6 Tips on Unblocking Looping Thought Patterns (Video)

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"I Can't Stop These Thoughts"

"I can't seem to stop my thoughts and I so feel helpless." My thoughts are driving me crazy and are out of control." "I don't know what to do? I feel like such a failure."

I get told these statements all the time from my clients when they get fearful and mentally fixed on the future. Then they get told by others “Stop worrying about what might be due to what happened to you. The past is over."

Think about when you fixate on your past, you are generally told "Stop trying to fix the past." "Get off your butt and do something. Just live in the moment.”

As a result you ask yourself "I can't do anything. I am confused. I am totally lost in my thoughts. I am so stuck. I can't seem to move forward."

Everyone has accumulated blocking thoughts during our life. It is a normal part of life. It is what you do with your thoughts once you have recognize there is a pattern which is important. What is harmful is when you get caught in a thought or set of thoughts that endlessly circle without closure in your mind, like a whirlpool and no matter what, anything you do does not stop it. This mental occurrence is called a thought addiction (TA). TA is a habitual focusing on one thought or set of thoughts that consumes your energy and life. Thought addiction is the returning to a thought over and over again which does not serve you and has damaging results as well as depletes every system of your body of energy.


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Do you find yourself mentally stuck often?

In order to move forward and attain what you want out of life you first have to recognize that which is blocking your progress. Many people are not aware that the one thing that is stopping them from personal, relational or career success is their own thinking pattern.

Understand, you are a product of your own thoughts. Thoughts shape your life and determine your mindset toward yourself and others. Thoughts patterns have a powerful influence on emotions, behaviors and reactions as well.

There are those who fall into deep denial that they have developed an addiction to a particular thought pattern. Some are so scared to see what is holding them back when in fact it is his or her own thoughts that is blocking. He or she is so afraid that they are addicted to their thoughts that they will not stop look and are afraid to take responsibility for his or her own thoughts.

See what is real is that addiction to a thought or a set of thoughts clouds your ability to view yourself or life realistically.

4 Steps in Changing Looping Thoughts

Thought Pattern Themes

I have found that most people use habitual thought patterns to keep him or her stuck (generally fixated on the past or projecting on what might happen in the future), to numb out emotions or to avoid the present by allowing thoughts to loop over and over as a distraction from what is really going on. Anxious, depressing, suicidal and worried thinking are just a few forms of habitual thought looping (also known as a thought addiction).

It is habitual thought pattern is what blocks you from reaching success, fulfillment, happiness and your success.

There are three thematic thoughts patterns.

I would like to briefly address themes that you may tend to fall into.

Theme #1 habitual thought pattern is the Fixer. A Fixer is when you are always thinking about what has happened to you in the past. Many Fixers spend the majority of waking time constantly thinking about happened, how it went wrong, how he or she failed or could not stop the event and going over every experience in order to figure out how to fix them. Involvement in this thought pattern is an attempt to fix, need to fix or how to change what happened. This them will cause you to become depressed or disappointed because you learn that you can't change your the past.

The habitual thought pattern theme #2 which you may get stuck in is the Worrier. A Worrier is when you are afraid about what is going to happen in the future. Your thoughts focus and loop on projecting or predicting what is going to happen tomorrow, next week, next month or next year. Only in hindsight do you find out that 99% of those projections never happen or come true. This habitual thinking causes you to be overly fearful and anxious about anything in their future.

Theme #3 is the Daydreamer. A Daydreamer is when you are unhappy with your life and spend the majority of your time mentally escaping through excessive daydreaming. When in this type of looping thinking occurs, it causes you to have a false view of yourself and the world as well as cause you to disconnect from yourself and others around you.

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6 Tips for Unblocking Looping Thoughts

1. Recognize you have a problem with getting stuck in your thoughts.

2. Identify and create a list of all the thoughts you repeatedly fixate or ruminate on during your day.

3. Next to each thought on your list, write down which theme each thought fits into.

4. Next decide your options. Is each thought a barrier or a motivator? Does the thought stop you from accomplishing what you want or living your life in the moment? Or is this thought motivating you into success?

