Top Ten Things for Women After Age 50 To Do - Not Know - Do

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Do you know a woman over 50?

Do you love a woman over 50?

Are YOU a woman over 50?

If the answer to any of these questions is YES, the following ten things are things you really need to make an active part of your life.

Volumes have been written on what to do, what not to do, what you should know, what you probably don’t know, and on and on and on concerning women as they do what our culture tells us is the worst thing a woman in 21st Century America can do: get older.

If you are one of these over 50 women, as I am, it’s all just a little bit disconcerting. And I can’t help but think, at the bottom of most of this onslaught of information is the motivation to separate me from the hard-earned cash I’ve finally accumulated a little of after more than a half century on the planet. Yes, I have age spots. Yes, I have wrinkles. Yes, I have gray hair. No, I don’t think you or your latest version of snake oil can do very much about any of that. Why? Because, as everyone has pointed out to me, I wasn’t born yesterday.

After some dedicated research, and more than a little bit of effort to separate the facts from the hype, I’ve established my own list of the top ten things every woman over the age of 50 needs to know and put into action for her own benefit. For better or worse, here they are:

  1. Don’t underestimate your own knowledge of your own body. If something feels not exactly right, it probably isn’t right. Check it out with a doctor you both trust and can easily talk to. (If you can’t do one, you can’t do the other.) Heart disease is our greatest threat. And it is nobody’s fault but our own if we ignore or minimize the symptoms when they present themselves. It is well documented as the leading killer of women.
  2. Move. Walk, dance, swim, stand when you are talking on the phone, intentionally park in the middle of the lot, take the stairs, wear a weight belt around the house for some strength training. But move.
  3. Stop eating what you know is not good for you. Less processed. More natural. Less red meat. More fruits and vegetables. Less salt and sugar. More water.
  4. Are you still smoking? Seriously? After all these years and all you now know? Enough said.
  5. Enjoy your one glass of wine each day, or your one bottle of beer or wine cooler, or your one mixed drink. But that’s it. Only one.
  6. Have sex.
  7. Sleep at least eight hours every night. I know. I know. If only I could, right? Watch your alcohol and caffeine intake in the evening. Take a hot bath and/or read a good book before bedtime instead of watching an action movie. Turn out all the lights and turn down the heat in your bedroom. Have a mental “going to sleep” routine, turning off the worries and letting your thoughts go to a happy place. (Reference number two and six.)
  8. Forgive someone. Start with just that one person who has so wronged you. You know what will happen next? You’ll forgive someone else, then someone else, then someone else. You set the pattern for forgiveness just like you set the pattern for holding grudges. Nothing ages us more than holding grudges.
  9. Listen to uplifting music, however you define that. If jazz floats your boat, go with jazz. Maybe you whistle a happy tune to show tunes. Classical music might be your cup of tea. Or you might be a believer that Rock rocks. Gospel may be what speaks to your soul. Or you might be more than a little bit country. Pick one or all of them. The benefits would be a great topic for another hub.
  10. Do something each and every day for someone besides yourself. This generosity gets the focus off your own limited universe and motivates you to expand your comfort zone, stay connected with the outside world, and continue to explore and learn every single day.


    For more information on women's health, this is a great clip from ABC News, but HP doesn't support the format. Go to http://abcnews.go.com/Video/playerIndex?id=13776020 on your own Internet browser to watch.
  11. Just learned this: Brush your teeth with the hand you don't normally use. It's an easy routine to get into on a daily basis, and it will significantly help fight off dementia.


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Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

kathleen, from a woman over 50, I think this is just outstanding in every aspect. Thank you for writing this refreshingly honest and down to earth piece. All of the ten points are excellent, and we should put them into practice right away. In His Love, Faith Reaper


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teaches12345 4 years ago

All great tips and ones that will prove to extend your happiness in life. Will try to get them into my routine as well. Thanks for posting. Voted up, interesting, and useful.


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libby1970 4 years ago from KY

Good advise. I've not made it to 50 just yet but I will keep all these tips in mind when I finally do get there! A great read!


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Kathleen Cochran 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

Libby1970, teaches12345, and Faith Reaper: Thanks for the quick response. I hoped this one would get some attention. We all need this information - really at any age. Thanks!


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Gypsy Willow 4 years ago from Lake Tahoe Nevada USA , Wales UK and Taupo New Zealand

Excellent advice! Check out deals for the older people. Enjoy life to the full. our days are numbered!


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Kathleen Cochran 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

Well put and thanks.


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Nellieanna 4 years ago from TEXAS

Kathleen - very good 10 points! As someone WELL over 50, I've practiced most of them faithfully for years - at least ever since passing 50 - (30 years ago). So I can vouch for them!


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Kathleen Cochran 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

Nellianna: It is great to hear from someone who can speak from their own experience. Thanks for commenting.


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Angie Jardine 4 years ago from Cornwall, land of the eternally youthful mind ...

Hi Kathleen ... at 63 I worked out long ago that trying to hold back the years just make you a fake.

