from New Jersey Shore Author

@ Julie- Thanks for reading and you comment. My hope is to just someone's life out in the world with my writing and everything I write about is from the heart.

Thank you for the Vote Up Julie!!


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the clean life 4 years ago from New Jersey Shore Author

@ Ruth - Thanks Ruth for your comment and words of wisdom. There were many times over the last couple years I wanted to open a beer because of something that just didn't go right and a couple things that happened in my life, BUT I knew if i did that would be the end. Everyone that has given up drinking should be strong enough not to let the demons come back into their life just because of something that went wrong. I an really proud of myself that I have the willpower to say NO!


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the clean life 4 years ago from New Jersey Shore Author

robie2 - Please forgive me for the delay to your comment. Thank you so much for the kind words you said and yes it sure felt great being sober as I was watching others get drunker and drunker. I can't believe that was me at one point in my life. It is great to be sober and have all your wits about you.


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the clean life 4 years ago from New Jersey Shore Author

SilentReed - Sorry as well for the long delay in reply to your comment. i know exactly what you mean. Anything for an excuse to drink. I too sad never again!!! and after the hangover goes away the first thing on my mind is to get a drink and start the process all over again. really sad to think about that now, but glad i am CLEAN AND SOBER NOW!!

BTW I love your avatar :)

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