5. Take action. Now join up with your imagination and correct the thoughts that are stopping you from living life in the moment.

I know you are very proficient at using your imagination, but maybe you do not know to effectively use your imagination to improve your life. Whether you know it or not you use your imagination to create images that support blocking thoughts and you generate feelings of anxiety, fear and worry which are counter-productive to your emotional, physical, mental and spiritual health. Instead of always expecting only bad things to happen to you based on your past or worrying about things in the future which might never happen in the name of “being cautious”, create positive thoughts to fixate on. Make a decision to imagine these new thoughts happening in your present situations, relationships, outcomes, and future successes. Also create new “feel good” images to connect to your new positive thoughts.

6. Develop discipline. So in order to embed your new list you've created, you need to develop a new positive habitual pattern. Extract 10 of most important thoughts with the most power images off your list and repeat the list to yourself 20 times a day with your eyes closed while you mentally visualize the imagines you developed for each. This is a very powerful combination. Also give yourself permission to open your mind to accepting new possibilities.

Simply, make this statement your new mantra:

“See it, believe it, feel it and desire it and it will become true.”

If you put these 6 tips into action, you will soon produce a new positive patterns of thoughts. These new thoughts will embed into your mind and become part of your mental life.

--
Dr Bill Tollefson, Ph.D., Certified Master Life, Health and Mindset Coach, Human Behavior, Addiction & Relationship Expert

Suggestions

Success is possible through positive thinking. For more positive tips,

http://hubpages.com/hub/Addiction_Begins_with_a_Thought

and an assessment to help you determine if you have blocking thoughts;

http://drbilltollefson.hubpages.com/hub/Am_I_Addicted


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Donnacha C 5 years ago from Ennis, Co Clare, Republic of Ireland

brilliant article! I will defenitely try your tips. thank you


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wysley 5 years ago

Great article! I especially liked that you not only identified the common habitual thought patterns that a person might get stuck in, but then how to go about successfully changing that process-no matter how long it may have been going on, or ingrained it may be. We can actively and positively change how we think! It's an issue that a person may have to repeatedly refer back to, as old thinking patterns tend to come back especially during high periods of stress even when progress has been made. Great article I know I will refer back to often!


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Deborah Demander 5 years ago from First Wyoming, then THE WORLD

Very helpful hub, indeed. I particularly like the fact that after you identify the problem, you offer a solution. I will seek out more of your work.

Namaste.


Lesleysherwood 5 years ago

This is a fantastic hub. Thank you


Elizabeth 5 years ago

Hi, Dr Bill! Should these affirmations be said into the mirror to help "embed" them?

Thanks, and glad to see/hear you are doing well!

Elizabeth


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Dr Bill Tollefson 5 years ago from Southwest Florida Author

Hey Elizabeth no you do not have to say them in the mirror. This list happens to Positive Life Statement and can be said anywhere all day long.


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eddiecarrara 5 years ago from New Hampshire

Nice hub Dr Bill, I think James Allen says it best in his book (As A Man Thinketh) “ All that man achieves and all that he fails to achieve is the direct result of his own thoughts.”


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Dr Bill Tollefson 5 years ago from Southwest Florida Author

eddiecarra Thank you for your comment and understanding. We need to take more stock in what the content of our thoughts and what we can do to shift them.


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ostikay1234 5 years ago from LONDON

Very simple and straight to the point hub with a wealth of information.


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Dr Bill Tollefson 5 years ago from Southwest Florida Author

ostikay1234 - Thank you for reading this HUB and for your comment.


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KoraleeP 4 years ago from Vernon British Columbia Canada

Great hub! I have bookmarked it because I want study it further. I'm going to look into my thought patterns, and try out the tips for change. I am sure that my thought aren't perfect and want to get a hold of them now. Thanks for sharing your knowledge.


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Dr Bill Tollefson 4 years ago from Southwest Florida Author

Thanks for your thoughts and comments. Hope the tips help you out to discover how your thoughts are helping or blocking you. You are welcome. Look at the Thought Addiction Assessment HUB. It might give more clarity.