The bottom line is 'just be you' ... embrace yourself, wrinkles, age spots etc.etc. ... I think (hope) more of us older women are coming to the same conclusion.

Well written and persuasive hub, m'dear ... thank you.


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Kathleen Cochran 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

I'm so grateful for your comments. I totally agree about enbracing this stage of life. My goal was to help us get the most out of it. Thanks for contributing.


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Kathleen Cochran 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

Nellieanna: As someone further down the road than me, do you have any of your own top ten to add?


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Kathleen Cochran 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

Gypsy, I have a friend who has a t-shirt that reads: I'm a senior citizen. Give me my damned discount. We should all get one!


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Kathleen Cochran 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

Libby: You are so far ahead of the rest of us! Start now and you'll outlive us all. Do you have any tips of your own from a younger point of view?


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Kathleen Cochran 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

Faith Reaper: Do you have any of your own to share?


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Redberry Sky 4 years ago

Brilliant list for *all* women! I’ll add: 'Be independent, always' and ‘buy yourself chocolates’, because then you’ll be sure to snaffle the strawberry mousse instead of having to say, ‘no, no, you have it honey, no I don’t mind at all.’ I’m quite looking forward to fifty now. Especially number six.


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Kathleen Cochran 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

Redberry Sky: Love your addition. I'm adding it to my list too. There's always lots to look forward to - six included.


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That Grrl 4 years ago from Barrie, Ontario, Canada

I've never carried grudges around so I have no one to forgive. I wish it was that easy to lose weight so I could do more moving around. I try to at least not become a shut-in by making myself get out a few times a week. Nice post. The ideas aren't new but you wrote them well.


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phdast7 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia

Very well written. Wisdom, common sense, and humor all in one place. :) And apparently, that is the consensus opinion, as it should be. :) A very nice start to my day.


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LaThing 4 years ago from From a World Within, USA

Great advice! I am not there yet, but 5 more years only..... I agree with you, we have to know the facts from the hypes. The world, now a days, is full of hypes! Enjoyed reading it, voting up and useful.


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rebeccamealey 4 years ago from Northeastern Georgia, USA

Good merging of ideas for a healthy mind and a healthy body. Thanks for sharing your ideas.


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mollymeadows 4 years ago from The Shire

Kathleen, thanks for reminding us of common sense. It's always a temptation to have a honking midlife crisis over looks. But I think I'm going to skip that part and move directly to my second childhood. It sounds like much more fun ;-)


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AudreyHowitt 4 years ago from California

Well said and things we all know (or should)--but very inspiring!


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Kathleen Cochran 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

mollymeadows - a woman after my own heart! I think I'm probably into my fifth or sixth childhood, but who's counting? Glad you enjoyed the read and took the time and trouble to say so.


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Kathleen Cochran 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

Audrey - Welcome to my hubs and thanks for the comment.


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Kathleen Cochran 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

That Girl: I'm impressed with your first sentence. Just that fact about you puts you so far ahead of the rest of us. Thanks for commenting and welcome to my hubs.


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Kathleen Cochran 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

Welcome to my hubs and thanks for the encouragement. Enjoy the next five years - it only gets better.


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Kathleen Cochran 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

rebeccamealey: Thanks for contributing to this hub. Welcome.


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shea duane 4 years ago from new jersey

I'm 51 and am pretty good with respect to these 'rules,' but I need to exercise more. Twice a week is not enough.


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tammyswallow 4 years ago from North Carolina

Great to see someone approach this subject in a positive light. I have a bit to go, but this article doesn't scare me about aging. Very interesting.


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tammyfrost 4 years ago from Oregon

These are great tips that even women under 50 should do. Thanks for sharing.


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nenytridiana 4 years ago from Probolinggo - Jawa Timur - Indonesia

Yes, There are great tips, I wonder how would I be?


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Kathleen Cochran 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

Tammyswallow: Positive is the way to go - glad that's what you got out of this hub!

Tammyfrost: Probably good advice for women on their way to 50 as well. Thanks for reading and commenting.

nenytridiana: I'm sure you'll be great at every age. Thanks and well to my hubs.


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Kathleen Cochran 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

shea duane: You are way ahead of a lot of us! Good luck in your efforts and thanks for commenting.


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2patricias 4 years ago from Sussex by the Sea

This is a great list. I'm over 60 and have a couple more to add:

1. Count your blessings. I mean it - at least once a day, think about the things in your life that are good. And keep thinking about it until you realise that unless you are living in a tent in a war zone, there IS something good about your life.

On the subject of counting blessings, I think this quote is from Dr Seuss "smile that it happened, don't cry because it's over". How many of us mourn what is lost and forget to be thankful for those people and things who have given us happiness?

2. Focus on things that you can control. If your nearest and dearest is in poor health, don't wring your hands - work out what you can do to make the most of what you have got.

Sorry to sound like a know all - but this advice comes from experience.

I've voted your hub up.


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Kathleen Cochran 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

Advice from experience is always welcome. Love the quote and love that it is from Dr. Seuss. Both additions are priceless. Thanks for contributing.