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rarkangel 4 years ago from nz

I am grateful for your blogs - now in my 30's my counselor gave me a dreams book. For the life of me I must get the name of it and get back to you. It was so good and have not come across another one as good as it or where it makes sense and aligns with my experiences. Now the counseling and the book really taught me to be in the present and that I can control the dreams. Talking it out and persevering with this really helped. I am in charge of my dreams now and it does not own my day's like it use to.

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But the flash backs I haven't learn't how to make those go away and I really have had enough. It is so exhausting. Thing's like in the shower, opening a door, it's worst atw night, in bed before sleep when I close my eye's, on the couch , picking up an object, remote, knife, fork, telling me to destroy my husband, my marriage, and myself. And also I went on camp recently and we went on a bush walk at night to see glow worms, we each had a rock to take to a mediation site and pray into it good things and to put down the bad things in our live's. But as we were walking through the night, these erratic flashbacks would be in my mind telling me to destroy this wonderful moment, I definitely was not at peace, I felt like I was being attacked by something psycho whispering in my mind to destroy the girls I was with (I have vowed I will destroy myself before I ever touch another human being), with the rock, and to destory myself. I am so insulted this is within me. How dare it. I am such a great wonderful loving girl who made a vow to be nothing like the violence I was exposed to from my parent's. So much abuse. Are these flashes disturbing me because of my past, even though I don't see images of my parent's, my mind plays some kind of scary flash as if something is going to hurt me. Is this pyschosis. Feed back would be very much appreciated. I am worried and exhausted and maybe something doesn't like me being happy and wants to destroy me?


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Dr Bill Tollefson 4 years ago from Southwest Florida Author

rankangel - First of all what you are having is not psychosis. You are not crazy. What you are having is a normal aftereffect of experiencing abuse. Many of the people I coach and have worked with over 35 years have the same fears of their flashbacks as you. It would take me pages to explain how this is growth even thought you do not feel so.

Read my HUB on Healing Unwanted Memories and that will give you a lot of awareness. Breaking free from flashbacks is possible. You can heal, you just have to understand the language of PTSD.

Thanks for your comments.


rarkangel 4 years ago

wonderful in you getting back to me, shows how passionate and dedicated you are at helping like minded people - thank you so much appreciation as I am on the ball had enough and wanting to understand this just so much as i know it is part of my human experience but to think it exists, to know it does, to experience this every day is really wearing on me and now affecting my marriage because i am self medicating with a lot of food and sugar drinks which i have cut out alcohol and drugs but the hubby just doesn't understand and is telling me that i need to just have faith which i do but i guess when i spend a lot of time alone without a job at the moment and at night i get those feelings i just reallllly need an instant physical companion (a hit like the sugar drinks and chocolate) because realllllly he just doesn't get it and each time i tell Him he will say tell God to rebuke it which I do but I feel God doesn't put a magic wand on things, He has helped me to not give into the thoughts by giving me hope and strength...... but He isn't going to make it go away for me, I need to learn to do it myself so I can understand it, just like all my other weaknessess and errors have taught me life-learning things.

Bless you much and will share your hub with others who also maybe struggling such as a girl i know in rehab but felt too stuck myself to get into her stuff. So thanks!


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Dr Bill Tollefson 4 years ago from Southwest Florida Author

rankangel - Thank you for your openness and honesty. Believe me you are not powerless to your thoughts. It is a matter of skill development, not a weakness and I know you can do that. Do not entertain or attempt to control your thoughts, command them. There is a way to heal, I have helped many. Keep believing in you, and your strength.

Read more of my Hubs. Each has a lot of information and tips on how to change. Read and take the Thought Addiction Assessment. Blessings!


mm 2 years ago

I have a thinking addiction to it is so bad that when I am not thinking something I try to think something cause I feellike I should be thinking


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Dr Bill Tollefson 2 years ago from Southwest Florida Author

Dear mm,

Thank you for your comment. Please go to my HUB article http://hubpages.com/health/Am_I_Addicted... and take the assessment to see at what degree your Thought Addiction is causing you problems. It is self-assessment and you can grade it yourself. Thought addiction is reall so take back control of your thinking.

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