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justateacher 4 years ago from Somewhere Over The Rainbow - Near Oz...

I still have a few (very few!) Teresa before fifty but this is great advice for even us younger folk!


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justateacher 4 years ago from Somewhere Over The Rainbow - Near Oz...

That should have said years!!!


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Kathleen Cochran 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

justateacher (no one is just a teacher!) The sooner you start taking care of yourself the better off you are. As for moving, I'd love to encourage teachers to get their students moving as often as possible. Can't believe childhood obesity has doubled since my children were little ones! Thanks for the comments.


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Thelma Alberts 4 years ago from Germany

This is a great advice for all of us who are 50´s and more. Yes, I am over 50 and enjoy to be on this age. Not even a wrinkle on my face as what my friends said. Positivity is one of the aspect in living a healthy life, together with your top ten tips.

Voted up and thanks for sharing.


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Kathleen Cochran 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

Thelma: Thanks for your comments and encouragement. Glad you are enjoying this time of life. Me too!


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EuroCafeAuLait 4 years ago from Croatia, Europe

Hi Kathleen, just stumbled across your Hub and it is a gem. It's getting shared on Facebook right now. I really loved your practical tips and the way you laid it out on the line. Enough said. Voted up and Awesome. I'm a fan!


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Kathleen Cochran 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

EuroCafeAuLait: First and foremost, I LOVE you handle! Thanks for the encouragement and I hope you stumble further. Welcome to my hubs. I'll check out yours.


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Om Paramapoonya 4 years ago

Lovely advice! I believe my mom (who's 55) has already been doing most of these things, but I'll still share this hub with her. It's a nice reminder!


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Kathleen Cochran 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

OM Paramapoonva: I think it is so sweet you want to share this hub with your Mom. She's lucky!


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Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

Hitting fifty for me was such a shock! back in the day fifty was regarded as old, so feeling the way I do I still feel much younger, your tips are excellent and some of them I really must incorporate into my life, I may feel younger but I am still over that age! lol!


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Kathleen Cochran 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

I felt the exact same way. I don't mind my children becoming adults, but it's a shock to be the age my Mother was when I was their age.

Thanks for your comments Nell Rose.


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epigramman 4 years ago

...well Kathleen I may be the only gentleman commenting on this.

Although I am 54 now and I would imagine much of this list could apply to men over 50 as well. Also in terms of the female gender I always like to see how the other half lives - so to speak. I will send this link to my hub buddy Amy who is definitely over 50 (lol) but she is the youngest woman I know and she what she thinks - she is a great writer like you Kathleen and it was so nice to meet you here at the Hub and your fan mail really rocks - and coming from someone as special as you - it really means a lot to me - sending you warm wishes and good thoughts from lake erie time ontario canada 11:22am


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Kathleen Cochran 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

This info does apply to men as well - but- I'd love to see a man (I wonder who?) write the male version, because I'm sure there are some specifics for the guys out there.

I'm flattered you are reading more of my work. I plan to read more of yours.


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Thelma Alberts 3 years ago from Germany

Yes, I´m a woman of 52 and I was not born yesterday. That´s what I said to people who underestimated me. I am doing some of these tips and will certainly do the other you mentioned here. Thanks for sharing;-)


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Kathleen Cochran 3 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

Thelma: You sound like someone I'd like to know. Welcome to my hubs. Glad the suggestions are being put to use.


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Au fait 3 years ago from North Texas

These all sound like great habits for everyone regardless of age -- except the wine of course. One really should be 18 before that, yes? The one thing I wonder about is how brushing my teeth with my left hand is going to ward off dementia?

A grudge is a huge weight to carry around and the sooner a person sheds it the better. Exercise is the 'Fountain of Youth,' as I explain in one of my own hubs. Smoking and grudges both kill you slowly and they serve no good purpose.

Great suggestions, great advice, and a fantastic hub!!


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Kathleen Cochran 3 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

Au fait: The benefit of brushing your teeth with your other hand is to challenge your mind and your muscle memory on a regular basis. Or so I read. Who knows? Thanks for taking the time to read this hub and contribute to it.


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PegCole17 22 months ago from Dallas, Texas

These are great ideas to pass along to our age group. Another one that seems to help stimulate the mind is working puzzles and brain games. My mother is about to turn ninety this year and she likes to get her "computer work" out of the way early in the morning. Her work is playing Spider and Dominoes on the computer as well as organizing her music selections.


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tillsontitan 22 months ago from New York

I don't know how I missed this hub but I do know its worth reading. Reminders of things that not only keep us young but keep us healthy. I guess anything you do that "upsets" your routine makes your mind work harder. Not a bad thing as we age.

Voted up, useful, and interesting.


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Kathleen Cochran 22 months ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

I recycled this hub because it is one of my most popular, but HP unfeatured it. Go Figure. Thanks for the comment.


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Kathleen Cochran 22 months ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

That is one smart lady. Thanks for the comment, Peg.

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